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HELP
ok so i have a problem i REAALLLLY like this boy named damon... and he works with my brother.... and he goes to my school he is on the varsity basketball team... and he just broke up with his girlfriend.... but the problem is i feel like an idiot if i talk to him... and it just seems like im gonna make a fool of myself and i cant ever think of anything to talk to him about.... i am a girl and im 15 and he is a boy and is 16... he is in my grade and i see him alot in the halls.... and i help out the varsity basketball coach so i see him even more then if i didnt.... and ive even gotten so desperate as to talk to the coach about him.... but he just says that i need to talk to him but i just cant ever think of anything to say without thinking to myself that i am stupid.... PLEASE HELP ME!!!!
and he is this "popular" guy so that makes me feel like even more of an idiot but i really really really like him and no one can seem to help me!!!! and i was hoping that i would b going out with him by valentines day but that isnt gonna happen so
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You're in a really good situation, believe it or not. Damon works with your brother. You help out with his basketball team. Those are two opportunities to see or talk to him that are great as they are very casual and genuine.
Unfortunately, you will need to talk to him. Otherwise, how are you ever going to build a friendship or relationship?
Fortunately, research has shown that people are apt to be more positive feeling towards a person they see regularly, even if they've never talked.
Why not drop by to see your brother at work one day and give Damon a friendly smile? Why not speak to him about something basketball related, perhaps something that is related to the work you do for the team?
At the very least, smile and say 'hi' when you pass him in the hallway. You've got nothing to lose in any of these scenarios, as you aren't declaring your undying love - or doing anything else that could mortify you. Remember, it's okay and normal to feel nervous on the inside, and your outsides might look more calm than you think.
If you're really into this guy, build up your nerves! Think of what you have to gain by talking to him, versus what you'll lose if you don't. Whether this works out or not, it's excellent practice for the next time you want to speak to a cute guy.
I wish you the very best.
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Talk to him about basketball, music, other sports, school, movies, talk about anything. You can't be that much of an idiot, and you shouldn't feel like one. You're just shy, but once the ice is broken it'll be easier.
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Well, don't rush. I`m shy too, so I know how you feel. Try asking the coach to get you closer to him so you won't feel as weird trying to go up and talk to him.
Or, accidentally throw a ball at his head and run up and apolgize. Ha, it may seem crazy, but crazy stuff works. :] Just be brave.
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