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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Ok Im a 15 year old male. My sister and mom think Im gay. Imagine your own mother telling you that. I'm def not gay I know me better than everyone else. Even my best fruend austin which knows me the most even more than my family knows im straight, My sister says I think like austin, you guys are always together. However, arent best friends supposed to hang out. This is coming from my own mother, well atleas thats what my sister told me what do I say to them when they say that?????/ I know Im not gay?

Tell your sister to fuck herself. Confront your mom & tell her you're not gay. You & your friend are just best friends & you're super close, but it doesn't make you gay. If she doesn't believe you, don't try to change her mind. Just tell her to fuck herself too.

what is a dirty sanchez or something like that??
thanks in advance =)

It's disgusting. After anal, the guy's dick might have feces on it, so he gives the girl a mustache with it. =( Disgustingly true.

My mom knows im obssesed with using my computer. I love it. I dont watch tv, I just go online and play pc games or chat with my friends. My mom says I spend to much time. I got my grades in they werent too good, but I passed? She yelled at me and called me a loser. My brother and sister kept telling me hahahaa kc ur getting ur internet taking away. What am i going to do without it? My brother and sister are like loners and have no friends im serious i never see them hanging around with ne one, r they jealous I have a life?>

Sorry to say, but they're NOT jealous of you, and you have NO life. You spend all your time on the computer. What kind of life is that? Concentrate on more stuff that's important. Like school, and friends. Join a sport, or read. Watch tv, hang out with friends, go outside & play. Do anything but go online. There's more to life than the internet. If you keep going online day after day after day, you're gonna get fat.

14/f 8th grade. Here latley I've been really depressed because almost everyone in my grade has been out with someone and has had a bf or gf. I haven't. And I've been noticing that whenever I watch a movie or something and a couple has a sweet little kiss or something, it just kinda bums me out because i always dream of having a cute, hot, sweet, nice boyfriend and here latley i've been dreaming of that first kiss. and it makes me really depressed. i mean, what if i never meet that one special person to be in high school with, and what if i never find someone that i will marry and have a family with. this all just makes me really depressed. i mean, obviously no one likes me because no one has ever asked me out or anything, well, at least no one i like. haha. anyways, what can i do to get over this? i know that i'm not even in high school yet, but what if i don't ever find anyone?! this is making me soo sad. help!!!!!! thank ya much!!!

Guys aren't really all that important. And you don't need one to be happy. Don't worry about it. You should be focused on school & friends anyways. Guys just take your focus away because you think you love them when you really don't. Enjoy being single because getting your heartbroken is ass. You've got your whole life ahead of you to find someone to be happy with. You're young & you shouldn't be worrying about stuff like this, so don't.

Hi my names kc and my parents gotta divorce about 7 years ago. However, my brother now hates my dad, he never wants to go with him, and he sticks up the middle finger at him which is wrong cos hes only 12. My mom doesnt do anything about it she can careless? Im the only one who goes with my dad on the weekend but i have a better time with him because my mom always argues and is so negative

I'm not sure what your question is. I'm guess you don't like living with your mother because she always argues & is negative. See if your dad can have full custody of you. You'll probably be a lot happier.

17/m
I now realize that I would much rather be a girl than a guy. I think it would be really cool to go to prom dressed as a girl. Think people would get pissed or would it be okay. If I do go, any hints about what I should wear? Thanks

Honestly, if you went to my school & came to my prom dressed as a chick, I'd think it was hilarious. It'll get both positive & negative attention. But that's the best part. You'll be the talk of your school for years. And who cares what people think. But you might be kicked out of the prom until you change your attire, so if you wear a dress, you might wanna have a tux in your car as backup.

okay, so i went snowboarding this weekend, and 2 of my guy friends came. (they're best friends) and 1 of them i like, and the other one likes me. neither of them know i like the 1st one. Anyways, the second guy told me that the 1st guy is going out with this girl, who basically has a new boyfriend every week. however, guy 1 and i are really good friends and he hasn't mentioned it, even when we came really close to the subject. i don't want to say anything, because i want him to tell me on his terms. but i don't know why he hasn't told me! we talk about everything.. its so weird. what should i make of this, do you think?

Okay? So he doesn't tell you EVERYTHING. Maybe he doesn't think you'd care, or maybe he just didn't feel it was any of your business. It's honestly not, so don't get pissy with him. Just accept that he didn't tell you & leave it alone.

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No, it's just not what you wanted to hear. I'm not sorry that I don't sugarcoat my answers & give you what you wanna hear, but it's the truth, whether you like it or not.

so im a pretty big guy, 16 and a junior. I know a very intelligent freshmen and would consider asking her out on a date or somthing. only thing is she is a little small and she is a freshman. the freshman part wouldnt be so bad if she wasnt as underdeveloped. it would feel awkward to do anything intimate with her since i would feel she is a bit small. well, it's up to you guys. do i ask her out and just wait for the day when she gets a little more physically mature to have an intimate moment, or do I hold off on asking her out untill next year when it will be a bit less unusual, Senior Sophmore. but if i do that i run the risk of losing her intrest or my own intrest in her. any advice is appreciated :)

Are you that immature? She's a freshman and she's
"underdeveleoped." Dude, who gives a fuck if she's underdeveloped!? So she doesn't have big tits or a hot ass, dude WHO CARES!? She could be the nicest girl ever & you're gonna stop liking her because she doesn't have what you want. Stop thinking with your dick, stop picking her apart for her flaws, & ask her out. Honestly, she might be happy how she is, and you're a dick for tearing her down because she isn't as developed as everyone else. If that was me & I had heard about what you've been saying and you asked me out, I'd tell you to fuck yourself.

13/f

I know there's nothing wrong with dating anyone of a different race, and I think I may have a crush on this amazing guy, who is of a different race.

Well me and about 2 friends are the ONLY people in the school who think biracial dating is OK.

The rest of the school thinks its disgusting.

And I know that shouldn't matter, and I mean it doesn't REALLY. But I don't want to lose all my friends, just because of a crush. I know they're not good friends or whatever if they don't accept it, but still, it hurts to lose all your friends.

I know some would be accepting of it, but I know most won't.

A subject similar to this came up in school today, where me and the two friends I mentioned, were talking about the cute guy at Burger King, lol.

I kind of bit my tongue about the guy I think I might like in the school, because people were eavesdropping.

And its not just friends, my grandma would know if I had a boyfriend (she has legal custody and I live with her) and she said she'd kill me (in a non literal sense) if I ever dated anyone who was of a different race. No exaggeration, she would make me live with my aunt down the road. My aunts nephew, is currently dating this girl named Janine, who is of a different race, and she's AMAZING. Me and my aunt are more open minded than most of the family. So me and her, and Jesse (the nephew) and Janine, went to the mall one day.

But I don't want to lose my friends / be disowned by my family, what do I do?

Why do you care what other people think of you? If you like this kid & dating him will make you happy then do it. No matter the consequences. Be disowned by your grandmother, have most of your school hate you. Don't you think your happiness is worth it? People shouldn't be so concerned with your life. It's not them so they shouldn't care. If they say something to you about it, tell them to fuck themselves. But go out with him if you like him, and just shrug what people think right off of your shoulders. =)

ok so im gonna get my cartilage pierced at Claires tomorro for my birthday..They pierces it with a gun and i heard that bad..but how bad is it what will happen if its done with a gun??

Do not go to Claire's or any other shop in the mall that does piercings with guns. When I was like 7, I got my ears pierced with a gun & my ears got raped & got infected. If you want your cartilidge done, go to someone who knows what they're doing & see a professional.

hello
If you were to get high/smoke pot about 2 times, how would a doctor be able to tell?

I heard you just pee in a cup and they can tell from that. How long should you wait until you're all clear? and does smoking 2 times have any affect on that?

My friend told me it's in your system for a month, or 30 days, and it's in your hair for 7 years. Yeah, it does have an affect, so I'd stop smoking if I were you.

ok so i have a problem i REAALLLLY like this boy named damon... and he works with my brother.... and he goes to my school he is on the varsity basketball team... and he just broke up with his girlfriend.... but the problem is i feel like an idiot if i talk to him... and it just seems like im gonna make a fool of myself and i cant ever think of anything to talk to him about.... i am a girl and im 15 and he is a boy and is 16... he is in my grade and i see him alot in the halls.... and i help out the varsity basketball coach so i see him even more then if i didnt.... and ive even gotten so desperate as to talk to the coach about him.... but he just says that i need to talk to him but i just cant ever think of anything to say without thinking to myself that i am stupid.... PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

and he is this "popular" guy so that makes me feel like even more of an idiot but i really really really like him and no one can seem to help me!!!! and i was hoping that i would b going out with him by valentines day but that isnt gonna happen so

Talk to him about basketball, music, other sports, school, movies, talk about anything. You can't be that much of an idiot, and you shouldn't feel like one. You're just shy, but once the ice is broken it'll be easier.

what are some good songs by hellogoodbye?

All Of Your Love.
Here In Your Arms.
I Saw It On Your Keyboard.
Oh, It's Love.
Stuck To You.
Figures A & B.
Two Weeks In Hawaii.
Touchdown Turnaround.
Homewrecker.
Baby It's Fact.
Call n Return.
Shimmy Shimmy Quarter Turn.
Angie.
All Time Lows.
Dear Jamie, Sincerely Me.
Asking Jessica To Be Official.
I Just Think She's The Best.
If You Wanna, I Might.
Oh Karissa How I Miss Ya.
Welcome To The Record.
Ryan's Song.
Winter Wonderland.

So I know its illegal to have sex with someone over 28 if you are a minor... no big deal, we both are very strict about the wait till you aare married thing and i will not let my guard down. my quaetion is, is it still illegal if we date and i am a minor and he is 18 but we do not have sex or anything?

Yeah, it's illegal. He's 10 years older than you. That's disgusting. Sex or not, it's just...ew.

i am about 105 lbs, 5'1, and 14 yrs old. i wanna lose about 5 lbs before march 15th, but there is one problem: i cant excercise to save my life. i just cant do it. my knees have issues, and i dont have strength..

i basically want to tone myself, so what can i do?

You don't have to lose any weight. If anything, gain it.

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Tone what!? You have nothing to tone. You're thin. You don't need to lose ANY WEIGHT. You have to gain it. But alright. You go & be anorexic, k?

i usually listen to hardcore/screamo songs ..but after awhile i'm getting kind of sick of them. i'm starting to listen to bands like augustana more, so if you recommend any songs that are i guess 'soft rock' or whatever, could you let me know? specific songs would be great, or just bands. thanks!

Download songs from bands like:

Cute Is What We Aim For.
Hinder.
Nickelback.
Gym Class Heroes.
Jack's Mannequin.
Paramore.
The Sounds.
The Hush Sound.
Saosin.
Boys Like Girls.
Angels & Airwaves.
Plain White T's.
Panic! At The Disco.
The Starting Line.
The All American Rejects.
Boys Like Girls.
Brand New.
Copeland.
Motion City Soundtrack.
Millenocolin.
Fall Out Boy.
Head Automatica.
Hellogoodbye.
Sugarcult.
Yellowcard.

I have like little black lines on my teeth.. like, its not the front of the teeth, where you can see, but when i open my mouth to say "ahh" like the part where I chew food, like in the backs there are little lines where there are like.. indentations. i've never had a filling, and i brush my teeth atleast once everyday.. and my parents have good teeth too, so i dont know why i have this. whats the cause? how do i fix it before all my teeth have those little black line things? and they seem to be increasing little by little, and becoming a little more intense in the back 2 teeth. OMG! and i havent been to a dentist.. well since i was in 2nd grade and now im 13 in 7th. help help help!

Go see a dentist, you might have cavaties. And you should brush your teeth twice a day for 2.5 minutes.

who sings the spoof on aaron carters "I want candy" song??

Google it.

Well, I'm 15/f and my older brother is 23/m. My mom has always sided with him and she is completely rude to me. She always compares me to him, and I'm sick of it. She complains that I don't do anything to help her out around the house when I always clean my room on "cleaning weekends", I vacuum when she asks me, and I do the dishes when she asks. Yet, I still hear all the time how my brother, when he was 15 had a job and all this other stuff. Well, I would truly love to get a job, but nothing around here hires 15 year olds, so I'm kind of stuck. I really am fed up with her always comparing me to him, saying I'm a bad daughter and all I care about is myself and my boyfriend (which is not true at all). Yet, she has no idea what my brother does behind her back, he throws parties at my house when she goes to Atlantic City for the weekend, and she doesn't even care; he makes a mess of the house, and I end up having to clean it because he's too hungover and inconsiderate to see that it was him and his friends that made the mess not me. I really am just so done with listening to her complain about me, and think of how "wonderful" her son is. Plus, she complains that I'm not responsible enough to get my license/permit, but my brother was able to when he was 16. Yet, I do ALL of my homework, and I try so hard in school, but I don't have the best grades, I'm a B/C student, and she doesn't accept that from me; and yet, he slept all through high school, and passed, but he never had to hear it from her. I really don't know what to do, and how to confront her, every time I put any effort to it, I get yelled at.

Sorry this was long; any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you kindly.

Do stuff without being asked to. If you see that dishes are dirty, or there's a room that needs to be vaccumed, do it. Don't wait for her to ask you to.

Okay so all i really drink are frappucinos.
Ive had cafe vanilla, carmel vanilla, vanilla mocha, and peppermint mocha.

I love Vanilla beans. Chocolate Chip fraps are pretty good too. Hot Chocolate is alright from them. Get any of their capps, I know you'll like them, and the strawberry frap is pretty good too. =)

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