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just turned 13/f. ok i live with my dad and its very hard to talk about girl stuff
plus i can't go to ANYONE else. well i really want a push up bra. not just for the effect, but also because right now the bra i'm using right now my nipple points out and its disgusting because you can see it throught my shirt.i cant go get one because there is NO ONE tht can take me. what do i do to cover it up, and i havn't started my period yet either.
plz help me
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Your dad KNOWS you're gonna need these kinds of things, but he may be just as embarrassed as you are to bring it up. Try writing him a note and leave it someplace where he can find and read it when you're not around. Say something like, "Dad, it's really embarrassing for me to talk to you about this, but I really need a new bra, and some things from the grocery store that I'm too embarrassed to ask for. Do you think you could drop me off at the store sometime so I could shop for a while and get the things I need?" I'm sure he will understand!
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You could always just go to the mall with some friends, and buy one there (he dosen't even need to know). You're dad will understand this kind of stuff, dont worry.
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Believe me your father is just as intimidated about this and you going through puberty as you are if not more so. He knows sooner or later that you are going to need a bra and your period will start later and he'll have to help buy tampons etc.
You both have to get through you going through puberty relatively unscathed. Here's what to do: tell your father that you need money to purchase a few female things and rather than us both being uncomfortable drop me off at the mall and let me do it and then pick me up afterwards.
Tell him you know exactly what you are looking for and where to find it. Go talk to a female cashier in the sales department and tell her what you need in a manner where you cannot be overheard and let her direct you to a bra that is suited for you.
Like the other posters said you don't need a push up bra here just something that isn't see through and where the nipple doesn't protrude or have an outline.
If your dad asks what it is you need just casually say "oh it's just a bra." and leave it at that as he's going to be just as red-faced as you and will hand you all the money you want to go buy one as long as he's not needed to be there. Ideally, he's your father and should be there but this is really a department for mom or an aunt.
The other cool thing you could do if you have a best-friend you trust is talk to her mother privately and explain your problem and ask if she will take you and your friend to get them as you would be mortified if your dad came.
She could then explain to your father later that you asked for her to help because she's a woman. If you have grandparents still living they can help as can an aunt or trusted adult. I know how you must feel but there's a million or more girls who went through this before you. You aren't alone by any means.
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Well there's pretty much nothing I can think of except telling your father. You're 13 and at the beginning of puberty pretty much. Your boobs will start to grow and you WILL need a bra. Just tell your dad, he knows women wear bras. He should understand.
If you don't want to tell him you want a PUSH-UP bra, then I understand. Honestly, you're 13 and you don't need a push-up bra. You could just use a bra that's thicker. Just a bit of padding will hide the nipples. Just tell your dad you need a new bra so he'll take you and you can pick one that has just a little bit of padding.
If you don't want to do this for some reason, a little (maybe 1 ply folded small) square of toilet paper should cover up your nipple poke-age. Other than that, I'm not really sure what you could do.
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just ask your dad for some money and then ask him if he can drop you off at the store. that way you can get what you want, and he wont be with you to make you feel uncomfortable. and if he asks what you got just say, something personal. and then leave it at that. if he keeps nagging on about it just say, dad i got something that i needed and its not really anything i want to discuss right now. and he should leave you alone. i started my period already (im 13) and i've had it for like a few months. i asked my dad if he could drop me off and he did. then he asked me what i got and i said some personal stuff. then he kind of guessed that i started. now when i ask him if he can drop me off he just knows that im shopping for something that i dont want him to know about. (like personal stuff)
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