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Notice: From now on if you want to tell me something or ask me a question that has nothing to do with advice, you can IM me at thefishaim. Thank you! - The Fish.---
Question: "I like someone, but I don't know if they like me, how can I tell?"
Answer: Everybody is different, I have no way of knowing how your crush expresses him/herself. The best way is to just ask them, you'll never get anywhere if you don't.
I'm sorry to be rude, but these are the only questions I have been seeing in my inbox, and I am tired of them. I won't be answering them anymore.
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two questions on the same topiccc
13/f
•are first time boyfriends supposed to be special in a girls life? like is a big deal to the mom or something?
•are a girls first kiss supposed to be really special? like are you supposed to search for the right dude in order to have you first kiss? or can it be just some dude u like but aren't dating?
thanks so much!!!
as many answers as possible please!
1. It really depends on the mom, the girl, and the situation. My first 'boyfriend' was hardly a boyfriend. He was my prom date, and my first kiss, and we never had a real relationship. I guess my mother was excited that I was going to prom, but maybe that was because I was (and am) sort of a loner who didn't (and doesn't!) like huge social events. Years later she asked if I had ever kissed him, I said yes, and she seemed happy. But I'm sure different mothers with different daughters would react differently. If you are thinking about dating now, I think your mother would be more worried than anything. I know if I had a thirteen-year-old, I would be scared of her dating. As for if it's special to you...it can be or it can't. Before you find "The One", you're bound to try out some guys that just are not good for you, and there's a good chance that your first could be someone you that REALLY isn't, and you will try to forget him as quickly as you can.
2. Yes and no. Again, it really depends on who you are. Lots of people say, "Save it for someone you care about!" And yeah, maybe that's a good idea. But honestly, I didn't (see above). At that point in my life, I thought I was unattractive and would never be kissed, so when I saw the opportunity, I grabbed it. And yeah, it wasn't special. Yeah, I'll probably remember forever that I kissed a guy I wasn't in love with. Yeah, maybe when I kiss the person I am in love with I'll ask myself "Why couldn't THIS be my first kiss?" But you know what? I've thought about it long and hard, and I don't regret it. Because it made me realize that I really, really like kissing, even though I haven't done it since then. And it made me realize that I WASN'T unattractive, if someone wanted to kiss me, and I believe that, like every other choice I've ever made, it played a part in shaping me. And when I do kiss the person I love...who cares if it wasn't my first?! It'll still be great because I'll love them! I'm not telling you to rush out and kiss the first guy you see, because honestly, I regretted it for a long time before I came to this conclusion. I'm just letting you know that a lot of girls think of their first kiss as "a mistake", and regret being so impulsive, but you don't have to regret it. But if your first kiss isn't "special", don't worry. Get over it. Life goes on. :)
i need a website that i can like, type in someones email address or something, and it can tell me where that person is from. like their state. not anything else, just the state that the computer that their getting on their email is from.
http://www.peoplefinders.com/Search/People/Email.htm
This might work. Just enter the e-mail address and you will get results (you don't need to type the name or anything). However, I think it only works if the person has listed themselves. Other than that, there's really no way to just track someone. Especially since you can check an e-mail address from any computer, anywhere.
I hope you're using this for something legal. =/
Um I have a really personal love life question and id rather not post it on public internet, so I was wondering if a couple of people could volunteer to answer it? (ill send you a question to your inbox)
thanks
You can ask me. Just a warning though, it will still show up on the column of the person who asks...but it will be anonymous and you can change any names if you want to.
15/f
hi!! most of my best friends have boyfriends. Some of them even have 8 -yes, 8- other guys vying for them as well. Like if they broke up with their boyfriend, they would be asked out by 8 guys at once in a heart beat.
Me on the other hand, i can't even get asked out once. i've never had a boyfriend, a kiss, or even a real "i mean it" type of hug from a guy. I'm starting to get really lonely and also pissed off because im tired of being left out of plans becuase i don't have a date/boyfriend and i really want to be liked by atleast one guy (that i even remotely like-there are some guys who like me, but they #1 don't have enough courage to tell me/ask me out and #2 they are gross (don't brush hair, bad BO and bad breath, and don't wash clothes).
how do i get someone to like me and how do i flirt with a guy to get their attention to ask me out.
if you could PLEASE help me, i would be really really really happy and grateful.
(o, i forgot to mention, im really shy and not good at starting conversations or keeping them going)
thanks so much and sorry this is so long
I've been there. And my best advice is: STOP WORRYING ABOUT IT. When I was that age, I spent so much time worrying about getting a boyfriend that I stopped focusing in school, failed English (my native language! How pathetic is that?), and for what? It didn't get me a boyfriend. Focus on more important things, such as your schoolwork and just enjoying yourself without a boyfriend. Honestly, a lot of times girls would say they envied me for not having a boyfriend (this still baffles me. If they didn't want a boyfriends, why not dump them?) because I had more time to myself. Now, you're not remotely interested in the guys that do show they like you...that's fine. And it's more proof that you don't need to worry about this right now. When you go to college, or get a full time job, there will be an entirely new variety of people to meet, and it's ridiculous to think that there's nobody in the world who you can be with.
Oh, and I'm also very shy. But you're going to have to get over that! Because if you don't, nothing will ever happen! Smile at them, meet their eyes, just be friendly! Don't have anything to talk about? Try asking a guy about himself! "What do you want to study in college?" "What's your favorite sports team?" "Who is your favorite Renaissance painter?" (Adjust according to who the guy is and what he is into.) Watch as their eyes light up and they go on and on about how awesome they are. And maybe they'll be interested in one of the same things you are, and you can politely interrupt by saying, "Oh! I like that too..." and then talk about why you like it. Instant conversation. Get his AIM screen name or phone number. When it's someone I just met, I find it easier to talk online because I can express myself better through writing.
But honestly, if there's nobody at your school that you feel is right for you, I really do think you should focus on other things right now. Good things come to those who wait. ;) And the same conversation techniques will work on guys you meet later in life.
i'm 16/f. i really like this guy who's a year older than me and i know he likes me too. we hang out at school some and after my soccer games. we've only been on one date - out to dinner after a game. he's not a christian, and i'm a very strong and dedicated christian. he's into partying. i'm not at all. he's already hinted about having sex, i'm for sure saving myself until marriage. i really like him, but is this too much of a risk for myself? i might be able to help him change for the better, but i might end up being brought down. i'm really not sure of what to do right now. any advice would be helpful. please give me some honest answers. thank you so much!
NEVER think that you can change someone. I'm sorry, but you can't. In order for someone to change, they're going to have to want to change, and you are not enough to make him want that.
I recommend not dating him. It's not because of the religious thing--interfaith couples work--but you both have different ideas of what you want in a relationship. He wants sex, you do not. If you enter a relationship with him now, he may expect that eventually you will have sex, even if you tell him right off the bat that you do not.
However, just because he hinted at it does not mean he expects it. If you talk it out beforehand and he decides that he'll respect your decision, go ahead and go out with him.
But if you think that this is too big a deal and constantly want to change him OR if it is clear that he expects sex, don't. Find someone who agrees more with your values.
:)
I'm interested in Inuyasha, so any fans out there.. What is your opinion on the anime [subbed AND dubbed] and/or manga? Which one appeals to you? I'm nearly done watching it, and I may consider reading the manga. I'm not quite sure yet, I just want some opinions & how it differentiates between the other. What does it focus on more? Romance? Demons?
If you don't like manga or anime, your opinion wouldn't be needed :] Thanks!
Also, is there any other anime similar to Inuyasha? *That isn't playing on Adult swim [those do not interest me]
I liked Inu Yasha for a while, but got sick of it pretty quickly. But I used to be a huge anime geek and...still am, really (I hate to admit this in public, though). Fushigi Yuugi is a great manga by Yu Watase, if you like shoujo at all. It's about a young girl, Miaka, who gets sucked into a magical version of ancient China through a book. Sounds a lot like Kagome's story, huh? However, there are a lot of differences and in my opinion much better than Inu Yasha. I don't think it's on television at all, but you can buy the DVDs or tapes. I have some of the subbed tapes, and I really recommend the subbed versions of any anime.
There's also Slayers...and other series by Rumiko Takahashi (the one who made Inu Yasha), such as Ranma 1/2 (I warn you, though, this is loooong. I never finished!)
ok me and him like eachother but hes talking about this do you think hes trying to make me jealous? i didnt really get jealous but is he? we were talking on aim and this is the convo:
him you know this 1 vietnamese girl keeps flirting with me
him: kick her butt
me: hahah
me: what the heck
me: no
me: ahhaha
me: vietnamese girl
me: hahaha
him:yeah she keep massaging me and stuff
me: hahahah
me: haha
me: how does it feel
him: its cool shes good
him: better than u
him: haha
me: =]
him: HAHAHA
me: ahhaha
him: hey
him: !
me: yes
me ?
him: you suck....
me: what?
me: how
me: i didnt do anything
him :exactly
what does it mean when i said"i didnt do anything? and he said exactly?
To me, it sounds like he's a racist. Also a perv. How old are you? You sound a little young. I would not have anything to do with this jerk.
what is the sexiest thing to do to a guy w/ youre hands
On the side of your index finger, draw two eyes. Then make a fist and move the thumb up and down like a mouth. Have it tell him in a funny voice how sexy he is, and make it kiss him, not only on the lips, but wherever you want. Be sure to tell me how it works out. :)
My friend saves the most STUPIDEST things EVER on her computer and there's almost no space left!
I have a lot of space though, but I guess it's because I'm not interested in anything and she's interested in a lot of things.
Any tips?
I am very confused by this question. Do you want tips for your friend on how to make more space on her computer, or do you want help saving more things on yours?
Personally, I think that anybody can do whatever they want on their computer. Space is there to be used, and if your friend wants to use it for things that you think are "stupid", that's her choice. Likewise, it's your choice to have a lot of free space (I like this also). I don't think you need any tips...it sounds like you are both doing what you like with your own computers. :)
I usually eat chocolate when i get them but this time I bought some for a present.
The last time I bought soem and didn't have time to eat them, they melted.
Any tips to keep them unmelted for a week and good by 2nd period?
Would sticking them in the fridge be a good idea?
The fridge would be an excellent idea, or better yet, the freezer. As long as they are properly sealed, it won't do any harm to the chocolates. And they actually taste quite good cold!
should i just shave off all my hair and wear a wig? im sick of my silky, limp, volume-less asian hair!
You "should" do whatever you like! If you really feel that that's what you want to do, go ahead. Personally, I would not wear a wig, but simply keep it shaven...a lot of people may think that's bold, and think that you're very cool for doing it. Or they could not, it really depends on which people we're talking about. But you shouldn't care what they think, it's for you, so if you want to wear a wig go ahead. Somebody else suggested using different hair products, which is also great. I got Sunsilk's Hairapy (the anti-poof kind, since that's what I need) and it worked really well, so if they have one for volume, I recommend that. A lot of other brands have different shampoos for different kinds of hair, so look at all of them.
Ok,I'm in 6th grade and there is this 8th grader at my busstop & at my lunch who keeps calling me firecritch cuz I got red hair,what do I do?
This is sexual harassment. It's against school rules and the law. Ignoring him is fine for a while, but it will not make the problem go away, and confronting him may lead to a fight, so, I suggest you go to a guidance counselor and tell them what is going on. Hopefully, the boy will be punished. It's possible the school will then give everyone a lecture on sexual harassment--listen to it because it's important. If nothing is done, tell your parents. They can talk to the principal, and believe me, they can put a lot of pressure on the school! Your school should be a safe environment, so if nothing was done about it and I were your parents, I would be very upset and want to fight for you.
Hi, I am visiting my boyfriend in 2 months and i have recently been taking the birth control pill Lutera. I was wondering if it is okay to stop taking the pill after my first pack is gone, and waiting a week or so to start taking it again. The reason i'm doing this is because the pills in the last week of the pack do not contain hormones, so when I see him i would be on those, and I'd have my period. So if i dont start my second pack for a week, I wont have my period when i see him.
is this okay?
I wouldn't do it if I were you. Birth control pills have a schedule for a reason. If you play around with that schedule you could seriously mess yourself up, and by that I mean forget when to take them and also screw with your hormones. But you should have a booklet that comes with your pills, and if that doesn't answer your questions, you can ask the pharmacist, they are always willing to answer your questions. But it's never wise to play around with any sort of medication.
I know this might sound like a stupid question, but what does someone look like when they're high? And what about when someone's stoned?
Do people look any different or do they just act different?
http://www.acde.org/parent/signs.htm
Hope that helps! :)
i just saw this commercial and this girl was wearing a dress made out of bubbles...how do u do that?
It would help if I knew what the commercial was for. If it was soap bubbles, it was probably done on computer. If it was made of bubble wrap, I think they cut the bubble wrap and glue the pieces together, but I'm sure it takes some craft skills.
You can try:
I was able to find instructions on how to make a child's costume out of bubble wrap at this site: http://www.parenting.com/parenting/article/0,19840,1532374,00.html
I assume a dress for an adult would be similar. :)
Do you guys think its weird for 16 year olds to go trick-or-treating? I dont do it to steal candy from little kids, I do it because I am a kid at heart lol and its fun! PLUS ITS FREE CANDY! But some people give me weird looks when I knock on their door and say "Trick-Or-Treat!" I guess its because I look like I'm about 20. Several houses last year gave me just one piece. But I dunno if they did that to everyone or JUST me. So my question is this: Do you think there should be an age limit to trick-or-treating? Why or Why not?
Not at all. I'm in college, and a lot of people are going trick-or-treating tonight. Not me, though, I'm too busy. But maybe next year. I don't think there should be an age limit...but...if you have a little kid you could bring, it might make it less awkward.
how do you put one on top then one on bottom of the top?
everyone says you can't do it on paint, but if you can, how?
how do you put one pic of you smiling on top, and one under it, and your waving, with a border around it.
can you do this on paint
if not, where & is it free?
thanks alott!
You can definitely do it on Paint and it's pretty easy.
Open Paint.
Go to Edit, and select Paste From.
Find the file and move it to where you want it.
Do the same with the other picture.
To make a border, select the rectangle tool (on the bottom, where there are four shapes). It will have three types of rectangles, you want the one on top because it's an outline. Click your mouse on the top left corner of the picture, then drag it to the bottom right corner. Don't let go of the mouse until you've got it where you want it.
If you want to change the thickness of the border, click on the line tool (just above the rectangle).
It takes a little bit of practice, but it's very simple. Hope my instructions were clear enough!
hey im planning on having like a teaspoon of honey everyday.. But does anyone know what good can i benifit from it? I know its good.. but what will it do?
It is good for your throat, and contains antioxidants.
http://www.femhealth.com/BenefitsofHoney.html goes into a lot of detail about it.
Oh, but don't feed it to babies, they can't digest it.
What happened to the anime show Bleach? They didn't show it last Saturday, and I checked the tv guide listings for this Saturday, and I didn't see it, I just saw the anime show Deathnote. Did they change the time or something? I know they show some re-runs on weekdays, but they don't show the new episodes, unless I didn't know. They usually show the new episodes every Saturday at 11:00, on Adult Swim (channel 63) =\ :'[
Cartoon Network does that a lot when they get a new show. Did you try turning it on after Death Note was over? I'm on Eastern Time, so DN shows at 12:00 for me, and according to TV Guide's website, Bleach is on at 12:30. So that would be 11:30 for you.
Here's the listing: http://www.tvguide.com/detail/tv-show.aspx?id=5856515&more=ucshowairings
Oh, and if you don't mind watching in Japanese, there are websites that have streaming episodes. ;)
i need a free program that is for photo editing. a really good one too. if you know of any please tell me and remember they have to be free and not illegal. also include the website i get it from.
The Gimp.