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Hi my names kc and my parents gotta divorce about 7 years ago. However, my brother now hates my dad, he never wants to go with him, and he sticks up the middle finger at him which is wrong cos hes only 12. My mom doesnt do anything about it she can careless? Im the only one who goes with my dad on the weekend but i have a better time with him because my mom always argues and is so negative
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I'm not sure what your question is. I'm guess you don't like living with your mother because she always argues & is negative. See if your dad can have full custody of you. You'll probably be a lot happier.
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Okay, well I'm not 100% sure what the question is, but I'm going to try and answer it anyway, because my parents divorced about seven years ago as well. I don't have any siblings, but I always hate it when my mom talks about my dad badly. She did it so often that I began talking badly about my dad as well. But then I realized that he's part of my family, and though he and my mom aren't really together anymore, I have to make my own effort to be with him and have a relationship with him, and make my life more than just a guy I have to see once a week. I love my dad a lot, and I'm sure you do too.
Okay, well as far as your brother, there is almost nothing you can do, you can tell him how you feel and think of it this way, say some guy at school stuck up the middle finger to your best friend, you would stand up for her, so next time your brother talks disrespectful of your father tell him that it is extremely rude of him to do that, and that until he appologizes you will not speak to him, because he is being disrespectful, and he doesnt deserve to have a relationship with you if he can't have a relationship with his father. He'll probably be like most little brothers and try and force you to talk to him, but speak to him the way you would someone at school you don't really like. Just some guy who you don't really care about.
Once he realizes that he has to be respectful around you, or he wont have a relationship with his sister, then he'll try and speak polietly. I mean you can't change how your brother acts, but you can tell him when he goes to far, and just try and show him how he needs to act in order to have your respect.
As far as going to your dads every weekend alone, it kinda sucks, but think of it this way, at your mom's yor brother has a lot of the attention, but if you are at your dad's alone then you will have all of his attention pointed at you.
I'm not sure if I answered your question, but if you want some more help, just let me know! Love ya,
Angie91
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hay, i'v been through the same thing your goin though but about 10 years ago. i think your brother is just upset and thinks that b'cos your dad doesnt want to be with your mum then your dad doesnt want to be with him, so he acts like he doesnt care when he really does and that it is really hurting him inside. if your mum hasnt had a partner in a while then maybe she is just lonely... alot of people get lonely. maybe you should talk to them about it.
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