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How do i know what type of guy is right for me i havent found mr right and im halfway through high school and had 1 true boyfriend the other 2 were not real just a scam to make people think that i had a boyfriend
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You probably won't find Mr. Right in high school. Most high school relationships don't last. There is that rare occasion that they do, but the majority don't.
High school isn't for looking for the right guy. Mostly because by the time you get out of high school, you and the guys will change. You'll date a guy who you think it great but he's probably going to be different by the time you graduate or a couple years after. Same with you.
So you should just be looking for what you like in a guy. It doesn't matter how many boyfriends you had. You just need to enjoy your high school experience and date guys who you might actually be interested in and notice what you like and don't like in them.
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It can be hard to find the perfect guy. Don't expect to be able to find him just yet -- so much can change between your high school years and your twenties. Right now, focus on meeting new guys. You can experiment and see what type of guy is right for you.
Try talking to the guys more often and being friendly with them. This will obviously increase your chances of getting a boyfriend. Not only will you and the guys get to know each other better, but you will also be able to make good first impressions on them.
But before you begin your search for the right guy, you should also be confident, and be happy with yourself. If you accept yourself, guys will probably accept you, too. And if you want to be ready to find the right guy, be happy when you are alone. You should be happy on your own while still being ready for a relationship. These are ideal for making good first impressions.
Think about some of the things you look for in a guy.
- Are you looking for someone who has a sense of humor and is fun to be with?
- Are you looking for someone who has a lot in common with you, such as similar interests and goals for the future?
- Do you want someone who is thoughtful and is understanding of your emotions?
- Do you want someone who will be loyal to you and accepting of who you are?
- Do you want someone who will hang out with you as often as possible, or do you want someone who will still give you time to hang out with your own friends?
But when you're experimenting with dating different guys, don't limit yourself to a certain type of person -- you might notice qualities about people that you never knew you liked. And remember that no guy is truly perfect -- if you expect perfection, you'll only find that you are disappointed.
A guy asked me out once when I was in seventh grade. I will admit that he wasn't the cutest or smartest guy on the planet, but I thought he was very nice and decided to try it. And after dating him for a little bit, I realized that he was actually one of the sweetest people ever. He cared about me a lot and showed me how much he appreciated me. That made me realize what I like the most in a person: I want someone who cares about me and truly appreciates me for who I am.
You clearly shouldn't date people you don't like just to get experience, but be open-minded. Date a variety of people and see whom you like.
Most importantly, remember to be yourself. If a guy won't like you for who you really are, he's not worth your time.
Good luck finding the right guy! Someday, you will meet someone whom you really like, and they will like you back. You just need to look around, and you will find the right guy eventually.
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Time for a little grandfatherly advice. since I am of that age I will try to impart some.
Rarely is high school the place you are going to find "Mr. Right" or your life partner. High school is a time to have fun to grow and mature and to learn. Not just to learn what is taught but to learn about yourself. A person can have many loves while in high school. In college you probably will have fewer loves and may even find "Mr. Right." For college is the place were you will mature and learn more about yourself and how to be on your own. How to trust your instincts and to be selective.
Today young people have a tendency to want to grow up to fast to do things before they are truly ready or mature enough to do them. I believe this why the divorce rate is the highest it has ever been.
Right now you need to concentrate on what you want in a life partner. Right now most of what you and other look at is the wrapping on the box, the good looks and sex appeal.
What you need to know is that good looks, sex and sex appeal will only go so far in life. One day you wake up and actually have to talk to one another and find out you have nothing in common. The sex was great but even that has worn off now.
Have you ever looked at a couple and ever wondered how those two ever got together. They got together because they were mature enough to look beyond the wrapping at the person underneath the skin. So what if the guy is not Captain of the football team. If the two of you can talk into all hours of the night without you have to fend him off of you. He is probably a far better candidate for Mr. Right than the Captain of the football team is.
In short what I'm trying to say is when looking for Mr. Right you need to use more than one sense. You need to use you mind, your heart and your eyes.
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