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he thinks im joking
Sometime last week me and my bf were talking about having sex and he didnt think i was being serious about it..i told him that i would have sex with him but he thought i was joking and i really would and i want to..he says he wants to but i dont know if hes just saying that or what. i dont know how to make him see that i am serious. how do i do it? im really shy about these things too.
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Well if you are sure that you are ready for the big step then make him know it sit down with him and be like yes I really want to and Im being dead serious! Then there is no specific way it just comes naturel but relax! And dont be suprised if the first few times you bleed or also it hurts that perfectly normal and remember to be safe!!
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If you truly believe you are ready for sex, you need to sit down with him. Avoid bringing it up in a place or time where he might not take you seriously. (For example: After a joke or at a time when you/him can't have the other's full attention.) When you sit down with him, tell him you are serious about your decision & you need his serious opinion/response. Once you know his answer, just go from there. You say you're shy about "these things." If you're too shy to talk about sex with your boyfriend, then you're clearly not ready to go ahead with it. So just wait till you're completely comfortable & ready before making such a big decision. Good luck! :)
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If you honestly think you're ready for it, just straight up tell him you are serious. But remember that there is a HUGE chance of pregnancy, even WITH protection. So get on some form of birth control FIRST and use condoms as well... you don't want a baby this early, do you?
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Any guy would jump at the chance to have sex if he knows it's a real one. Maybe go on a really long date one night and then try and get into kissing a lot or something and eventually things will lead to that. Or maybe he's just worried about getting an STD or something. Discuss this matter seriously, make sure you're both on the same page and if you're both wanting to do that, it will happen.
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well if you have told him; and he still doesnt take you seriously; SHOW him.
when you are like making out and you feel ready; take off your shirt.
make out some more; and slowly undress more.
and say something like "i am seriously and 100% ready for this"
make sure you have a condom with you. PLEASE BE SAFE!
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Well if you are sure that you and your boyfriend are ready for such an emotional commitment, as well as prepared for the possible consequences, then try writing him a letter, or telling him over the phone. When I was younger (which I was shy) I always found it 100% easier to talk to a boy through a note or over the telephone. Just make sure when and if you decide to have sex, you use protection!
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