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at my school a lot of people have already lost their virginity. not just regular sex, but from oral and other stuff. i know that theres one guy that would be willing to but i don know if i should. i dont just want to be a follower but i also dont want to be the loser.
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I honestly think you should do whatever is comfortable for you. But, you shouldn't have sex just because everyone else is doing it. It's actually better for you to not have early sex. It's called abstinence. Don't just have sex because it's the "Trend". Wait for the right guy and the right time.
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You shouldn't follow everyone else just because everyone has and you haven't. It would be wrong for you to do that with a guy that you don't even like or love at all because you would be using him for the wrong reason. Even if he's willing to. Virginity is precious and you should lose it with someone you love dearly.
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IF and only IF you find the right guy and your ready to have sex then do it. But having sex because everyone else is is not the right way to go.
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Don't do anything unless you WANT to do it. Don't follow everybody else, it's not worth it. Just wait until you're ready. You're not a loser, I'm sure that you're not the only one that hasn't really done anything. Just wait until you know that you're ready. You can't rewind time if you actually do something that you regret. <3
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If you're not comfortable with doing something, then don't do it. Don't do it be cool & liked. That's the stupidest reason to ever do something at all. Do something because you want to do it & because you like it. Not because it's gonna make everyone like you & think you're the coolest.
In other words, don't do anything like that until you're positive you're ready. And if people pick on you or say something to you about it, punch them in the face.
Remeber: Stand up for what you believe in, even if you're standing alone.
♥T!NA
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Listen, you definitely should not do anything you are not comfortable with. I urge you not to have sex, with this guy. And I have to commend you, for not having sex. Because I know, how hard it is and the pressure can get nearly unbearable. And you have managed to stick to your beliefs and values this long, I think that's great. And to continue, that's even better. So I do not recommend having sex with this guy, whatsoever.
And you aren't a loser by not having sex, no matter what anyone says. You're being safer, than what the ones who are having sex. And you're sticking to what you are comfortable with, and again, that's a great thing. And that's what you should do, never do anything you're uncomfortable with.
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it is good that you are still a virgin and i know exactly how you feel im like the only virgin otu of my school but i think its kool.and i dont think that you show just have sex with any guy you really have to be inlove.
good luck
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well its not the majority of people, sometime people do things they thought it cool but turn out it really stupid, you can have the good if you follow the majority but it can turn worse. if you not that type of person then dont follow them, jsut be who you are, you not a loser, a real loser is a person trying to be someone or do something that they force themself to do it,becuase of the other people thinks that is cool, all i say, is think before oyu do something that u will regret in future.Hope this helps u !
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It's not a competition here. These people may be may be bluffing that thjey have had sex just to sound cool. Others may have had sex and are treating it like no big deal.
The decision to have sex is a big deal because you have to live with the consequences which include STDs or pregnancy and the fact that you had no connection with the guy you had it with. Don't do something just to sound cool or be like others.
You aren't ready especially if you are thinking of having sex with some random guy you sort of know who will have sex with you not because he loves you but just to have sex.
This is a bad idea and you will be happy in the long run that you waited for the right person because a lot of your classmates will regret as adults their mistakes now while a remote few will feel they were with the right person.
Guys will come and go in your life so it's best to wait until you are sure you have met someone worthy. It's not a competition to have any form of sex or to say you did X, Y, Z like someone else did. It's based on whether you are ready.
You won't be a loser for waiting and doing this stuff when it's right and for thinking it through. That makes you intelligent and smart. It's not a popularity contest here. This is a big life decision that needs a lot of thought, planning and reading before you engage in it.
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Don't do something you aren't ready for. To engage in sexual practices because other people are is not respecting yourself. By waiting for the right time, the right guy, and being fully ready to give your virginity is the most self respecting thing any girl could do.
Once your virginity is gone, it's gone forever. You can't get it back. Don't just give it to some random guy because he is willing.
A little tid bit of information for you: Sometimes to be a follower is to be a loser.
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no wayyy, wait till your ready. You will not be a loser just cause your a virgin. Pluse you want to wait for someone you actually love not just song guy that would be willing. And nobody has to know your a virgin, not thats it bad but if your that worried about it you dont have to tell ayone.
Jess<3
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you're not a loser for being a virgin... really. if anything, they're the losers because most times losing it young ends up being bad for them. if you're not ready, don't do it. <3
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you should not do something you do not want to do. Sex is a very personal thing that you cant just throw away. The first time you have sex oral or vaginally you remember it for the rest of your life. This could hurt you so much emotionally. So do not do anything you are not 100% ready for just to but like everyone else. AND YOU ARE NOT A LOSER, trust me you have more guts if you stand up for what you believe in and guys dont want a trashy girl anyway. Once people see how strong you are they will envy you, trust me.
GOOD LUCK
STAND UP FOR YOURSELF
Brittni.
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