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Depressed
14/f 8th grade. Here latley I've been really depressed because almost everyone in my grade has been out with someone and has had a bf or gf. I haven't. And I've been noticing that whenever I watch a movie or something and a couple has a sweet little kiss or something, it just kinda bums me out because i always dream of having a cute, hot, sweet, nice boyfriend and here latley i've been dreaming of that first kiss. and it makes me really depressed. i mean, what if i never meet that one special person to be in high school with, and what if i never find someone that i will marry and have a family with. this all just makes me really depressed. i mean, obviously no one likes me because no one has ever asked me out or anything, well, at least no one i like. haha. anyways, what can i do to get over this? i know that i'm not even in high school yet, but what if i don't ever find anyone?! this is making me soo sad. help!!!!!! thank ya much!!! <3<3
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Guys aren't really all that important. And you don't need one to be happy. Don't worry about it. You should be focused on school & friends anyways. Guys just take your focus away because you think you love them when you really don't. Enjoy being single because getting your heartbroken is ass. You've got your whole life ahead of you to find someone to be happy with. You're young & you shouldn't be worrying about stuff like this, so don't.
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big deal!!You have to toughen up a bit!True love will come when you least expect it!If you rush things now youll end up with a guy that isnt meant to be for you and youll end up breakin and going through heartbreak at such a young age!Your still way too young anyway,at this moment of your life,at your teen ages your personality is still being built which means if you get heartbroken now this can affect your way of thinking in the future.Just toughen up and beilive that everybody has a somebody out there waiting to meet them.You mighta already met him but its just not the time to be with him yet.Wait and youll see that youll have the best guy.
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your not the only one. many people go through the same thing. i do to. try finding something you really like to do to get your mind off of guys. i'm a guy and i love soccer so i play soccer all the time and it really helps me. you will still have moments of depresion but hopefully most of the time you will feel good
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Let me say one thing up front: Don't settle. What I mean by that is that you shouldn't get a boyfriend for the sake of having one, when you really don't have feelings for them. Do you know how many relationships are like that at your age? A lot, and yes, I'm speaking from experience and observation.
Your first relationship and your first kiss should be shared with someone you really care for; You'll treasure it and won't regret it later.
If your high school is anything like mine, it's MUCH bigger than the middle school. You meet a lot more people in the transition from middle to high school, and yes, that includes guys. So, chances are, you won't be boy-less forever. Don't even worry about that. Worry isn't going to help your situation.
Does this make you feel any better? Probably not, but it's reality, and no one else can tell you any different. The best things in life are worth waiting for. You see people around you in (most likely) meaningless relationships that don't last for a very long time. You may see couples kiss or say, "I love you!" to each other all the time, and as sweet as that seems, that alone doesn't make a good relationship.
Be yourself, and don't let a guy determine your self-worth.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
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I went through the same thing for quite a while. It just so happens when I least expected it the right guy came. I know someone who didn't have their first boyfriend til 16 and same with their first kiss, but now she's very happy. She has a boyfriend who loves her and has a good relationship. You will find someone. There will be more guys in highschool. Most guys now don't have the balls to ask a girl they like out and if they do odds are their not the good ones.. Just try and become friends with more guys. Maybe put yourself out there go to mixers and flirt with the guys your interested in. Ok not too much flirting because it can annoy the hell outta them. Just enough for them to get the hint. Mind you guys in 8th grade are very imature. You are probably looking for a relationship most of them can't give you. Seriously, just wait and the right guy will come! You could just try to establish your best friends and worry about boys later. You will not be alone forever trust me! Ok I hope you feel better!!
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dont worrrrry, seriously, when i was your age i was in the same position. but then i thought, when im older and do find that special someone a piece of you is also gone. you know what i mean? like your innocence of still not experiencing the first kiss is gone. its like this, dont try to grow up so fast its not worth it. PLUS you have PLENTYYYYYYYYYY of time to meet someone. Also, when you get into highschool you will meet TONS & TONS of people that have the same likes/dislikes as you and you will blend right in and find someone. As for finding someone to find start a family with is WAY FAR FAR into the future. you have an amazing amount of time from now until then so spend each day (like i ALWAYS say) " counting your blessings, and not your problems " =) just give yourself some time. maybe deep down inside your not ready and the only reason you think you are is because everyone else around you has already experienced it. Plus dont get so sad about it, also dont go out looking to find the person, if its meant to be theyll come to YOU. Let nature take its course and whatever happens, was meant to happen.
Take care, i hope i helped ya. <3
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