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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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should i got to a community college for my first year. or should i go to a university? my mom says that its cheaper to go to a community college first and then transfer my credits to a university after i take all the basic courses. but all my older friends that are already in college said that is way more fun to go away to a university and live on campus. im really torn between the two. any advice?? thanks :D

Usually community colleges last 2 years before transferring to a university. It would be much easier to go to a community college straight from high school than it would to go to university. It's possible to go to university straight from HS, but it's very hard.

Go to CC first for 2 years & then transfer to a Uni.

Is it normal for an 18 year old guy to be thinking about marriage and kids? My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months and at the begining of the relationship he knew he wanted to get married and maybe have some kids but he never put much thought into it and now suddenly this week he's been asking how I would want to be proposed to in the future and kids and what our house would look like. I didn't know teenage guys thought about this. I know we wouldn't get married for years but I love knowing how committed he is. Any other guys like this?

My boyfriend is kinda like this, but he's 25..

I don't know any other 18 year old guy who's thinking about marriage, children & future homes. He should just be enjoying life like college and going out & friends. There's no reason for marriage to be on his mind.

so i am 5'2 and i was like 106 pounds before the summer. now i am 115 pounds and it keeps getting higher. ive been eating healthy latelty but its not helping!
how do i get back to how it was before??
is there any other explanation for this??

Exercise regularly. Eating healthy alone won't keep you at a decent weight.

today in math class i overheard two girls talking about this overweight girl who got pregnant and they were saying things like "who would have sex with a fat person" i felt offended because i am an overweight person myself. i am hoping to lose weight and when i do, i would never make fun of overweight people because i know it hurts. and i've been there but i was wondering. do the overweight people who become skinny tease other overweight people or not? or does it just depend on their personality

It could happen. Some kids become jaded from being teased & don't seem to learn so they tease too.

I don't think they should, but that's just how some people are. Good for you for knowing better. :)

Im a 14 year old girl who still loves her ex-boyfriend but is majorly crushing on a guy that might or might not like her. Id go with my ex but he died in a car accident a few months ago i miss him alot but i really like my friend who probably doesnt like me my hearts broken either way but i dont know what to do

You're not over the death of your ex. You really shouldn't be dating.

Give yourself time to mourn. It's only been a few months. If you start dating now, it'll only hurt you more.

For 15 years I was a happily married homemaker with a wonderful husband. "Duncan" and I attended church together, frolicked through the fields, even exterminated rodents together. He was my best friend. It was bliss.

Last year I found out my father had had an affair with Duncan's mother the year I was born, which makes him my half-brother! The news was too much for my husband. He had a fatal heart attack not long after.

What should I put on his gravestone -- "Loving Brother" or "Loving Husband"?

Put 'Loving Husband'

You had no clue that you were siblings so he's still your husband regardless.

Hey im a freshmen cheerleader. i hate it so much. i honestly do not want to finish the season the only thing i can think of is getting hurt so i can sit out. i no that scounds bad but i hate cheer that much, What are some things i can do to hurt myself where it doesnt hurt that much but i can not participate in cheer. thankyou.

If you don't like it, quit. There's nothing wrong with giving up on something if it makes you miserable. Nobody should be forced to do something that doesn't make them happy. Nor should you ever want to hurt yourself to get out of something.

Just quit. It'll be easier & better than hurting yourself.

Lets see me and my babys father got into it about a month ago and he broke up with me.. That is the 2nd time he broke up with me..He broke up with me when i was 4months pregnant.. and i gave him a 2nd chance when i was about 6months but here recently..he broke up with me again..the baby is now 8months..I want to be together for the babys sake i dont want her to have parents that are split i dont want her to grow up like her daddy had to.. What should i do to make him want me back??

I really don't think you should go back to him. He's already broken up with you twice. Do you really think that a baby will stop him? He can still be around for the baby regardless of if you are together or not.

There's really not much you can do. If he's not willing to make it work, then don't waste your time on him.

I am a junior in high school and I am looking into colleges now. I want to be a criminal profiler, like on the show criminal minds. I currently live in Rhode Island, I want to move to New York. Does anyone know of any good colleges in New York that specializes in that field. but I am open to colleges in Pennsylvania, Maryland, and New Jersey. Basicly I want to get out of Rhode Island but still remain on the east coast. I really dont want to go to mass or anywhere above that. Mass is like a last resort though.

John Jay seems to be the college that popped up the most when I searched Google.

http://www.campusexplorer.com/colleges/4A90C63A/New-York/New-York/CUNY-John-Jay-College-Criminal-Justice/

I just moved to San Antonio, and I was a little desperate to make friends with any of my neighbors. I am white and I befriended a Mexican man, Carlos, living nearby. I started loaning him money and buying him drinks. He made it very clear that he didn't want to date me, but wanted a purely physical relationship.

I ended up befriending his sister "Jenny" also, and she told me that he didn't like me and was using me. I bought her drinks and smokes, not really caring about the money.

I was a little hurt, but continued to hang out with him and loan him small dollar amounts here and there. Although he did try to put the moves on me, I said "no".

Carlos and his friend, Jon, came over to my house one night, so they could download music and play on the internet. They were mad that I had talked to Jenny about my "giving" relationship with Carlos. Carlos told me never to talk about it with anyone. I said Jenny was a hypocrite, because I had bought her stuff also. Jon later told Jenny what I had said.

Jenny confronted me on the sidewalk infront of my house that I had talked about everyone behind their back. She called me immature. She brought up the relationship with my neighbor and my feelings for my neighbor infront of other neighbors. I was mortified, I apologized and ran inside why she still ranted. Carlos watched the whole exchange from his yard and let his dog go into my yard. He smiled while it chased me in the house. I no longer have any feelings for Carlos. However, I did want to get along with my neighbors and make friends.

I am afraid to leave the house, and I plan never to talk to my neighbors again. Can you give me any advice?

You have to realize that this situation is partly your fault. While this is a horrible situation, hopefully it'll teach you something.

You shouldn't have been buying them stuff to begin with. Rather than earning their friendship, you were buying it. That's a lesson right there. Stop buying things for your friends. I can understand spotting them for cigarettes or taking them to dinner every once in a while, but that's all it should be - once in a while.

I also think while Jenny wasn't wrong to confront you, it was poor of her to do it in front of everyone. She could've come to your house and brought herself inside to keep the talk private. There's no reason for what she did. You deserve to be confronted, but not in front of everyone. The problem is between you & that specific neighbor, not all of the neighbors.

You shouldn't be afraid to leave the house. The friendship with them is clearly over. There's no reason to stay home constantly. Live your life. Staying home all the time will only show them that you're scared and intimidated. They're trashy, don't let them get to you. Go out and get yourself some friends, but take these lessons to heart.

Don't buy people stuff all the time, or at all even. Don't gossip, don't tell your business or anyone else's and don't be intimidated.

i have been constipated for a week straight

besides laxatives, do you know any remedys?

besides contacting my doctor.

thank you so much!

You're probably not eating enough fiber. You either need to take some laxatives, or just eat more things with fiber.

Here's a site with foods high in fiber:

http://www.foodshighinfiber.com/

I'm going to try and make this short as possible. Basiclly I was fired from my old job due to some racism & prejudice. They didn't like me because I wasn't "one of them" & because I was doing good & that was there weakness I guess you could say...ofcourse since I was the "new employee" and they being there for 2 years obviously they ended up winning and I lost..now a month later I'm trying to apply at the same company but at a diffrent location..only problem is when they ask if ever been fired and the reasoning..I don't know how to explain all of what happend so that the hiring manager will believe it & not look at it as a joke..I know that being fired lowers my chances of even getting a call back or interview but I guess its true what evryone says..doesn't hurt to try ..right?

Just be honest. If you put down that you were fired because of racism against you within the workplace, I'm sure they'll understand. Racism isn't a joke, and I'm sure they won't see it that way.

I don't suggest that you leave it blank because if they were to find out that you were fired & didn't tell them, they'd see it as lying & could make them think poorly of you. Just tell them the truth. Who knows, they might give you a call. Good luck.

my boyfriend is currently in another state working. He was just home for a little over a week and while he was home one night these girls started calling his phone over and over. I read his texts later and the texts were all like hey come play beer pong, we're in the hot tub come over and stuff like that. I know he would never cheat on me but we all know how girls can be. I don't care that he has friends who are girls but I'm not sure how to handle this one. He's going to be gone for about a year and I don't want to seem paranoid. It's just that I'm a girl and I know that when I decide that I want something I won't stop until I get it. Any ideas?

18/f

Sounds to me like you don't really trust him. I know that you'll say that you do, but if you trusted him, you wouldn't be paranoid.

You said it yourself that you know he would never cheat on you. If you know for a fact he won't, then what's the problem? Are you scared of him maybe getting tempted, or one of these girls attacking him for pleasure or something? You need to talk with him about this. Tell him how those texts/phone calls made you feel. Talk about the relationship, where you see it going, how you feel right now, the long distance & how it's going to work, etc. This is a serious matter. If you don't talk about it, it could ruin your relationship.

You shouldn't have to be paranoid. Sit him down to talk, and see what he says. I'm sure everything will be fine, but you need to hear his side before you can go & get paranoid or make judgements.

i smoke so much

is there a reason ?

i love the feeling but could it be more?

am i depressed?

You could possibly be depressed, but I've never seen that as a main cause for smoking marijuana.

Usually people do it for leisure, for medical reasons, etc. You could be doing it for some other reason, but that's for you to figure out because we don't know you.

I havent been texting or hanging out with the guy i like as much as i used to n the past few days hes been flirting n hangin out with me in gym. Today he asked me if i wanted to go out with him at first he meant it but when i said yes he paused n then said he was kidding. I dont know wether to call him a jerk n loose him or go along with it as a joke? : (

Just be sarcastic about it & say "Oh, that's hilarious."

Seriously though, that's mean of him.

I have always liked short hair more than long hair, but I have never had short hair. My hair has been long for my whole life. I told my friend that i want to cut my hair really short, but she said not to because my hair is "really beautiful". I have always wanted to have short hair, but I dont feel like I would look good with it.

I have a big nose, and not very good bone structure (which is my problem), do you think I would still look ok with short hair? And I mean like very short hair. All the models I see with short hair have nice noses and bone structure.
I changed my yahoo avatar to have short hair, which is kinda my first step lol.
This is a bit like the style I want (but not the colour):

http://www.hji.co.uk/hjimages/images/qhs…

*What I look like*:
I have brown eyes, they are kinda small, but look big because of my make-up and eye colour, my nose is definately not my best feature (some people say it isn't big, but I know that it is), my skin isn't too good (but I wear make-up so that doesn't matter), and my mouth is small, but my lips are plump. I am very skinny (but not because I want to be), I don't have a chest, and I am a white 15 year old girl, and I am kinda tall.
*What my hair looks like currently*:
It runs down to the middle of my back, it is wavey (and usually frizzy). My natural colour is a dark blonde, but then I dyed it brown, then I washed the brown out, then it turned red, so I put blonde in it, and now it is a strawberry blone colour. And now I have regrowth but that doesn't matter because the colours are similar. My hair is parted in the middle but I am training my fringe to go to the side. I don't have a fringe (bangs), the front parts of my hair go past my ears.

Do you think someone that looks like this could pull off very short hair? But I want my hair to still be long enough that I can tie it into short piggy tails (the piggy tails will be messy, with alot of hair fallen out of them, so I will have layers in my hair, and basically people wont notice the piggy tails are there because they will be so small xD)

Anyways, please help me. And I need you to be HONEST. all my friends will say "No, don't wreck your hair" or "You do whatever you want with your hair". So please answer honestly!
If a picture of me or other hair styles is required, tell me, and I will put the pics.

Thank-you!

I agree with Erinn. I had friends similar to that. I had really long hair (and by long, I mean it was to my butt) when I was around 13 or 14 and I cut it to my shoulders. I went to school the next day, and literally everyone I knew FREAKED OUT.

I think if you want to cut your hair, then you should. Don't let anyone influence what you want because it's not about them. It's about you & what makes you happy. So, if you wanna cut it, then go ahead & cut your hair. :) If you don't like it, buy some hair vitamins & grow it back.

I really need a guy to lean on right now, short term or long term relationship would be good for me :(
But I will probably never find a guy for years because I'm 15 and pregnant, what kind of guy wants to date a girl thats having a kid?
Guys please answer. Be completely honest.

To be honest, the last thing you should be dealing with while pregnant is a relationship. You need to be on your own because having a boyfriend will add on unnecessary stress.

You could always just have a boy best friend. You don't need a boyfriend sweetie.

So like i'm sorta new at this and i've given my bf a hj but like when he...ahem...finishes it kinda goes everywhere, i've talked to him about how to avoid such a mess but he just shrugs and says theres no real way to avoid it, so like what can i do to like contain this cause i've already had to like wash my sheets and his clothes a few times

Keep a washcloth or kleenex handy. When he finishes, have him finish into the washcloth so that it doesn't go everywhere.

15 and still haven't developed boobs?
(as in completely flatchested, not small)
i know its completely repulsive and im so worried,i feel so self conscious and hate my body because of it
im 107 lbs, almost 5'4, have my period and all other signs of puberty (including hips and an otherwise curvy figure), and my mom started developing in junior high
ive also heard that you develop boobs a year or two before your period,and i've already had mine and they're still not here
i've asked this question a lot on here and no answers seem to be from people in the same position as me
thats why im so completely obsessive and worried over this is because there seems to be no one out there like me
is anyone else like me?/has anyone else been like me in the past and eventually got them?

There is nothing wrong with you. You will get your boobs, you just need to be patient.

14-f

OMG so i told like my best friend about my ""one night stand" ?????/? am i a slut?

Technically no, but what you did is slutty. You're not sleeping around with multiple people, but this one night stand was probably random & with someone random (because that's how it usually goes) which makes it slutty.

So, yes/no.

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