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Have a boyfriend but feel feelings for a different one as we
I am going to be 20 in march and Im a female. I've had a man for 3 years this july. He's in the military so its like im livin two lives. Neways, I went out with my friend and I met this boy. He is so sweet and we hit it off pretty good. I've ended up stayin at his house hangin out, talkin to him, gettin to know him better for the last week or two. I love my boyfriend, but i got feelings for this other one. I dont know if i should tell my boyfriend that we need some space. Should i see what its like with this other guy? Take the chance? Is it true that if i realize i messed up by lettin him go, we will find our way back to eachother again?
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i think the only reason you have feelings for this other kid is because he gives you attention and is there 24/7 unlike your boyfriend in the military. after he gets out of the military you are going to go crazy, no lie, because you love him and the distance shouldn't interfere with your compassion for him. i think that you shoudl forget about the other guy because your boyfriend is fighting for his country and that would be messed up if you left him for the other guy. but that's just my outlook on things. actually i think if you let him go he's going to be really angry and i dont' think he woudl take you back, but i don't know the guy so i coudlnt' say. but i hope everything works out and make sure you think it through.
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If your boyfriend's in the military, you've been dating for 3 years, and you love each other to death, why in hell would you risk it for some guy you just met? Honestly, this new guy probably isn't worth it, and probably will never love you as much as your boyfriend ever will. I would stay with your boyfriend because if you leave him, you'll regret it. And how does it look to break up with him because you found someone else? It's gonna look pretty fucked up to him, especially because he's in the military which just makes it all worse, and you're throwing 3 years of love away from someone you spent one day getting to know better. Just stay with your boyfriend.
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Well i'm in the same boat as your bf. Me and my bf broke up of 21 months and he said we needed space. He' hasnt realized it fully that he misses me but its going to hit him. What im saying is your going to question that you miss him and watn him back because its been such a long long relationship between you and your bf. If you two are meant to be together everything will find a way to piece back together. Nothing can change destiny no matter what you do or who you date. You'll end up with the guy you are maent to be with garenteed. So no matter how big,, hard, small, or easy this step will be take the risk. You need to see whats out there exspeacially sense you are questioning the relationship. I wouldnt really tell your bf that your constantly seeign this guy but you could mention him that you just know him briefly but not how well and dont get to into depth. But think about it.. Maybe a break between you and him is healthy anyhow. Try and tell him how you feel and talk to him in a way that shows that you want to be with him you just have mixed feelings and your not quite sure what you want. You cant expect this to be an easy process and you cant expect to be happy right away either but the whole military adds a whole other level to it too. I'd say go for it, and if you are your bf are meant to be-it'll al wok out perfectly.
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If you've been with a guy for 3 years then I'm sure you both have very strong feelings for each other. If you two have a good, stable relationship...I wouldn't risk it. Remember, the grass isn't always greener on the other side.
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Hey whats up?
First of all, I would like to clarify a point there for you. If you break up with your boyfriend, then there is no way that you would ever get back together again.
Second of all, your boyfriend seems like a fine one and you have been together for 3 years now. I am sure he has a great successful career planned and he's attending military now. Then he's gonna come and you could get married or something. So, I don't mean to sound harsh, but while he's doing all that, maybe you should be playing your role and acting as the faithful woman waiting for her man to come home. I mean.. i am sure that he's thinking about you right now, and thinking of being with you when he comes back, and i am also sure that he is crazy in love with you and cares about you so much. So why go after another guy that your still getting to know him from start , and why go stay at his house and act as if your his girlfriend? Because after all, your not anything to him. You are your boyfriend's girlfriend. I mean.. for heaven sake, what do you know about that guy? What do you know if he's good or bad? Or is it just any guy to be with,so you wouldn't be alone.
LIsten, what your doing is totally wrong, you should be faithful and loyal to your boyfreind and wait for him to come back ,so you could plan how to start a life and family together if your getting married any time soon. Other than that, i will answer some of your questions. Like, ofcourse you shouldn't see what its like to be with this other guy, and ofcourse you shouldn't take the chance or dare tell your boyfriend about anything. Just tell this other guy that you have a boyfriend and that you shouldn't be doing that, then keep things quite and don't tell your boyfriend anything.
And just so you could know, if you had hooked up with this other guy after dumping your boyfriend, you would have probably fought with each other after a week or so, and he would have dumped you. So at the very end, you would have lost someone who is crazy in love with you just to run after someone that you don't even know him or his intentions. So think of what i said, and if you need any other help ,please be free to contact me.
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