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How does love work?
14/F
Okay, I like this guy. A lot. In fact, I think I'm in love with him. We talk and stuff, and he's really sweet, but he's still in that 6th grade-boyish phase. The one where he only hangs out with guys, has never had a girlfriend, doesn't hug girls, doesn't hang out with them on weekends, and the word "girlfriend" never crosses his mind. He's really goofy, not at all attractive, and gets in trouble a lot for being a smart ass in school, but I love him. I'm gonna hang out with him soon with some of my other friends, but I just don't know how to get him to like me. I'd be way more confident if he's had a previous girlfriend, or has hung out with girls before, or another girl was attracted to him, but technically, I'm the first official one, so it's going to be more difficult than it seems. I know he's in percussion, and he's a great singer, (but doesn't persue singing), and I sing too...but still, I'm not sure how I'm going to do this. For once, I'm at a brick wall and don't know how to climb over it. Help would be greatly appriciated.
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one you can't make him love you. and two. this is puppy love trust me, in time you will know what true love is. but right now you should be friends first and then see were it goes
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Sure thing, here's your help.
From your given words, I have determined you simply have nothing more than a like for him and not love, despite what you think. Love is such a deep and primal emotion that to "think" you're in love usually means you're not.
My next point, boys that age won't get over that "6th grade-boyish phase" until they are much older. And at the age they are at they will be extremely stubborn to girls. I've been there in my life and I can testify first hand that if a chick comes up to you liking you, you're not gonna know what to do and you're gonna retreat right back to your buddies (or if you were me, no one because I didn't have any real friends back then).
Therefore, if you really wanna pursue this guy then I would suggest not being overly attached and play more to his friendly side. Of course I would just advise againts it entirely because all it really is is a backlash of puberty and honestly kids around 13 and 14 are so fickle with their emotions it isn't worth bothering with.
There you be and I hope you were helped by my words.
-Ryan
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well first off remember you uys are young theres no reason to rus hit :) if you like him then just try and become better friends with him first get to know him a litte bit more and go from there. see how well he acts around you and see if hes really wha tyour looking for
let me know how it works out
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