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Unwanted attention
a guy in my class has a huge crush on me and he has told me that, i don't want to be mean but i also don't want to go out with him! help!!
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You can be nice while rejecting someone. It will hurt them no matter what but there are ways to let someone down easy.
So be sure to tell him the truth. Don't lead him on or anything. You don't owe him an explanation or anything, just tell him you don't see him like that.
If he ends up asking you again, be firm and clear.
Also, make sure no one is around when you reject him. You don't want to make a big scene or embarrass him. If he asks you out in person, ask to talk to him privately.
Don't be cold, act nice and friendly.
Don't tell him you want to be friends if you truly don't want to be friends with him.
Don't be overly friendly. Like don't keep talking to him afterwards.
Don't tell him through a note or text or something. It's better not to hide behind those.
Just be honest, straightforward and nice.
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That's one part of being a girl. Guys are going to ask you out, and sometimes you won't like them back and have to say no.
It's good that you do not want to hurt this guy's feelings or be mean. Being generous of his feelings is one of the first steps in turning him down. I'm going to try to help you turn him down without sounding mean -- while still making it clear that you don't like him in that way.
First of all, try to avoid rejecting him in front of everyone. It's a bit cruel.
When you do tell him, it's important to remain calm and polite. Calmly explain how you feel. Say something like, "I'm flattered that you like me, because you are a nice guy. I just don't like you in that way, though, but I hope we can still be friends."
Watch his reaction.
- If he mentions wanting to still be friends or seems okay with your decision, say you're glad you can still be friends.
- If he begs you to go out with him, be a little more firm.
- If he looks like he's about to cry, tell him you're sorry and say you'll still be there for him as a friend. Then leave for class because he might think you really do like him if you stay.
One last thing . . . if he bullies you or becomes violent, tell an adult.
Remember, you should give this guy some respect, but you don't need to give him a yes.
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