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I've been with my boyfriend for awhile and its amazing how we can have such a strong relationship without having sex. Most couples our age don't wait this long and I think we're unique because of it. I wasn't ready up until now. I'm ready to have that connection with him and I think he's the one for me. The thing is, I don't know anything about sex. I didn't get educated by my friends spilling their sexual life, I don't read magazines and I don't watch videos. Pretty much, I wouldn't know what to do and thats a tad embarrassing. My question is, how do you go about having it especially your first time? Am I expected to know "positions" or do I just lay there?
*Your help would mean a lot to me*
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The first time should be the most special. There is not really a guide to "making your first time count" lol, if there was, I would have read it long ago. You will know when it is the right time though. It's just something that happens. I can't really explain. First time, I would say yea, let the guy do all the work and just lay there and enjoy. Pretty soon you will feel comfortable enough to start trying new things. Just relax sweetie, everyone makes such a big deal out of this when really it's not. You'll see after it happens.
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First off, congratulations for making such a good choice to wait this long. Very proud of you. :) Onto your question: not much is expected the first time. If it's first time as well, then that's great because you are both on the same boat! If not, just have a talk with him. If you're ready to have sex with him, then you should be able to be comfortable enough to discuss these worries with him. He should be very understandable &, under no circumstances, should he expect you to be a pro at first. To be a little more informed about the risks, precautions & other health information regarding sex, visit: plannedparenthood.org. But if you want tips, positions & other things you can do, I suggest going to sex-project.com or renting a porn (IF you're 18+.) I know you may think porn is disgusting & something you have no desire to watch, but it's very educational for those who don't know too much. If you're not old enough for those things, talk to a friend or grab an issue of Cosmopolitan off the shelf. When the time comes, everything will probably come naturally. The more comfortable you are with him, the more better it will be. If you're not 100% comfortable, then maybe it's a sign that you should wait. Just remember, you should never feel embarassed with him & if you're not great, then so what? Sex shouldn't be a number one priority in your relationship. There's always time to improve! & as long as you communicate & share eachothers favorite positions/moves, etc, then next time can always be better. Good luck, be safe & stay protected! :)
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Don't just lay there.. that's a big no-no. If he's ever had sex before he will know what to do, so he will take the lead. I assume he KNOWS you're a virgin so he will definitely understand that he needs to be in "charge" so to speak. It's probably best for you to be on bottom the first time. My advice would be to just go with the flow.. make sure you breathe in his ear, suck on his ears, nibble on his neck.. fun stuff like that. I repeat, do NOT just lay there! :P
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