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Hey, 19, female, cashier. There is this guy that I work with who is above me so whenever I have a problem or whatever, he is the one that comes to me. I've realized that he is quite friendly with a lot of the other women cashiers but when he's around me, he's very soft spoken. He does his job when I need him and call him over, he is just very quiet when he does. The most recent time I called him over, he came over, did his thing and while he waited for the customer to do their thing, he opened all of my bags for me and put the remaining bags in the customer's cart. I do call him over quite a bit as I am new and have quite a bit of questions but he never acts the way he does around me when he's around other cashiers. He'll go over, put his keys in the system and punch his numbers in and then leave. I was just wondering what your thoughts were on this if he likes me or not because I quite might fancy him.

Like you said,your are still new and have quite a bit of questions so it could be that while he is there, he is hanging around longer and making himself helpful as a way to give you more confidence and also being right on hand in case another question came up.

The other cashiers I assume have been there longer and no longer in training. Now if there are other cashier trainees and he is treating them differently, maybe then something is there.

If he is in general always quiet with you and not with anyone else, perhaps he does feel tongue tied around you. I say be yourself and do whatever you do when you have interest in a guy to let him know.
If there are no rules against dating someone you work with, then proceed however you feel comfortable. You might try steering conversation in a way so you can find out if he has a girlfriend already, important to know.
An example: So what are your plans for thanksgiving? Do you have two places to go to, like your parents and girlfriends parents? Thats a bit corny and too obvious but you get what I mean.
Good luck dear

Okay, im 8 months pregnant, im the third babys mother, and for Thanksgiving BF mom invites BF and i to spend time at her house where baby mother#2 will be there and #2 makes it very clear that she does not like me, attitude and all. BF's mom went as far to tell me shes like a daughter to her, when I explained why I didnt feel comfortable going, so instead of planning a whole day trip there, she said she'll pick us up and bring us there for an hour.... I dont even want to go for 5 minutes. A little background on me an BF, we used to date when we were 20, he cheated on me with a girl so we broke up, I looked him up, found him down the road in a prison work release, he says hes not with anyone, he LEAVES work release to spend 4 dayys at my house says he Loves me, goes back to prison, I find his phone that says wifey on a contact name which turns out to be #2, call her, shes a wreck to hear that hes cheated on her again, says I can keep him, so just before he.gets out of prison for good my ex talks with me and I ended up getting drunk and we slept together and I told BF about it, and said I didnt think we should be.together, I was confused and didnt want him to move right in, he said he still wanted to, but the worst part is I blatenly told his mother what happened to so maybe she could talk him in to not coming to my house.. then now that he did, I tried to make it work, we got pregnant, and stuff has been a mess ever since. What should I do?

Honey, I don't mean to hurt your feelings or be rude be this sounds kinda like a scene from the Jerry Springer show.
There is really nothing I can tell you to do that would undo this mess. My opinion is that some of the choices you have been making in your life are not necessarily in your highest interest. By that, I mean that better choices could have been made.
You knew the man had cheated on you but you went after him later. You knew he's been in prison and it's not the law abiding upstanding citizens that end up in there. He was never a good choice for boyfriend, or future husband.
It may be that you have some lessons to learn in life by going through this. My advice is to seek to understand why you are making these kinds of choices, self evaluate, listen to your higher voice, go with your gut feeling. You could try seeing a counselor. And if you are religious at all, and not just calling on God to fix a mess, but honestly want to take a better life path from now on, then I would pray for answers, maybe see the local pastor.

I'm a sophomore he's a senior and we started talking over text a little over a week ago over a period of about four days. We haven't talked since then. His friend that I'm friends with and I hooked up awhile ago we don't really talk anymore but he just randomly texted me and said I should text his friend and I said no tell Him to text me so eventually he did and we get along fine and everything I've just never said two words to him in my life so he asked me to hangout with him and I said sure. He was going to a party that I wasn't and he said we would hangout after because he said he was going for only a little bit so I got ready and as time went by I was getting more and more annoyed because he texted me almost at 12 and expected me to just come and meet him and I said I could but I'd have to wait ( to sneak out because my mom wouldn't let me out then) and he said well I don't think my friends are. gonna wanna hangout later and I was like whatever and he said if we wanted to hangout just us we could but I didn't want to do that like I barely know him and I just said that I was in a bad mood so do whatever you want and he was like ok lol that was like a week ago and we haven't talked since. I know I over reacted but I was just pissed in the moment because I felt he stood me up in a way and now I don't want to text him because it will make me look desperate and clingy especially after our last conversation even though I would hangout with him still so I don't even know what to say or do

From the way you describe the situation, I already don't like the guy.
I am a pretty open minded mom, I had 3 daughters go through high school and told them if they wanted to date and got close enough to want to become sexually active it was okay by me as I knew so I could get them on birth control. And as long as I get a chance to meet and observe the guy to make sure he treats her well, not abusive. . . etc.
He talked to you first time a week ago, invites you to a party ( you werent going to) Why? Were you not invited? Is it a group of kids you don't like, or is it that mom would not be okay with you attending such a party?

Also I am clueless to whether it was a supervised party or just a wild anything goes type of thing where you may not have been safe.
If this guy is so interested in you and you didnt want to go or explained you couldn't, then why didn't he stay and spend the evening with you?

First, he didn't specify how long he meant by going there for a little bit. I don't know what time the party started, but if it started late to begin with, he shouldn't have made a promise he couldn't keep. If the party started early evening and he didn't text until midnight, he should have apologized and rescheduled for another day if time flew by too quickly for him. You and I cant prove it but he may have hung around longer cus there was a cute girl he was trying to hit on at the party. I understand how wonderful it feels to have a guy pay attention to you, I love it too. But when you make compromises with your own better judgement and rules of the house/or mom, all for the sake of a guy,
thats a dangerous place to go girl, cus what you are in fact doing is placing the guy on a pedastal, making him like a e God in your life, females will allow a guy to treat her like sh*t if he only says he loves her, he doesnt have to prove it in his actions...just say the words so guys will not have any respect for a girl and he knows which ones are desperate enough to have a little attention tossed their way, and maybe in the process, he can talk her into having sex with him even if shes not ready and he has no feelings for her, all he has to threaten is he'll dump her if she doesnt come thru so she does.

Too late...he already knows you are desperate because when he called and invited you at midnight, and no explanation as far as i know cus you didnt say, and rude to expect you to leave home at midnight and sneak out. When you said you could come, even at that point, he knew he had you hooked. But you had to wait to sneak out as I understand, I dont understand what his friends had to do with it all at his point.

Yes, he stood you up, yes you have a right to feel pissed, and yes you'd look even more desperate than he really thinks you are if you ccalled or texted. Probably why he was laughing, feels he's got the fish on the hook, its just a matter of time before he reels you in to do his every whim and wish.

My suggestion is that you wait for a guy who is interested in not dragging you to partys but wanting to get to know you, like your best girlfriend knows you. A guy who wants to know your hopes and dreams, your fears, passions, your morals, beliefs, etc.... Getting to know someone are really caring for and being there for someone is built up over time. Depending on the amount of time hanging out, that can develop in weeks, months or years. A party setting or sitting in a movie theater is not a setting for getting to know someone that intimately to become friends first. Nope this guy doesnt sound like he really cares about you.

Hey I could be wrong, this could be just one incident that went way wrong.
So observe him, how you see him treating classmates, teachers, siblings, parents, etc... What are his opinions and comments about other people behind their backs. It is always negative or does he say positive things. How does he treat you? Is he willing to hang out at your house? Meet your family? I am assuming your parents have met all your girlfriends. This should be no different. If you feel you left out some important info, you can write me. But i say take it slowly with him and be cautious and ready to dump him if he comes after you again and treats you in a similar manner.

hi, are single father worth to date? because they're so defensive of their childs and even though they're not with their exes anymore but they are so defensive. they don't love their exex still, do they? especially the ones that who already has a girlfriend of 4 years. thanks.

General assumptions can not be made in such a case. You must learn how to evaluate each person based on their own personal views, beliefs, morals, hopes dreams, passions, etc. We are all unique individuals. I would chalk off your experiences to coincidences if you keep running into similar people. Either that or God perhaps has some special lesson for you to learn, best learned by being in these situations.

As to whether a person no longer with their ex still loves them, its possible. It may be more the memories and emotions attached to an ex that a person's subconscious mind has trouble letting go of, or perhaps they are mature people who have really let go, the love changed from romantic to loving the person as family, but not as intimate partner. My husband has such an ex. He loves her, not at all as he loves me. That loves evolved into something else. If a couple parts as friends, especially if theres a child involved, a new mate will have to be understanding, not jealous of the small stuff that really doesnt mean anything, like ones subconscious accidently using the other peoples name, or calling them honey when speaking to them. Heck I call my kids honey, any dear friends honey...things like that should be evaluated with an open mind that is not looking for finding problems or to point blame. If a partner is faithful to you and treat you well, I don't see any problems.

**Sorry, this is probably going to be gross**

19/f So, literally yesterday I took a shower before work, all was well. I woke up this morning around 5am to pee. I wipe after and feel something weird around my anus. At first I thought the toilet paper crumbled around there or something, so I wiped again, and it was still there. I felt down with my finger and there it was, a sack/lump-type thing right next to/below my anus. It's bigger and kinda loose. I felt more and there's a smaller bump right above too, only that one's smaller, more curricular, and RIGHT above the entrance. I was dazed and confused. I was totally fine yesterday. I was totally fine in the morning too, they aren't painful at all. Though when I kept feeling the bigger one, I got a bunch of clear pus on my fingers.

I've never had hemorrhoids before, so I'm quite confused. Do they normally show up that fast, or can they? Multiple? Can they be painless? I read up on the causes this morning, and it kinda makes sense that I would have them, but still. So quickly? And I always hear about how merciless they are in the pain department, but no pain, no blood in my stool. I told my mom, and she's a bit confused too, but she's just assuming they're hemorrhoids and is getting me some cream today. But I for one am concerned. XD

Any advice/help would be enormouslyyy appreciated.

I researched on line. It seems that hemorroids are more like swellings without pus. There are pus related issues that are supposedly more painful than hemorroids according to on line drs. Most the online drs answering similar questions all referred the person to go see their dr.

To be 100% sure its not something potentially life threatening as with the pus fistulas and such, its best to see someone in person, not rely on guesses.

Since you have no pain associated with your situation, either its just starting or it wasn't actually pus. I can't say its possible but water blisters or sweat related blisters comes to mind.

The pus related problem would keep producing real pus because of bacteria that got into glands. Heres a link to what some drs. answered others and its also a place you can post your question and get some answers from a dr.

http://www.healthcaremagic.com/premiumquestions/Have-pus-filled-painful-hard-lump-on-anus-Not-cured-by-hemorrhoid-creams-Any-relief/47557

Ok, so I have a boy friend (a frie d thats a boy) that im having trouble with.
You see, I have a crush on him, but so does my bff, who he likes back. To add to the mess, she sees him in 3 diffrent classes this quarter (last quarter was when i met him.)I only see him in 1 class.
My bff does not know and neither does he. I encourage them to date since my bff deserves it and they would be cute,but its a bit saddening for me. Plus I don't know how to at least show some friend to friend affection when I don't even see him. And I always turn into a puddle when he actually glances my way.

HELP ME WITH THIS MADNESS!

Since his interest is in your best girlfriend, then it would be futile to waste energy trying to catch his interest.
I know it won't help how you feel, but a life time is one giant learning process that never ends. At your age, socially you're learning what it feels like to be attracted to the opposite sex, its a time to discover how to talk to guys, how to understand them and their way of thinking, what it is actually that you like about a guy beyond the attraction stage.
Think of what qualities it is that you are attracted to in him. Are you finding that right now its surface level, you're attracted to blonde guys vs brunettes? Do you prefer a guy who smiles more or jokes more, how he dresses, sound of his voice. Keep track of these things and look for them in other guys. Since you say you melt into a puddle if he even looks at you...you need to get beyond that stage to get anywhere with guys in the future. Cus attraction is stage one, stage two is talking to, conversation. If all goes well at that stage, it progresses to casual dating, and from there to having serious feelings for each other and serious dating.

Maybe you might want to try getting used to talking to nice guys that you don't have a crush on first. It gets you used to talking to guys, knowing what they like to talk about, and all that without the mixed up fluttery feelings and emotions that make it so much harder with a guy you're gaga over. Once you have some confidence interacting with guys, when you meet someone you have interest in, tho nervous, you'll still have a bit more confidence to approach and talk to and say things to give hints you like him or do innocent flirting. If you ever need links to help for that in future, let me know. Good luck.

I'm FTM and I'm a teenager, and I came out a little while ago. I just want some advice on how to pass as a male. And if you know about any websites that could help, please tell me!

Thanks :)

My suggestion would be to seek out other transgender people on the web and ask them because they're in the same boat. You may get more advice there. heres a site: tglife.com

I'm not transgender, but from what I understand, the gender one feels on the inside doesnt match whats on the outside. I would think that for sure included the mannerisms of the female or male gender. If its not mannerisms but how to look more male?? well the best thing is talking to those who have already done so. You may find one person on here who has had such an experience in life. But I'm just saying your hopes of getting many different replys would be in posting your question in a transgender social site. There may be an age limit. I do not know your age. But I'll bet there's one specifically for teens if you search hard enough if you are a teen.
Good luck.

Me and my boyfriend broke up earlier about a month ago andlast week he agreed to see me and gave me the chance to win him back? And so we ended up showing our feelings for each other and he told me he loves me and missed me. And when i asked why cant we get back together right now he said that it doesnt work like that. And we ended up being intimate like how we have been so up to third base with each other. And i guess im just kinda confused as in why we cant be together right off the bat after we broke up eveen though we clearly have feelings for each other. So what does this mean?

I see a potential problem right off the bat by the words you chose.

"he agreed to see me and gave me the chance to win him back"

Are those actually his words more or less? or is it how you are interpreting the situation?

Either way...theres a problem.

I don't have your age but no matter, this is a basic that women need to learn and some females whether teens or in their 30s or older havent learned yet.

If a guy says he will take you back if you meet certain requirements, possibly changing who you are to better meet his needs, if you promise to jump through any hoops he wants you to, doing his every whim and pleasure, thats a warning that the guy has major issues and is likely a controller and have a potential of being verbally abusive if not physically abusive as well at some point. A Statement like that from a guy, shows he places himself at a higher level of importance than you, in his eyes, he is God, and you will do as he says or there's no room in his life for you.

The problem females run into, is that their self worth is hung up in having a guy, they feel incomplete if they don't have one. They are so willing to let some major issues slide just to keep a guy around. And that is the wrong thing to do. A guy like that wants a girl who is easy to control or threaten to do what he wants,

Now on the other hand, no matter why you both broke up, if you are the one feeling you have to win him back somehow in this '2nd chance' to prove your self worth of his companionship, then you are likely suffering low self esteem. Because reality is: No woman has to prove herself or do something special to win a guy over. All she has to do is BE HERSELF, and if that is not good enough to catch his interest, his love and his loyalty, then he is not the right guy for you and its a waste of your time to spend any time with him at all.
Being intimate wit
Being intimate with a guy can create emotional ties to him. But these deep feelings dont necessarily mean that its a good or healthy
Being intimate with a guy relationship. ONly you can really know. So dont base your decision on your feelings but the facts. Does he put you first, does he support you in your hopes and dreams, is he always building you up and complimenting you, does he uphold who and what you are, etc... only you really know if he is the kind of guy worth going back to or whether the issue lies with you and you need to focus on some personal growth issues before you are really ready to date.

Ok, so my friend Kathrine was texting this fairly-goodlooking and fairly-cute and really girlish boy named Brad. So, anyway, she later showed me the text that he said he liked me. He flirts with me all the time, and I simply act like the text is no big deal. But I'm confused. Do I wait for him to say something, or do I ask him? And, he is very girly and strange, and not very handsome (hes...cute?) but im flattered and try to be attractive but my feelings are mixed since I already have 2 crushes that are very handsome and im debating over the 2 that are handsome or the kinda handsome who is girly.

Please help! What do I do?

Well I know we cant judge a book by its cover, so the girly looking guy could end up being a better boyfriend than the more handsome ones.
You mentioned the others are crushes, not that they have noticed you also and have dropped hints that they like you. If they are not interested, then focus on the one interested and flirting, at least if you are somewhat attracted to him. At your age, kids date more for a social status. Dating should really be a time to learn how to understand the opposite sex better, how to talk to and communicate better with and discover more about the person to know if you are interested in them seriously for long term. And if there is any behavior or ways a guy treats you that you dwon't like, or not enough in common, you're bored, then end the dating relationship.

I like your title, "He might like me, I might like him." Few teens recognize the difference between attraction and likeing someone.

Attraction to, is just attraction, it doesnt determine if either one will really like the other. Attraction to what you see, how they carry themselves, their laugh, are things you can be attracted to, but their personality may or may not be a good match. the attraction is there to get you to want to find out. Once you've spent more in depth time getting to know a person, either you realize you have a gem, or you split and go looking for it. So I suggest engaging him in more meaningful conversation to begin with. You mentioned text, so apparently theres been some kind of communication. Start asking the things that count more: what are your hopes, dreams, do you have beliefs, what are they, what are you passionate about (ei like people passionate about saving the trees)
what are your hobbies, whats something you've never done but want to try, what makes you angry, what are your fears, what makes you happy. Enjoy every aspect of time spent with this guy and learning. Eventually if you both are comfortable in convo finding enough in common, you naturally move on to becoming a couple and dating.

is it bad to have sex with ur broher..

It doesn't matter if you both mutually wanted it, it is wrong as you've already been told, and illegal.
If your brother is forcing you against your will and threatening you to keep quiet, you need to tell someone. I would talk to school counselors and tell them the situation, that he is raping with threat of physical harm if you rat on him.

Other than that, if you have a high libido and always horny, I suggest you get yourself some sex toys instead until old enough to be in a sexual relationship with a boyfriend.

Before our breakup, things were great. We would talk everyday, when I had a problem, he was right there for me and vice versa. We said "I love you" everyday, it was just perfect.
One day I got really depressed, and I do stupid things....really stupid...
So, I broke up with him for what I thought was good reasons, but now they are nothing. He didn't get over us for like 2 months or so.

Now, I made my move to get him back, I played our song and asked him. He was "happy" when we got back together. We said "I love you" the first day...but...well things aren't the same.

Now, we don't talk everyday, hes not really there for me. When I text him, he takes FOREVER to respond, or doesn't even respond at all. It's really killing me, what should I do? I have strong feelings for him, and I told him I didn't wanna lose him, and he agreed but, what should I do?

Please help!

Without knowing either of you well enough to be able to see if one or both of you are unknowingly, unintentionally doing something to hurt the friendship/relationship, I have no way of knowing.
So dear, all I have is the words you typed to me to try to decipher something from and what I get from it could be way off the mark so please excuse if it is. Twice in your message I see the similar phrase:

"he was right there for me and vice versa" and

"now we dont talk everyday, hes not really there for me"

I am making a wild guess, that perhaps your subconscious wrote about what is most important to you and it could be the focus is "What can I get out of the relationship" rather than "What can I give to the relationship."
Relationships, like friendships, are about a mutual give and take. A person can lose interest if they feel a relationship is one sided, they're doing all the work and getting nothing in return. So all I can say is that something must be out of balance. If you do some soul searching and cant find an obvious error, then it must be something more subtle. The only way to find out whats really going on is to have a serious talk. He may think you want to just chat about trivial stuff. So let him know you want a serious talk abut the 2 of you and your future if any. You must be ready to hear what he is having issues with, and not become defensive. He may have unrealistic expectations or have some valid points. For teens and college age, this is all part of the learning process of what the opposite sex is like, understanding them better and discovering enough about the other to be able to know if you're the right person for them. It is easy to have feelings for a person whether they are perfect for us or not, And if not--then because there are major problems that can't be overcome because they involve changing good things about who you are, your personality, your talents, passions, hopes dreams, morals, beliefs, etc...

older long term couples and married couples will benefit from taking a relationship/marriage counseling program. There are books couples can read together once they've discovered where their main problem lies.
However, as I've hinted at, if there are too many differences (not bad things in themselves) but difference between you both, that will bring a strain in the relationship. Since guys don't usually fall emotionally for the females as fast as females get emotionally hooked to guy, it is easier in the beginning if the guy see's some problems to distance himself or detach from the relationship totally. His mind may be saying theres some things special about you but theres also a difference between I love you and being In love with a person. This is the best I can tell you with what little information I have.

What is your gut feeling concerning what might be an issue? Listen to your inner voice, or call it the higher voice. Don't lie to yourself or ignore something obvious, trying to convince yourself it is not important cus the opposite may be true. If you come up with some ideas of what you think may have caused the problems, things both of you have said and done specifically,then I may be able to give you more insight before you have your talk. Not totally sure, but I can try.

Hi everyone, well i am confused and id be grateful for some advice :) sorry if this is long! Well i knew this guy for a few months, (lets call him joey) we got a long really well and became close friends.. and i started to like him and i guess he started to like me too, we used to always act like we were a couple and it was pretty obvious there was something going on between us, but when we actually talked about it, he told me that he feels like were two different people and that our lifestyles dont clash and that we should just "give it time" honestly that didnt work out for me because it was kind of a hit or miss situation for me and i dont like to wait on anyone, so i told him to just give me some space to get over it and he agreed that was for the best. So a month went by and we started talking again, ofcourse not like we used to..we were just casual friends and honestly the fact that he gave me my space to get over it made me realize how much he didnt feel for me because if he did he wouldnt have let me go, or let go of the situation.. right? Now,i started getting closer to one of his best friends, he used to hang out with us in our group but we were never so close but now we are.. his best friend really likes me and told me he did, and i told him im not sure how i feel about him and we shuld just keep things going with the flow right now and he agreed. Now joey doesnt talk to me at all, and is always giving his best friend bad attitude, i wrote joey a few days ago and he was normal till he ignored me half way through the conversation and he NEVER does that with me, ever. And like hes been weird with the two of us, i dont understand why though.. he told me it wasnt going to work out between us and now hes upset that im just hanging out with his best friend? am i doing something wrong? i honestly dont think i am but any advice would be great, thank you all!

Males of any age can come to a point in a relationship where something is happening that scares them and they want to 'take a break' give it time of 'giving themselves some space'. It may mean that there is something lacking, that spark, maybe difficulties they believe should not be there so they want to remove themselves from the situation to have time to sort out their feelings and emotions and get a clearer understanding of the relationship with you.

Then again asking for space as in my case with Tom, a man of late forties, from the day we met, we clicked so well, the spark the attractions, much in common, going so smoothly that in two weeks time of seeing each other almost daily for hours and hours it was so intense so quickly it scared him. He asked me to give him space for a week. Which I did, but after 3 days he called and said he'd had enough time to think, would I come see him, he'd explain. The time away is used to decide whether their deep feelings for a female are real or if its infatuation that fades as you spend time apart. For Tom, he realised it was the real thing and we dated quite a while.

I think perhaps that was the case for Joey. Something scared him and when he spent time away from you, he was in the process of beginning to understand his feelings for you.

When you suggested he give you space, he understood it in the terms I described above. So your statement: "the fact that he gave me my space to get over it made me realize how much he didnt feel for me because if he did he wouldnt have let me go, or let go of the situation.. right?" may have been you misjudging the situation. It could have gone either way so it does not necessarily mean he didn't feel anything for you, just that he thought you needed time to sort out your feelings for him as he needed to do the same with you. End of story.

By his reaction of you becoming chummy with his best friend, I would have to guess that he did have feelings for you and had to come to grips with it in his mind first before being able to let you know. In the mean while there you go to his friend which that he likely interprets as you never having been really interested or crazy about him to begin with. I'd guess his feelings are hurt so to keep from having his wounds rubbed in salt, he distances himself from you. Thats normal under the assumption he's in.

This is a matter of young teens not understanding the opposite sex too well, of making assumptions, of lack of good communication, of fear of the intensity of things felt for the first time.

The remedy? Have a heart to heart talk. Just sharing your sides of the story, what you each were feeling and thinking and maybe expecting to happen, no blaming or name calling allowed. The two of you may discover that you want to go back to and continue to explore your relationship, or you may feel that he is only infatuated and jealous that his friend has you but has no feelings for you. Just jealous that he doesnt have a girlfriend too. Communication is the key

this is he second time this has happened im 32 weeks pregnate and have been having propbles with constipation I have seen blood in the toylet for the second time now the first it went away I thought but this time it happening longer and now my (butt) hurts there is blood also on my toylet paper when I wipe I also have hemroida from a piror pregnancy in 19996. plz help

Honey, you need to call your obgyn and ask them if there is something you can do to self treat or if you need to be seen by them. You won't be the only female who's ever had hemorroids with pregnancy and they should have something to recommend.

I have not used the pill before and I would like to know if I can take it, even though I have missed my period. I am certain that I am not pregnant. I have been stressing a lot. Will it help induce my period? if so, when do I take it? And when should I expect my period?

Never take any prescription or medication for reasons other than instructed. I assume you are talking about Plan B, the morning after pill.

your statement:I am certain that I am not pregnant
isn't clear enough. It does not tell me why you are certain. It could mean two things, you do not have a sex partner and therefore you are certain, or you do have a sex partner but you used condoms or spermicide, or you did not have penis in vagina sex. If there was a man involved, and his sperm got anywhere near the vagina or on his hands before he fingered you, theres a chance of being pregnant. In that case take a pregnancy test.

If its been a long time since or you've never been to a Dr. for a female exam, its a good idea to do so, that way if there are any other health problems contributing to not having a period, it can be discovered early.

That all said, now we move on to the subject of stress since you mentioned it.
Stress is a known factor of making a period be off schedule, a sickness or illness is too. And another is age. In all these circumstances, it is perfectly normal and nothing to worry about.
Regarding age, older women kinda are expecting this if in menopause age or for the few who experience menopause unnaturally early, (a neighbor of mine did in mid thirties)
However if you are at the other end of the spectrum, 13,14,15 and sometimes later teens, it is also natural for a period to start and seem to have a schedule but then go all over the place, bigger gaps than one month in between and also shorter ones like getting a period every two weeks and the length of a period can also be all over the place from the usual few days to lasting 2 weeks, comprised of lots of light spotting the entire time. All this can be normal, and as time goes by your body will learn to regulate and get on a schedule.

So in short, do not attempt to do home remedies or take over the counter products to start a period. Getting on a birth control pill without advising a Dr of your concerns, may throw off or mask an underlying health issue. It is best to get a complete exam, and let a Dr know how long you've gone without a monthly menstruation so they can test for possible causes. If you are sexually active, the Dr. should know this too. And you should be asking Dr. about birth control because lack of period does not necessarily mean a lack of ovulation. Ovulating occurs 2 weeks before a period shows up.

What can happen if i show an ingrown toenail to the doctor

I assume by doctor you mean your general practitioner. If it is something he has the skills to take care of, he/she will take c are of it, or they may refer you to a podiatrist (a foot doctor) I took a care-giving client of mine to see a podiatrist for same reason.

She wanted me in the room to watch. Since our fingers and toes have lots of nerve endings in them and are extra sensitive to pain, the doctor will first numb the area. Once it is numb, they remove the ingrown nail and will bandage up the toe and give you instructions for care afterwards, whether you have to apply an ointment, or in her case instructions to soak her foot daily in water with something added...can't remember what it was, maybe epsom salt. I asked her and she had no unusual discomfort or pain afterwards.

U answered my question about tampons and petrolium jelly and I am really scared for an infection I am only 13

Then don't do something you're so scared of. You;ll have to buy a bottle of KY jelly or some other brand of lubricant that is specifically made to be used internally during sex for lube. All pharmacys have this, and you'll find it in groceries or variety store s like Walmart. If you have no money to get it yourself, you will have to ask mom. Tell her you are very dry inside and that makes it uncomfortable for using the plastic inserter to put in a tampon. So, now you have to face another fear, the fear of talking to mom about such matters. But remember that shes a female and likely has faced the same problems. She will understand and not think it a bizarre request.

Hi! I live in Melbourne, Australia and I am a 14 year old girl. My boyfriend and I had a blue the other day and now he's backstabbing me and calling me the b word on wheels. What should I do?

Your teen years are a time when we all face experiences, situations where we need to make choices, making the better choices is what should be happening, it's a part of growing up and maturing. But some make the worse choices over and over and never seem to learn. Others will make mistakes but in time, they learn from them.

I don't know your boyfriend so I have no clue whether he typically has a short temper and an anger problem. If you have witnessed similar behavior from him directed at others in the past, then he is one who isn't learning from his mistakes and not getting better. This kind of behavior may be totally normal to him in his mind, because it is what he sees at home, its all he knows. Or he could have some mental or emotional problems, or it is simply due to the age and the brain not completely developed yet.

Our bodies mature before our brains do. In fact brains aren't completely done growing until mid 20's, and thats why you find so much drama, so much bad decisions being made, and bad treatment of others among teens, because they are incapable of seeing that this is wrong and theres a better way.
That doesnt mean every teen will be immature. Some have good loving examples of how to treats others from home so when they make a mistake, they feel bad, have a conscious anbeing underdeveloped dont repeat the same thing.
You don't have to refute anything bad he says about you behind your back...if anyone chooses to believe him, its because they also have immature brains or come from a bad upbringing. Not everyone will believe him. You need to surround yourself with teens who are trying to make the right choices and to learn and grow. So ignore him, stop dating him, find positive friends. If he calms down enough and wants to talk, calmly, not accuse you of anything and not name calling, then talk with him. Find out what the reasons behind his anger was. Did he have a bad day, was it a misunderstanding because of male/female differences in thinking and interpretation of stuff? If you do have the opportunity to talk and he wants to, then make some ground rules before hand, no statement that include the word 'You' only I. You= points blame, I =takes responsibility for oneself. Example: You made me angry when you changed your mind about where to go. VS I felt angry when the place we were going was changed because the other is my favorite place. This opens up the discussion rather than bringing up more argueing.
But don't go seek him out. If he has a change of heart and truly makes some changes in behavior, its up to you whether to let him in your life again, forgive, give people a 2nd chance if you observe a change in how they treat others first, not an act to on to impress you.

I just told them about him today, and I've been dating him for several months. He's quite a bit older than me, but that's not the problem. He also lives very far away (he's come to visit me multiple times). My parents say it's the combination of the two, and they don't like what he does for a living - he doesn't make enough.

I'm 18 years old and just started college. I wanted to visit him over winter break, but my parents said that if I go, they're not paying for my tuition next quarter.

I'm not breaking up with him. What should I do? Do I have other options? Thanks

I don't know your parents, is this the only instance where they have been controlling in their attitude? If so, its like Adviceman says, they feel they are protecting you and if you still want to go to college, then you have the Mexican standoff.

If they have done this kind of thing with you before in other situations, then it's time you realize that your life is yours to live, the choices yours to make, and the not so perfect choices, for you to learn from on your own.

Trying to shield and coddle ones child in effort to protect them from ever having any bad experiences in life means the young person never has a chance to go through the process of learning how to make good decisions for themselves. At this point in life, mom and dads role should be switching from mothering and fathering to being your sounding board, people you can go to for advice such as you are doing with us. We give you input because you asked for it. Same with them, only if you ask. If you don't, they need to learn how to zip their lip and support you in your decisions, even if they think you are making a mistake being with that guy. And if they were right, they need to be there for you for emotional support later without saying I told you so and beating you over the head for the choices you made. I am a parent of 3 adult young ladies in their 20's. Before I say anything, I ask, I have an opinion on that, may I share it with you? Because of my attitude in being a good sounding board, not intrusive and supportive no matter what, I have good communication with my daughters and they share lots of details about their lives with me. And they ask for my help and opinion, advice.

Since school is part of the stand off, you're going to have to decide how important school and whatever degree is to you. There are some things one must get an education to do like being a doctor. But getting a business degree or biology degree these days, or pretty much a majority of degrees, does not guarantee that you will ever find a job where you can use your degree. People with degrees have taken burger joint jobs just to survive. Thats the world we live in today. You have to work harder to sell yourself, degree or not, just to get a job.

So depending on what you are going for in college, it may or may not be a good idea to stay with it. For example, if you're only going for the degree they want you to go for and your heart is not in it, thats not a good reason to go for it, in the past in still was, in todays economy, in my opinion, no.
require a 2 yr and under trade school, then you may be able to handle it by working and paying for it on your own, like beautician school, welding, masseuse, automotive, culinary, computer tech,etc...
If this is what the parents are paying for, and you'd rather not put yourself through trade school, then you'll have to jump through their hoops which means not seeing your
guy. Its really your decision to make. They could pull this same threat at other times of year until you finally graduate and if you want them to pay for schooling, you'd have to be stuck with their demands. Can you see yourself not being able to date him or anyone until you graduate college? Perhaps they won't threaten to not pay if they liked the guy, he was local and earned a fair living. But you won't know that until you get to that situation if you ever do. Right now it looks like if you can't see him in person, is he willing to just text and skype? And do the parents have problems when he comes to visit here? Or perhaps they don't know about those. They could give the ultimatum that you can't see him even when he visits your area. Basically, you've got to decide how important school is to you. A skill or trade or several skills or trades is what is needed to survive in todays world, cus just from people I know, those are the ones finding jobs. It could be different elsewhere

So Im 18 years old, and female,and have a boyfriend. But there is a friend at school who I hangout with. He is always flirting with me and when Im at my locker he is always looking at me. He is really cute, and I kinda like him too. But I still have a boyfriend. I don't want to break my boyfriends heart, What should I do?

Is he aware that you have a boyfriend?
Don't make any rash decisions. Let #2, know you are dating currently. If you become single, you will let him know. Right now you can only be classmate friends just as you are with everyone else, nothing more.

People date either because it's just the social thing to do, or because they are using the dating venue to seriously learn about the opposite sex, learn what they like and don't like, and what kind of guy would make the best match for a long term committed relationship, whether legally as in married or not...no matter how far in the future it is.
If reason two is why you are dating, then give the first guy all your attention. Learn what you can about him. Do you feel that spark with him. How does he treat you. Is he respectful, encouraging, romantic? What is it that is important to you? You can not expect to change a guy to become the right guy for you, either he already is that without any changes needed, or he is not. If he is not right for you, or you find yourself feeling bored or indifferent towards him, then perhaps its time to move on.

One thing you need to realize is that whenever you or a guy gets to the point you realize you no longer want to be together for whatever reason, then staying together in order to not hurt or break someones heart is not a good reason to stay together. There is no way to avoid someone having their heart hurt in a break up, its one of the things everyone has to go through because its highly unlikely that someones first date ends up their marriage or life partner. It happens but not very often.

So evaluate how you feel about the 1st boyfriend. How long have you dated? Has it been enough time to get to really know enough about him. At this age, many guys aren't going to completely have it figured out how to be a good boyfriend yet. But some do know how to be a real good best friend to a girl and yet also the two be romantically attracted to each other.

A word of warning: Don't let yourself get addicted to the feeling of attraction and flirting of new relationships, a heightened sense of feeling during the beginning of each relationship called NRE, new relationship energy. NRE will feel like something addictive, like a drug, that once it wears off, you leave one guy to go to the next to feel that same high.

Right now, you don't know enough about #2 to know if there is really anything in common besides being mutually attracted to each other. In life, you will find that often you find your body and senses responding and feeling attracted to many men at the same time, whether you are single, dating, or married. It's something that can't be turned off, its part of what we are as sexual creatures.

So we need to learn what counts beyond initial attraction and romance, and that would be who he is on the inside and how he treats you. Is he the closest best friend you've ever had, does he treat you like a princess, does he know you and all your moods, feelings wishes, dreams, and desires really well? Thats the ultimate goal you're looking for. Let each guy you date be a stepping stone of getting closer to that.

So could u loose your virginity by using a dildo, and sticking it up your vagina?

I am glad you asked. Your question shows you are really thinking things out. There is no easy yes or no because 'virginity is a social construction and very little of the word is based in reality. Read on and I will explain.

At what point does anyone lose virginity? Is it something being lost or is it sexual experience and expression being gained?

It is better to call puberty, and intercourse with a sexual partner and everything else in between: your Sexual Debut!!

It isn't a one time act like a show on stage only one night. Rather this evolves over time and contains many stages. Step one is being comfortable with yourself, getting to know what your own normal musky sexual smell is like, using a mirror, discovering what you look like, use your fingers to go exploring for more than inserting a tampon and of course, using a dildo and, discovering what the cervix feels like or your g-spot. Give yourself orgasms. Once you know what exactly works best for you, it will be easier to explain that to your partner when you have one later.

I have a couple of great short videos 3-4 mins. both by the same gal, Laci Green age 23 ish, Very funny and entertaining but you learn a lot and she had her facts down straight. She does the research. In fact Planned parenthood on the east coast has used her to create videos and work with them for a while.
She has many many informative videos on all subjects including gender types, proper hygiene, optional period products, birth control, dating and relationship related topics.... its a good place to start to self educate on the topic of sex and relationships.

Lets Lose "Virginity" (a social construction)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P-hUbI8my0Q

What Counts as Sex
http://www.youtube.com/watch?annotation_id=annotation_642239&feature=iv&src_vid=kdYtYveJI1Y&v=HEbrcB5JNhQ

Losing Your Virginity
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kdYtYveJI1Y

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