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There's this guy I like but ive never gone up to him or said anything to him. What do I do? (link)
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Because you haven't gone up to him or said anything to him, I'm assuming that you are somewhat shy. Being shy isn't a bad thing, but it helps to have a little more confidence. Guys are typically more attracted to confident, interesting girls. Be happy with who you are. Find a quality about yourself that you like and let it shine through.
This guy's immediate impression of you is going to be based on how you look, so looking your best is also going to be somewhat helpful. Find something about yourself that you think is pretty -- for example, you might like your hair or your eyes. Try emphasizing the features that you like about yourself. When you do makeup, try to keep it natural -- you don't want people to think that you've spent hours on your makeup just to impress someone.
Walking up to this guy and starting a conversation might seem awkward, so start out by simply waving to him when you walk past him and smiling. You can also say hi if you feel comfortable doing it.
When you feel brave enough, try complimenting him. For example, you could compliment him on a presentation he did for class or how well he did in a soccer game. Try having something cool to talk about to show him that you're an interesting person. You can also ask him questions to get to know him better. But whatever you do, be yourself. Don't put on an act just to impress him.
I also recommend letting a trusted friend know about this. They can help make things less awkward.
Basically, I think you should be friendly with this guy, try talking to him, and be yourself. Hope this helps!
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Is there any guys who are single in coeur d alene Idaho I am13 and really want/need a bf (link)
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I suggest doing one of the following:
1. Talk to the boys at your school more and get to know them.
2. Be happy being single.
Before you try to get a boyfriend, however, you will need to learn how to be single and happy. A boyfriend should not complete you; he should only improve you. You should already be an interesting, happy person before you get a boyfriend.
Being single actually has many benefits. Think about it:
- You can be yourself and not worry about impressing your partner.
- You don't have to worry about having a broken heart if he breaks up with you.
- You don't have to worry about cheating.
- You have more time with your friends, and you don't have to worry about including your boyfriend in everything.
- You don't have to deal with the awkwardness of going on dates. I mean, you don't have to worry about what you wear, and you won't have to do anything you don't want to do.
Remember: real couples don't have perfect lives. It can actually be really messy. I'm talking about cheating, breaking up (which would eventually happen unless you got married), and broken hearts.
Instead of focusing on getting a boyfriend, focus on being the best person you can be first. Learn to be confident and happy with who you are.
And don't forget to have fun! Because you don't have a boyfriend yet, you only have to please yourself. Go take up a new hobby or spend more time with your friends. Do everything that the opposite gender wouldn't want to do.
Don't go looking for love -- instead, let love find you. And make sure you enjoy your time being single before that happens.
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Okay so my boyfriend is moving to a differnt town like in 3 months . & i want to make these three momths AMAZING .. ! i need some tips on how too .. & also something that i can give him to keep when he goes away so he can remember me .. by the way i only see him in school so we always hangout at lunch alone so how can i make these three months amazing while being at school ..? (link)
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Hi! I'm sorry that you're boyfriend will be moving in a few months -- it's hard when that happens.
First, I'm going to give you a few ideas for goodbye presents. One thing I recommend is making something yourself. Something like a heartfelt poem or note that he can read when he's missing you is a good idea. I wrote a sweet poem for my favorite teacher last year as a goodbye present, and she loved it! Your boyfriend might like that kind of thing as well. Another idea is to take a box and put things in it that will remind him of you and his favorite things from home.
Now for what to do for the last three months. I guess your options are somewhat limited if you are just hanging out at lunch, but I have a few ideas.
- Write a poem together or write your love story. You can each keep a copy of it after your boyfriend moves.
- Come up behind him when he doesn't know it and give him a hug.
- Draw together. (It doesn't matter if you aren't a good artist -- even drawing a heart around your initials is fine. But if you are a good drawer, that's great!)
- Tell each other your secrets/fears (if you haven't already).
- Learn to say sweet things in different languages.
- Find a quiet, secluded place and talk about how you guys first met and why you like each other.
- Have a ring pop wedding (this is good for laughs).
- Read a chapter of a book each night and talk about it the next day at lunch. This also works with TV shows.
I hope I was able to help. You and your boyfriend can also be creative and think of more things to do together. I hope things go well for you!
~Athena
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Do you think 80 tylenol and say about 20 robax and some anti-deppressants will do the job for me? (link)
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I'm sorry you feel like this. I felt suicidal for a long time. But things eventually got better for me, and I like life more now. I know now that suicide doesn't make things better -- instead, it takes away the possibility for things to ever get better.
I hope you will soon feel better about life as well. I'm going to try to help you.
Here are a few things to think about:
Do you really want to kill yourself? Most likely, you just want the pain to go away. You've already had enough pain. I can tell.
What problems are you facing, and are there any solutions other than killing yourself? Are your problems so permanent and awful that there is nothing else that can be done to alleviate them? Talk to someone about your situation, and they will help you find other solutions.
Think about the reasons why you should live (there are many, even if you don't realize it). What things have you been wanting to do before you die? And whom will your decision affect? There are people out there who love you and don't want you to kill yourself. Remember that I love you just because you are going through what I have gone through before, and you deserve to be loved.
Don't focus on the bad things in life. Focus on the good things. Find someone to talk to, and find something that is enjoyable and makes you feel better.
I'm more than happy to talk to you if you need someone to listen. If you're feeling sad about something, you can send me a text. My number is 760-805-6077.
If you're still alive right now (I certainly hope so) it means that you are strong. Your life is worth much more than you might think it does. I know everything seems hard now, but you'll find a reason to keep going -- no matter what problems you have.
Stay strong,
Athena
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So my boyfriend told me hes moving like in a couple months to a other town ... i really like him !! i dont want to lose him .... i really dont ... i would want some ideas that can help me so he can stay ... i think he can am not sure.. but any ideas ..? (link)
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First of all, if he moved, you wouldn't be losing him. You would just have a long distance relationship. I'm in a long distance relationship with someone, and I'm just as happy as I would be in a relationship where the two of us could see each other every day.
I don't know how you would be able to make him stay. So I will give you some tips on what to do if he does move.
Remember, it isn't like he's going to dump you or anything! You can still have a relationship, even if you're in different towns. Also, it would still be possible for you to visit him, and you can stay in contact. I think it will be best to contact him at least once a day. This doesn't have to mean phone calls that last an hour or more -- it just means checking in with him daily. Any contact, even if it's short, is much better than none.
Although you might not be able to change the fact that he's moving, what you can change is how you look at the situation. Instead of thinking of the fact that he's moving as a loss, think of it as an adventure. You can take trips to see each other, and the times you spend together in the future will be even more special now.
This is a quote I like that my significant other shared with me: "Distance between two hearts is not an obstacle; rather a beautiful reminder of just how strong true love can be. . . ."
Long distance relationships can sometimes even bring people closer together. You'll rely more on conversation and really listen to everything that's going on his life. Speaking of conversation, living in different places will give you more interesting things to talk about. But you don't always have to talk about exciting things -- simply talking about your day is fine.
One benefit of long distance relationships is personal space and independence. Sometimes, it can really be nice to just be alone. The distance might sometimes feel like a burden, but you can also enjoy it. Long distance relationships can be a reminder that you can still have fun without him beside you.
You guys can have fun together in many ways -- and you can try things that you never thought of trying before. Don't let the fact that you won't be physically with him stop you from enjoying your relationship. There are some websites online that have suggestions for things to do in a long distance relationship, and there is one website that I go on often to find things to do with my significant other.
http://www.lovingfromadistance.com/thingsforldrcouplestodo.html
Before he moves, you two can give each other a present so you can remember one another -- something to hold on to when you miss each other. After he moves, you can send each other presents often as well. Random presents can show him that you're always thinking about him and that he's very important to you.
I hope I was able to help! Remember, even though you won't be physically next to one another, you'll still be together. And he'll still be in your heart.
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I had a dream that I was pregnant. The dream went onto the first week and until I gave birth. I remember being in the hospital bed and the nurse handed me my baby girl. She was the cutest thing ever! Then I heard a guy's sweet voice say "Ally?" I turned to my right and caught a glimpse of a guy with light skin, jet black hair that was kind of short, greenish brown eyes, and a nice smile. I feel I've seen him in my dreams before.
What does this mean? (link)
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Hi! I'm not a dream interpreter, but I know a website that is great for helping people understand dreams and interpret their dreams. It's called www.dreammoods.com. I go on this website when I'm trying to figure out what my dreams mean.
I looked up your dream on that website, and this is what I found:
Dreams about pregnancy often mean that a part of yourself or your life is developing. Dreams about pregnancy can sometimes mean you're worried about taking up new responsibilities, but if you're hoping to get pregnant someday, it may be a wish fulfillment dream.
You also mentioned that the dream continued until you gave birth. Birth dreams symbolize a new attitude and a fresh start, as well as giving birth to a new idea or goal.
The boy in the dream might represent feelings you may have for a boy in the waking world.
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This question might not make alot of sense but im gonna try
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How do u escape from reality? Like literally. How do you go knto your own world. Like you know some people read a book and get so caught up in it that they like in that world in a way? I know this doesnt sound right but yards (link)
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Some people escape from reality by doing things that harm themselves, such as alcohol and drugs. I do not recommend this.
If you pick the right book, you can escape from reality that way. Or you can find a television show that interests you (although reading is better for the mind).
Think about what kinds of genres you like. Are you more interested in romance, science fiction, fantasy, or mysteries? Do you like stories with lots of humor or lots of tension and suspense? There are several different genres you can choose from. Look around to find one that you like the most.
There are many people in the world who don't like to read. But that's only because they haven't found a book or genre that interests them.
One other thing I suggest is meditation. But meditation is not an escape from reality -- instead, it's an escape into yourself. If you do it right, you will really enjoy it.
This is one thing I do all the time: writing stories. You can create characters and stories that never existed before, or you can write stories based on your life. I'm only thirteen, but I have written two novels. They are both romance stories that are based on my experiences at summer camp.
Whenever I work on a story, I go into the world that the characters are in. It's my way of escaping from reality, and it's actually very fun once you get into it. You feel what the characters are feeling and go through the experiences they go through. When you write a story, you can create a whole different world if you want to.
But if writing really doesn't interest you, there are other things you can do to escape from reality. Find an activity that you truly enjoy -- preferably a low-energy activity -- and you will get lost in it if you really like it.
Sometimes it's nice to be able to escape from reality after a long day. Finding something relaxing to do is helpful. Listen to some calming music, light some scented candles, and curl up on the couch with a good book. Or if you're like me, get your computer and start typing up a romance novel.
I hope I was able to help. It's easy to escape from reality if you find something that works for you.
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a guy in my class has a huge crush on me and he has told me that, i don't want to be mean but i also don't want to go out with him! help!! (link)
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That's one part of being a girl. Guys are going to ask you out, and sometimes you won't like them back and have to say no.
It's good that you do not want to hurt this guy's feelings or be mean. Being generous of his feelings is one of the first steps in turning him down. I'm going to try to help you turn him down without sounding mean -- while still making it clear that you don't like him in that way.
First of all, try to avoid rejecting him in front of everyone. It's a bit cruel.
When you do tell him, it's important to remain calm and polite. Calmly explain how you feel. Say something like, "I'm flattered that you like me, because you are a nice guy. I just don't like you in that way, though, but I hope we can still be friends."
Watch his reaction.
- If he mentions wanting to still be friends or seems okay with your decision, say you're glad you can still be friends.
- If he begs you to go out with him, be a little more firm.
- If he looks like he's about to cry, tell him you're sorry and say you'll still be there for him as a friend. Then leave for class because he might think you really do like him if you stay.
One last thing . . . if he bullies you or becomes violent, tell an adult.
Remember, you should give this guy some respect, but you don't need to give him a yes.
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Have any ideas for how to stop biting your nails??? I've tried soooooooooooo hard, but I just can't stop! (link)
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Stopping a bad habit is never easy, but it's possible. There are several different ways to stop biting your nails, and I will tell you a few different methods.
1. Put band-aids over your nails, and put on fresh ones every few days. After a few weeks, take them off and notice how much better your nails look. Put some back on if you start biting your nails again.
2. I see that the previous advisers suggested that you use nail polish because the taste will discourage you from biting your nails. There is also a solution called a nibble inhibitor. It has a bad-tasting chemical in it that will make you not want to bite your nails. You can apply it to your nails several times a day and have some with you at all times.
3. It's good to keep your nails covered. You can do this by wearing nail polish, fake nails, or gloves.
4. Pick one nail that you will promise yourself not to bite. After a few days, pick another and then another. The ones you promise yourself not to bite will look better and be a motivation.
5. Find some things you can do instead of nail biting. For example, you can do a hobby such as knitting, crocheting, decorating your nails, or doing clay. You can find another habit that takes the place of biting your nails, such as drumming your fingers or even just putting your hands in your pocket.
I hope I was able to help! I know it seems hard, but remember that probably everyone will have some sort of bad habit in their lifetime. But you can stop. Someday, you'll see that the effort is worth it, because your nails will look so much better after you have stopped biting them.
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I just started cutting myself... I wanna stop but nothing helps me feel better. what should I do? (link)
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Hi! I recently stopped cutting myself. It is very hard to stop, and I think it would help if you talked to a therapist. You might have to look around to find one that is right for you.
I'm going to give you a few tips on things you can do instead. You said nothing helps you feel better though, but I'll do my best to help you find an alternative that will work.
First of all, you should try to figure out what situations make you want to cut. Then find something to do instead of following that urge. Here's something else to think about: do you cut to release anger, to express intense emotions, to calm down, or because you feel numb? Knowing this will help you find the right alternatives.
Here are a few things you can do instead of cutting. Some may work and some may not.
- Take a shower -- you can make it super cold or super hot, or just keep it at an average temperature if you just want it to be relaxing.
- Go running. Exercise is a great stress reliever, and the pain in your legs can distract you from the urge to cut.
- Try meditation, breathing exercises, or relaxing yoga poses. It helps calm you down and relieve stress.
- Write in a journal or write poetry to express how you feel, if you're someone who is creative or enjoys writing.
- Call a friend. They can make you feel better or help you get your mind off of things by talking about something completely different.
- Do a hobby or another activity that is enjoyable and will help distract you. Try a puzzle that will challenge you and distract you from the pain you feel.
- Snap a rubber band on your wrist. The pain gives a sense of relief, and it leaves marks that look like scars, but they go away overnight.
- Drip some dark red paint on your wrist -- this helps if the sight of blood is important to you.
- Write out your anger on a piece of paper and rip it up.
- Holding an ice cube or rubbing it on your skin is helpful. You can dye it red if that helps.
- Try the butterfly project. Draw a butterfly on the place where you want to cut. Name it after someone you love, and let it fade naturally. If you cut before the butterfly fades away, it dies. But if you don't, you set it free.
I hope some of these helped you. Remember, you can be creative and come up with other ones.
Do your friends and family members know about this? Find someone you can trust -- whether it's a family member or school counselor or somebody -- and tell them that you self-harm. It takes courage to do this, but you will be able to. I've done it before -- it was hard, but I was relieved when I told someone I trusted. You can always talk to that person when you want to cut, and they can help you avoid self-harming.
Remember, even though it might seem hard to stop now, it is possible. Self-injury isn't an uncommon thing -- several people do it or have done it. But they have gotten through it and found a way to stop, and so can you. I believe in you.
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im on my period and i dont know how to put a tampon in and im reallyt scared!... can you help me??
p.s. does that mean i lose my virginity??
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First of all, we need to go over a few things.
- Can tampons cause you to lose your virginity? No. You lose your virginity when you have intercourse, not when you use a tampon. So don't worry about that, it's fine.
- Can tampons get lost in your body? Nope.
- Can you go to the bathroom with a tampon in? Yes, of course.
- Do you need to be a certain age to be able to use tampons? Nope! Use them when you feel ready.
Now I will give you a few tips on how to insert a tampon.
- Buy tampons with a plastic, rounded applicator. Choose a lighter absorbency because it will make it easier to put in.
- After washing your hands, which is very important, find a comfortable position. There should be directions in the box of tampons that will help you hold the tampon and insert it correctly.
- Find your vaginal opening, aim the applicator toward your back, and push it up a few inches until your fingers touch your flesh. Then carefully push on the end of the applicator to insert the tampon.
- If this hurts a little bit, you can change your angle. When you have inserted the tampon, you shouldn't feel it. If you do feel it, it might not be far in enough, or it might be crooked. You can push it in farther or try again later.
I hope this helped you! Remember, using a tampon can take practice. Keep trying, and you will be able to do it well soon.
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How do i know what type of guy is right for me i havent found mr right and im halfway through high school and had 1 true boyfriend the other 2 were not real just a scam to make people think that i had a boyfriend (link)
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It can be hard to find the perfect guy. Don't expect to be able to find him just yet -- so much can change between your high school years and your twenties. Right now, focus on meeting new guys. You can experiment and see what type of guy is right for you.
Try talking to the guys more often and being friendly with them. This will obviously increase your chances of getting a boyfriend. Not only will you and the guys get to know each other better, but you will also be able to make good first impressions on them.
But before you begin your search for the right guy, you should also be confident, and be happy with yourself. If you accept yourself, guys will probably accept you, too. And if you want to be ready to find the right guy, be happy when you are alone. You should be happy on your own while still being ready for a relationship. These are ideal for making good first impressions.
Think about some of the things you look for in a guy.
- Are you looking for someone who has a sense of humor and is fun to be with?
- Are you looking for someone who has a lot in common with you, such as similar interests and goals for the future?
- Do you want someone who is thoughtful and is understanding of your emotions?
- Do you want someone who will be loyal to you and accepting of who you are?
- Do you want someone who will hang out with you as often as possible, or do you want someone who will still give you time to hang out with your own friends?
But when you're experimenting with dating different guys, don't limit yourself to a certain type of person -- you might notice qualities about people that you never knew you liked. And remember that no guy is truly perfect -- if you expect perfection, you'll only find that you are disappointed.
A guy asked me out once when I was in seventh grade. I will admit that he wasn't the cutest or smartest guy on the planet, but I thought he was very nice and decided to try it. And after dating him for a little bit, I realized that he was actually one of the sweetest people ever. He cared about me a lot and showed me how much he appreciated me. That made me realize what I like the most in a person: I want someone who cares about me and truly appreciates me for who I am.
You clearly shouldn't date people you don't like just to get experience, but be open-minded. Date a variety of people and see whom you like.
Most importantly, remember to be yourself. If a guy won't like you for who you really are, he's not worth your time.
Good luck finding the right guy! Someday, you will meet someone whom you really like, and they will like you back. You just need to look around, and you will find the right guy eventually.
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I Recently Started Dating My First Boyfriend, And I'm Sure Eventually We'll Kiss... Anyways, I Haven't Kissed A Boy - Ever - And I Don't Want To Do It "Wrong"...
He's Already Had His First Kiss And I Don't Want To Tell Him I Never Kissed Anyone Just Because It's Kind Of Embarassing And He Thinks I've Already Kissed A Guy. I Don't Really Know How To Kiss. People Say "Your Body Will Know What To Do", But How Will It If I've Never Done It? I Don't Want To Be "Unexperienced" And Stuff :/
Sorry For The Weird Question. (link)
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Hi! I recently started dating someone too, and I feel the same way. And don't worry, it's not a weird question.
First things first: don't kiss unless you feel ready. It's good to start out with just hugging and holding hands. You can also try breaking the kiss barrier by giving him a quick kiss on the cheek sometimes.
Wait for the right time. You don't really want to have your first kiss at a random moment after class -- wait for a romantic moment when you two are alone together.
When you feel ready to kiss, and when the time feels right, there are some signs you can give to show that you feel ready. Lean in a little bit and make eye contact. Get caught looking at his lips. Give him a romantic compliment, and try saying it in a soft voice. You can also put an arm around him if you want to or do other things to hint your intentions.
You two will most likely find yourselves leaning in toward each other. When this happens, just close your eyes and go for it. Keep your lips parted slightly -- but only a teeny bit. Also keep your lips soft and avoid letting your lips smack.
Keep the kisses gentle and soft at first. And do something with your hands. Maybe you could place them lightly on his shoulders or something similar. After you kiss, you can just remain silent and hug him.
I hope I was able to help! And remember that kissing isn't as complicated as it might seem. Everything will turn out fine, I promise. Just relax and enjoy the kiss when the time is right for it.
Good luck!
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hi i like a girl i'm in 8th grade people say this girl likes me but she says she likes me as a friend but occasionally i hear her say that i'm cute i just don't know what to do (link)
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Does she know that you like her? I'm going to write my answer assuming that she doesn't.
It can sometimes be hard to tell if a girl likes you. If this girl says she likes you as a friend but also says you're cute, she might like you but not want to admit it.
Try chatting with her sometime and get to know her a little better. When you are talking with her, here are a few things to look for:
- If she likes you, she might stare at you a lot but not be able to make eye contact.
- She might talk softer than normal, play with her hair, and adjust her clothes.
- She might laugh at a joke you make, even if it's a stupid joke.
- She may also smile immediately when you start the conversation.
- If she's interested in you, her pupils might dilate, and she may blush.
- Compliments are another hint that she likes you. You mentioned that she has said you are cute, which is a good sign that she's interested.
Try smiling at her. If she smiles back softly, she may like you. But if she frowns and looks away, or if she gives a polite or forced smile, she might not be interested.
If she asks for help on a task that seems easy, that's another sign that she's interested. Also look for personality changes when she's around you.
If she shows some of these signs, she's probably interested. You could pull her aside and be honest about how you feel. Most of the time, only good will come out of being honest with her -- and I think it will for you because you obviously want to know if she likes you back. She will either admit that she likes you, and then you guys could be together. And if she honestly doesn't, you will be able to stop thinking about her so much.
Good luck! I hope I was able to help.
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Im 15 Female, my mom constantly yells at me takes her anger out on me by saying mean and hateful things I don't have a dad my older sister moved out and my brother is moving in with his dad in 3 weeks I feel like I have no reason to live I'm homeschooled and have no friends I feel ugly every body picks on me because I don't have straight teeth my mom doesn't have money for braces I'm sick of everything and everyone (link)
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First of all, you do have a reason to live. I know everything seems hard right now, but it can get better if you get help. Don't focus on the bad things in life -- try focusing on something better. Find something that you enjoy doing, like a hobby or activity.
You mentioned that you are home schooled and don't have friends. I am also home schooled because the regular type of school doesn't work for me. You could start a blog, or like I mentioned before, start doing an activity that you enjoy.
I don't see why other people need to pick on you. It's honestly stupid, and they shouldn't be doing it. I can tell that you are much better than the people who pick on you because you are more mature than them, and you do not stoop to their level.
I'm happy to be your friend. If you're feeling sad or just need someone to talk to, you can send me a text. Here is my number: 760-805-6077
Because your mom is frequently yelling at you and saying hateful things, you are being emotionally abused. This is never okay.
The fact that you have been hurt so much that you feel like you have no reason to live means something. I think you should find a counselor or someone else who knows how to help people in this kind of situation. Calling the police is another option.
Your life is worth a lot more than you might think. I promise that this won't last forever, and things can get better for you.
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So I've never had a boyfriend before because I was too scared to be heartbroken and stuff. Well my crush asked me out and I don't want to say no, but I don't want to say yes... Of course I want to go out with him and everything, but I've never kissed before and I've never dated :/ ... Any advice? Answers ASAP are appreciated. (link)
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Hi! I haven't had much dating experience either. Recently, a girl asked me out, and I was a little nervous. But it is actually very fun to go out with someone whom you like.
I, too, was worried about being heartbroken when my girlfriend and I first started dating. I was worried that she would get tired of being with me and then break up. But just relax, and focus on having fun rather than the possibility of being heartbroken -- it will make the relationship much more enjoyable.
There are so many fun things you can do when you are dating someone -- whether it's going to a cafe together, going together for the next school dance, or simply hanging out with each other at school. Even sitting together and talking can be fun. You can find out more about what things you have in common.
And you said you've never kissed before. Don't worry about that yet. When you both feel comfortable with the idea, and the time feels right for it, then you can do it.
I think you should go for it. Being in relationships with people is a part of life, and dating someone for the first time can be very enjoyable and exciting. You might feel nervous about it now, but you could end up having fun and really enjoying it.
Good luck!
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i want to suicide plz help me (link)
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I am going to try to help you -- but I will try to help you find a way to keep going rather than try to end your life.
When you think about it, you do not really want to die. You just want the pain to end. I went through a suicidal phase before, but people helped me find a way to be happier. So trust me, I know how awful it feels. But this won't last forever. You can get help and start to enjoy life.
I agree with the person who mentioned that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. What problems are you going through? Are they awful and permanent enough that there isn't anything else you can do? Find someone who will help you find other solutions.
It might seem like there are so many reasons to commit suicide. But think about the reasons for you to live. What have you been wanting to do before you die? What will you miss? And whom will your decision affect? There are people out there who love you and don't want you to kill yourself. They want you to find a way to live and be happy.
Focus on the good things in life and the reasons for you to live. Find a hobby or activity that you are interested in, and find people whom you enjoy being with.
One thing you can do is confide in someone close to you. They can assist you in finding a counselor or hospital.
Your life doesn't have to end yet. Stay strong and get help, and you will find a way to get through this. It won't last forever.
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My dad us to say this when he was aggravated;
"I SWANEE"! What does this refer too? (link)
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This is another way of saying, "I swear" and it's often used when someone is shocked. This is not used very often anymore.
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I'm a 14 year old guy and i really think that i'm gay i really am attracted to guys have been for awhile i'm not really attracted to girls i haven't told anyone yet i'm nervous to tell anyone there's nothing wrong with being gay is there? (link)
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First of all, there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being gay. I'm bisexual, and there's nothing wrong with that, either. You know, it doesn't matter too much whether someone is gay, straight, or bisexual -- we're all people, and we're unique in our own ways.
It often takes courage to come out of the closet at first. But if you want to, go ahead. There will be people who will accept you for who you are, and if someone doesn't like you because of your sexuality, they aren't worth your time.
Before coming out to other people, consider your friends, family, and other people who are close to you. Do any of them show homophobic feelings? If someone close to you opposes homosexuality, it's best not to tell them -- at least not for now.
Choose the first person you tell wisely. If you know anyone who is supportive of the LGBT community, you can tell them. But if you don't know anyone like that, it's best to find a kind, tolerant person who is close to you. Or you can tell a school counselor who will most likely know how to help.
When you feel ready to tell someone for the first time, you can tell them that you have something important to share with them. Tell them that you have realized you are different from others, and then proceed to tell them that you are gay. But this isn't the only way to tell someone -- you can also slip it casually into a conversation.
You can slip it casually by dropping hints. If someone makes a comment about the looks of a member of the opposite sex, say something like: "I didn't really notice them. But I think the guy we saw earlier was attractive."
Whether you have a serious face-to-face conversation or say it casually, it's important to come right out with the statement calmly rather than dodging the subject. Don't give the impression that you're ashamed -- show people that you are confident in who you are (even if you aren't really that confident).
After initially telling someone, and when you are more confident, you can tell other people. It tends to be easier after telling the first few people -- I know that from experience.
When I first came out as bisexual, I got several different reactions. Some people didn't believe me and said I was too boy-crazy to be bisexual. And there were others who didn't know the meaning of the word bisexual, and they assumed I was lesbian. But there were others who realized the amount of courage it took for me to come out, and they respected me for it.
I'm glad I came out. I would rather be myself instead of hide who I really am. I think you will also be happy after you tell people.
I hope I was able to help! If you need advice on anything else -- for example, if anyone mistreats you because you are gay -- feel free to ask me another question. You can also talk to other LGBT people online and ask them for more advice.
Good luck!
~Athena
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How to commit suicide the fastest, and the least painful way. (link)
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I'm so sorry you have to go through this right now -- it's the worst, isn't it? I went through a suicidal phase before. But things changed and got better for me, and I think things will get better for you, too.
You can get over feeling suicidal and start to enjoy life, just like I did. But you need to get help.
Here are a few things to think about:
Do you really want to kill yourself? Most likely, you just want the pain to go away. That's one of the reasons why you want a painless way to die -- you've already had enough pain.
What problems are you facing, and are there any solutions other than killing yourself? Are your problems so permanent and awful that there is nothing else that can be done to alleviate them? Talk to someone about your situation, and they will help you find other solutions.
Think about the reasons why you should live. What things have you been wanting to do before you die? And whom will your decision affect? There are people out there who love you and don't want you to kill yourself. Remember that I love you just because you are going through what I have gone through before, and you deserve to be loved.
I can see that some people have suggested that you get help from a counselor or a hospital. I hope you take their advice and do this.
Instead of focusing on the pain you are feeling, focus on the good things. Get help and advice from someone who will make things better for you, and find a club or activity that you enjoy.
Your life doesn't have to end yet. Someday, you will find a way to be happier, and you will look back on this and be glad that you got help and didn't make the wrong choice. Remember, you are not alone. Many others people have felt suicidal before, but they stayed strong and found a way to live.
You're a special person, and your life is worth a lot more than you think. You can have a beautiful life. No matter what problems you have, there is always a way to keep going.
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