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Should I text this guy or not???
I'm a sophomore he's a senior and we started talking over text a little over a week ago over a period of about four days. We haven't talked since then. His friend that I'm friends with and I hooked up awhile ago we don't really talk anymore but he just randomly texted me and said I should text his friend and I said no tell Him to text me so eventually he did and we get along fine and everything I've just never said two words to him in my life so he asked me to hangout with him and I said sure. He was going to a party that I wasn't and he said we would hangout after because he said he was going for only a little bit so I got ready and as time went by I was getting more and more annoyed because he texted me almost at 12 and expected me to just come and meet him and I said I could but I'd have to wait ( to sneak out because my mom wouldn't let me out then) and he said well I don't think my friends are. gonna wanna hangout later and I was like whatever and he said if we wanted to hangout just us we could but I didn't want to do that like I barely know him and I just said that I was in a bad mood so do whatever you want and he was like ok lol that was like a week ago and we haven't talked since. I know I over reacted but I was just pissed in the moment because I felt he stood me up in a way and now I don't want to text him because it will make me look desperate and clingy especially after our last conversation even though I would hangout with him still so I don't even know what to say or do
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I'm not getting the best vibe from this guy. Only because of like you said, he pretty much stood you up and wanted to hang out that late.
It was fine to be in a bad mood, but what you texted him probably wasn't the best thing either because you don't know him that well and he'll probably think different of you, not in a good way. You already know that though.
So anyways, if you do plan on hanging out with him again, don't do it so late. Do it during the day. If he doesn't want to hang out during the day, then he's really not that serious about getting to know you..unless it's in a different way than you'd like to get to know him.
So if you think he's not that bad of a guy, and you'd still like to get to know him, then just text him. You can go ahead and say sorry for what you said even though he should also be apologizing but hey, you can't make people do that so just tell him you'd like to hang out.
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From the way you describe the situation, I already don't like the guy.
I am a pretty open minded mom, I had 3 daughters go through high school and told them if they wanted to date and got close enough to want to become sexually active it was okay by me as I knew so I could get them on birth control. And as long as I get a chance to meet and observe the guy to make sure he treats her well, not abusive. . . etc.
He talked to you first time a week ago, invites you to a party ( you werent going to) Why? Were you not invited? Is it a group of kids you don't like, or is it that mom would not be okay with you attending such a party?
Also I am clueless to whether it was a supervised party or just a wild anything goes type of thing where you may not have been safe.
If this guy is so interested in you and you didnt want to go or explained you couldn't, then why didn't he stay and spend the evening with you?
First, he didn't specify how long he meant by going there for a little bit. I don't know what time the party started, but if it started late to begin with, he shouldn't have made a promise he couldn't keep. If the party started early evening and he didn't text until midnight, he should have apologized and rescheduled for another day if time flew by too quickly for him. You and I cant prove it but he may have hung around longer cus there was a cute girl he was trying to hit on at the party. I understand how wonderful it feels to have a guy pay attention to you, I love it too. But when you make compromises with your own better judgement and rules of the house/or mom, all for the sake of a guy,
thats a dangerous place to go girl, cus what you are in fact doing is placing the guy on a pedastal, making him like a e God in your life, females will allow a guy to treat her like sh*t if he only says he loves her, he doesnt have to prove it in his actions...just say the words so guys will not have any respect for a girl and he knows which ones are desperate enough to have a little attention tossed their way, and maybe in the process, he can talk her into having sex with him even if shes not ready and he has no feelings for her, all he has to threaten is he'll dump her if she doesnt come thru so she does.
Too late...he already knows you are desperate because when he called and invited you at midnight, and no explanation as far as i know cus you didnt say, and rude to expect you to leave home at midnight and sneak out. When you said you could come, even at that point, he knew he had you hooked. But you had to wait to sneak out as I understand, I dont understand what his friends had to do with it all at his point.
Yes, he stood you up, yes you have a right to feel pissed, and yes you'd look even more desperate than he really thinks you are if you ccalled or texted. Probably why he was laughing, feels he's got the fish on the hook, its just a matter of time before he reels you in to do his every whim and wish.
My suggestion is that you wait for a guy who is interested in not dragging you to partys but wanting to get to know you, like your best girlfriend knows you. A guy who wants to know your hopes and dreams, your fears, passions, your morals, beliefs, etc.... Getting to know someone are really caring for and being there for someone is built up over time. Depending on the amount of time hanging out, that can develop in weeks, months or years. A party setting or sitting in a movie theater is not a setting for getting to know someone that intimately to become friends first. Nope this guy doesnt sound like he really cares about you.
Hey I could be wrong, this could be just one incident that went way wrong.
So observe him, how you see him treating classmates, teachers, siblings, parents, etc... What are his opinions and comments about other people behind their backs. It is always negative or does he say positive things. How does he treat you? Is he willing to hang out at your house? Meet your family? I am assuming your parents have met all your girlfriends. This should be no different. If you feel you left out some important info, you can write me. But i say take it slowly with him and be cautious and ready to dump him if he comes after you again and treats you in a similar manner.
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