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I love my friend, literally. (Love Triangle)
Ok, so I have a boy friend (a frie d thats a boy) that im having trouble with.
You see, I have a crush on him, but so does my bff, who he likes back. To add to the mess, she sees him in 3 diffrent classes this quarter (last quarter was when i met him.)I only see him in 1 class.
My bff does not know and neither does he. I encourage them to date since my bff deserves it and they would be cute,but its a bit saddening for me. Plus I don't know how to at least show some friend to friend affection when I don't even see him. And I always turn into a puddle when he actually glances my way.
HELP ME WITH THIS MADNESS!
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Since his eyes are on your friend, you just have to move on. It's normal to be sad when the person you like, likes someone else, especially when it's your best friend.
So to be a good friend, and to help yourself, you need to move on.
Like Dragonflymagic said, look at the qualities of what you liked in him. You can find them in another guy. There are so many guys out there, so just keep looking and see if you can find those qualities in other guys.
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Since his interest is in your best girlfriend, then it would be futile to waste energy trying to catch his interest.
I know it won't help how you feel, but a life time is one giant learning process that never ends. At your age, socially you're learning what it feels like to be attracted to the opposite sex, its a time to discover how to talk to guys, how to understand them and their way of thinking, what it is actually that you like about a guy beyond the attraction stage.
Think of what qualities it is that you are attracted to in him. Are you finding that right now its surface level, you're attracted to blonde guys vs brunettes? Do you prefer a guy who smiles more or jokes more, how he dresses, sound of his voice. Keep track of these things and look for them in other guys. Since you say you melt into a puddle if he even looks at you...you need to get beyond that stage to get anywhere with guys in the future. Cus attraction is stage one, stage two is talking to, conversation. If all goes well at that stage, it progresses to casual dating, and from there to having serious feelings for each other and serious dating.
Maybe you might want to try getting used to talking to nice guys that you don't have a crush on first. It gets you used to talking to guys, knowing what they like to talk about, and all that without the mixed up fluttery feelings and emotions that make it so much harder with a guy you're gaga over. Once you have some confidence interacting with guys, when you meet someone you have interest in, tho nervous, you'll still have a bit more confidence to approach and talk to and say things to give hints you like him or do innocent flirting. If you ever need links to help for that in future, let me know. Good luck.
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