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Hey waddup? My names April, I'm 19 years young and I live in boring ol' Tennessee where hardly anything ever happens. I'm really young, true but believe me I have been through more things at only 19 than your average 30 year old. I am married with no kids. You can add me on Myspace but just make sure when you send a friend request you mention in a message you know me from here. ( Or else I just won't add you.) I am a really nice person until you screw me over, then I can be a royal bitch. I do have trust issues that I am learning to deal with. I am very open minded and I don't judge people. I think that is a major no no lol. Just don't ask me questions and exspect to hear what YOU want to hear. I don't sugar coat anything for anyone. I will be 100% honest with you. I just want to help, so I really don't care about ratings. So anyways, yea just ask away and I'll get back to you soon =)
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I really want a tattoo and I know what I want. I've wanted it for about four years, but my parents say as long as they're paying for my education I can't get one. I'm only 16 so I need their signature if I were to get one. I know the owner of the shop and he's a great guy and tattoo artist and the shop was approved by the health department and everything. I've already checked everything out, and I have the money I need to get it.
But...I still need a parent signature. So I want to sit down my parents and talk to them about it and try to convinve them to let me get it? Any ideas for a sales pitch?
Try starting out with.. "I know how you both feel about this, but if you would only give me a few minutes to explain." Just so they calm down and don't jump to a quick yes instead of a slow no. Tell them all the GOOD things about the idea...the health department...the guy being a good artist etc. Tell them that you are growing up and wanting to take on responsibility. Show them what tattoo you want, and be willing to talk about it with them. Tell them you'll give them some time to think..no preasure. Just be an adult about it. Good luck -Adorkable
here's the issue. my name is cecelia and i have been with my husband for almost five years now, were going on our 2 year anniversary, we have two toddler sons. i love him alot with all my heart and soul but for the last past two years things have gotten bad. it's like when were good were good but when were bad were BAD. i've tried talking to him and half the time he dont want to talk and when he dose he only talks about his issues. every time i begin to say something he interrupts me and keeps talking about him. he dont want to listen to me. he says he love me but he treats me badly, like he talk to me badly sometimes and pushes me away. we've came to the point of breaking up but he wont leave the house. im not happy but i dont have the strength to leave him what should i do?
It's really easy for someone to say "leave him" when they aren't the ones in love or in the paticular relationship. SO I'm NOT going to say that :] I will say though that if you do still love him, try marriage counciling. (sp?) It may do you both some good. it sounds to me like you guys just have a problem communicating. I hope everything works out for you. -Adorkable
Today when my boyfriend was fingering me, all of sudden all this blood came out! It was really weird and it's not my period definitely. Now my stomach hurts and it keeps making really loud noises! I think he popped my cherry but im not sure? If anyone has any websites on whats supposed to happen to you when your hymen breaks then can you send them to me? thanks!!
It sounds to me like he did infact pop your cherry. Of course, that rarely happens that way, but indeed it does sometimes happen. Go to ask.com and ask your question there to learn more. Hope it helps -Adorkable
I have an amazing boyfriend who loves me and cares about me and wants to be with me. The problem is that i still think about my ex sometimes because he was my first real boyfriend. Should I hold off on going into another relationship because of my ex or should I go for it and take a chance on this new relationship?
There will ALWAYS -let me repeat this- ALWAYS be feelings for the first guy/girl that you have your first relationship with. The problem is, you can't base your whole life on "well..if I'm not over him completely, should I wait or give this new person a chance?" Because then you could be missing out on someone even better. I say move on. Just don't judge your new relationship by thinking of the old one. I swear I should say some of this in the mirror lol Good luck -Adorkable
If i join a group on facebook and comment on random photos but good things like their hair, is it weird?
No, I don't think so at all. Just as long as it's not all like "I wish I had your hair, can I cut it?" lol but everyone likes compliments. -Adorkable
Okay so today my bf fingered me for the 1st time and i wanna give him a handjob or blowjob but im really shy about that stuff. like i dont know how to start it, i mean i dont just wanna be like 'hey pull down your pants' lol but yea im not sure how to let him know i want to and get it started. Please help
Start rubbing him while you both are kissing. Slowly start to un-zip is pants and just go for it. If he don't want you to, he'll stop you, if not have fun lol. Just remember to be safe, and if things go to far, please use protection! -Adorkable
ive had my period for 2 years and i just got done with one last week and today i had gone to the bath room and there was a tiny bit of blood in my discharge but im not on my period and its been a litle red everytime i go to the bathroom but it doesnt ever get on my underwear. why is this
This happens alot. You're ok. It's just that when you are on your period, you don't get all of it out 100% everytime. So it will slowly flush itself out. Just as long as it's not a dark/black kinda red, you'll be fine. -Adorkable
so my girlfriend and i are really into eachother
and she's given one of her ex's blowjobs and handjobs before
but i've never been with anyone who would do that
whats the right way to ask for one or do i just wait till she goes for it on her own?
thanks
You'll know when it's the right time. Just ask her if she wants to take the relationship a step further. Good luck hun! -Adorkable
Ok well heres my sittuation.
I have a bf and hes in anyones eyes great. He treats me very very well, is very nice, and i can tell him anything. The thing is, I don't really like him that much. We've only been going out for a week. And i really didn't want to go out with him in the first place but i just couldn't turn him down b.c hes super nice and he really likes me.
I know that sounds weird but this kid is seriously really really nice and sweet - i have no idea why i dont like him like him.
Well yeah so theres him which i barly even like, and then we have an ex that i like very very much. Its been over a year, and not too long ago we tried starting up things but he just stopped talking to me pretty much. But i relaly really like him, like A LOT. I really just want him back. But we never really talk and hes kinda a douch half the time. SO yeah your prob. wondering why i don't like the nice guy, and do like the dick? welll i ask myself the same question.
Urgh it just stresses me out and i have no idea what to do :/
Well sweetie, you have the same problem I use to have. YOU FALL FOR THE BAD GUYS. lol It really does have some negative effects on your life. I mean, you have the "nice" guy that would treat you like a princess, and then you have the "dick head" that treats you like crap, but you can't seem to not melt around. What you need to ask yourself, is whats better for you? Maybe you don't like the "nice" guy because you have never given him a chance. Maybe he has a little bad boy in him somewhere lol. Just give it a try. Ask yourself where you see yourself in a few years. Getting hurt by the bad guy, or being happy with the nice guy? Hope it helps hun! -Adorkable
okay well..theres ths guy kevin..andd we've been like dating on and off since 7th grade, were now in 9th. well we havent gone out since december of 8th..but we've always been talking on and off since them. well i know i like him ALOT! and one night he told me that he liked me and i didnt think that i liked him until like the next day so i told him iliked him and we were like talking. then one night one guy im'd me and told me to call him tonight..but i told him if he wants o talk to me, he can call me. well while i was talking to him i kinda gave up on kevin and i was going after this guy. [ he goes to my school in 11th grade] and then me and that other kid stopped talking bc hbe wa getting to gross and then kevin started talking to this girl who i'm friends with and all. and i told kevin i liked him but wasn't going to go after him because i didn't wanna fuck up what they had going on. well kevin went after me and yesterday in class he was sitting next to me and he kept like rubbing my leg and i ddin't care but i said stop bc he is talking to that girl and he didn't so whatever i said stop and he still didn't. then i was in a classroom with my friend talking about kevin and he passed and she saidd like there he is and i went in the hall and talked to him and we were standing in the hall he was leaving and he grabbed my boob! and i went into the room and immediately told my friend. then aftterschool isaw kevin hug the girl hes talking to and since she rides my bus i had to tell her waht he did bc i dont think it is right not to..ya know? i didnt want her to get hurt when he was trying to do stuff with other girls. and she told him what i told him and he denied then admitted it today but he won't talk to me and claims i made it up juss to get them not to go out and he said he truly hates me. im a mess right now. was it the right thing to do by telling her? i feel like it was right bc i didn't want her to get hurt and yeah he's talking crap and evertything about me and tells me how much he hates me.. i dont know what to do. help me pleasee
Yea sweetie you did the right thing. I mean, if you have any doubt what so ever, then just put yourself in her place. What if you were dating a guy and he was all up on some other girl? Wouldn't you want to know? You did her a favor. As for the guy, he doesn't deserve you anyways. So don't sweat it. He is just pissed off because he got caught. Guys do that. You'll get use to it. Just know that you did the right thing. Good luck hun! -Adorkable
Does anyone know any good sites that have sporty swimsuits like either surf shorts or tankinis? im not a real frilly person or like extremely fashionable I want something sporty please! I really like long board shorts.
No, sorry but if you search google or ask.com they can find it for you :]
-Adorkable
first off me and this boy had like a little thing, it lasted for a little while but then we just drifted and stopped talking. now we don't talk at all. i know he doesn't like me or anything, but i still might like him. i honestly feel stupid if i say hey or something online or in a text cause if he just replys back like hii or something i don't know. but its so confusing. i really liked him, i don't think i've ever liked anyone like that before, he's been in my head for ever. how can i talk to him again or get him out of my head.
ps we don't go to the same school.
It sounds like there WAS something there, but then it just went away, and don't feel bad. This happens to everyone. Part of life. My advice to you is to just come and tell him you still like him. You will never know how he feels until you ask. If he says he don't feel the same way anymore, thats fine. Then it's time to move on to a nicers, cuter guy. Your young hun. There will be PLENTY more guys out there lol. Hope it helps;
-Adorkable
ok so i have these blisters that keep on poping up.
let me explain:
on friday i had one on my middle finger on my left hand.
then on sunday night i had 3 more on my left hand. one on my middle finger one on my palm and one below my pinky and another one on my right middle. and today i had one below my middle finger on the left hand.
the thing is though. they don't hurt or itch or anything. like they for the most part are reasonably small. maybe like half a centimeter. maybe more. and then i get bigger ones that are like maybe a centimeter. and some of them are like flat and some of them are risen.
my mom said it could be some disease called like fists or fifths disease.
and i know it isn't scabies because it itches
any idea what it could be?
You should really just have your mom take you to see a doctor. Only they can tell you what it really is, and I don't want to say it's one thing, then it turn out to be something different. Hope you get better soon ;]
-Adorkable
ok my boyfriends friend just died. liek i have no idea what to say to him. i feel so bad
A time like this I don't think there really is a "right" thing to say. All you can do is be there for him and let him come to you if he needs to talk. Don't force conversation or sympathy down his troat. Often people try and do that thinking it's the right thing to do, when infact it's the worst thing they could do. Take him out to dinner or a movie, try and get his mind off of things, and DON'T bring up his friend until he does. Sorry for his loss;
-Adorkable
so the cutest guy that i work with has a crush on me or should i say HAD. the deal is taht hes 24 and im only 17 and the other night when he tried to kiss me good night i freaked out and told him that i didnt think i was ready and that mabye we could another time. But then the next time i went to work he wouldnt even give me the time of day! we said hi and everything but he went from loving me to completely ignoring me! i really do like him but how do i let him no that? ps i no its risky cause hes older but idc anymore
Ok the fact that he is that much older than you is a huge sign sweetie. if he gets mad at you for you not kissing him, then a buzzer should go off in your head. Sounds like he is just worried about one thing only. I know this is not the answer you were hoping for, but I give my 100% honest advice. You can try talking to him about it and let him know you do like him, see where it goes. Hope it helps;
-Adorkable
Hi Adorkable! You really give good advice so I was hoping you could help me with something. I like this guy, but I am with another guy. I don't want to hurt either one. What should I do?
Thanks sweetie :] I'm just here to help. Anyways, sounds like you have a real delima on your hands! I understand you not wanting to hurt either guy, but to be honest by not telling them how you are really feeling, in the end you could end up hurting them both. Just be honest with yourself; which one could you see yourself being with? Which one do you care about the MOST? Hope it helps;
-Adorkable
I've been with my boyfriend for awhile and its amazing how we can have such a strong relationship without having sex. Most couples our age don't wait this long and I think we're unique because of it. I wasn't ready up until now. I'm ready to have that connection with him and I think he's the one for me. The thing is, I don't know anything about sex. I didn't get educated by my friends spilling their sexual life, I don't read magazines and I don't watch videos. Pretty much, I wouldn't know what to do and thats a tad embarrassing. My question is, how do you go about having it especially your first time? Am I expected to know "positions" or do I just lay there?
*Your help would mean a lot to me*
The first time should be the most special. There is not really a guide to "making your first time count" lol, if there was, I would have read it long ago. You will know when it is the right time though. It's just something that happens. I can't really explain. First time, I would say yea, let the guy do all the work and just lay there and enjoy. Pretty soon you will feel comfortable enough to start trying new things. Just relax sweetie, everyone makes such a big deal out of this when really it's not. You'll see after it happens.
ok lets say my best friends who are also best friends with my crush tell me that my crush (who says he likes me) never actually liked me or maybe that he was only using me to get some, what's a good answer to that? (not to my crush, but what do i tell me friends that will sounds cool and not too hurt and stuff, and something not too mean so i dont have to worry about them telling him about it) what do you think?
Ok, this sounds like your friend maybe jealous and want him for theirself. Just brush it off and act like it do't effect you at all, laugh about it. Remember, someone who is trying to hurt you, the WORST thing you can do to them is smile about it.
-Adorkable
okay, first off i am 15. the guy i like is 19. we really get along greatly, we talk on the phone for hours and never run out of things to say. we even finish each other's sentences sometimes. a lot of people have been saying he just "wants some" but, mostly everyone knows i'm not that way, including him. i really like him but i dont want to be called a whore for dating him considering everyone says college boys only want one thing. another thing i worry about is my parents. what they would think if i told them. what should i do about people talking about me? please help me. :(
Really it doesn't matter what other people think sweetie. I could be the responsible adult here and tell you that he is waaay to old for you, and for you to just find someone your own age, but it's not going to change the feelings you have for him. Stop worrying about what everyone is saying. If they are calling you a whore and you are not doing anything even close to that, then don't sweat it! YOU know who you are and where you stand. Don't let anyone tell you any different. ge ain't nothing but a number so just take things slow and be careful. Hope it helps;
-Adorkable
So there is this guy and me and him dated and when we did it was like all we did was have sex. but it wasnt like that when i was with him i never wanted to leave his arms. i have liked him for years and when he was finally mine i did not want to let him go. but he broke up with me and he kept telling me he still liked me. he broke up with me because he needed to focus on school which was true but he always went out with 3 girls after me. also almost getting one of them pregnant. and he lives about 20 minutes away and i dont see him like i would like. but when i do i get the feeling that he does still like me but other times that he doesnt. what should i do to get him back!?
You said; "He said he needed to focus on school." Yet he is out there screwing around with other girls and almost getting one knocked up? Ok, this will be very blunt, and excuse me if it's brutal, but hun you need to hear this. MOVE ON! Let me de/code 'guy lango' for you. When they say:
"It's not you, its me" =They don't want to be with you
OR
"We're better off friends" =They just wanted some ass
AND THE INFAMOUS
"I need to focus on school or work" =Met somebody new.
He is just keeping you around like cheat codes to a used video game. Only to bring you back when he needs to use you. Find somebody better hun. You can do waaaay better. Let him find some new "cheat codes."
-Adorkable