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long distance
my boyfriend is currently in another state working. He was just home for a little over a week and while he was home one night these girls started calling his phone over and over. I read his texts later and the texts were all like hey come play beer pong, we're in the hot tub come over and stuff like that. I know he would never cheat on me but we all know how girls can be. I don't care that he has friends who are girls but I'm not sure how to handle this one. He's going to be gone for about a year and I don't want to seem paranoid. It's just that I'm a girl and I know that when I decide that I want something I won't stop until I get it. Any ideas?
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girl, i hate to break it to you, but he could most definetly be cheating on you.
once i had this boyfriend who i didnt think would ever cheat on me too, until i went away... and he didnt tell me, all his friends did. it sucks. it turned me into a paranoid freak when i came home cause i took him back... ofcourse. then one time when i was suppose to be at work, i came home and surprised him, but i was too late, his ex girlfriend was already there and surprised the shit outa me. anyway... it could happen.
i say, when he leaves the house and tells you hes going somewhere, follow him... it sounds crazy, but... u gotta find out somehow.
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Sounds to me like you don't really trust him. I know that you'll say that you do, but if you trusted him, you wouldn't be paranoid.
You said it yourself that you know he would never cheat on you. If you know for a fact he won't, then what's the problem? Are you scared of him maybe getting tempted, or one of these girls attacking him for pleasure or something? You need to talk with him about this. Tell him how those texts/phone calls made you feel. Talk about the relationship, where you see it going, how you feel right now, the long distance & how it's going to work, etc. This is a serious matter. If you don't talk about it, it could ruin your relationship.
You shouldn't have to be paranoid. Sit him down to talk, and see what he says. I'm sure everything will be fine, but you need to hear his side before you can go & get paranoid or make judgements.
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well im sure you already know but long distannce relationships are hard, espessially if your already paranoid about something. you should probably either learn to trust him and that he wouldnt do that to you, or you can talk to him about it witout seeming overly possesive, or you can break up with him until he comes back to where you live. i wouldnt suggest staying with him if you are going to be spying on him and worrying the whole time.
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