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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

my boyfriend says he loves me but he was checking out some other girl at school i don't know if i should breakup with him or not?


female
13

I would dump him. He's with you, so you should be the one his eyes pop out at. Not any other girl.

♥T!NA

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I kissed my friend just a pop kiss in front of guys, do guys think thats hot?
Also do guys get hard off of fingering a girl?
Just wondering.

I'm not sure what a pop kiss is, but if your friends a girl, then yeah. Guys most definitely find that hot.

Honestly, it depends on the guy. Not all guys get hard off of doing something like that. But usually, they do. =)

♥T!NA

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would it be rude if i broke up with someone in a letter?

It's kind of rude. I would do it in person.

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at my school a lot of people have already lost their virginity. not just regular sex, but from oral and other stuff. i know that theres one guy that would be willing to but i don know if i should. i dont just want to be a follower but i also dont want to be the loser.

If you're not comfortable with doing something, then don't do it. Don't do it be cool & liked. That's the stupidest reason to ever do something at all. Do something because you want to do it & because you like it. Not because it's gonna make everyone like you & think you're the coolest.

In other words, don't do anything like that until you're positive you're ready. And if people pick on you or say something to you about it, punch them in the face.

Remeber: Stand up for what you believe in, even if you're standing alone.

♥T!NA

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Hi im 14 male,i was wondering,how old would most parents say you should be before your girlfriend could sleep over,like in the same room/same bed.I know some parents are strict, but what would most parents say is old enough?
Thanks,
Please Anwser

If your parents are cool and easygoing, they'd probably allow it. But most parents would say abosolutely not to it. My parents don't care because they love my boyfriend like one of their own. But not everyone has parents like mine. I'd talk to them about it & see what they say. If they say no, wait until you're 18 or married.

♥T!NA

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My friend always ditches me.
& today she wrote this hugeeee apology.
I don't feel like i should forgive her, if shes always done it & said the same thing before.

What should i do?

If she keeps on doing it, there's no point in giving her another chance. She's gonna end up doing it again.

Be friends with someone else & kick her ass to the curb.

♥T!NA

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My friend has convinced me to go on a blind date with a guy in grade 12. I am in grade 10. He has seen pictures of me but I know very little about him. My friend assures me that he is nice and such but I'm not sure.

Is this a good idea or bad idea to go?

Also the reason I agreed was so I could try to get over my exboyfriend. I have liked him for a year but not so much anymore.

I think it's a good idea. If your friend set it up, I don't see why you shouldn't go. Besides, why would your friend set you up with a guy who's a complete dickhead? Doesn't seem logical to me.

I think it's a gradual step to getting over your ex. Dating somebody new helped me.

♥T!NA

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I am 29 yrs old. I dont have any friends.I have a wonderful boyfriend who is very outgoing and confident.Every now and then he says I need to make some friends. I cant. What do I do, call some girl up and say will you be my friend?? How cheesy. I go out with him where his friends hang out but no one engages conversation with me.They do for a minute then go. I am an attractive person that is not the problem. But how does someone who was abused as a child, not allowed to have friends, phonecalls or sleepovers, and a 10 year marriage where I was not allowed to work or have friends, change and get friendships. It seems so out of reach for me.Help!!!

I agree with Thew. Friends shouldn't be such a big deal to you right now, and by your subject, they're obviouisly not. I'd get some therapy for your past problems, and worry about friendships later.

Friends aren't really that important anyways. They're nice to have, but they usually fuck you over. I learned that the hard way.

♥T!NA

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so0 me and this kid went out.. and we relle liked each 0ther.. and u can say we l0ved each 0ther..and all his friends ( girls ) hatedd me s0 they made him break up with me.. first the girls yelled at him and pushed him into lockers and threatend to punch him in the face if he went out with me but he just stayed with me and tryed to ingore it.. but in a cuple days they continued to hurt him and shit so he br0ke up wit me cusz 0f them.. he still likes me alot but kant take them anymore.. ii relle like him and i dunno wat to do !

He should learn to stand up for himself. And to stop being friends with these girls. He's allowed to date who he pleases. It's not that they hate you, they're probably just jealous.

Fuck what they think. If you like him, and he likes you, then date. And if they give you any shit, punch them in the face. =)

♥T!NA

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Okay, so I'm a 14 year old female. There's this guy in one of my classes, and he's a junior. Since the beginning of the year, he has always paid "special attention" to me, like teasing me and stuff. I even recall a while back in October-ish, I was walking in the hallway afterschool, l and he was with his friend, and he stopped to talk to me for no reason at all. Back then, I thought he was kinda hot but never seriously considered him as a potential bf because a guy 2 years older than me having a crush on ME? The notion was impossible.

But as time went on I noticed more and more hints being dropped by him..for example, he always holds open doors for me and makes a huge scene of it "HERE, [myname], LADIES FIRST!". And when any of his friends try to talk to me, he instantly turns and stares at me. Whenever I talk to HIM, he stares right at me and gves me this huge grin.

Now, he's always like looking at me in class, especially when I talk to any guys. But I don't know if I'm just imagining the signs or if he teases me just to look cool in front of his friends. Or maybe he's just a friendly guy.

Oh, let me add some more details about us, I guess. I gave him a present over christmas break (it was just a card lol) and he seemed to really like it, he had this big smile on his face. And he's always telling me how nice I look. Also, I'm the girl he talks most to in class (this isn't much though, because there arent a lot of other girls in the class and all the girls are freshmen) I expect HIM to tell ME if he likes me or not, because he's a junior, and if I say no to him (which I wouldnt), it shouldnt be a big blow to his ego. But he keeps on dropping hints that he likes me as something..more. That's where I'm getting confused. Luckily there's a winter formal coming up on the 9th that he can ask me to AND valentine's day 5 days later. Think I should ask him to the dance?

oh and there was also this time in December, when we had free time in class and him and his friends were talking about THE basketball game of the season, and suddenly the guy turned to me and asked me if I was going. I told him I wasn't, and he asked, "why not?" Of course, me being STUPID and MISSING the hint, I said "i'm kinda busy," when I really wasn't (i was completely and totally free!!), because I was embarassed at being singled out like that. If i were smart i would've said "no, because I can't get a ride". and he mightve invited me to come. sorry it's so long T_T

Haha, it's fine. I usually ask long questions too.

Anyways, it sounds like he likes you. And I'd totally ask him to the dance. The worst he can say is no, but I doubt he will from the way you described him.

Never say that an older guy liking a younger girl is impossible. I met my boyfriend when I was a 7th grader, and he was a senior. He always thought I was cute, but he never said anything because I was his best friend's little sister. But we're together now, so nothing is impossible. =) I've learned that after 4 long years of crushing!

And if he likes you, it's never wrong for a girl to ask a guy out, so take a chance. =) Let me know how it turns out!

♥T!NA

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my mother is like a different person than when i first met her. she's like two different people in one body. this week, i went on a retreat, and i left her a letter telling her about how much i hate my school and how stupid that school makes me feel. she said she really liked my letter and that she would seriously consider letting me transfer schools. then the minute my aunt walks into the room, she starts screaming. she told me i could never go another school, and if i have to stay in the school that i'm in now, i sware, i've literally thought of like driving myself to another school when my mom drops me off at school or like have someone come pick me up. like, this lady is bipolar and this is definatley not my mommy. i think my real mother was like ubducted by aliens or something, what can i do about her?? please please give me some advice about the school issue, because this lady, whoever she is, doesn't care about anything i have to say. im not even kidding about the car thing, i'm like totally serious and i've made like my main goal to get out of that school, and no one is going to change my mind, even if like i get myself kicked out. ive considered talking to the headmistress and having her ask me to leave, ??

You said there's no talking to her. Maybe you're not talking to her calmly. Don't plead, beg or get an attitude. By doing that, your answer will more than likely continue to be a no.

Your mother might be bi-polar. If her mood changes in an instant just because someone walks into a room, it's questionable. Or maybe she's just a show off.

Talk to her about it, but if she still says no. Respect it. It's her word over your's.

♥T!NA

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theres a guy had a crush on me in like september..i think he still likes me cuz he like flirts with me and stuff but not as obvious as he used to so i just want have someone else's opinion if he still likes me.

If he's still flirting, he still likes you. If you're still unsure, ask him about it.

♥T!NA

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ok so i wanna start by saying that i would NEVER cheat on my boyfriend.
ok dont get me wrong i like my boyfriend a TON,like i makeout with him and would do anything for him.
but sometimes i get the feeling like he doesnt like me even tho he says he does.
and sometimes he treats me like im stupid.
i didnt realize this until one of my best friends pointed it out.he told me that he really likes me and is always telling em how lucky my boyfriend is.
i hangout with him at him house and we have SO much fun,its almost like were going out already.
but i havent done ANYTHING to cheat on my boyfriend.
my question is,should i breakup with my bf for my best friend who would treat me better,or stick with my super hott amazing boyfriend that i could try to fix things with?

Talk to your boyfriend about it, and see if things can be fixed. If not, I'd go for your best friend.

♥T!NA

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I have a bf, and is kinda serous. last week, i though id spend the rest of my life with him, and he was the only boy id ever love. well, this week i went on vacation and met this gorgeous boy. hes such a gentleman(sp), and hes so funny! i love to be around him. so now i realize my bf isnt who i want to be eith forever. i dont know why i should stay with him, if i like somone better. but the boy i like, hes a year older, and we live far away. it could never work between us, and i dont want it to anyways. i just love to be around him. so is there a point breaking up with my bf if i dont want to be with the other guy? and if yes, how do i do that? we were in LOVE, i mean he was my whole life. but now im realizing i didnt like him, i liked that he liked me. i dont want to break his heart, i still like him but as a friend. Also, i told the new guy's cousin that i liked him ( i didnt know it was his cousin!) and now i dont want him to find out because that could make things so awkward between us. how do i make him not find out? and if he does, how can i make it not awkward! thanx so much!

If your feelings for your boyfriend can change in the course of a week, you weren't really in love with him. You honestly, don't know what love is. Your feelings for someone just don't change like that. It takes time for your feelings to die down, and it usually takes longer than week.

If your boyfriend treats you good, I'd stay with him. I'm not saying the other guy doesn't, but honestly, if you've got a good guy, why would you give him up? Those are the kinds you keep.

This new guy you met, he might just be nice to you so he can get inside your pants, or so he can get you to go out with him. Who knows if he'll change or not if you guys were to start dating.

You told the guy's cousin that you liked him. It's his cousin. He's more than likely going to tell him. As for it being awkward, it's going to be awkward no matter what. There's no changing that.

I would just stay with your boyfriend, but then again you don't really deserve him if your feelings for him can change in less than a week.

♥T!NA

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Is it safe to put a picture of yourslef on your advice coluum? I dont really trust the internet...

Not necesarily because it is the internet, but if a person can have pictures on their myspace, I don't see why not on their advice column.

It all depends on you. If you don't trust the net, or like the idea of displaying yourself, then don't do it. The decision is completely yours. But honestly, I like having my picture up. I don't know why.

But then again, I think it is quite safe as long as you don't put your full name, address, phone number, etc.

♥T!NA

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does fingering feel good? also my friend gave this guy a blow job and she said it was awsome. is it really that good?

Honestly, I like being fingered, but I wouldn't know about the blowjob part, because I've never given one, and I honestly never plan to.

It all depends on the guy who fingers you, and the girl who gives a blowjob. Some girls like to give them, and some girls don't. Some girls are good at it, some girls suck. But then again, I've never heard of a guy who didn't want one.

♥T!NA

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i live a generally good, happy life. i have a supportive family, good friends, amazing boyfriend, good grades, etc. but whenever i get upset or mad over stupid little stuff [mostly when i argue with my mom or boyfriend], lately ive been thinking about cutting myself. i am NOT suicidal i never ever have been not EVEN close i can not even begin to imagine cutting to try to kill myself i have my future planned out and want to live a full happy life, so id never cut my wrist or anything. if anything id more than likely cut like the top of my forearm or my thigh, jus so i could feel it but not have any serious risks. i dont what the heck brought this on because its only lately ive been thinking about it. im not one of these who looks happy on the outside but on the inside has problems and is depressed i am honestly a happy person but its just when little things get me down i have that crazy thought. should i be worried? id be scared to death to try to cut my wrists honestly id never ever do it so even if i did start i wouldnt get to that point. but i just dont get why im thinking like this?? please dont say therapy.

I don't recommend to think about cutting, or to ever try it. It's insane & highly addicting. It's also very hard to stop.

I'm not gonna tell you to get therapy, but you should talk to someone about it. Nobody on here can help you stop these thoughts, because nobody here is qualified to. If you want though, you could always IM me if you wanted to talk, just leave your sn in my inbox!

Whenever you start to have these thoughts, listen to music or write. Those two things always helped me. Or sleep. Cry even. It helps.

Cutting never solves anything. Trust me, because I know from experience. I haven't cut in months, and it's the best feeling ever to not pick up that razor. All cutting does is make you concentrate on the physical pain instead of the emotional. But when it's all said & done, your problems are still there. So, I don't suggest cutting, or even thinking about it. Try to vent your emotions/problems healthily through music, writing, sleeping or crying.

♥T!NA

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Okay ..
This weekend my friend and i want to go get our 2nd holes pierced at Claire's.
I also want to get the top of my ear done.
I've heard it hurts reaaally bad, though.

Can anyone with experience tell me what the pain's like?
Also, how much each piercing costs at Claire's & if they do a good job!
thanks :]

I wouldn't recommend Claire's to pierce you because they use guns, not actual needles. Although it's probably more painful with needles & less painful with guns, it's more efficient & definitely better.

Go to a piercing shop where they use individual needles, not reused ones. And make sure they tell you how to clean it & that they explained everything to you. I'm not sure how old you are, but at some places, they won't pierce you by yourself until you're 16. If you're younger than 16, or have no real id [liscense, permit] then they will not pierce you unless a parent is present. Same thing goes for your friend.

Personally, I did all my piercings myself. Not because it was free, but because it took less time & I didn't have to buy the earrings I wanted. I had them already. And I didn't have to leave my house for it. I did the middle of my ear, not the top, and that one still sorta hurts to this day, and I did it almost a year ago. So I can imagine how much your cartilidge will hurt. But then again, it depends on the person.

Anyways, go somewhere real. Claire's will more than likely fuck it up & get your ears infected.

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I've been friends with this girl[emma] ever since we were 5. We have always been super close & we told eachother everything. She has been ignoring me lately & shes been rude. Like for example: Her 13th birthday was the 21st of Jan. and she didn't invite me. We had even talked about what she was doing for her birthday. So when her mom called earlier to talk to my mom she said that she didn't invite me because i would've felt left out with emma's school friends. Her school friends are really good friends with me though.


Ugh it makes me mad & even sad. I cried about it once or twice & i cant get over it. How can she just turn on me like that?

That's a long time to be friends with someone, so it's cool that you've had a really long friendship.

People change, though. Especially girls. You guys are teenagers, it's normal to drift away from your friends sometimes. Or maybe she's going through a bitchy stage. Most girls do that & totally ditch their best friends to go hang out with other people who aren't going to be there for them like their best friends are.

Talk to her about it & tell her that she's hurting your feelings. Ask her if it's something you did, or if one of the girls doesn't like you.

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13/f.

Ok; My boyfriend and I have been dating for a while now, and he used to be really nice and sweet. But, now all he talks about is sex. He usually says, "Just kidding, I love you." After all his perverted comments, but I can't tell when he is kidding or not. I really like him, possibly even love. I am just wondering, how can I tell when he is kidding or not?

Also, I have had thoughts about having sex with him alot lately. I feel so bad, but whenever I see or talk to him, I get these visions in my head of us making love. Is this bad? I've always said to myself, I am going to stay a virgin until I get married but he makes me feel as if I want to give that up.

P.s. I'd like a guys view, but girls are more than welcome to answer as well.

There is no right age to be having sex. But a girl your age, shouldn't be. You're really young, and who knows what'll happen after. You might regret it, you might not.

Don't have sex until you're absolutely ready to. If you know the consequences, and you're not scared or uncomfortable, then go for it. But if you're doubting it, or second guessing yourself, or just having second thoughts in general, you shouldn't be having sex.

Wait until you're older, or until you absolutely know you're ready. You might be ready in a few weeks, months, or even years. You might be ready when you get married. Who knows? Everyone's different.

It's not wrong of you to have thoughts about having sex with your boyfriend. Ask him if he's really kidding. But if you guys have been dating for a while, you should know when he's kidding & when he's serious.

And if your boyfriend is the same age as you, chances are; he's just trying to get into your pants. Boys that age usually say anything to try to sleep with a girl. They know if they sweet talk you, you'll fall for it & you'll give it up. Hopefully, your boyfriend really does wanna have sex with you, and really does love you & care about you, and isn't just trying to get inside your pants. =) But boys his age have raging hormones.

But the most important thing, talk to him about it. And think seriously about this. It's a serious matter & shouldn't be taken lightly.

♥T!NA

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