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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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category: random wierdos. mostly because i'm turning into one. i need to learn how to swallow my pride. everytime i feel like crying i tell myself no. why? i have been crying lately though, but i don't know why. my friend told me to think about my feelings and see what happens. i've been thinking since summer and there's no result. I HAVE not been depressed at all, i'm a happy person! but there is a guy i've liked since summer and everytime i think about him i get sad? even though there's nothing wrong! wtf? i tryed to call my best friend who i haven't seen or talked to in about two weeks and try to talk to her but no one was home. help?! i also need to learn how to get over a boy. I don't want to, but i know that i need to. thanks-

Time heals everything. Just don't think about him & focus on something else. Keep trying to call your friend until you get through.

how do you get herpys

Having unprotected sex with someone who has it, or by giving oral to someone who has it.

Im kelly 14/f.I found out that i was bi-sexual about 3 months ago.I really don't want to be bi but i just can't help it.I want to know if i should tell my mom i am or just keep it to myself till im older just to be sure im bi?

If it bothers you to keep this secret from your mother, then tell her. But if you'd like to wait until you're older & more positive about your sexuality, then wait.

Also, you should listen to this song: Faces In The Hall by Gym Class Heroes. It's about a gay boy. But there's a really powerful line said in it. It's in the first verse.

alright im fifteen yers old and i had over 900 friends on myspace till today when it was hacked. The only one who knew my password was austin my best friend! would he do something like this? He said he would never, and I belive him but I have a doubt too. Idk whoever hacked it only left me with 12 friends im pissed

Believe him. He's your best friend & he wouldn't lie to you, or hack your myspace. I'm pretty sure he's got better things to do than that. You probably walked into a trap trying to login into myspace. It might've said that you had the incorrect email. If the link in the search bar didn't say "login.myspace.com" then it wasn't the right link. And you stepped into the trap for someone to hack you. They get your email & your password when you press submit. Chances are, they probably changed everything around, deleted your friends & whatever. Make a new myspace, add everyone you can remember you had & make your myspace private. Also, when it either logs you out or tells you that your info is incorrect, make sure it says "login.myspace.com" in the search bar for the link. If not, x out the site & type in the link for myspace & correctly login there.

any suggeestions on how to lose weight in the theights and arms..will lifting weiths and weight training help?

15/f

I don't think you can lose weight in them, but you can tone them so they don't look bad or flabby. For your thighs, run on either a treadmill or around the block everyday. Treadmill is better if it's snowy where you live. For your arms, just lift those little 5-10lb weights.

(13/F)
most of my friends think that theyre fat and have very very low self esteem. they arent fat, but they are a little chubby and if they loose like five pounds i think they will feel better about themselves. i have never told any of them this. they starve themselves and skip means until me and my other friends convince them its how eating disorders start and they need to eat. if they excersized a little like dancing every weekend or somthing im sure theyd be fine. they eat an average amount of food. how can i help them lose the weight without damaging their self esteem? and howw can i help them feel better about themselves? and feel loved and that they dont need to change anything about themselves? should i just get them active? like all go to a dance class or somthing? we are all AMAZING dancers so anything involving dancing they would be very eager to do. i just want them to be content with who they are. and understand that nobody thinks of them differently because of their weight but also if it bothers them i want them to know im here to help them
any ideas? thank you soooo much!

Tell them if they really don't like the way they look then they should lose weight. The healthy way. Starving themselves & exercising like it's a necessity for breathing isn't the way. Let them know exercise is good, but to still eat & be healthy. Tell them to eat healthy food. Do not eat before they go to bed. And invite them over for little dance parties at your house.

I'm 16/f. My best guy friend is 16/m. He recently told me that he really liked me in december, and was even going to ask me out. Then he changed the subject, and I realized I'm a dumbass for asking him why he didn't ask me out.

Recently he's been treating me shitty. We don't hang out at all really, while during december we hung out almost every day. I have hung out with him once in January. Why do you think hes acting this way? Does it seem to you he gave up trying to be my friend because maybe he doesnt like me anymore? He still could, I dont know I didnt ask. But I truly feel he doesnt care for me at all anymore and it really hurts, he used to be the most carng person. I have talked to him about it, all he says is that he cares.

He still likes you, but he thinks that you don't like him so it causes him to treat you differently. If you like him, tell him and start going out. Because if you never tell him how YOU feel, he's gonna continue to treat you differently.

I just got rid of my best guy friend. I'm a female. I don't know what to do, he's the only one who listened and seemed to care. Lately he seemed like he didn't care at all, he hasn't even been talking to me. So I'm avoiding him now, and it feels like I've basically lost him.

How can I not be so hurt? I'm sinking into depression and it's horrible. Are there any things I can do to not be this terribly upset? Thank you.

Start talking to him again. Show him you care. Maybe he'll get the picture. If not, find another friend that you can see yourself being bests with.

what do u do when your friends tell you that you have changed alot ever since u got with your boyfriend??
the other day my sister told me that i've been alot more bitchier ever since i got with my boyfriend kyle which was almost a month ago.
and then my best friend just told me that everyone has noticed it.
she said that i act like im better than everyone and im alot more bitchier and everything.
i just dont know what i am supose to do about that. should i break up with my boyfriend or just ignore everyone else??

If you really like your boyfriend, don't break up with him just because your friends can't handle some changes. But, maybe you haven't been spending a lot of time with them because you've been so busy spending time with him. You have to set a balance between friend time, boyfriend time, and family time. Try not to be so bitchy & just be more understanding. They're probably mad because you're not around so much. Don't totally cut them out of your life. But if they keep complaining, then don't keep trying to change & stay friends with them. If they're willing to throw a friendship away because you got a boyfriend, then they're the stupid ones and they weren't really your friends anyways. But then again, "friends are forever, boys are whatever."

ive had a myspace before, but then my mom somehow found out about it, went through my history and made me delete it, so i did. then a few months later, i got one again. i figured if i deleted my history there would be no way shed find out. until my friend accidentally slipped and i had to delete it again.
my mom doesnt like myspace because of all the stuff that happens on it, like rapists and crap. i told her i could make it private and no one could see it, but she was like no i dont care, i still dont like myspace. basically, shes punishing me for what other people do. ive tried explaining that to her, but she wont listen. any ideas on how to convince her to let me have one?
thanks in advance :]

Show her the site & let her see that it's not all pedophiles & rapists. Tell her that you only add people you know, ie: friends from school, friends you've known for life, family members, etc. The only person you don't know are music artists. And they're not there to rape you. They're there to provide music for your profile. Let her know that you're not gonna do anything stupid on there & whatnot. And of course, keep your MySpace private.

does anyone know what is on the permit test for driving, good things to study/know, good sites for online practice tests and things to know.
thanks.

There should be a book you have to read. You can get it at the DMV for free. Ask your mom to pick it up so you can read it. It's really boring, but almost everything in the book is everything they test you on. And you can only miss 6 to pass. You miss more than six, you fail. Also, for tests & stuff, go to google & type Permit Practice Tests for "your state here." You didn't specify, so I'm not exactly sure.

This question is mainly for guys but if your a girl and you have an opionion thats welcomed to:)

Do guys think belly button peircings are hot?

P.S- i'm blonde 5'8 120 pounds and have told i should be a modle many times oh and i'm 14. If those help any

Thanks soo much

Honestly, it depends on the guy. Every guy is different. Some guys think they're hot, and some guys just don't. But really, don't get the piercing so a guy will think you're hot. Do it because you really like how it looks, and the piercing in general. Getting it because a guy thinks you're hot & the piercing is hot, is stupid.

people always say im random... i dunno, how do i not be random? i guess its just myself, but sometiemes i say things and my friends are like "that is soo random" and im like.. "how is that really random?" because it was in my head, and when theres nothing to talk about, you bring up a subject! sometimes its kinda annoying.. ugh... so.. well.. how do i stop being so random? how do people become random anyway? answer anything related to this paragraph.

I'm random too. I say whatever pops into my head. If it's random, oh well. It usually works well for me since I get people laughing. I do/say a lot of things that people would never expect out of me. If it's only annoying sometimes, why change? If being random makes you happy, then stick with it. That's you. Don't change yourself because other people can't handle your outbursts. Just keep being yourself & fuck what people think of you.

okayy im 13/f and i reallllyyy want to get my belly button pierced but of corse my mom wont let me. so i was wondering is the anyway i could do it on my own?

Chances are, if you do it yourself, you're gonna fuck it up. Don't sneak behind your mother's back & get it done because they won't do it anyways without parental consent since you're under 16, AND do not do it yourself. Just research it, get a little presentation together & try to convince her that way. If you're responsible enough to do that, she might consider saying yes. But if she says no, just wait until you're 16 and can go by yourself to get it done.

Okay, I'm 17/m and have a beautiful girlfriend that I've even promised to merry(sp?). Anyways, I have a friend that I was talking to, 15/f, and we got into a discussion. This discussion was about sex, we were talking and she asked me what I was thinking about. This was kind of weird because she usually can assume what it is. She kept wanting to know and then she asked me to email her my fantasies that I have about her. I hate to say this but I do have fantasies about her as well as my gf and sometimes all three of us. I know most of you think thats sick but were all young and young people do stupid things. Anyways, I'm scared and don't know what to do. Should I give into temptation and reveal my fantasies or keep them to myself? Is this feeling unnatural? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!! I'm sooooooo confused!
Thank you.

P.S. Me and my gf are perfectly happy with each other. We never fight, we love each other to death. We've been going out for 1 year.

By emailing your friend & telling her your fantasies about her, it'd be wrong. It could potentially get back to your girlfriend. This girl could tell people, and they could tell people, and then it'll get to you girlfriend, and then you'll be fucked. Not to mention the fact that your relationship will be pretty much done. It's a normal feeling to look & fantasize about other girls, but it's a little abnormal that you're willing to tell someone them & risk everything you've got with your girlfriend. You said your relationship is good. No fights, love each other more than life, have been together for a year. Don't ruin it. Keep your fantasies to yourself.

I am going to be 20 in march and Im a female. I've had a man for 3 years this july. He's in the military so its like im livin two lives. Neways, I went out with my friend and I met this boy. He is so sweet and we hit it off pretty good. I've ended up stayin at his house hangin out, talkin to him, gettin to know him better for the last week or two. I love my boyfriend, but i got feelings for this other one. I dont know if i should tell my boyfriend that we need some space. Should i see what its like with this other guy? Take the chance? Is it true that if i realize i messed up by lettin him go, we will find our way back to eachother again?

If your boyfriend's in the military, you've been dating for 3 years, and you love each other to death, why in hell would you risk it for some guy you just met? Honestly, this new guy probably isn't worth it, and probably will never love you as much as your boyfriend ever will. I would stay with your boyfriend because if you leave him, you'll regret it. And how does it look to break up with him because you found someone else? It's gonna look pretty fucked up to him, especially because he's in the military which just makes it all worse, and you're throwing 3 years of love away from someone you spent one day getting to know better. Just stay with your boyfriend.

Dont give me a link PLEASE DON'T!!.Why did germany declare war on russia on the 1st of Auguat 1914, can you tell me in way a stupid person would get it ha!We are doing a project!

Wait, it's your project, and you're supposed to know information about it, correct? So why are you here? Read your textbook or google it.

one of my friends, sarah, used to be big into drugs and that, but when she met me, she stopped.she promised me that she wouldnt do drugs again, because she knows how against it i am, and because she didnt want to do them anymore. about six months later, she told me she had smoked a cigarette. i was really mad, but i was glad she told me. she once again promised me she was done with all that. about a month later, she told me she had smoked weed and smokes cigartees twice again. that time i didnt talk to her for like a day, then she, ONCE again, promised me she wouldnt. that was about a week ago, then yesterday, she told me she got "baked" over the weekend and smoked a bucn of cigarettes. she told me that she didnt want to do it again, ect., all the bullshit she told me before. i got reallyyyyyyyy mad at her, and told me not to talk to me until she gets help, comletely stops, and tells her mom about the weekend, because her mom doesnt know. is this being too hard on her? i hate the fact that she does this stuff, and she knows how against it i am, and she always says that she doesnt want to do it, that its an "accedent". i dont fully believe her on it all, but i just want her to stop. i know its not my responsibility to make her stop, but she wont do it on her own. so i just need some imput on if im being too hard on her or not.

thanks for reading my increadibly long question!

She's lied to you so many times about stopping, so do you think she deserves another chance? I don't. Let her be a druggie & cigg. addict. Let her die when she's 30. Then she'll realize she should've listened to you.

when giving a guy a hand job or head, how do you know when to stop? and please dont tell me if i dont know, then i shouldnt be doing it, because im not. im just curious. if your just going to say that, then dont even bother wasting your time, or mine for that matter.

thanks!=]

Stop when they cum.

so yeah i really love this guy. and he used 2 go to ma school but now he's in high school (I'm in 8th grade)
so i dunno if he remembers me - i hope he does. sometimes we talked and stuff
and i wanna send him a valtentines day card. so now i'm asking. what should i write that will melt his heart? so yeah ...help?

If he doesn't like you back, this card might make him think you're either a stalker, a freak or a person who has a little bit too much time on her hands. Or he might just think you're obsessed. Be flirty but not serious.

And honestly if you "loved" him, all of this shit would come from your heart & you wouldn't have to ask us for help on what to write.

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Jesus, stop fucking complaining because you didn't get what you wanted to hear. Honestly, what I told you was the truth, and I'm NOT sorry that it's not what you wanted. Seriously, ask him if he remembers you BEFORE HAND, and then write him the card. Ask him on a date, and if things go well then ask him out.

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