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i was having sex with this guy. he left the condom here & when he left i went to throw it out and there was a hole not at the tip but alittle more on the side. i dont know if he came. there wasnt any in the condom. & i would be able to tell if he did inside me right ? well after the first time we waited like an hour and went again but i started bleeding i dont know if it was my period but it wasnt my cherry cause thats been poped. it wasnt just alittle scratch it was coming from my vagina. its most likly my period. but im worried about pregnancy. im only 15. should i buy a test even if this is my period ?

I would if I was you just to be safe !

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heyy i think im about ready for a more intimate relationship with my bf but
1. I have never been fingered before and I am worried about what the male thinks of pubic hair and what i should do about it and also what response they like and generally how it works
2. I have never given a hand job/ blow job and would like tips and advice plzz o"o
3. I have heard that it hurts first time...

thankyoo any advice woudl be appreciated :]

xx

I do not think you are ready for sex if you have not done those plus are you really ready ? Is he pressuring you ? You should think about something like that deeply before actually doing it because virginity is sacred. There are other ways to show someone you love them.
GOOD LUCK !
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13/f ok so i like this boy lets call him T. since 6th grade. and mi friend has like him for 2 years. well she REALLY likes him. so she invited him to a party and he was the only boy tht showed up. and she likes him and he likes her. but i would ask him out before her if i wasn't short and fat and unatractive. kuz i really like him. becauce he is a good student sweet guy and just really nice. shes fianlly gonna ask him out tomorow. what do i? i hate being jealous because he is soooooooooo nice. and i REALLY like him!
please help me i really wanna ask him out, but i dunno what to do. please help!!! on how to act and what to do.

Eek ! Well, Maybe you should talk to your friend about it before she actually does it. I am sorry; but if you and him are meant to be together then it'll happen. EVERYTHING happens for a reason ! GOOD LUCK :D

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Okay me and my boyfriend weve been going out for a while and im not aloud over at his house im aloud doing everything else but not aloud going over to his house... ive tried convinsiing them and everything and they think its not right for a girl to go to a guys house and I really dont get that can someone please help me what could I do so they could say yes. And by the way im 16.

Thank you ,
Betty.

Show them that you are trustworthy....

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15/F
I've liked this guy for a couple of months and a few weeks ago I found out that he likes me back. A group of my friends and one of my closest friends friends (Sorry if that's confusing) met up at the mall yesterday, and I found out from my friend that he's bisexual. And I still like him. I just don't know if I would want to go out with him anymore. I don't have anything against people who are bisexual, it's just that I've never dated a guy like that before and I don't If I would want to. Am I being unfair? I'm so confused. What should I do?

it shouldn't affect your answer because he likes you too, so what's the worst that could happen ?

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do girls get anything out of it when they get felt up? is it like pleasurable to them?

or do they get nothing out of it?

just wondering . . .

depends; most of the time no not really...

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what are some different ideas for taking pictures of yourself? like something different/unique that not everyone does.. (for myspace) thanks!

Try the timer on your camera.
:D

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My best friend, Jackie, is going out with this guy, Joe. Joe is one of my really good guy friends. Anyways, I like Joe as a friend and nothing more. But when they will do stuff together i find myself getting kind of jealous and for some reason I want them to break up. Joe and I flirt sometimes but it's nothing major. anyways im the one that got them together and helps Joe with all the relationship problems, but it makes me kind of depressed when he talks about how much he loves her and that he wants to stay together with her for years.

And then the other night he was like, "Haha i love you ___(my name)" he meant it in a friendly way but it like gave me a weird feeling in my stomach. But I'm like positive I don't like him! So what's up with this? How can i get over it?

Maybe you should lay off hanging out with him for a little while so that you can understand how you really feel. If you begin to miss him then you probably have some type of feelings for him. Good Luck ! :D

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i like this guy named sevvy. we're in 8th grade and we talk almost every night on this other kid, randall's forum. about a week ago we were discussing religion on there from 11:00 PM to 2:00 AM. we have different views on religion, but we both made each other think. i told him we should talk like that in person and he said "actually i was thinking the same thing". we only have one class together and hardly ever talk, but he says random things to me more than he used to, and maybe he just thinks we're better friends now. but i actually like him. and he's kind of nerdy so maybe he thinks i wouldn't like him or something. but i don't know if i should tell him or not, it might make me seem like a fool. please help!

I think you should tell him; it won't hurt to tell him what he may or may not doesn't know. He will find out eventually. Good Luck ! :D

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