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My boyfriend is moving and I don't want to lose him!
So my boyfriend told me hes moving like in a couple months to a other town ... i really like him !! i dont want to lose him .... i really dont ... i would want some ideas that can help me so he can stay ... i think he can am not sure.. but any ideas ..?
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There is nothing you can do to 'make him stay'. You have to realize that he has his own life separate from yours. He can do whatever he wants to do with his life and you don't really have a say in any of it, unless you're legally married lol. So realize that you can't do anything about it.
Now you have to realize that things will be different. It wont' be the same as it was before. So prepare yourself for a change.
I'm not saying it isn't possible.. It's just going to be different and you have to either accept that and adjust.. or move on with YOUR life.
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First of all, if he moved, you wouldn't be losing him. You would just have a long distance relationship. I'm in a long distance relationship with someone, and I'm just as happy as I would be in a relationship where the two of us could see each other every day.
I don't know how you would be able to make him stay. So I will give you some tips on what to do if he does move.
Remember, it isn't like he's going to dump you or anything! You can still have a relationship, even if you're in different towns. Also, it would still be possible for you to visit him, and you can stay in contact. I think it will be best to contact him at least once a day. This doesn't have to mean phone calls that last an hour or more -- it just means checking in with him daily. Any contact, even if it's short, is much better than none.
Although you might not be able to change the fact that he's moving, what you can change is how you look at the situation. Instead of thinking of the fact that he's moving as a loss, think of it as an adventure. You can take trips to see each other, and the times you spend together in the future will be even more special now.
This is a quote I like that my significant other shared with me: "Distance between two hearts is not an obstacle; rather a beautiful reminder of just how strong true love can be. . . ."
Long distance relationships can sometimes even bring people closer together. You'll rely more on conversation and really listen to everything that's going on his life. Speaking of conversation, living in different places will give you more interesting things to talk about. But you don't always have to talk about exciting things -- simply talking about your day is fine.
One benefit of long distance relationships is personal space and independence. Sometimes, it can really be nice to just be alone. The distance might sometimes feel like a burden, but you can also enjoy it. Long distance relationships can be a reminder that you can still have fun without him beside you.
You guys can have fun together in many ways -- and you can try things that you never thought of trying before. Don't let the fact that you won't be physically with him stop you from enjoying your relationship. There are some websites online that have suggestions for things to do in a long distance relationship, and there is one website that I go on often to find things to do with my significant other.
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Before he moves, you two can give each other a present so you can remember one another -- something to hold on to when you miss each other. After he moves, you can send each other presents often as well. Random presents can show him that you're always thinking about him and that he's very important to you.
I hope I was able to help! Remember, even though you won't be physically next to one another, you'll still be together. And he'll still be in your heart.
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This is hard to answer because we don't know any of the details. We don't know how old you guys are, we don't know why he's moving, we don't know anything about the situation.
So if you guys are young, like still living with your parents, then I don't think there is anything you can do. I mean it's not his decision to stay, it's his parents. You can talk to them and see why they're moving though.
If you guys are older, not living with your parents and he's moving on his own choice. Then talk to him about. Express your concerns and see how often you guys will see each other, ect.
Moving might be the best thing and you can't really stop it if he's younger. But make sure you enjoy the time you have.
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