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what do i say or do?
There's this guy I like but ive never gone up to him or said anything to him. What do I do?
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Start with making yourself feel good about yourself. Like wearing clothes that look and feel good on you. Don't do anything too short, too low, or too tight.
If you wear make up, keep it light.
That's just your appearance. It's just always good to make sure you feel good about yourself and not overdoing anything.
So start slow. Smile at him when you see him. Then start saying hi. Then start talking to him and then you'll eventually be friends.
At that point you'll know him a little better and you'll know for sure if you actually want to date him or not.
Then you go on from there and see if he likes you. It's all good if he doesn't. You just have to move on and you gain a friend out of it.
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THats good advice you've been given. Eventually as guys grow up past the initial hormone stage where anyone female is interesting, they begin to develope their own taste in what they are visually attracted to in a girl. So you can be the prettiest girl, meaning looking like a fashion model and yet he goes for the plain Jane type with hardly any chest at all. So just in case he doesn't show any interest in return, I don't want you to think there's something wrong with you or cus you're to shy and quiet. You will be perfect for the right guy. It's easy to be attracted to someone. The person we are attracted to is sometimes perfect for us, sometimes not. SOmetimes they are interested in us and will respond, sometimes not. But....you will never know unless you try to start conversation.
When two people are interested and attracted, theres something called romantic body language that is a pretty good clue that someone is interested. A person who has interest in you for example will find excuses to be near you, come into close proximity, like an arms length away. That is too close for people if they dont like the person who just approached them and they will take a step backwards to create more distance between them and the other person. The thing is, they don't know they're doing it. Its a subconscious reaction of our bodies. Another is that we tend to lean toward the person while in conversation, it means they are comfortable with and feel a friendship connection. Haven't you done the same with girlfriends? It verifies a friendship is there. It isn't a sexual thing, just indicates being comfortable enough together and discovering common interest in same topics or hobbies, subjects. Thats a good place to start with a guy. If either of you catch yourself imitating each others movements, thats another thing we do when we really like the other person.
So approach him on several occasions and talk a bit and see what his reactions are.
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Because you haven't gone up to him or said anything to him, I'm assuming that you are somewhat shy. Being shy isn't a bad thing, but it helps to have a little more confidence. Guys are typically more attracted to confident, interesting girls. Be happy with who you are. Find a quality about yourself that you like and let it shine through.
This guy's immediate impression of you is going to be based on how you look, so looking your best is also going to be somewhat helpful. Find something about yourself that you think is pretty -- for example, you might like your hair or your eyes. Try emphasizing the features that you like about yourself. When you do makeup, try to keep it natural -- you don't want people to think that you've spent hours on your makeup just to impress someone.
Walking up to this guy and starting a conversation might seem awkward, so start out by simply waving to him when you walk past him and smiling. You can also say hi if you feel comfortable doing it.
When you feel brave enough, try complimenting him. For example, you could compliment him on a presentation he did for class or how well he did in a soccer game. Try having something cool to talk about to show him that you're an interesting person. You can also ask him questions to get to know him better. But whatever you do, be yourself. Don't put on an act just to impress him.
I also recommend letting a trusted friend know about this. They can help make things less awkward.
Basically, I think you should be friendly with this guy, try talking to him, and be yourself. Hope this helps!
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