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Hey..my boyfriend and i are pretty serious. we have a 13 month history..took a couple month break but we are good now. we are both 18. just today we saw a WWE wrestling show and of course the beautiful divas were prancing around in basically nothing with theit whole thongs showing. my bf was lovvvving this..took pictures, he got the S.I Swimsuit edition today, likes his porn videos,and tonight after the show asked how i would feel if he went to a strip club! i feel weird about it.he says its normal and i guess it is..i guess its ok..its not like hes cheating..any input?
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i wouldnt like my boyfriend doing that.
and if you guys have been together for like 13 months you guys should be honest with eachother.
i think you should tell him how you feel about it. tell him you don't like him looking at that stuff all the time. he sounds pretty obsessed with it. and if he really loves you he will listen to your opinion and maybe cut down on that stuff.
good luck.
hope i helped :)
Jess
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When my husband and I first got together it was a HUGE deal. I guess this is because you feel that you only want the person you love looking at YOU like that. Which is fine, everyone feels that way at one point or time. Here is the truth though. My husband and I grew out of the "no porn, no looking at other girls/guys" faze and I realized as long as he is not cheating with another woman there is really nothing wrong with it. He is a guy, guys do that kinda stuff lol it's just in their nature. If it really bothers you right now though, just talk with him about it. You just need to remember at the end of that wrestling show, who did he leave with? YOU!! I know it's hard to understand now, believe me it was back in the day for me also, but he's a man, so let him get these things out of his system. Hope it helps sweetie.
-Adorkable
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ok, technically he's not cheating and maybe its normal for him but not for you. if it makes you uncomfortable then you should tell him. he is your boyfriend so you should be able to tell him if something is bothering you. i honestly don't agree with his logic. he has a girlfriend so he should stay true to you and not go to a strip club just to get off. i personally feel that strip clubs are for single people, but then again you don't want to piss him off by telling him what he can and cannot do and where he can and cannot go, so i advise just telling him that it makes you uncomfortable and you'd really prefer if he didn't go.
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Honey, you're waaaay more lenient than I am in that subject. I got jealous when I saw a picture of a girl on my boyfriend's computer from his favorite movie. And she was wearing decent clothes! But I consider myself unfair at times. I worry about him looking at other girls because if he did, I would feel like I wasn't good enough for him.
But your boyfriend's pretty much right. Watching porn and getting those stupid magazine's are considered normal to a guy. Some girls consider it cheating, and some don't. It depends on how you feel about it. If it bothers you that much, it shouldn't be too much to ask of his to ease up on looking at other naked chicks. AT LEAST stop going to strip clubs. That's the worst. Tell him if he has dirty magazines, whatever, but you don't want to see them.
Him asking you if it's ok to let another girl give him a lap dance is completely ridiculous. Again, if your boyfriend really wants to go to srip clubs when he's out with his friends, either you don't want him to or you don't want to know about it. Plain and simple.
Just do whatever YOU are comfortable with. There's no point in being with a guy who'd rather go to a strip club than spend time with his girlfriend.
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I have a history of friends leaving me inboxes like this which end up being attempts to make me look stupid, but I'll assume you actually want advice on this matter and I'll give you a real answer. If he's looking at the girls in WWE, that's no big deal. All guys look at other women, and in fact most girls do the same. It's not like he's saying there's something wrong with you, he's just admiring the "divas". As for the S.I. swimsuit edition, I don't think you have anything to worry about. I haven't met a single guy that doesn't like looking at that thing. Hell, I think it's the best damn magazine issue I've seen in a year. Once again though, it's just your boyfriend admiring the amazing women in the photos, so you have nothing to worry about. The porn is normal as well. All guys, whether they're single, or in a relationship do that. If he's meeting people online that's a problem. If he's just looking at porn, you don't have to worry. Guys have a much higher sex drive than their girlfriend more often than not, and he's just *cough* getting things out of his system *cough*. The strip club thing is different though. Guys should do that if they're single, not if they're in a relationship. The one exception I would make is if it's a bachelor party. Tell him you don't care about the other things but he can't go to a strip club. If this was a real question, I hope that helped. If not, stop leaving me these damn inboxes Matt.
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Most any guy is going to look at other women. I've got a friend that absolutely loves his girlfriend to pieces but yet he still looks at those divas and flirts with other chicks. Sometimes it just can't be helped. At 18 most guys are going to still be growing up and are gonna be loose when it comes to attention. I wouldn't worry about it unless it directly starts to interfere with your relationship. Then by that point you need to say something.
I hope I helped
-Ryan
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