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•are first time boyfriends supposed to be special in a girls life? like is a big deal to the mom or something?
•are a girls first kiss supposed to be really special? like are you supposed to search for the right dude in order to have you first kiss? or can it be just some dude u like but aren't dating?
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a first boyfriend is ALWAYS special, but not always in a love way. it's special because it's a first, and it the first time you get to deal with all the wonderful crap they throw at you.
and a girl's first kiss is whenever she feels like it. if you want to make it special, then do it. if you don't then go ahead and kiss any guy, just as long as you want to.
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For both of them - it's pretty much what you make of it. If you were pressured into kissing a guy, or your first kiss was with someone that you didn't know - well, that probably won't be a very special experience.
It probably depends on the mom (to answer your first question). Some mom's may get very interested when her kids start having romantic feelings, and suddenly want to know everything about the guy, some may laugh; in general it will probably bring up some feelings of nostalgia. This all also depends on how close you are to your mom, and how much you tell her about the guy.
There is nothing you are supposed to do in the dating/kissing business. In my opinion, I like feeling that my boyfriends and kissees are "special", and yes, this does involve waiting for someone you have some sort of feelings for. However, how you lead your love life is something to find out on your own. Don't be afraid to take risks and mess up, but also don't be afraid to stick to your convictions and look out for yourself.
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First time boyfriends are usually special. Of course if they were jerks, then they shouldn't count as the first boyfriend. (Haha, I've never counted them =D)
I think the most special kiss isn't really the first one, but the first meaningful one. I mean that kiss from the guy who lets you know how much he likes you!
Hope I helped. =)
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Well, it depends on the girl and the mother. Some girls have "boyfriends" at the age of 6, but i'm thinking those don't really count. So, it's basically different for everyone.
About the first kiss question.. For most girls, yes it's special, for other's again they had their first kiss young, so chances are it didn't affect them, as say someone who had their first kiss at 14/15. You don't have to search for the right guy. And yes it can be someone you like, but are not dating. A first kiss isn't always what it's cracked up to be. Your 100th kiss could have more sparks or fireworks, then your first kiss because you and the guy liked each other more.
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1. It really depends on the mom, the girl, and the situation. My first 'boyfriend' was hardly a boyfriend. He was my prom date, and my first kiss, and we never had a real relationship. I guess my mother was excited that I was going to prom, but maybe that was because I was (and am) sort of a loner who didn't (and doesn't!) like huge social events. Years later she asked if I had ever kissed him, I said yes, and she seemed happy. But I'm sure different mothers with different daughters would react differently. If you are thinking about dating now, I think your mother would be more worried than anything. I know if I had a thirteen-year-old, I would be scared of her dating. As for if it's special to you...it can be or it can't. Before you find "The One", you're bound to try out some guys that just are not good for you, and there's a good chance that your first could be someone you that REALLY isn't, and you will try to forget him as quickly as you can.
2. Yes and no. Again, it really depends on who you are. Lots of people say, "Save it for someone you care about!" And yeah, maybe that's a good idea. But honestly, I didn't (see above). At that point in my life, I thought I was unattractive and would never be kissed, so when I saw the opportunity, I grabbed it. And yeah, it wasn't special. Yeah, I'll probably remember forever that I kissed a guy I wasn't in love with. Yeah, maybe when I kiss the person I am in love with I'll ask myself "Why couldn't THIS be my first kiss?" But you know what? I've thought about it long and hard, and I don't regret it. Because it made me realize that I really, really like kissing, even though I haven't done it since then. And it made me realize that I WASN'T unattractive, if someone wanted to kiss me, and I believe that, like every other choice I've ever made, it played a part in shaping me. And when I do kiss the person I love...who cares if it wasn't my first?! It'll still be great because I'll love them! I'm not telling you to rush out and kiss the first guy you see, because honestly, I regretted it for a long time before I came to this conclusion. I'm just letting you know that a lot of girls think of their first kiss as "a mistake", and regret being so impulsive, but you don't have to regret it. But if your first kiss isn't "special", don't worry. Get over it. Life goes on. :)
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**It's not so much your first boyfriend, but first love. You never forget them because it's your first experience - especially if you share alot of history with them. Of course your first boyfriend should still be special though. and I'm sure your mum would want him to be good enough for you if she takes a big interest in your relationships.
**It depends on the girl. Some people want to get it over with (but may regret it later on) and others want to have their first kiss with someone they really like and have alot of feelings for. You don't really tend to forget your first kiss either - if it was with someone special.
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well ideally first time boyfriends should be special. you wouldnt want the very first person that you date to be just a random guy. my first serious boyfriend was a random guy-in fact i had a crush on his younger brother before i started dating him. i didnt even like him. i just went out with him because i was set up. so it wasnt very special. as for it being a big deal to your parents-well your parents probably want you to get involved with someone who is really nice and respectable. the first kis (again in an ideal world) should be special if you ask me. mine wasnt. it was with some guy at a party and he shoved his tongue down my throat. it wasnt pretty. dont make the same mistakes i did-look for the right boy!
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