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just turned 13/f. ok i live with my dad and its very hard to talk about girl stuff
plus i can't go to ANYONE else. well i really want a push up bra. not just for the effect, but also because right now the bra i'm using right now my nipple points out and its disgusting because you can see it throught my shirt.i cant go get one because there is NO ONE tht can take me. what do i do to cover it up, and i havn't started my period yet either.
plz help me

Your dad KNOWS you're gonna need these kinds of things, but he may be just as embarrassed as you are to bring it up. Try writing him a note and leave it someplace where he can find and read it when you're not around. Say something like, "Dad, it's really embarrassing for me to talk to you about this, but I really need a new bra, and some things from the grocery store that I'm too embarrassed to ask for. Do you think you could drop me off at the store sometime so I could shop for a while and get the things I need?" I'm sure he will understand!

13/f well, im having quite a difficult time with this, but i have been going out with this guy for 6 months. well he is really nice and all. Am i making a big deal about a little thing? or am i not? tell me the truth, but his really really good friend messages me over myspace saying that my boyfriend wants a hug, and why didnt you give him a hug? and that stuff. im just too shy! i know how you guys say just do it. but im too shy for that. im scared he wont see me trying to hug him and accidently walk away. :\ am i just coming up with the worst case senerios? or what i am lost.

Just get up your nerve and do it! Once you've done it once, it will come a lot easier the next time, and pretty soon it will be natural. Just keep your eye out for a good time when a hug would seem natural... like if he just did something good and you're congratulating him, or if he's feeling bad about something and you want to comfort him, or maybe when he's leaving and you won't see him for a few days. It's really no big deal once you do it!

ok well ive been getting calls lately telling me that someone locally is recomending that i try acting and modeling...ive turned them down many of many of times. But im starting too think maybe i should have said yes the last time they call....im not really into models i think they are anorexic freaks that try too be perfect but i think it could maybe turn out to be a good thing that i do this. ok well ive got the number of the people and was just wandering if maybe i should call them back? do you think maybe it might not be such a bad idea?

Modeling can be fun, and a great way to earn some money! But just make sure this is a real modeling agency and not a scam. True modeling agencies don't ask you for money for lessons, photo shoots, etc. A real modeling agency finds you work with companies who need models, and the company pays them a percentage of what you earn.

here are some things that i do on a regular basis:
you tell me if they sound a little OCD-ish.

1. i have to check that i logged off the computer at least 8 times (literally) like i go downstairs. and then think OMG DID I LOG OFF? or like we'll be going out to dinner and ill make us go all the way back just to make sure i log off. and i always do to.

2. at school i have to go and check that my locker is closed. during the day i have to ask my teachers to go to the bathroom, so i can run and check if its closed, same with PE lockers.

i used to be like that, too. i found that it helped some to write myself a note on my hand or on a piece of paper... "I turned off my curling iron" or "i let the dog back in". that helped reassure myself that i'd done it.

Okay this is the deal I've been dating this guy for a month and a half now.. we've been really close. BTW I'm 14. I've been to his house he's been here.. I've met his family so and so. Last year we went out for 4 months but ended up breaking up beacause my friends were jerks. BUT ANWAYY....last night he called me like he usually does and asked me if we could take a break. I asked him why and he said because he has so much shit at the end of the year to do. He said because he has baseball, regions , tests, and doesnt want to deal with a girlfriend untill summer. Summer is 2 weeeks away and I like him a lot so I figured I would give him his space. But theres this girl down the road from him and once or twice while we were dating he would go hangout with her. I think he really wants to be with that girl and not me but when i asked him about it he got annoyed and told me of course he likes me and wants to go back out in 2 weeks when schools done. I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO. I like him a LOT. he has been the best boyfriend I've ever had.
I'm so confused . HELP

Well, if he likes this other girl, unfortunately there's nothing you can do about it. Telling you that he needs a break because he's busy might just seem like a nicer way to break things off than admitting he likes someone else. But you never know, he could be telling the truth. You might just have to wait the two weeks and see what happens. But if it's going to make you miserable waiting those two weeks, then talk to him about it now. Tell him that you really need him to be honest with you... that if he really doesn't plan to get back with you, it would be nicer and more fair if he'll just admit it to you, instead of dragging it out and making you wait and wonder. Hopefully he'll be honest with you, either way.

I am 15/f.
There is this guy who I almost went out with... we hung out almost every weekend for months...then he went out with someone else and I got over him. We stayed friends. He just turned 18.
Yesterday I saw him at his graduation, and he asked me to hang out. It was already around 10, and he was going to be hanging out with a few other guys, and that he would take me home. I said, "I don't know..." because I felt it would be awkward with just me and his guy friends. (Not that we would do anything bad, at all.) He said, "It's ok if you don't want to."
So I didn't, and I kind of wish I did.
But anyways, i am going to have a boring weekend.
So should I ask him to hang out?

Yea, ask him to hang out. And tell him that DID want to hang out with him after the graduation, but it was getting late and you felt a little weird about hanging out with his guy friends. That way you're letting him know that it wasn't HIM you didnt want to hang out with, it was just the situation.

I know this sounds quite weird haha but.. when i go to the bathroom, basically at school where there are like 2 stalls, i like can't pee if there is someone else in the bathroom. like i CAN pee if im going to like explode, but i just cant pee. i dont know why its like i am ashamed of it. its a mental thing and i dont know. whatss up with this it annoys me so much because sometimes i really have to pee.

hahaaa sorry if this is weird

I think a lot of people are like that. I used to have the same problem, but I guess I just got over it. Don't worry about it. Just wait till the other person leaves (if you can!) and then pee away! haha! Or if there's tons of people in there and you really have to go, try thinking of something else. Because the harder you think about going, the harder it is to go!

I am a Female Freshm,an in highschool(fifteen years old) there is this guy who likes me. He's a true Hottie and he's really nice! But the thing is, is that one of my best friends went out with him for two years and it wouls be extreamly akward fro me and her with this one! what do i do?

Well, I guess it depends on how recently they broke up, and if she still has feelings for him. If she does, then it might be better to hold off for a while. You could even tell him that... that you really like him, but you don't want to hurt your friend, so would he be willing to wait for a while? If you think your friend is pretty much over him, I would ask her how she'd feel if you went out with him, just as a courtesy. If she's really over him, she might not care at all.

Can anyone tell me what the "popular crowd" in highschool is usually like?

At my high school, at least, the "popular crowd" changed as time went by. Many of the kids who were considered "cool" as freshmen ended up being kinda losers (slutty, in trouble with drugs, etc) by the time they were juniors and seniors. By senior year, the most popular kids were the ones who everyone liked and respected for being nice people, good students, involved in school activities, and for the most part had stayed out of trouble. Those are the people who were voted most popular, homecoming and prom queen/king, etc.

Ok well this year was perfect til thsi new student showed up and he hates my guts! Everytime he sees me he would whisper I'LL KILL YOU just for me to hear only and makes his hand into a imaginary gun and "shoots me"..

He keeps saying YOU BULLIED ME IN KINDERGARDEN! (I'm a girl) and I'm guessing that's the big reason he hates me?

Frankly i don't care very much cuz this guy is the weirdest one in my class and everyone thinks he's crazy or mental since he says the weirdest random things out of no where liek if noones talking.

I had an accident about 3 years ago so i wouldn't remember if i bullied him or not and so I'm not aploligizing to him even though maybe it'll stop it. But if I did it was a long time go, KINDERGARDEN! He should suck it up and forget about it! Even I got grudges and some have to do with a person in my class but everytime I see her I don't go YOU HURT MY FEELINGS or give her this hating sign with my hands!

I don't like him very much by the way he's acting to me. I just pretend I never remembered him at all when he mention's it and act normal.

He's so stupid! Like he's trying to make everyone hate me because one time he told that to the WHOLE class! "Oh she bullied me in kindergarden" "WHAT?! Man, but she's the nicest girl in class!" And he tells the whole story to the class while IM RIGHT THERE! i don't tell people my issues with this girl and she's in the classroom!

But i feel so sad that someone hates me SO MUCH for something a long time ago..I'm a nice girl..high grades..everyone likes me and bullies bully people in my class for fun but thye don't tease me or whack me and I'm the weakest girl in the class. I even tried to talk to him a few times nicely and randomly offered him things like this snack i didn't like but maybe he did.

But I can literally feel the hate coming out of him which is like hurting me. Like come on..if it was kindergarden and I did bully him, I'm pretty sure it wouldnt' be bad since it's kindergarden and I've been so skinney my whole life! You shouldn't be going crazy for one thing.

As far as I remember, it was grade one. One day we had activities center and there can be up to only 3 people in a station and after a certain time, we rotate or go to different stations. I was the third person to go into a group til he came in and I said "you know there can onyl be three people in a group?" he made this rude face and said "SO?!" and kept playing. So I just went to the teacher to just tell her nicely about it but I guess he thought i was going to her so she could yell at me so he started crying and they phoned hsi parents cuz he wouldn't shut up about it.

Man..what a baby.

But I feel so bad that someone hates me so much like he's making a big deal about it so I hate him too but I don't go aorund doign what he does and tell it to other people. Like if it's something going on with the both of us, he should be talking to me.

What should I do?

I know you would say get alone with him and tlak but remember that i said that he's mental, crazy and different? I can't even explain what he's do but yeah..=S

Obviously this guy has some problems. You never know, he could be dangerous. I think it would be in your best interest to try to patch things up with him. Even though you don't feel like you have anything to apologize about, it might save you from getting hurt.

Write him a note and say something like: "I just want you to know that I feel really bad about hurting your feelings in Kindergarten. I was a stupid little kid then and I didn't know how to act. I'm a different person now and I would never want to do anything to make you feel bad. I hope you will accept my apology."

Just keep it simple like that. Don't make it sound like you think he's crazy, or that he's silly for being upset about something like that, or that he's wrong for holding a grudge. Just acknowledge that you hurt him and that you are sorry about it.

Whatever happened in Kindergarten or grade one obviously hurt him a lot (even tho you didnt mean to) since he still remembers it. Hopefully apologizing will make him feel better, and save you from his bullying or worse.

Hey guys,

I am 16 years old, and I will be 17 in about a months time. So, I can get a license this summer. It is a ridiculous to ask my parents to buy me a car, and there is no way I can save up to buy a car either.
So I am deciding to buy a motorcycle. The thing is, there is NO WAY that my mom would ever let me go buy a motorcycle if I tell her ahead of time. So I plan to save up on my own and just buy the motorcycle w/o asking her first. What do you guys think of this?
Also, I would appreciate any advice on how I can convince my parents to let me keep the bike once I buy it.

Well, even if your parents are mad that you bought a motorcycle without asking them, they might be somewhat impressed and proud of you for saving up the money to do it. So maybe they won't make you get rid of it... they may just not let you ride it until you're older. I'm sorry I don't have any advice on how to convince them to let you ride it, because all the moms I know pretty much freak out when they think of their sons and motorcycles in the same sentence. But good luck anyways!

okay like for the last names "haskins" and "moretti" what country did they originate from? like are those last names italian french german polish etc...

Haskins is English. Moretti is Italian.

Since summer is about to start, I want to get rid of the hair on my arms. I usually wax them- which is highly painful, but I've been looking into possibly using something like nair. I was just wondering if those ACTUALLY worked well. I have pretty dark hair on light skin. Does nair work? or do you have any other suggestions for getting rid of hair less painfully...I know any method is gonna be somewhat painful...and have it last for a long time?

my friend has really dark hair on really light skin. she used nair and it worked really well. i think she has to do it about every week or so though. but keep in mind that in the summer your skin will get darker at the same time your hair will get lighter from the sun, so the hair might not be so noticable.

Alright, like with all the celeberties and stuff, they always walk on a red carpet. Does anybody know an easy way to make a red carpet, or a website where i could buy one, or a store? just a runner, but i want it to look semi-real

anything will help at this point >< I have 2 weeks!!

thank you guys so much

Just go to a fabric store and look for some red material. They'll have it on big rolls so you can buy it as long as you need.

my cat keeps killing animals outside, and bringing them in my yard. shes killed four different things just this week and brought them in my yard. my mom hates her, and i threatening to get rid of her. how can i stop her from doing this? keeping her inside isnt an option, sooo.

thanks!

Try getting her a collar with a little bell on it. That will warn the animals that she's coming and hopefully they will get away. The other option is to just not let her outside.

i rely need help i was on the phone to my girlfreind and we were sayin good bye here the convo basically

me:cya tommorow , i love you
her:no you dont
me:what?
her:you dont love me and i know you dont
me:ye i do

etc so it went on and in the end she ended up cancellin all of the plans we had getin in a mood with me and sayin tht i didnt love her when i even said i did!! i havent a clue what i wrong wit her she said its her hormones but she said that like 10 days ago im so confused and i realy dont want to loose her because i realy do love her but she cant see that and i know she may split up with me because f it is her hromones she will what can i do?? someone please help me

Well, there are a couple possiblities here:

1) Maybe you did something unintentionally that made her feel that you don't love her. Maybe talking to another girl, or not calling her when she thought you should, or not seeming to listen to her when she was talking. It could be anything, and it could be something really little that she's blown out of proportion because she's sensitive or insecure. You need to ask her why she thinks you don't love her. Tell her you really do love her, and you want to know if you did something that made her think you don't, so you can be sure not to do it again. Sometimes girls don't like to tell you why they're upset, because they don't want to sound stupid or over-sensitive. Or they think you should just know what's wrong. It's silly, I know, but that's what girls do (I know, cuz I'm a girl!). Just try to find out why she said that.

2) The other possibility (and I hope it's not this) is that she doesn't feel the same about you as she once did, and wants to break up, but doesn't want to tell you that because she doesn't want to hurt you. So maybe she's trying to start a fight, or make it sound like it's you that doesnt love her, so it will be easier to break up. Another silly thing that people do!

Just talk to her and do whatever you can to assure her of your love... and good luck!

So I have some guy friends, but not as much as girl friends. But I've noticed that all my friends who have guy friends always either call/text them. I only talk to my guy friends at school or online. Is that weird? Idk. Would it make me better friends with them if I called them or whatever? I just never thought it was really necessary until I saw that I have no guys' numbers in my cellphone lol. So like, how can I not awkwardly ask guys for their numbers, even ones I just wanna be friends with?

Well, if all your friends have guys' numbers, then the guys are obviously used to having girls ask for their numbers. So it shouldn't be awkward. Just take your phone out when you're around them and say, "Hey, what's your number?" If you're really too embarrassed to do that, you could ask your friends to give you some guys' numbers. Then just text the guy sometime and say "Hey this is [your name], what's up?" People(guys and girls) text me all the time like that, when they got my number from someone else, and I don't think its weird or anything. I'm just glad to hear from them. And yes, I think texting guys could make you better friends with them. Any time you can talk to someone, whether its in person, on the phone, texting or online, it can only help you get to know them better and make you closer.

Do capri's and flats go together or is that totally dorky? I don't like wearing flip flops to school. Thanks!

Yeah, I've seen a lot of people wear flats with capris and it looks really cute.

okay so it started out with this girl danielle that i was really good friends with. she started randomly hating me and we weren't really talking a lot. she would exclude me a lot and it would hurt. she started rumors about to of my friends liking people that they don't like. so the three of us got really mad at her and we wanted to tell people something true but surprising about her. it was who she likes but she likes a lot of guys. one of my friends wanted to tell everybody but i only told 3 people. someone told her how it was gross that she liked him and she quickly assumed everything like starting it was me. now she is probably going to do something really bad to hurt me again. really right now she just says oh no one likes u and all that crap. i feel really bad that i did that but if i applogise then we obviously aren't going to become friends again but idk what to do.
P.S. i don't want her to start a rumor about who i like because she knows who i like from when we were friends.

If you truly feel bad about telling her secret, then tell her so. You could send her a note or message saying something like, "I know we've had some problems lately, but I just want you to know that I'm sorry for telling someone who you like. I shouldn't have done that and I feel really bad about it." That's all you have to say. Don't make excuses or say "I did it because you did so and so...". Just apologize and go from there. She may stay mad at you, but she's already mad anyway, and apologizing will make you feel better.

what is the origin of the last name 'bakun' ? like you know how brown is typically an african-american last name? anything? even a continent? i'll take ANYTHING!

I did a quick search on some of the genealogy websites, and found that most people with that last name came from Poland, Russia or Lithuania. So it appears to orginate in north-eastern europe. If that is your last name and you want to find out for sure exactly where your ancestors are from, I can help you. Just send me a private message.

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