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what do u do when your friend...
what do u do when your friends tell you that you have changed alot ever since u got with your boyfriend??
the other day my sister told me that i've been alot more bitchier ever since i got with my boyfriend kyle which was almost a month ago.
and then my best friend just told me that everyone has noticed it.
she said that i act like im better than everyone and im alot more bitchier and everything.
i just dont know what i am supose to do about that. should i break up with my boyfriend or just ignore everyone else??
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everything changes when you get a boyfriend because all of your time you want to be spending with them. but i would just listen to things that your saying. maybe you are being a little bitchier and in that case i would think about things when you say them. don't break up with him but don't ignore them either. just think about things before you say them. of course your going to change but don't change for the worse :)
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If you really like your boyfriend, don't break up with him just because your friends can't handle some changes. But, maybe you haven't been spending a lot of time with them because you've been so busy spending time with him. You have to set a balance between friend time, boyfriend time, and family time. Try not to be so bitchy & just be more understanding. They're probably mad because you're not around so much. Don't totally cut them out of your life. But if they keep complaining, then don't keep trying to change & stay friends with them. If they're willing to throw a friendship away because you got a boyfriend, then they're the stupid ones and they weren't really your friends anyways. But then again, "friends are forever, boys are whatever."
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Hey whats up? How are you? I know exactly what your going through, cause i have been there in the same situation. First of all, yes you do change when someone new and special enters your life, but that shouldn't be explained by saying that you act like a bitch. On the contrary, you change your actions and everything about you because of all the excitement and love that overcomes you, and you do try to change your self and your appearance and everything just to impress the opposite person, meaning, that new special person who has become a part of your life.
So here, in your situation, some of those who claim that you act bitchier could be jealous or could be just warning you. I am sure they mean nothing about it, and i am sure that you mean nothing about the change in your actions. Thats why, you should most definitely not break up with your boyfriend, because that would be too unfair to him, and very immature of you. NO offense ofcourse. So , in my opinion, you should go and tell them that you don't mean anything by the change that has overcome you, and that you are just too excited and in love and happy because of that new experience of having an amazing boyfriend, and tell them that you weren't paying attention and you haven't noticed, but your gonna make an effort to try and be yourself again. And you should do that, you shouldn't just give up and break up with him. ON the contrary, you should know what your doing wrong and undo it, and make it to the better. Okay? I hope i reached to you and helped you. Think of what i said, and if you need any other help or advice, please be free to contact me. Take care.
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HOLY HELL omg this is exactly whats going on with my friend. Alright yes you proably act like a bitch just make time for your friends and boyfriend just remember put your FRIENDS BEFORE boyfriends because boyfriends will leave but friends stay forever and yes you will get people who will hate you because i hate my friend who did the same thing, just remember friends will love you more then him.
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Same thing happened to me. Both of my "best friends" told me I changed ever since I got a boyfriend. Luckily, I realized they were just jealous because I was dating him, and he was "mr. popular" at the time. Then again, I had only been dating him for three days when they told me. haha
So that could be the case. They could be jealous of your relationship, jealous that you are dating this boy, or just jealous of the time you spend with him. So don't break up with him just yet.
However, when 'love' (or just a boy in general) gets in the way, sometimes we don't act like ourselves, and we don't notice it. Be more aware of how you act. Maybe they are playing it up to be a bigger deal than it is, but perhaps there is truth to their statements. Like I said, notice what you are saying and how you are acting around them. Go out of your way to show them that you are still the sister/best friend that you've always been. Make extra time for them. Have a girls night and show them you haven't changed. (WHATEVER YOU DO, don't spend your time texting or talking to your boyfriend on the phone when you are spending time with your friend!)
Now, with that being said, if you do come to find that you have changed for the worse since your relationship started, and if you determine that this relationship is the source of that change, then maybe this he isn't the best person for you. The one you are with is supposed to bring out the best in you, and if that isn't the case, you should re-evaluate your relationship with him.
Also, be aware of your friends. No boy is worth ruining a friendship, but make sure it's a real friendship that you are trying to preserve. In my situation, my so-called friends weren't really my friends, and I found that out quickly. I'm just trying to say-- Know who you are dealing with.
Good Luck! I hope things work out!
Keep me posted! =)
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