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eversence last summer
eversence last summer i feel like everything in my life is going wrong.ok first of all i better tell you what happened last summer.my granny got lung cancer at the beginning of last summer.the caner was gone too far to opperate on it so it was like she was just slipping away in front of your eyes.she died at the end of july, july 25th.she went into a coma she was in it for 3 to 4 days.i wasnt at home when she got really sick i was gone on holidays with my cousin.i came home early and rushed to see my granny i didnt realise she was in the coma i just knew she was really sick and on my way in to see her my dad just said to me are you ready to say GOODBYE i got the shock of life when he said it.i just sat on the bed holding her hand staring at her i felt like running out of the room and not coming back.that was the last time i had seen her a live.the next few days are just a blurr.sence then im fighting with everyone im gone really cheeky to my mam and dad .my b/f said i could tell him everything but i just cant.his mother had cancer so he understands but i cant any time i start talking about her i start crying (im crying now writing this.ive completely changed.i try to think of the times she wasnt sick and she was so happy but i cant.i just want to be happy again.please give me some advice,xxaoifexxx
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first off your right its not easy to talk about these things even to the ppl you know you tell everything to, and ive been your exact situation with my grandma and everything, what you have to reme is watching down on everything you do, and she knows you care and if she was with you right now she would hat eto see you upset. im sure your parenst are worried whats up with you but what you have to relize is not to blame them its not they're fault and not only are they upset about your granny but its making them more upset to see you so sad. remember they love you and she is looking down on you, try and just be calm its not easy losing someone. buts its def, not hard to settle with it.
hope i helped if you ever need help my email is nayez23@yahoo.com my name is shenaye :)
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I realize how hard getting over a death may be. It's gonna traumatize you a bit. The thought of seeing someone alive, and then seeing them dead the next. I went into depression after my uncle died, and am to this day still doing it.
When someone dies, it shocks you. You don't expect it, but then again it's kind of good when someone dies. I'm not saying I want everyone to die, but think of it this way:
Would you rather have your grandmother be alive today & suffering with the pain of cancer? Or would you rather have her free of suffering?
If given that choice to make, I'd honestly rather have a family member dead. Yes, that's sort of a bad thing to say, but I rather not have them suffer. I rather they be happy & go to a place where they'll never see pain again.
In order to come to terms with my uncle's death, I wrote. I wrote about everything I was feeling. Whether it was poetry, or a rant, that's what I did. I also did some negative things like taking it to a razor rather than talking it out with my family.
Just remember, your boyfriend is going through the same thing, so he knows how you feel, and you can cry & he can cry. Not only will it make your relationship stronger, but you guys will be closer because you share something different, and personal.
But also, if talking to a friend, a family member or your boyfriend about it doesn't help, talk to a counselor. They can help you try to get over it in different ways, because their job is to find solutions.
I hope you come at peace with this. Good luck, and sorry about your grandmother.
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