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Gay
I'm a 14 year old guy and i really think that i'm gay i really am attracted to guys have been for awhile i'm not really attracted to girls i haven't told anyone yet i'm nervous to tell anyone there's nothing wrong with being gay is there?
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First of all, there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being gay. I'm bisexual, and there's nothing wrong with that, either. You know, it doesn't matter too much whether someone is gay, straight, or bisexual -- we're all people, and we're unique in our own ways.
It often takes courage to come out of the closet at first. But if you want to, go ahead. There will be people who will accept you for who you are, and if someone doesn't like you because of your sexuality, they aren't worth your time.
Before coming out to other people, consider your friends, family, and other people who are close to you. Do any of them show homophobic feelings? If someone close to you opposes homosexuality, it's best not to tell them -- at least not for now.
Choose the first person you tell wisely. If you know anyone who is supportive of the LGBT community, you can tell them. But if you don't know anyone like that, it's best to find a kind, tolerant person who is close to you. Or you can tell a school counselor who will most likely know how to help.
When you feel ready to tell someone for the first time, you can tell them that you have something important to share with them. Tell them that you have realized you are different from others, and then proceed to tell them that you are gay. But this isn't the only way to tell someone -- you can also slip it casually into a conversation.
You can slip it casually by dropping hints. If someone makes a comment about the looks of a member of the opposite sex, say something like: "I didn't really notice them. But I think the guy we saw earlier was attractive."
Whether you have a serious face-to-face conversation or say it casually, it's important to come right out with the statement calmly rather than dodging the subject. Don't give the impression that you're ashamed -- show people that you are confident in who you are (even if you aren't really that confident).
After initially telling someone, and when you are more confident, you can tell other people. It tends to be easier after telling the first few people -- I know that from experience.
When I first came out as bisexual, I got several different reactions. Some people didn't believe me and said I was too boy-crazy to be bisexual. And there were others who didn't know the meaning of the word bisexual, and they assumed I was lesbian. But there were others who realized the amount of courage it took for me to come out, and they respected me for it.
I'm glad I came out. I would rather be myself instead of hide who I really am. I think you will also be happy after you tell people.
I hope I was able to help! If you need advice on anything else -- for example, if anyone mistreats you because you are gay -- feel free to ask me another question. You can also talk to other LGBT people online and ask them for more advice.
Good luck!
~Athena
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