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Always compared to my older brother..
Well, I'm 15/f and my older brother is 23/m. My mom has always sided with him and she is completely rude to me. She always compares me to him, and I'm sick of it. She complains that I don't do anything to help her out around the house when I always clean my room on "cleaning weekends", I vacuum when she asks me, and I do the dishes when she asks. Yet, I still hear all the time how my brother, when he was 15 had a job and all this other stuff. Well, I would truly love to get a job, but nothing around here hires 15 year olds, so I'm kind of stuck. I really am fed up with her always comparing me to him, saying I'm a bad daughter and all I care about is myself and my boyfriend (which is not true at all). Yet, she has no idea what my brother does behind her back, he throws parties at my house when she goes to Atlantic City for the weekend, and she doesn't even care; he makes a mess of the house, and I end up having to clean it because he's too hungover and inconsiderate to see that it was him and his friends that made the mess not me. I really am just so done with listening to her complain about me, and think of how "wonderful" her son is. Plus, she complains that I'm not responsible enough to get my license/permit, but my brother was able to when he was 16. Yet, I do ALL of my homework, and I try so hard in school, but I don't have the best grades, I'm a B/C student, and she doesn't accept that from me; and yet, he slept all through high school, and passed, but he never had to hear it from her. I really don't know what to do, and how to confront her, every time I put any effort to it, I get yelled at.
Sorry this was long; any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you kindly.
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Do stuff without being asked to. If you see that dishes are dirty, or there's a room that needs to be vaccumed, do it. Don't wait for her to ask you to.
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Maybe she wants you to do things with out being asked...or keeping your room neat at all times....some parents put to much pressure on their kids..school might not be your thing but im sure something else is you just need to find it and play it up.Maybe you should take pictures of the parties and people being passed out and the messes or video tape it if you could secretly do it then show your mom...Maybe you can ask your mom what is it that you find so inadequate about me...if that doesnt work then just let it go because you know who you are. Every ones diffrent.and how your brother is...in a few years youll be 18.Although i do not agree with your mom but ive had friends whove went through simillar things and just had to bare with it until they turned 18 and could move out.
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my sister's always getting compared to me... but my parents stopped when she told them how she felt so just try telling them, if they won't listen then ask your brother if he can help you out
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