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first time
heyy i think im about ready for a more intimate relationship with my bf but
1. I have never been fingered before and I am worried about what the male thinks of pubic hair and what i should do about it and also what response they like and generally how it works
2. I have never given a hand job/ blow job and would like tips and advice plzz o"o
3. I have heard that it hurts first time...
thankyoo any advice woudl be appreciated :]
xx
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It really shouldn't matter to your partner about pubic hair. Having pubic hair or shaving it off is a matter of what you like and prefer and both are perfectly fine and acceptable.
As far as fingering goes it's essentially masturbation but your partner doing it for you rather than you doing it yourself. The key to making sure it goes smoothly is to communicate to him what you like, don't like, enjoy, want to try etc. to him before you do this and during and then afterward to give him a sense of what he did correctly or not.
He cannot possibly know how to give you pleasure this way and make sure you enjoy it as he's not a mind-reader or a female and doesn't understand how your anatomy works down there.
We cannot give you tips on h/j b/j as it can get you and anyone who gives the tips permanently banished from the site as our users are often always minors. However, I will say talk to your boyfriend before doing either activity as he knows what he likes and all about his genitals etc.
He can tell you before and during exactly what to do. Get him to help guide you, That's the best thing because you learn what he likes and get used to doing it so it's a skill you easily pick up.
When it comes to sex there can be some discomfort for female virgins. This could be because their hymen is being stretched for the first time through pentration. These days that's usually not an issue because the hymen typically is stretched through tampon usage or masturbation.
What causes most females pain and discomfort is the fact that they are not properly lubcricated or tha their vagina doesn't produce enough for there not to be friction during thrusting.
It's kind of metal on metal grinding in my opinion (as a male) with being lubricated properly. In that case all you need to do is buy an artifical water-based lubricant at a drugstore. The vagina needs to be well lubricated for penetration and intercourse.
You cannot just expect to start penetration without foreplay etc. and being well lubricated as yes, it will feel uncomfortable.
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1. Most guys like you to be trimmed at least so it is easier for them to find everything underneath your skirt. They don't want to be looking for your clit and not be able to find it because their fingers are lost in your mass of curls.
They like you to let them know what you like and what you don't like. Just make sure you don't fake it because if he finds out he's not going to be happy.
2. Use a firm hand when you're giving him a handjob. He is NOT going to break and he doesn't want you to be gentle. Also use some kind of lube because the wetter the better. Vaseline is thick and holds the heat in, and one guy said it felt better than lotion.
For a blowjob, use your hands, too. You can use them to knead his testicles. When he's nearing his orgasm, pull them a little bit and it'll make his orgasm stronger. Most guys think it's awesome if you swallow their semen, and feel rejected if you don't. So, if you don't like the taste, keep a Coke or something nearby so you can help wash the taste out of your mouth.
Don't treat him like a lollipop the entire time. Lick around the head and flick the underside with your tongue for a few seconds then just take as much into your mouth as possible and just kind of bob your head up and down.
3. If you're comfortable and aroused with your partner, then the less it will hurt. Try going to this site, it will tell you almost everything you need to know about your first time.
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Hi there first timer. :)
Now, when getting fingered most guys like trimmed or even little to no pubic hair. Its just cleaner and most plesant for the both of you. My boyfriend likes it when I moan a little, sometimes even giggle when it feels good. Be sure you don't fake anything though, that could give him the wrong impression. It might hurt the first time, I was a little sore. If you start to bleed later it'll be because he popped your cherry and thats 100% normal.
For blow jobs, personally I find them gross.
I prefer the guy to concentrate on me before I go sticking his buisness in my mouth. Make sure he's clean and try checking to make sure he doesn't have any weird bumps or rashes on himself before starting. When you do, stick as much of his penis in your mouth and slowly move it in and out of your mouth. Swallow the cum if you can, if not spit it out or ask to stop. I personally can't stand the cum, it makes me sick.
During handjobs, using lotion to get started is helpful. My boyfriend loves that, so it works. Just get somewhat of a grip on his penis and move your hand up and down. Start of slower and get faster the more and more he gets into it.
Good Luck
Stay safe <3
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oh god yeah, i think a lot of people have these worries before they start getting more involved. i know i did!
1. fingering may feel a little weird to you at first, especailly if you dont use tampons or anything..so nothing else has really ever been up there. but it will start to feel good and usually he will probably do it when you guys are kissing and making out anyways, so it wont be like an awkward moment or anything. the reaction will come natrually. if it feels really good then you will probably make some kind of moan noise or something, but dont try for it.
2. its not that hard to please a guy when it comes to gettin intimate with him, and messing with it "down there" makes it that much more easy. just sort of 'feel it up' i guess you could say...you'll most likely catch on once your actually doing it.
3. yeah, its gunna hurt. but nothing to worry about too much your cherry will most likely pop which means a little bleeding probably. but im sure if you do it a few times you will start to get used to the feeling and be able to enjoy the pleasure&closeness you two are sharing.
*4* now, i dont want to sound like your mom...haha, but dont do this unless your sure you wont regret doing things with him later on. you sound more sure, since it sounds like he's been your boyfriend and its not just like "i got a new boyfriend and i want to have sex" but just make sure your absolutly ready:)
xoxo helpachick
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First of all, just because you haven't done those other things, does NOT mean you're not ready. If you're 100% sure you're ready to have sex (even if it's just oral or fingering), and you want to be safe and knowledgeable about it, then no one can stop you. =]
Well, if your guy loves you, then he won't care about your pubic hair at all. Plus, every guy is different and will like different things. Generally, though, guys think it's good to "groom" it in some way. Even if you don't want to shave ALL your hair off, you could shave just your bikini line (whatever shows outside of underwear/a bathing suit) and just trim the rest of it to shorten it.
As far as fingering goes... I think you should try masturbating to find out what YOU like and what makes you feel good, so that you can tell your boyfriend. If he's as inexperienced as you are in this field, he'll probably appreciate the help. As far as what "response" I'm assuming you mean moaning or whatever? Just do what feels good and right while he's doing it. If you want to make some noise, go for it -- but not every woman does.
Hand jobs and blow jobs are easy. First of all, I'd suggest telling your boyfriend, "I've never done ANYTHING like this before, so if something doesn't feel good, tell me. If it feels really good and you want me to do it more, tell me." Trust me, if you make it known that it's okay to give you guidance, then he will. That'll make it a lot easier. As far as actually DOING it, go here:
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These sites are for educational purposes only, and feature NO pictures (just to let the mods know I'm not showing you porn, haha).
As far as hurting... well, it depends on the girl. My friend that I'm talking to says that it hurt the first time she got fingered, but only for a second and then it felt good. She also says that when she had sex the first time, it hurt (again, only for a second) and she bled a little (which is completely normal; sometimes your hymen is still intact and when it breaks, there's a little blood, and it's NOTHING to worry about).
Me, however, I didn't hurt or bleed. It all depends on the woman. But if it does happen to hurt for you, then just let your guy know and ask him to slow down until you can get more acclamated. =]
Please, if you decide to have sex, use a condom. =]
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I do not think you are ready for sex if you have not done those plus are you really ready ? Is he pressuring you ? You should think about something like that deeply before actually doing it because virginity is sacred. There are other ways to show someone you love them.
GOOD LUCK !
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