I finally updated my picture, I thought it was time for an update on it so I picked my favorite picture. After all, my previous picture was almost 2 and a half years old!
My name is Ryan. And I will answer most everything you want to ask to the best of my God given ability.But I will not sugar coat any answer and I will give MY advice. I don't care about my ratings, so don't think giving me a 1 for an answer you don't want to hear will scare me. And if you already know what you should do about a sitaution, don't come to us here at advicenators asking for a second opinion. And here below is a list of questions you should NOT ask on advicenators. Granted some of them may vary and be acceptable, but overall don't ask the below questions on Advicenators.
**Don't ask questions like "OMG i heard this song on the radio with "insert pointless pop lyrics here" and i wanna know what it is so what is it! Thanks!! I rate 5sssss! hearts". This question can be simply googled with the lyrics, or you need only ask a friend
**Don't ask "ok so there is the hott guy/gal in my class and he/she like got me a *insert gift or simple trinket here* do you think he/she likes me?" This is the most common question here on this website sadly. Unless it is vitally important and actually pertains to a feeling of true feelings, don't ask it. This is most asked by teens. And what teens need to learn is "love" is not thinking a guy/girl is sweet and hott and nice. I know love, and it is so far from all those things. Remember Cicero when he said "Out of all the emotions, love is the most violent. Love is madness."
**"Ok so me and my boyfriend had sex last night and we like used no protection omg he came in me do you think i am pregnant?" Ugh. Stupid teens and their hormones. IF YOU HAVE SEX YOU ALWAYS RUN THE RISK OF PREGNANCY, UNLESS YOUR STERILE. And if you don't know anything about sex, you shouldn't be doing it. Even if you "love" your partner, half the time this is a disallusion and you will end up hurt. Sex is for marriage.
**Or asking what's "in" for fashion, or what they should wear out tonight. Or what is "cute" and what looks good. Pick and choose for yourself what you like, think for yourself instead of trying to let other people do it for you. Stand up and be yourself.
These are the most common questions I have seen on Advicenators. Now there are a few questions that are very good questions and deserve the 3 rating and the best answer possible. But they are usually blocked out with the kinds of questions listed above. If you want to ask something, check the following off that I am listing.
1.Does the question pertain to anything important or trivial?
2.Is proper grammar used?
3.Is the question long and in one paragraph?
4.Is it a question that you yourself can answer?
5.Is there enough detail?
Following those 5 guidelines, you can write a good 3 point answer. That about wraps it up.
I spend alot of time online and here on advicenators, so if you ever need anything then just send something in my inbox or IM me. I'm not opposed to helping people at all, in fact I love doing it. I just want some people to wake up from asking a stupid question.
Thank you all for your time.
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my boyfriend wears too much cologne but i don't know how to tell him! i do NOT want to come straight out and tell him "you wear too much" he just needs to know somehow. how can i let him know that? (link)
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Just tell him.
Being subtle will only leave him confused and wondering why you're acting the way you are.
-Ryan
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14/F
Okay, I like this guy. A lot. In fact, I think I'm in love with him. We talk and stuff, and he's really sweet, but he's still in that 6th grade-boyish phase. The one where he only hangs out with guys, has never had a girlfriend, doesn't hug girls, doesn't hang out with them on weekends, and the word "girlfriend" never crosses his mind. He's really goofy, not at all attractive, and gets in trouble a lot for being a smart ass in school, but I love him. I'm gonna hang out with him soon with some of my other friends, but I just don't know how to get him to like me. I'd be way more confident if he's had a previous girlfriend, or has hung out with girls before, or another girl was attracted to him, but technically, I'm the first official one, so it's going to be more difficult than it seems. I know he's in percussion, and he's a great singer, (but doesn't persue singing), and I sing too...but still, I'm not sure how I'm going to do this. For once, I'm at a brick wall and don't know how to climb over it. Help would be greatly appriciated. (link)
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Sure thing, here's your help.
From your given words, I have determined you simply have nothing more than a like for him and not love, despite what you think. Love is such a deep and primal emotion that to "think" you're in love usually means you're not.
My next point, boys that age won't get over that "6th grade-boyish phase" until they are much older. And at the age they are at they will be extremely stubborn to girls. I've been there in my life and I can testify first hand that if a chick comes up to you liking you, you're not gonna know what to do and you're gonna retreat right back to your buddies (or if you were me, no one because I didn't have any real friends back then).
Therefore, if you really wanna pursue this guy then I would suggest not being overly attached and play more to his friendly side. Of course I would just advise againts it entirely because all it really is is a backlash of puberty and honestly kids around 13 and 14 are so fickle with their emotions it isn't worth bothering with.
There you be and I hope you were helped by my words.
-Ryan
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i can't do this anymore.
living and all the crap that goes along with it.
I don't want to live, but I can't bring myself to commit suicide. So i'm stuck in-between life and death. and i hate it. i hate having to be alive. i bet things are so much better when you're dead.
don't ask me what my reasons are, and don't say anything like "oh things will get better" or "don't kill yourself" or anything liek that.
I can't do anything at all.
I can't even get a boyfriend- which is my main reason for wanting to commit suicide. everyone is automatically unattracted to me. I'm not even kidding.
I'm "obese" and i hate it. I can't even help it because I work out every day and I eat the right amount of calories. But i'm still fat and that won't change. it never can. I have a problem.
I'm not a christian- I don't believe in any god and i never will again. i'm not a satanist either. i'm an atheist. (link)
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First off, stop what you're saying and think.
If you say you're atheist, then why are going being so "mistreated" by the world? Because if there is going to be evil and bad like you're expierencing, there has to be good, hence something higher.
I'm not saying that to discourage what you see theologically, I'm saying it to get you out of your pessimistic mindset. I will tell you right off there is always someone worse off than you, not matter how bad you think you're life is.
First off, talk to someone and get everything you want to say out. There is only so much you can say on this website and even on the internet. You need a real live person to talk to. I suggest a counciler or psychiatrist.
Point two, don't come off to anyone with the excuse "I hate my life because I can't get a boyfriend/girlfriend". It's a lame excuse. You want someone to love you and because you "can't" get someone you think you should choose your last result (suicide). I gaurantee you that you can find someone to love you. You have to look and seek them out if they won't come to you.
Thirdly, some people just are going to be large, no matter what they do, it's their body chemistry. Hell, I work out every day, light weights, run miles, eat right, have a job that requires me to move, and I still got a bit of a stomach and am over the weight limit by a margin. It's my body makeup that makes me that way, my whole family has got it.
Lastly and I quote "I bet things are so much better when you're dead". Not really, because according to you there is no God, therefore there is nothing after death, meaning you cease to exist completely. But why would you ever consider killing yourself and damning your own soul to a place where it no longer exists and matters?
You can get help and I highly suggest doing so. There are literally thousands upon thousands of trained professionals willing and able to help you in whatever you need and it doesn't matter what you're problem is, they will help and do so to the best of their abilities.
With that I close my advice. I hope I helped and even though you don't believe in God I still pray to mine that you find peace.
-Ryan
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How do you know if someone is obsessed with someone? what are the signs of pretty much a stalker? (link)
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stalking
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Is there another program I can download that will let me upload my music to my ipod besides itunes? because itunes isn't working for me, and I'd really like to update my ipod tonight. (link)
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You could try to manually upload everything into your iPod via your cable. To do this go to MY COMPUTER and then select the drive the iPod is in and try and load music from there.
I can't verify if it works, but it is worth a shot. You can upload anything to your iPod that way. Basically it's a big data stick.
Hope I helped,
-Ryan
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is it worth going to college if you're not sure what career you wanna pursue? (link)
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Of course.
It's always useful to go to college, even if you don't know what exactly you want to do. Each year there are tons of college underclassmen who change their majors and minors because they, like you, aren't sure what they want to do.
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14/m
Ok, the other day my friend(15/f)told me that she likes me. But she has a boyfried, and she doesn't know what to do...Do you have any ideas on what I should do, 'cause I like her to and I don't want to feel like I'm caught in some sort of love triangle...
But she really likes me and her boyfried and doesn't know what to do...thanks in advance (link)
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Well, if she likes you then why does she why does she stay with her boyfriend? Her hesitance to move on from him suggests that she still has something for him. In his case, it's better for her just to stay with him.
However, you should talk to her about this and find out what is going on. If she doesn't like him anymore than there is no point to stay with him when she likes you and you like her.
Talk to her about it.
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im tired of living in this place called hell, tired of listenin 2 people say ima fail. feeling nothing but depresion getting deeper, walking on a death mountain feel it getting steeper. if they push me 2 the edge then im gon trip, fall over n die but they wont give a shit. all i hear is ppl screaming in my ear, tryna back up but they keep gettin near.
tired of staying up n crying all night, tired of listening 2 these people fight. tired of rushing 2 my room after skool, tired of hearin people call me a fool.
im sick n tired of people sayin this n that, tired of people sayin "i got ya back" tired of people makin promises that they dnt keep, tired of wakin up cryin in my sleep. im tired of yellin 24/7, i need 2 get saved so i can go 2 heaven. people ask me where am i goin? i reply="hell if i dnt change my ways", im bout 2 pack my bags n go my seperate ways. sick of that woman telling me that she loves me when she know she lying,said she hated holli but when she left she started crying. tired of these tricks n crabs jumping around like they somebody, tired of seein these crackheads take ova my sista body. she not answerin her fone now she gon missin,wanted by the po again she shouldve listened. im not worried-i dnt care any more, tired of hittin n screamin now im sore.
cant wait til i leave this place called hell, just waitin til its my turn 2 chill in jail.
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So what advice are you asking for...?
Because all I see is a botched poem.
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My best friend ever is anorexic.. shes 5'3 and has to weigh like 105 noww, she didnt eat for like 3 dayss.. she has absolutely no ass now, and she's had this problem when she was 12, now she is almost 15... I feel as if i tell her parents, she'll get depressed. me and her are going on a cruise for spring break in 25 dayss..i dont want her to get sick, depressed. she is soo skinny. shes always complaining how cold she is, she cant sleep... shes always light headed. my mom knows she iss, butrecently shes been claiming to be eatingg.. but ive been with her and shes been lying to her mom about like eating in school. ive tried talkin to her, and i think that gettin her real help will make things worse. but idk.. she may be depressedd
any advicee? thankss (link)
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Get her help! Jeez 5'3" and 105 pounds? Get her to a doctor and get her back to eating right again. Anorexia is just a mess up for the body that never ends right. Does your friend realize what she is actually doing to herself?
Get her help, get her a doctor, and finally get her senses back. There is no need for her to be doing this to herself, but there is need for you to go to a medical professional, her parents, and yours (even though your mom knows) to get her help, whether she likes it or not.
-Ryan
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today two girls came to me and told me that i ratted them out but i dont even know them or who they were talking about if they tell me agian tomarrow what should i do tell them off or ignore them? plese someone help (link)
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Well if you didn't do anything, don't worry about it. Easy enough, just blow them off and explain to them you don't know what their talking about.
Seriously, don't bother with them if you didn't even do anything to them.
-Ryan
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this girl i realy like ive never raly talked to her before only trough myspace i dont heve her for any classes so i cant realy talked to her then, the only time i see her is after school when sometimes, i talked to one of her freinds who knows i like her shoul i ask her to tell her i like her or what should i do someone please help me (link)
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When a friendship is young, don't kill it with feeling.
Meaning: get to know her first before you even try and make a move on her. It's pointless to let a friendship die young because on person got "feelings" for the other and said so. I'm not saying for you to not tell her, I'm just saying to wait.
Atleast get to be a "good" friend of hers before you bring up anything like that. Right now you're just asking for rejection if you reveal anything now.
-Ryan
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is there a town where the girls are really ugly but the guys are really hott? (link)
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Every town has their lookers and spookers. Some towns more than others but I gaurantee you there is absolutely no town out there with JUST ugly girls and hott guys.
Unless your in the mind of a preppy 15 year old girl, in which all you fantasize about is that town. But then again, that's in the mind of someone and not in the grounds of reality.
-Ryan
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15/dude
i like this girl and it's really easy for me to talk to her face to face, but when it comes to other forms of communication, im a dork beyond belief...
my question is once you have a girl's phone # or SN what are really good tips and topics that i can use?
help is always appreciated! :)
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Be random. Start on one subject and expand to the next, keeping the conversation going with random ideas, thoughts, questions, you name it. The best way to keep any conversation going on the internet is to just be random when one topic dies down. Or expand upon the subject by asking questions, or sharing ideas. One thing leads to another.
As for the phone, there really is no way to be truly random, you can always expand upon ideas and thoughts but ultimately you will end up with that awkward silence. Unless your a talker type of person, it's hard to keep a conversation going. Try and use stories and small chat and from there, expand it to bigger things.
Good luck combating that awful "cricket" sound!
-Ryan
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When i im guys who i dont know that well, there are often like awkward pauses. what can i say when the conversation just kind of dies down?
ps most of them don't go to my school (link)
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Completely random things. Literally there are an infinte amount of things to talk about, you just have to pick one. Granted, with such a broad scope of ideas it is hard to pick one, but with a creative mind you can keep a conversation going for HOURS (And I've done this from experience) through random talk, which expands into another conversation and from there another one, each propelled by something new and random.
It's like going to wikipedia and searching nuclear physics and ending up on a bio for Captain Picard of Star Trek: The Next Generation. You went from science to science fiction in a matter of minutes!
Such is the same for conversation. Start with one thing and just constantly expand on it, propelling the conversation with random talk and chatter, moving from one subject to the next.
-Ryan
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i am a Level I Moderator
how do i become a lever 2 moderator?
i rate a lot of questions and answer a lot of questions
i dont just answer because of ratings and moderator statut, i answered just as much before i was a moderator but how to i get to be a level 2? (link)
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http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=69
It takes alot of work, time, and dedication. It's elusive, but is not impossible to attain. You just got to work at it and be the best level 1 mod you can be.
-Ryan
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I've gone out with this one guy like 3 times over the past 3 years. But he moved away a couple of months ago. I loved him but now I've moved on from him. But lately I've started talking to him again. & he keeps saying that he likes me alot still and that he loves me. (And that's the first time he said he loved me.) But I don't believe a word he says anymore. He's proven to me that he can't be trusted. And I honestly don't like him anymore. Like I'm fine talking to him but he always yells at me about other gujys and it really annoys me. & I've told him that. This guy is seriously a jerk. & sometimes I just don't want to talk to him at all. But he always manages to lie his way back into my life. What should I do? :( (link)
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Get rid of him! Don't let some jack come in and treat you like that. He can't be trusted so don't trust him! Simple as that. You know he lies, so don't believe them anymore, no matter how convincing they are.
-Ryan
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So I met this girl last year, and I really like her...But all she wants to be is friends..I wish that she would go out with me, but she is blinded by all the cool guys out there..How can I attract her attention to me instead of the cool guys...? (link)
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You be here friend, that's how.
Because sooner or later, she is gonna get screwed over by those "cool" guys and she is gonna be a bit messed up. Who does she run to? Her friends and especially if they are close friends of the opposite sex variety.
So there it is, be her friend, be close to her, and be ready for the eventual heartache when she gets heartbroken.
-Ryan
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I like my coworkers but I dont like my job,however, there is talk of our office (I cant use the real word or it would give away the type of industry I work in) might be converted into a training center which would be good for me because I may be able to get back into my field. Should I still look for another job or hold off until I find out if I can get the job I want at the training center (link)
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Always look at other jobs. That way there are backups in case of bad job security or financial troubles.
Do both of those things. Inquire about a new job and a job at the training center. Keep an open mind and wait for the right moment. Pick the one that best suites you and if you can get hired, go for it. If you can't then you have the other job to fall back on.
-Ryan
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Can I get peoples honest opinions if you kill yourself where and how do you think you will personally end up. When I was 17 I had a 22 year old boyfriend I didn't call him for about 3-4 weeks and the next thing I knew he was gone and practically married my heart can't take it I haven't heard or seen hm face to face in a year. How will I get over this. (link)
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As the old saying goes, time heals all wounds. Unfortunately for some people (myself included) time is nothing more than an infection that gets worse with age.
Eventually though all things are gotten over. The only real remedy is to try and press on. I don't know what he represented to you but if a relationship like that just falls dead like it did then there is no need to lament over it.
As for killing yourself, don't. You don't accomplish anything by doing so and it's an act of cowardice. The end is the same, you're dead and nothing brings you back. With life you have the chance to change and to get better. Suicide is death, plain and simple.
I feel the need to pray for you. Dunno if that helps you but I hope it does.
-Ryan
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Hey..my boyfriend and i are pretty serious. we have a 13 month history..took a couple month break but we are good now. we are both 18. just today we saw a WWE wrestling show and of course the beautiful divas were prancing around in basically nothing with theit whole thongs showing. my bf was lovvvving this..took pictures, he got the S.I Swimsuit edition today, likes his porn videos,and tonight after the show asked how i would feel if he went to a strip club! i feel weird about it.he says its normal and i guess it is..i guess its ok..its not like hes cheating..any input? (link)
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Most any guy is going to look at other women. I've got a friend that absolutely loves his girlfriend to pieces but yet he still looks at those divas and flirts with other chicks. Sometimes it just can't be helped. At 18 most guys are going to still be growing up and are gonna be loose when it comes to attention. I wouldn't worry about it unless it directly starts to interfere with your relationship. Then by that point you need to say something.
I hope I helped
-Ryan
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