for the first part of your answer...in a situation like this your just going to have to go for it. the way it sounds, he probably isnt apposed to the idea of being with you, since the two of you already act like it. maybe he's just unsure of what you will say if he asks you, and yeah, he's shy. but im sure if you ask him, even if he does blush or something he would most likely love the idea, and have no problem with it really, so if i were you i would just go in for the punch.
the 'feel his lips' kiss you should try either right before or right after you ask him. just i dont know its kind of hard to explain how to kiss...ok tap kisses are light and quick, right? so for a longer more feeling kiss, you should lean into him a little more and put more pressure on his lips [nothing to hurt him of course...haha] and stay there for just a few seconds and release. and if you decide you want "spit" then you could go ahead and french kiss him by after leaning in for your kiss moving your tongue to his mouth and moving it around for a few seconds, and if he doesnt respond by doing the same then bring your own tongue back. i hope things go well for you just dont be afraid to move right in and do what you need to do!
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yeah this is completely fine, since you shouldnt have sex until your both Ready. you could have anal sex if you wanted [some people dont like it as much] and also im pretty sure he probably has done this but fingering would be alright. also a thing you two might enjoy is spooning or forking. yes he'll get right up close to there but he wont get inside you and the pleasure should be quite enjoyable to both of you. just be imaginitave i guess and dont do anything you dont want to do!
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i've always used mary kay concealers and it always stays on really good for me. i know that one of my best friends uses revlon and hers usually looks like its staying put just right too. so there are two options for you anyways hope i helped!
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you can either start by telling someone, or start by trying to fix it yourself. im going to tell you how to travel down the second option's path. try to find some sort of exercise you can do every day. weather it be running, shooting hoops, or volleyball or softball or something like that...even just walking!, you need to do something to get you out of the house and doing something that is all around good for you. exercising makes you feel good too, and helps you think about a lot of stuff while your out there quite frequently, too. try hanging out with your friends more, or joining a youth organization of somekind, and/or lots of clubs and sports in your school. things to help you get yourself out there and enjoying things in life are one of the best ways to help you feel better. do that for quite some time, and see how far you get. i was like you once, and now even though i have other issues, i have found myself to be in general, very happy.
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oh god yeah, i think a lot of people have these worries before they start getting more involved. i know i did!
1. fingering may feel a little weird to you at first, especailly if you dont use tampons or anything..so nothing else has really ever been up there. but it will start to feel good and usually he will probably do it when you guys are kissing and making out anyways, so it wont be like an awkward moment or anything. the reaction will come natrually. if it feels really good then you will probably make some kind of moan noise or something, but dont try for it.
2. its not that hard to please a guy when it comes to gettin intimate with him, and messing with it "down there" makes it that much more easy. just sort of 'feel it up' i guess you could say...you'll most likely catch on once your actually doing it.
3. yeah, its gunna hurt. but nothing to worry about too much your cherry will most likely pop which means a little bleeding probably. but im sure if you do it a few times you will start to get used to the feeling and be able to enjoy the pleasure&closeness you two are sharing.

*4* now, i dont want to sound like your mom...haha, but dont do this unless your sure you wont regret doing things with him later on. you sound more sure, since it sounds like he's been your boyfriend and its not just like "i got a new boyfriend and i want to have sex" but just make sure your absolutly ready:)
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no, i think that is really sweet:)
your friends might have thought ok why did she tell me that or they might possibly be jealous, too.
doesnt really matter, as long as you know he's being sweet and that's what matters!
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honestly, i dont think its right for anyone to go out with their best friends exboyfriend. because believe me i know that even if your over the guy, it is a little awkward and well pretty annoying...really annoying. so unless the friend comes out and talks about omg i think he likes you and is all you know, girl, about it...like she doesnt care, then next time if this doesnt happen i would not go out with the ex. and if you do, dont lie about why your with him. because when people do that it only hurts other people more when they find out you were lieing. whether it was directly towards them or not.
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really either way.
usually it starts out as the natural impulse to have the guys arms around your waiste and stuff. but after a while either way gets more comfortable.
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uummm www.dictionary.com would probably be a good one.
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in general yes this is ok: this is called "eating her out"
but just in case you should probably check with her to see if she is into that. some people arent and you should either ease into it and see if she pushes you away from that area or just flat out ask her.
have fun;)
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really i'm not sure that its as much of the water itself as it is other things. for instince, water is really really healthy and a good alternative to pop and gatorade and stuff. so drinking water is healthier, which makes you more healthy, making you lose weight. so in a way its not the water making you Lose weight, but its helping you keep off unnecessary calories.
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even though im not exactly sure, i think it means kind of like taking a risk and you hope it will turn out for the better. like there's a new job and its in a way different town and way different life style but you take it anyways just hoping that it will turn out to be really good.
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yeah, i know what its like to want to change some things about a guy. and well since he likes you it makes it that much more easy. just let him know you like him too but not the things he does. and let him know what kind of girl you are and exactly what you stand for. you could go ahead and start going out with him and just keep on putting your foot down on the things you dont like. if he likes you enough he'll get the picture and Want to change.
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hey omg i know how you feel.
well i know exercise can usually make it go away faster, so try doing some physical activity everyday. and even without it and your normal shower everyday...your period should be done by then. but if you wanna make sure, exercise!
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honestly, there's nothing you can do about growing up. your body is probably in the middle stage of maturing and so yes, its gonna look kind of scraggly for a while. but in a while it will start to get more shape and figure and you will probably start to like it some more once you give it a chance to catch up with itself.
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ugh.
i know exActly what you mean. he keeps calling you, saying he loves you, and you fall for it. to sum that up.
well the same thing happened to me.
except one of the days after calling me and saying that, he got a girlfriend. and my best friend.
so he probably knows..no, he's not over you either. but sooner or later he's going to "move on" anyways. and even though even then he might not be all the way over you, it will hurt you a lot and you have got to try to prevent that from happening...as much as possible.
so i dont know exactly How your going to go about doing this...but i'm just going to talk.
there is a lot of guys out there, and pretty soon your going to find another one you really like. and aside from that, there are a lotta hot ones to look at for the time being. you just need to start noticing, you can do a lot better. you know he doesnt mean that he loves you, which is good on your part, so since he's 'just saying that' you can know to look for someone who will treat you a lot better and mean it.
just keep letting yourself know that, and whenever he calls next just tell him no you dont mean that and you need to give me space to let me get over you...because i need to. it is the best thing for me and i know you Dont love me, but if you care at all you will want the best for me.

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hey im from missouri so most of the stores are probably in iwoa too. i know orchelns has lots of country style clothes, and vanderbelts. also some tractor supply stores will have clothing sections too.
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this is deffintly normal. dont worry about it too much and if for some reason you think your 'fat' then maybe you just wanna tighten up some muscles or something, not nessicarly lose weight:)
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yeah, the clothes should deffinitly be enough. u most likely will only get pregnant if he actually gets inside you...which you have to be naked to do, of course. and i guess there could have been a chance if his bare penis came somewhere near your area, but it doesnt sound like he did, so you should be ok. =]
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welp hunni theres only one way to fix this...and thats to tell her exactly how you feel as soon as possible! i know because i've been in your place and the other girl before...but im telling you especially if she's your friend anyway she's gunna want to know that you feel that way. and since she used to like you it shouldnt seem really random that you come out and say that, if your worried about that. if she asked you why you waited to tell her, tell her the truth and since she's a good friend that she is, she will hopefully understand
and even better, hopefully give you a second chance!
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hey im helpachick & i want to help you if i can. more than most of the questions i answer i have experienced something close to that myself. so feel free to ask&leave stuff in my inbox or whatever, and i'll try to get back soonish.

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I'm in college majoring in Fashion Textiles and Merchandising. I love fashion, boys, my friends, music, and love being active and outdoors. theres a lot more i could put about me but this is advicenators not myspace!!
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