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Don't want to have sex on period?
so my bf and I have planned for ages that he would lose his V-card on his birthday.
However, I will be on my period then, and I don't fancy doing it.
How do I tell him, when he's been looking forward to this day for weeks, without making him feel disappointed?
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I think it's quite fair to say that women don't generally enjoy having sex during their period and you have a very sound reason for not giving him his birthday treat, as it were! You're not being childish or difficult or anything here. Tell him he'll have to hang onto it for a while...maybe pleasure him in an alternative way?? I'm sure he'll understand if you simply tell him. Don't think many guys would enjoy it either, certainly never appealed to me.
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Just straight up tell him you guys will have to plan it some other day.
He'll be disappointed no matter what. As long as he doesn't get angry or really upset or something, then everything should be fine.
Just tell him.
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Better tell him now so he can decide if he wants an early birthday present or a late one.
These things are stuff a person has no control over. Life tosses curve-balls at us all the time-- when things don't go as we imagined in our minds.
Disappointment is one thing. But if he decides to get angry at you because of it...my advice would be to make sure he never gets that privilege to have sex with you and dump him. You and your welfare and happiness should matter more to a guy than something that didn't go as planned in his mind. I had an ex like that. When things didn't go as he planned he dumped his anger out on all family members no matter if we were involved or not.
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