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Q: i am going into my second year of college and i need to pick a major soon...i am going to san jose state. i hav no idea what i want to do these are my interests:

taking pictures
making collages
being outside
being active
weight lifting
some areobics/cardio like running
looking at different outfits

any suggestions on what i could do with these skills and interests??? thanks so much!!
it sounds to me that you like to be creative....
so you could be
interior decorator/designer
fashion designer
{{art major}}


athletic trainer

xoxo helpachick

Q: what is the meaning/difference of these words?

oral sex:
anal sex:
blow job:
hand job:

also, can a blow job and hand job be performed on both a man and a woman?

thank you very much
oral sex: where the girl sucks on/bites/nibbles a guy's penis and the guy licks around her vagina.
anal sex: also known as 'butt sex', the guy literally puts his penis in the girls butt...sometimes painful, but its your preference.
blow job: part of oral sex, the girl puts his penis in her mouth and sucks, bites or nibbles..
hand job: the girl feeling around with the guys penis.

usually the terms for those two things are used just on guys. [because it involves their penis]

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Q: You know the facebook free gifts? What's this one supposed to be?
i think their supposed to be boxing gloves.
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Q: you answered my question about feeling up. is there anyways to make it more fun?also do you know how i can make my boobs hurt it weired to go to second before going to first?answer asap thanks
hmm making it more fun..
well without going any farther than second, what you can do to him is while you guys are kissing move your hands under his sleeves and feel/sort of massage his arms muscle area, and if you want to move your hands to his back and feel around on it. unfortunatly, i dont think there is a way to make it less hurtful in that sensitve area...but it seems like [for me anways] that i have days where they hurt and days where they dont really.
and i dont think its that weird as long as you feel comfortable with what your doing/have done.
xoxo helpachick
have fun...but be carefuly =)

Q: me and my guy went to second before 1st. i havent been to first yet but he massaged my boobs and there really sore!is that normal?and is that considered getting felt up/going to second?answer ASAP.thanks.psh he went under my bra but it wasnt off.
yeah this would be considered going to second base, weather your shirt was off or not. but your boobs are sore if things press on them hard usually, so yes this is normal.
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Q: hey my boyfriend and i have been together for six months we'll its a few dats short lol I wanted to get him something little and cute to kinda show that i care and i didnt forget but i def dont want to do anything big.

any ideas of something cute and little to do but still shows i care alot about him?

thanks soooo much=]
just do something kind of fun, like a picture of you two in a frame, or burn him a cd with a bunch of your songs on it or songs that remind you of the two of you. something down that alley, just things you can give to him and everytime he sees it he is reminded of you!
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Q: I really want to know because everyone else has already lost it and I'm 14 and I havent!
well thats really up to you.
and even though it may seem like 'everyone' has lost theirs, there's also the 'everyone' that hasnt. so dont feel pressured just because of that. in fact, having sex shouldnt be a pressure at all. it should be when you've been with a person for a long time and you are very in love and happy with them, and trust them with all your heart. also, you should both be ready...this is where it comes in as not a pressure. i feel that if you still feel pressured by it, then your probably not ready to do it with that person. whenever you do decide to do that with someone, it will come more naturally than you think, and it wont [well shouldnt, if its for the right reasons] be just because everyone else is doing it.
xoxo helpachick

Q: How can i break bad habits?? i'm trying this summer, to really cut back, on just laying around, and i've regualtated yoga & running into my daily ruotine, and i'm also an active dancer. I dance about 6 days a week during the school year. During the summer, i tend to loose everything, by just hanging out, yeah its nice to have sometime to myself for once, but i don't like just being lazy all the time. Any tips on how to stay fit and heathly, mind, body, & soul this summer??
aww yes, summer days.
well your exercise plan is good, with running and yoga.
also, during some of your free time, try hanging out with a lot of different friends just doing whatever. you could even include a friend in your exercise with you.
pick up a hobby, such as scrapbooking..scrap book all those good times you and your friends have!
or painting, drawing, writing...anything just to get your creativity going!
try reading a good book too
xoxo helpachick

Q: All of my boyfriend's friends tell me I'm ugly and he can do so much better than me. What are some ways I can improve the way I look? I just don't think I look pretty.

here are a couple of pictures of me (my hair isn't blonde and brown anymore it's dark brown/auburn)¤t=DSC00108.jpg¤t=l_77a2cb1b3f4578957a051490d299f973.jpg

Those are the only pictures I have that you can really see my face
aw hun!=(
i wouldnt be believin your b/f's friends for One Second because i looked at your links and you are very pretty.
and either their just really jealous or they need to get over themselves. i wouldnt change a thing, and besides, their opinion shouldnt matter anyways. your boyfriend most likely thinks your pretty, and not that it really matters if he does or not, but most likely, and you shouldnt have to change yourself for anyone else!
xoxo helpachick

Q: theres this guy that i really like..i think he likes me too but i don't wanna ask him out cuz thats do i make him ask me out?
talk talk talk.
the first step is to talk to him as much as you can. not annoyingly, but make him know you want to be social with him. talk about things he's interested in, and ask him questions. guys like to show off things they know, because well, almost all of them are at least a little full of themselves:P
get to be friends with him, but flirt at the same time, telling him you wouldnt mind having more of a relationship.
hopefully he'll get the picture, and make His move!
xoxo helpachick

Q: is there any site where i can get free music? for example, music such as rock, indie, screamo, metal, poppunk, etc.
go to
and both of these are free things you can download to download a million free songs.
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Q: right im 15/m and i love my gf to bits and i meen bits! she is the most beatiful caring lovable person in my life and i have a sudden urge to by a gift for her i want something perfect any idea's ppl? thanks for your time:) xx
aw this is sweet when guys want to do this.
my boyfriend gave me a ring and i love it so much i wear it everyday!!
so something like this...i dunno if she's a jewelry person. but if she is give her a necklace or a ring or braclet. something you know she would wear and that you like too.
or you could surprise her in some way...however you want to go about doing that.
also you could give her a picture of you guys in a picture frame because most girls like pictures and stuff like that
xoxo helpachick
p.s. be sure to sign the card with something sweet at the end!

Q: Awhile ago i deleted most of my mysic because i'm so sick of listenting to the same things over and over again.
Now I have no clue what to download.
I'm into pop/r&b/rock, pretty much just anything that sounds good with a good beat to it.
I don't want anything that recently just came out because chances are, i have it.

these days-alien ant farm
here in your arms- hellogoodbye
dear jamie...sincerely me- hellogoodbye
blood red summer- coheed&cambria
byebye beautiful- coheed&cambria
boys of summer- the ataris
[rock version of the 70's song..really good]
movies- alien ant farm
get next to you- buckcherry
last resort- poppa roach

lots of these artists have lots of good songs...
hope this helps liven up your playlists!
xoxo helpachick

Q: k so me and my boyfriend have been dating a while k so a really long while. and just recently we have started arguing and it's like everyday. and i really love him. but i dont know what to do. because i am tired of arguing but not tired of him. and i dont want to lose him. because he means so much to me. but we argue over the tinniest stuff. it is soo stupid. sorry if i am going on and on. and sorry if its a stupid question i would just like somebody else's opinion. k thanks. :)
i know exactly how this goes, and what you have to do is just bring it up. the next time you guys start arguing again, just do the whole 'sigh' thing us girls are good at, and say well there we go fighting again. or something like that. and then you two need to talk about it. tell him that you feel like you fight all the time now and your really worried, and just whatever you feel. tell him. and talk about it. between the two of you, hopefully you guys can work it out one way or the other.
good luck!
xoxo helpachick

Q: how do u helps scabs heal faster. and can u make them less red somehow?
the best way i can figure out is to every night before you go to bed, put neosporin or some other kind of antibacterial ointment on the scab and put a bandaid over it, and wear it to bed. take it off in the morning and it should get better in time.
to get rid of redness, you can try to put foundation[makeup] over it so it wont show up as much.
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Q: I'm totally clueless on what Hair Straightener to buy. My hair is wavy and it's in between thick and thin hair. My hair is healthy. I want a hair straightener that is at a good price too. My mother probably wouldnt buy me one if it was too expensive. Between $20-$40 is good. Please help me find a good hair straightener that isnt so expensive for my hair type. I dont plan on using it EVERY SINGLE DAY but more than once a week.
well your hair sounds a lot like mine, and i bought a revlon straightner. it was within that price range, and i've used friends that are different types of revlon than mine, and they all seem to work pretty good.
xoxo helpachick

Q: dno what category this goes in so yeah...
i need a good name for msn, does anyone have any good sayings or quotes i can use...
i want heaps so plz tell me your fave sayings or quotes... or a cool way to write my name- sally
thanx xoxo
im usually not to good at this since my msn name is just my name...but i usually put quotes underneath on that personal message thing, so lets see what i can come up with for you...



lets flip a coin, heads im yours, tails your mine.

i was born to tell you i love you.

learn to love the things of your present, because there may never be another time around.
learn to love the things of today, because they might not be there tomorrow.

the difference between fiction and reality, is that fiction has to make since

*//wishful thinker\\*

life was so much easier when boys had cooties.

hope some of these help...
xoxo helpachick

Q: what are the sign that ur friends is drifting away? and what does it mean when your friend is "trying to drift away" from them?
some signs of drifting away are like if you two just dont talk like you used to, or if you guys used to hang out and now you dont. or if they are 'trying' to drift away, maybe everytime you ask them to hang out, they come up with some excuse not to.
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Q: what does drifting away means in friendship term?
it means that you and the other person are just getting to be not as close as you used to be. like you dont talk as much anymore, or if you still do its not the same conversations close friends private stuff, its just general stuff.
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Q: What is spooning and forking?
spooning is where he puts his penis through your back end and up to your front and it slides throught when you hump, and forking is when he comes through from the other way around.
xoxo helpachick

hey im helpachick & i want to help you if i can. more than most of the questions i answer i have experienced something close to that myself. so feel free to ask&leave stuff in my inbox or whatever, and i'll try to get back soonish.

what about me?
I'm in college majoring in Fashion Textiles and Merchandising. I love fashion, boys, my friends, music, and love being active and outdoors. theres a lot more i could put about me but this is advicenators not myspace!!
ask away^.^




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