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Stuck between two decisions
So ive been through a break up with my ex boyfriend and well after a month or two of me arguing and persuading him to give our relationship a try again he sai that we should meet up at the temple where we first met and that i can try to win him back again. So that day we figured that we still Both had feelings for each other and so we kissed and were inimate with each other. And 6 days passed and i felt like our relationship or well our interactions and conversations greatly improved because we began to joke around. Until yesterday night. I asked him what he was up to and he said that he was smoking and watching tv. Well he made it seem like he was joking but it wasnt clear if he was serious or not. Well smokin was te one thing he promised me on the first day we were together that he wouldnt do again. So i kinda just said how i feel and told him that i trusted that he wouldnt betray my trust and smoke again and that id be more hurt than mad if he did. And so he asked me are you guiltripping me? GG im out. So he was just pissed off. But i have heard from many people that he has smoked while the two months we were broken up. Pretty much ive been hasing after him and i feel like weve made progress the entire like 6 days but i feel like im back to square one again. And now im just wondering should i keep chasing after him to win him back? Because it just feels like im the one who's putting my feelings on the line and its so easy for him to just get up and leave me and result in me being hurt again. Im just scared. And what would happen if say we do get back together again? I dont want itto be just me doing everything i could to be with him. What do i do? Keep trying? Keep mysel motivated? I really love him though..
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No, don't keep chasing him.
You should never have to chase him or win him back in the first place. A relationship takes two and it shouldn't just be you doing all the work.
If you don't like it that he smokes, you just shouldn't be with him because he straight up told you what he was doing even when he knew that you don't like it and he had previously told you that he wouldn't. So he doesn't really care about your feelings.
This guy doesn't sound like the right guy for you. He gets mad over you bringing up a topic that you guys have talked about before, he tells you that you're the one who has to win him back, that's just not how things work.
So just forget about him, move on. There are guys out there that are so much better and will treat you ten times better than he will.
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