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Should i do it.... or not
well my boyfriend is really sweet the best boyfriend i have ever had.=D i am really happy with him. Im in love with him. But suddenly he seems kinda like wanting to have sex with me like when he comes over he takes off his shirt n my. like were about to do it but im not sure if i want to yet. Is not that i dont love him i do a WHOLE LOT. What should i do. just stop him all the time. should i just do it. i kinda want to sometimes but im scarde im still a virgen. pleasee help.
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i think you shoudlent, if you really like this guy, and he likes you as u say he does, he'll wait(and dont you want it to be special
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No you shouldnt do it! Respect your body you will know when it is right! If you have a religion of wating untill your married youd better wait because one way or another someone will find out! But go with your instinct and I think right now your instinct is telling you know way!!! Tell him that your not ready he will respect you for that!
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Should you just do it? Absolutely not. Respect your body & yourself & wait until you're ready before going through with anything. It's completely fine to be in love with someone & not be ready for sex. When you are ready, you will know. Until then, enjoy the other things like making out & make it clear to him that you are waiting. He should respect you & your decision. & if not, he's not the guy for you. That is my opinion in a nutshell. :)
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There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being a virgin at any age. It's not a race or a competion. You have to ready for sex emotionally, physically and mentally. You really must know what you are doing and all the consequences of it first.
If you aren't communicating how you feel about the idea or on sex itself with your boyfriend you aren't ready for it yet. What you need to do next time your boyfriend whips his shirt off or tries to get you to have sex is say "I love you very much but I'm just not ready for that yet.
Tell him that he may in fact be "the one" but not now. If you are serious about having sex with him in the future ask him to start researching it and birth control options with you now. Be sure you are well read on the subject and plan it out.
Always remember that there is nothing wrong with saying "not for me, not right now" or "no" to anyone at all. It's about what you feel is right for you. There's no shame in being a virgin as I stated at any age. It's all about being ready and being with the right person.
Take your time with this or you'll regret it later for having sex when you were not ready emotionally and physically for it. After all, you will want to remember the experience for good reasons and not bad ones.
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Tell him that you care about him, but that you are not ready to have sex with him. Tell him that you want to wait to make sure he is "the one" If he really cares about you then he will respect your feelings. It's normal to be scared about your first time, just make sure that you are ready 100% because it does change your relationship. You won't regret waiting. True Love Always Waits!
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Right, the best way I can put this is:
If you can not correctly spell 'virgin', you are not ready to engage in sex. End of story.
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what you need to do here is make up your mind.ARE you ready to lose your virginity to this guy??If your between12-15 years old i suggest you dont lose it now because your way too young and many people that lose it at that age end up regreting it.If he wants to do it with you best thing you should do is be open and tell him that your not ready if your not...you dont wana end up losing it by force and regreting it do you?!
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It depends on a lot of things. If you aren't 100% sure you're ready, then you're NOT and you need to tell him this. Also along with sex comes the possibility of STD's (which are totally disgusting and nasty) and pregnancy (which is 9 months of hell and 18 years of expenses!!). So if you're ready to face those two possibilities, go for it! If not, don't. And if you do decide to do it, please use protection! Condoms AND birth control!!
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To decide whether or not you are ready, take these thoughts into consideration:
Would it still be worth it knowing that the next day he would break up with and leave you?
Is this relationship really going to be long term, even to the point of marriage?
Are you willing to go through, on your own, any complications such as a pregnancy or STDs?
Could you openly confront your parents about it this situation?
Do you really feel that sex would be his way of getting to love, and not just that he is using love to get to sex?
If you answered no to one or more of those questions, then you probably aren't ready. Please don't be foolish like other girls have been and had their lives collapse before their eyes over a dumb guy who wanted sex.
I'm not here to preach or to make that choice for you, but I need to make sure that you are aware of the consequences. Know what you are getting yourself into. Despite what MTV and movies want to tell us, there really is nothing wrong with waiting until you are older or even until you are married. Can you honestly sit there and say that our country's divorce rate has nothing to do with the fact that more and more people are having sex before marriage and before high school for that matter? Think things through and don't be afraid to wait. If he doesn't agree with you, then drop it because he is not worth it and he doesn't really love you. Hope that helped and good luck.
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You need to tell him you aren't ready. If you are scared then you shouldn't do it. If you feel pressured then don't. You need to tell him no or he's going to continue it.
You should have sex when you are truly ready. [And financially] Because even if you get birth control and condoms, there's still a chance of you not being protected.
There's no 'should' when it comes to sex. It's because you want to and that you feel comfortable with it. No nervous or scared feelings.
It's alright to wait and he would understand.
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There is nothing wrong with waiting.
If he loves you like you think, he can wait too.
You will know when your ready, and only you can decide that!
Just make sure that you wont regret your decision
You need to think about the consequences, and talk to your boyfriend about them. (pregnancy, std's, etc)
hope this helps!
-blonde911
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