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Me and my boyfriend (16&17)have been together 5 months and we have started having a lot more sex in the past couple of months but sometimes even if it's amazing I don't know if I orgasm or not, I get to the point were I feel like I should but I don't all I feel like is I need a pee really badly but I don't know if that's it or not? Sometimes there's no issue and I know I wouldn't but when I get the feeling I should but I don't, also there was one time and he thought I had came but I didn't think I'd orgasmed and it was dark so I couldn't see, but that's the only time I might of physically cum'ed but it didn't feel as good as some other times, I'm not really sure what the question is but advise or something that says I'm normal or not?
The feeling of the urge to pee is normal because the g-spot is wrapped around the urethra where your pee comes out. This spongy feeling area will engorge with blood when stroked with a finger or two in a "come here' motion. Those muscles that hold back the pee will also hold back the orgasm from coming. So what you need to do is go empty your bladder before engaging in sex. Also, you might put a towel under you so you aren't afraid to wet anything. Then when you get to the point of feeling the urge to pee, let go and you will have your orgasm. Some women have connecting ductwork that allows their ejaculation fluid to flow into the urethra and out thus making one feel they have peed. Other women also ejaculate but the fluid drains into their bladder to be held instead of directly into the urethra. You can also do research on line for you tube videos that teach about all the types of orgasm and what to do to achieve them. There is clitoral orgasm, g-spot which is the upper wall of vagina about 2 inches at the most in, a spongy area that swells with stimulation. Then lastly, I have heard that there is the A-spot which is also the upper wall of vagina the side closest to your navel. This spot will be right in front of the cervix. If you have felt with your fingers, the cervix kinda feels like the tip of your nose. This one can also be stimulated, maybe not by fingers but use of sex toy but also by the penis. And I know for myself that often when this Aspot is triggered, it also triggers a secondary orgasm from the g-spot which results in release of the female ejaculation fluid, known also as gushing or squirting. Even if your body isnt built to do that, the walls of the vagina will still ooze a thicker lubricating fluid and can produce quite enough of that to make a wet spot.
I will post two videos by Univ. of Ore. Health Ctr on a lecture about Orgasm. The physiology of it and the diagrams and models used help explain much better than what any health class in high school could.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WVL_GudwAOI
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BnEJ6bcVFsI&list=PLHROYgtRnnKAdSQWyUzdDDdkls81azAm2
So don't worry, you are normal. Even if any real pee did leak out a few drops, its nothing to worry about because urine is sterile.
18/f
So me and my bf have only just begun to have sex. Neither of us have had it much before before getting together.
My question is, how do you know if you have had an orgasm?! Also how do you achieve this? All I know so far is that its not been pleasurable the few times that we have had sex-I mean we were both nervous.
I know it sounds like a typical question here but I'd be greatful for anyone's advice because I'm worried it'll never be fun for us :/
Good question and I have the perfect video's for both of you to watch to learn about it.
A whole series of short videos on a talk about Orgasm 9 parts, by University of Oregon Health Center. Watch all of them. part 4and 5 have diagrams and actual models of both male and female parts to help explain how they work.
First one, on what is an orgasm. Then follow all the links on line for the rest.
Part 1
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zdgiy-xtIpo&list=PLHROYgtRnnKAdSQWyUzdDDdkls81azAm2
Part 4 0f 9
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WVL_GudwAOI
It could be hormonal cause iv just had the implant but this has been going on a lot longer than iv had it and I'm not liking the person I'm becoming, I feel like a complete cow to them but it's not my siblings as much it's mainly my mum and I talked to her about it and explained everything and she completely understood and for a few weeks after that it was fine but it's all starting again and it just feels like a cycle of us both getting our backs up to each other, we have all been through a lot in the past couple of months and it's quite serious stuff has happened but I don't want it to affect us cause we used to be really close but since she's been involved in everything that's happened I feel like we just don't like each other anymore, I agree that I am the type of person that needs space but she doesn't understand that but I do get my own space sometimes and stuff but if I'm with other people I never get that feeling I need space it's just her, she just pushes herself into my life too much and can't accept I actually don't like her and don't want her around BUT I do at the same time but within reason, cause I do love her sometimes.
Okay, you say it is something since before an implant. By implant, I assume you mean the IUD, intra uterine device for birth control. Some IUD's have hormones and some do the same work without. I dont know what they are called in the UK but I here the ads for the Mirena on tv the hormonal one. The copper one I used is called Paragard. You can check with your doctor to see which one you have. If hormonal, you might think of switching to the copper one.
So if you had issues before getting on birth control, it could still be hormonal. Just the changes in your body alone are enough to set off a young female and set her against another female as I think i said before. If it just got worse since using the IUD, then you definitely are not handling the extra hormones well.
I wonder how you and mom got along before puberty.
If moms behavior towards you was not an issue then, I'd say its the hormones only and to lessen the load of hormones flowing through you, change the type of implant you have. If its not a hormonal implant, then it is entirely your natural hormones. The side of effects on your emotions that make you react to select people, mainly mom, will subside over time as you get older. By time you are 18, 19, 20, hormones if they are solely the cause, will subside.
However, I think there are other things contributing now that you've said more. I can understand not liking her but at same time you love her cus she's family. That would be having two very different personalities that grate against each other when contact is too much. When contact is in smaller amounts, you can enjoy each other. For example, I have 3 daughters and love them very much but each one has something in their personality which after a certain point in time, it starts to irritate me. It wasn't the case when they were children but the changes of who they were becoming as young adults. I'd have to say it is part about bad habits, part the person they just are because of their sun/horoscope sign.
The thing to remember is we can't change others but only change ourselves. You already say you don't like the person you're becoming. You probably can't ever get to the point of really enjoying mom if you are two very opposite people, but what you have control over is how you react or respond. It will be very stressful at times having to interact with her but look at it as great character growth opportunity cus the world out there can be a harsh place and someday you may have to work and interact with co-workers or a boss who sets your nerves on edge.
Or you can choose your other idea to leave and find another place to live. How about making that last choice and giving this challenge a try, to see if you can muster some self control, not talk with sharp, mean words when frustrated, not raising your voice, not responding when egged on to engage in argument, or whatever the situation is. You will be an adult soon enough, so perhaps mom is attempting to be near you so much because she already worries about the time you no longer will live at home. Ask her if she's thought about what it will be like once you're out on your own.
I wonder if you are the oldest of children or the youngest, both are hard on parents when these kids leave home, the first cus its something new and scary even for them, the last because once that one leaves, it's an empty nest.
I did say it would be stressful. If mom is coming at you when you are already overstressed from your day or anticipating a test at school or whatever, you might get mom to agree to give you lets say 10 mins. time before she returns. Just say, Hey mom, can you give me 10 more minutes to myself before you come to talk,...this is when she comes into your private space.
During that 10 minutes, here's what i suggest to prepare yourself to be in a better mental and emotional state, to handle her. You have to release stress and raise the levels of "feel good" hormones in your brain and our bodies are capable of producing them quite easily and quickly. These would be main
If you have music in your room, or computer with favorite songs on it, put on your head set and listen to a couple. Not just any music. Start collecting a list of "feel good" MUSIC. These will be songs where the melody, (not the words,) have a great effect on you. What you feel is closest described as your heart beginning to feel light like its' floating in your chest, as if its a balloon about to float away. This is one of the things I feel also when I am with my husband, or when first meeting a guy I really like, same hormones being released.
Music is the fastest way I know. Movement and exercise helps release the same hormones, so dancing, running, I even pretend to skip rope indoors. But it takes lots more exercise and dance before I get same effect. Good strong bear Hugs help raise these levels which you might keep in mind for other situations, and laughter, comedy but theres no time to really view enough of a comedy act on line to get the laughter going, and thats why I suggest using music. I have several songs that get this effect for me. One for example is Clocks by Coldplay. I can't help but begin smiling as I listen to it. Its not the words but chord progressions and sounds that help. This may help you to be able to handle mom.
Another choice would be going for counseling if that doesn't work. And lastly, the moving out solution. Hope this helps you some. Blessings and have a great holiday season.
once on here i asked a question called What Will Happen to Topix when it expires and i searched for it in the more results section but couldnt find it anywhere so if youre DragonflyMagic please answer this question and post me a link to the one i was refering to
I have never heard of topix. Perhaps there was a link to topix on a link that I provided.
I put in a search for the word topix and too many varying sites come up so I really have no clue what to tell you. There is one called topix official site
www.topix.net
Hope that helps
Me and my boyfriend first started datin in jube but we broke up in july and then we got back together in october. So everytime I'm around him or in the same room, I get/ feel nervous. Why?
It's hard to give you an answer as to why, when I do not know anything about you, or him or the situation. If I told you that I have a stomach ache right now and I am asking you why, could you answer me? No,,,because you lack details. Maybe I ate too much sweets, maybe I worry too much and have a stomach ulcer.
I can only take a wild guess that you are a young teen so if your'e much older please dont be offended.
Young teens are often nervous because dating and relationships are all very new to them. So you could be nervous just because this is all new to you and not knowing what to do and not being able to understand whats going on or know how to respond can make a person feel very unsure of themself and nervous.
If you have any more specific question and details about your situation, I'd be glad to try and help give some answers more precise to your exact situation.
I'm a girl of 16 in uk and I just can't get along with my mum and siblings, I love them to bits but everyday all the time they just wind me up and they don't realising they are annoying but eventually I reach the same conclusion every night- I need to get out and away from them, I don't want to stay around them anymore, every conversation results in an argument or somebody getting upset, we are just so uncompatable, my boyfriend and friends have said I can stay with them whenever I like but is I dunno if it's just a better idea to get my own place? I don't want to intentionally hurt their feelings and I know that it will if I move out cause they love me but I can't stand them... I just can't take it anymore I feel like it's all building up inside and one day I'm just gunna snap really badly and regret it, advise or an answer would be great?
I am thinking that one possibility may be that even if you got your period years ago, at 16 the hormones levels can still be running very high and your body not used to it yet. The hormone will make any teen girl feel its effects mentally and emotionally. One effect is being more easily irritated, especially towards other females, such as mom, female siblings of any age and female friends, easier to anger, also get upset and cry much easier for little or no reason at all.
If this is the reason, then of course they wouldn't think they were doing anything to cause it because in essence, they are not. It is something internal in you.
Another could be that your personality and astrological makeup could be such that you're a person who needs their own 'space', or own private 'bubble' time away from contact with any other human just to recharge, while the rest of your family are not like that, don't require it and so can't imagine what is irritating to you.
I dont believe going to live with friends or finding a way to move out on your own is a solution. If either of my two guesses are correct as the cause, then eventually no matter who you live with, it will become an issue with them also if there is no understanding between you.
I dont know what you have discussed with mom, but try to explain to her how you are feeling and you want her help to find ways to deal with it, especially if it is related to hormonal issues or needing your private bubble. If one of these is the cause, then discuss with mom a key phrase you can announce to her or siblings with their agreement to respect the ground rules you all have decided upon. Rather than issueing a statement of "I feel I am about to lose it" try for a more positive phrase. "I need some space or i need some bubble time" Pay attention to how you feel just before you are overwhelmed with any of these feelings. At the moment you issue your warning, all conversations with you should be dropped at the moment and you retreat to a designated area or a particular activity in which no one is to approach you to talk or join you to even watch. If it's reading a book and you able to get lost in a book while in a room full of people, then great! thats' your private time and everyone should respect it. Getting out to see friends is good too but shouldn't be your only choice. Going to your room and putting on a headset to listen to some music or whatever is good too. If you share a room with a sis, then mom would need to enforce sister staying out of the room long enough to give you some private time. If you think it may be something else causing this or have anything else to add where I may able to help better, let me know by going to my column and clicking link to 'ask dragonflymagic'
1. if you meet a man after your mensuration and eventually took in will you still see your ovulation?
Yes, your choice of question structure is hard to understand. i am guessing that you want to know if a female has had a period, and then has sex with a man, will she ovulate again and have another period after that? It all depends on whether you get pregnant or not. Not using any protection against pregnancy, any birth control means there is always a chance you could become pregnant.
I will share a link to Planned Parenthoods short cartoon video that explains a womans cycle and under what circumstances she can become pregnant.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WRpKabYJ8bU
13-f
I just wanted to know if this is 'addiction'-
Sometimes (about twice a day now) I sneak into our medicine cabinet to get some ibuprofen pills (3-5, but the most I've ever had is 26 at one time). I don't really know why, but I tend to grab more pills after a stressful day than a good one, and they just make me feel.. better, in a way (I have no physical pain or need for them, though). Sometimes I ask my mom for Nyquil and pretend to be sick (because I'm afraid she would know if I just took it, but I've only done this twice in this past year) and get some just because I feel better and peaceful afterwords.
Is this addiction? If so,what is the deadly dose of both of these medications? (I swear I'm only asking that because I don't want to accidentally kill myself)
Is this addiction?
other info-
I've had depression/ social paranioa (I think every one secretly hates me) for a few years.
I will add that I have heard doctors say all my life that too much ibuprofen, tylenol or aspirin or other pain killers are all hard on the liver and can hurt and damage your liver.
Since you say you really did feel better, your depression may be one that you can do things yourself to raise the levels of your neuro transmitters in your brain.
Naturally treating Depression, low levels of Serotonin and other hormones
When the levels of neuro transmitters in our brains dip too low or are non existant, people will be depressed....Depressed levels of the hormones that most of peoples bodies can naturally create.
What is a neurotransmitter? A neuro-transmitter is a chemical messenger that carries, boosts and modulates signals between neurons and other cells in the body.
Many people just need the right environment, a certain input into their life for these hormones to be self produced but others have a malfunction and no matter what positive steps they take, their body is incapable of producing these hormones naturally and so they must take artificially created hormones in the form of a prescription drug prescribed by a doctor to bring up those levels. Why take a prescription drug if your body is perfectly capable of bringing up those levels on its own? Its just lacking the right ingrediants. The best way to find out if it helps is to try the steps that will raise the levels of hormones such as serotonin and oxytocin naturally. If you do not find any improvement, then you need medical intervention.
Here's the things that help.
Scientific research has found that when people hug or kiss, levels of oxytocin rise because more are created. If you study 'Hugging therapy' online, you will discover that people need a certain amount of hugs daily for those levels to rise. One hug a day is not enough and almost all of us never even get one a day let alone one a week. One thing to keep in mind is that one cannot give a hug without getting one in return. And another thing to keep in mind, a short weak half hearted hug will not be strong enough to start creation of oxytocin, you need the full body, hard long genuine bear hug to begin to feel the effects almost immediately.
Another thing to combat depression is movement. Many people when depressed dont want to do anything but lie in bed all day. Inactivity will not help. Movement will and can come in different forms. The quickest most effective ones that don't require a long time invested are running, jogging, jump roping, skipping, dancing. Just skipping rope 5 minutes or dancing to one song will already have a positive effect. More is better.
Sound energies and the vibrations it carries have long been known to have positive effects on a person's wellness. The vibrations from sound are used as one therapy in something like the Tibetan bowls, crystal bowls or gong therapy.
Music is a more widely used and available therapy. Both listening to and singing along are great therapy that can raise your feel good hormone levels quickly. The key is the melody more so than the words, remember, its sound therapy. I look for the melodies where when I am listening, it makes my heart feel lighter like a balloon about to float out of my chest. Thats the best way I can describe whether a particular melody is having the correct effect on you. A personal example would be Clocks by Coldplay. I can play that a couple times and my mood is immediately lightened.
Laughter and humor. The sayings “Laughter is the best medicine” or “A merry heart doeth good like a medicine.” are not just cute but meaningless sayings. There is truth behind it. Laughter will create and release the feel-good hormones in you, and especially so if it is prolonged laughter, such as watching a comedy act or a good comedy movie and not the light chuckle or two but the more effective belly ache laugh where your eyes start crying and you feel you have to pee.
We live today in a world that is harsh and cruel instead of peaceful and harmonious. Our brains require the use of lots of neurotransmitters to help us be able to handle the onslaught of daily stresses. The hormones get used up on a daily basis without us replenishing them, like the taking of a daily vitamin. Think of it as needing your daily H vitamin, happiness vitamin or hormone-inducing vitamin. So many of us are going for days without having any neurotransmitter hormones to help us cope mentally with daily life. After so many days, we finally have a break down and can not function any longer and that break down is depression. So give this a try. If it helps, continue to try and get some form of vitamin H therapy in each day. If not, go see a doctor.
Hello, I need help with my relationship with my mother. I am 18 and I feel as though we are growing more distant and hostile towards each other. I feel as though every time I do something wrong (which I will freely admit I am guilty of), my mother and I over react to each others response and it just ends in a shouting match. We continue to do this (and have done so for years) and I can certainly say it is not pleasant for either of us. It has gotten to the point that I am reluctant to talk with her as it almost always ends with one of us upset and angry at the other.
I am not writing this because they took my phone or Xbox or something and I am just complaining because they are unreasonable. I'm here because I need some genuine advice on how to communicate openly with my mother about why this always happens.
I know I am not the perfect son, but I feel as though the instant I do something wrong, we just get into it.
I can't stand to be angry all the time anymore.
Some questions to ask yourself:
Has this developed slowly over the years? Or is it more recent, Do after a particular event in your lives? Do you have similar problems with relationship with Dad? You did say they, "not writing this because they took my " so I assume they are both still married living in the same house.
Have you tried asking your Dad what he sees going on and whether there is anything you can yet improve on? Perhaps you apologize and admit when wrong, but tone of voice, facial expression, and body language can send the opposite message no matter what was said.
And what about mom and dad, do they also get into shouting matches with each other? If they do, then neither of them have the skills to properly negotiate through disagreements, nor have the self control over their emotions and still have some maturing themselves to do. Just because someone is a parent doesn't mean they have mastered everything yet and may be lacking in some abilities relationship wise.
If your parents know how to calmly talk things out with each other and mom only loses her patience with you, then she only knows how to control her temper in certain situations but not all and therefore still has that to conquer while you must be doing something that still sets her off. Your dad should be a good person to ask if theres something you can improve upon.
If on the chance he agrees you are handling yourself politely and reasonably and mom is the one reacting but doesnt know why, or he just would rather not know and ignores it, then theres a problem.
Mom may have PMS, pre menstrual symptoms and you just never noticed until more recently, and she may have gone all her life untreated for it. If severe, it can last in duration for the 3 weeks she is not on her period. I knew a woman like that, hard to get along with. Or she may have a mild case of mental illness. Many have it mild enough to still handle job and regular life but the frustrations and pressure has to be released at some point and they take it out at home with family members.
No matter what the cause is of the problems between you and mom, counseling would be the best way to go in either situation.A woman who did not part on friendly terms with an ex, may subconsciously begin to harbor resentment towards other men, or in particular to a child who reminds her of the ex, in looks, or maybe personality and mannerisms. It would not be the fault of the child but deep issues the mother needs to get counseling to have dealt with.
can improve and willing to work on it. If she is not willing or you are not, theres isn't anything that can be done to improve your situation.
But you both have to be willing to admit there is a problem, both willing to admit you
there is this tutor I work with in the tutoring lab in college. She's great and a wonderful person to be around with. She is about 28 and I am 22 and she is engaged, My class ended a few months ago but I saw her around campus when I was going to meet up with a friend recently and chatted with her
now I find myself going out of my way to that location just so I can hopefully see her and talk to her again. Is this creepy?
If you are having to ask that of yourself, then deep down, your subconscious mind is having issues with the situation.
Just as there is Yin/yang, positive and negative in the world, there is also a healthy and non healthy way to respond in your situation.
A healthy way to handle your infatuation/attraction is to write a list of what qualities it is about her that you are attracted to...and then look for that in another girl who IS unattached.
Wouldn't you rather have those same feelings for a woman who has the same feelings for you back?
Forgive me if this is off the mark...I am only guessing but with sociology, this is a possibility, that subconsciously you seek out a female who is not available because she is safer. She is a safer person to gain some practice communicating with females, gain some confidence and experience without possibility of bungling up an opportunity with an available female due to inexperience.
All of us start out as inexperienced at understanding the opposite sex or anything about dating and relationships so at this age, there may be mistakes you make...and thats okay, as long as: 1. You own up to mistakes and apologize and
2. You learn from the mistakes and don't repeat.
Running into someone accidently that you have a crush on and talking is fine. However, when you begin to go to the same location over and over in hopes to see her, you must ask yourself why? What purpose does it serve? It does not help you move forward in life and really gain any good dating experience.
All you get to do is savor the feelings that come up when you're near her but you do not get in any actual practice, working on a relationship. Plus there is a chance of making her feel spooked or nervous or feeling pestered by unwanted attention, and that is unfair to her. She likely won't say anything because she is a kind person. I am much like that, hate to say a harsh word, more nurturing and caring. But there have been a couple instances in life where I was pestered to my breaking point and then I had to say something much harsher to the person but hated being pushed into the position of having to do so to get my request across. You don't really want to do that to her, right? Be friendly if you bump into her, but don't put energy and effort into trying to see her, as there is nothing than can come of it.
If you find you can not keep yourself from "stalking" her as you call it, and it bothers you enough, you might try talking to a school counselor and perhaps getting some professional counseling.
Im pushing my boyfriend away. Im 16 hes 17. We been together for 10 months on December 2nd. I have a BAD JEALOUSY problems and bad TRUST issues. Hes cheated on me before in the past. Im trying to trust him again and I do then I stop again. We fight so much. Im always mad about something, him texting this girl everyday. He comments on instagram photos saying to text him and stuff, ofcourse im going to get mad. Hes my bestfriend so how can I stop this? How can I stop pushing him away?? Please help me I don't want to lose him.. I need as much advice as I can get!!!
A lot of your issues are 'age-related'. This is a time in life when teens are just starting to explore the realm of relationships and dating without any clue as to what they are doing, just going by letting their 'feelings and emotions' lead them, and that method of learning comes with lots of frustration and pain cus thats the school of hard knocks. Although I will say that there are older adults who too have problems with jealousy, trust in relationship, commitment, communication problems, etc... One hopes that with age will come a maturity to know how to go about relationships better but thats not always the case.
However the best thing I can advise is reading books on dating, relationships, the differences between men and women intellectually...how they think.
Also take time to focus on you. Do you compare yourself to other girls? If you do, thats the wrong thing to do. There is no such thing as one girl or guy better at something than the other, just "different". We have different talents, weaknesses, hopes, dreams, morals. You need to ask yourself first Want is it I need in a friend or boyfriend. And then ask what is it you want.
Needs are different from wants. A need is something you will not compromise on. If the person you are considering does not have the maturity level yet to be able to fill that need, then do not associate with the person, whether a girlfriend Or a boyfriend! For me, in considering my 2nd husband, some needs were someone as talkative and good communication skills as me, trustworthy, honest, open-minded, spiritual, thinks for his-self instead of following the crowd. The wants were just the icing on the cake, not necessary but would be nice. I like to sing so it would've been nice if he liked to sing too but he doesn't. I wanted a guy with long hair and he's got long hair. The needs are the crucial part. Once you know what you are looking for, learn how to recognize when a guy has or does not have those traits. If he doesn't, dont be wasting your time with him. Your jealousy will come from comparing yourself. The way to get over that is to realize that once a guy is mature enough to go looking only for that one girl who is everything he needs and wants, he will looks for only that and there is no other girl, no matter the size of her chest, her looks, her wealth, etc...that will catch his attention and make him want her for he is wired to only want what you have. Of course he must gain this confidence in you by how he treats you, desires you, confirms with words how he feels about you all the time. It doesnt just happen without any input from him. I dont know the issues of what is was that you termed "cheating", but i will say that for any relationship to work, it takes maximum effort from both parties to make it work. If you begin to work on your self to mature and have a better self image, self worth and understand relating to guys better, he must be doing the same thing. It cant be one sided.
There is no real relationship possibilities if you two can't talk it out face to face where you have cues from facial expressions and body language. Let him know how you are feeling lack of trust and realize you have some jealousy to work out. (jealousy is a fear of losing something)
You might discuss having better communication between you and even set up some ground rules you both agree upon for your relationship. Such as if he promised to help his buddies sister with a homework assignment in a subject he's an ace at, then knowing that she is a teen girl that you could possibly feel jealous of if you discovered he spent some time with her, it is best for him to let you know ahead of time that he has promised to help. If he is trustworthy and his character is to be helpful to people and he has no romantic interest in this girl, then if you can't handle the fact he is going to help her with homework, then it is entirely your issue and you can't blame him for anything. Communication is key in any relationship. Start sharing but not placing blame. Start sentences with I feel, rather than You did, or You make me feel...
i was wondering that Winnie the Pooh has been popular for years the shorts premeired on tv in the late 1960s and in the 1970s came the Many Adventures of Winnie the Pooh in the 1980s it was the New Adventures of Winnie the Pooh in the 1990s there were Winnie the Pooh movies such as Seasons of Giving and Poohs Grand Adventure the Search for Christopher Robin and in some parts of the 2000s there was the Tigger Movie Piglets Big Movie and Poohs Heffalump Movie and in 2011 the last Winnie the Pooh movie was released but after that nomore Winnie the Pooh movies came out and yes Winnie the Pooh still has his recognition but he is not on tv anymore not even on Disney Channel or Disney Junior why is that i wonder .
Whether Winnie or some other cartoon or show, the networks look for the popularity of a certain show or types of shows in deciding what to air or not. I dont know how they are able than what I list, I'd be glad to helpo tell how many viewers are tuned in at one time but that technology is there never the less. I just watched the Winnie thanksgiving movie on line around Thanksgiving and enjoyed it. Sometimes, thats the best way to continue to enjoy some of our favorite shows, cartoons.
Here's the Winnie the pooh Christmas movie from a post on You tube.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MTcp2IL3WMo
or better yet, the you tube channel for all Pooh bear videos
https://www.youtube.com/user/WlNNlEThePooh/videos
i am a 11 year old boy and my gf is 12 she wants to have sex some of my friends who have done it before say i should i don't know what to do
The desire to explore ones sexuality hits when going through puberty. The overload of hormones flooding the body are responsible for the desires, the horny feelings.
Rather than just re-acting to the feelings, both you and her, the best way to go is to educate yourself. There is a lot of information on the internet regarding sex, how women become pregnant. Now is the time to learn anything and everything. It is a young age to begin having sex. Your friends are answering most likely out of feelings too...do it cus its 'FUN!'. Yes its enjoyable. But as a guy, one thing you should know is that young girls who haven't started a period yet, can get pregnant because ovulation will come before her first period. These are things to study and learn about. Also, young girls ages 10-15 when they first get a period, about half of them or more will not get a regular monthly cycle for about one or two years. The timing between, length of period and density to flow will vary all over the place. You wont believe how many girls write in who are afraid they are pregnant, when it is either stress that is causing period to be late or the fact of her being very young. I would suggest waiting a few years until you are older and doing lots of study now instead, and enjoy masturbating. There is a lot more to our sexuality than just the penis in the vagina part of it.
There is also a great responsibility that comes along with it.... You must be responsible enough to prevent contracting or spreading disease by use of condoms. There are ways a girl can get pregnant if relying only on condoms cus parts of your sex play will include mutual masturbation which can transfer cum or precum to her vagina, a time when you are not yet wearing a condom...so if she is ready to start having sex, and will not consider waiting until older, then it's best she get on some more reliable birth control. She should go to Planned Parenthood. the laws will protect her privacy and parents will not be told.
I have a you tube site I recommend to teens, done by a college age girl who at one point did videos for Planned Parenthood. She is funny, entertaining, videos are short but the info. all right on and its a good place for both of you to start watching. If you ever want some suggestions for other sites, let me know, I'd be glad to help.
https://www.youtube.com/user/lacigreen/videos
Can i kiss my boyfriend if i have a cold sore on my lip?
No, you can not kiss when having a cold sore. Another name for cold sore is Herpes 1. Estimates are that 70% of people, even children and teens have it.
Please educate yourself on it by reading some sites that discuss it.
http://www.buzzle.com/articles/how-long-are-cold-sores-contagious.html
and
http://www.treatcoldsores.org/are-cold-sores-contagious-how-to-keep-from-catching-or-spreading
According to these and other sites I looked at to be sure of the latest info on it, they still say it is contagious at the early stage of just a tingling sensation, before the sore develops.
Learn to pay attention to the signs from your mouth and when you even start to feel a tingling sensation from a particular area, refrain from any kissing or any contact of your lips on any other part of the body. I remember my mom getting cold sores when I was a kid but she refrained from kissing then cus it was painful.
Now we know more about it and must not kiss even earlier in its stages. My husband of 4 years has the cold sore/herpes 1. When he feels the first tingle, he warns me and we refrain from kissing until it has gone thru its cycle and is totally healed.
Yeah, I know its a bummer. And when I know I can't kiss the husband, I want to kiss all the more. But I certainly don't want to catch the virus.
I am rahida, 26years old. I am suffering from civiere breast and stomack pain before periods date. And also late periods..
Whenever severe pain is one of your symptoms, the best thing to do is go see your doctor. If you do not have health care and can't afford to, then your next best thing would be to ask your question of an on line Dr.
They can only say by what symptoms you give them what it might be but it will Not be an actual diagnosis. An examination needs to be taken of you before they can do that.
However, here is a site more properly able to give you a list of possibilities. You can also do a search for other medical advice sites.
http://www.justanswer.com/sip/medical?r=ppc|ms|4|Health%20-%20Pearl|Medical&JPRC=1&JPKD=30180102045&JPDC=b&JPAD=1862416616&JPKW=medical%20questions%20free&JPRQ=female%20health%20questions&JPAF=txt&JPCD=20130107
i know Lightof Truth cant do it but can you Dragonflymagic im wondering becuase i remember posting it and attacking a user called MissyMeliss and the answer would have been too embarrising to read in order to know what it is im talking about please type it in on your computer in the more results sectiobn and click on it and have it erased if you can do it thank you and make this question visible
This should be the answer to your question which I found under Miscellaneous and then titled
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i asked a question on here called has Tyler Perry stopped making those movies and what i really want is an answer also i would like Dragonfly Magic to answer it thank you .
Hi Hon. Thanks for having so much faith in me, but I do not even own a TV. Even when I did, I watched so little of it. So I don't follow any stars or Hollywood news.
I still feel the internet offers so much information if one will take the time to do the searchs. Here's one Tyler Perry fan site, a better place to ask your questions, because of all the other people who are members, there'll be others who have the same question as you and now have an answer.
http://www.tylerperryfans.com/cgi-bin/login.cgi
I am sure with a little time and checking out one by one, you will find a place for fans where you can get up to date information.
I feel like I'm growing up and I'm going through a transition in which my values are changing. I'm starting to feel extremely distant from my friends who I once loved dearly, especially my best friend who is in the process of taking on a new boyfriend. These friends who 4 months ago made my entire life a joy now make me extremely angry and frustrated to the point in which I can't be around them because it gives me too much anxiety ESPECIALLY when alcohol is involved. I spend a lot of time alone but when the couple things I rely on besides people fail me, like music, my world falls apart. I also had a recent death in my family of someone I was very close with. Being away at college has been something I could rely on to escape the anxiety I feel about this family situation but right now I feel like there is nothing to make me feel better. I'm drifting away from my friends and I feel like a failure at life. Right this second I feel like I have nothing. It's not just my close friends that give me anxiety but people in general. When I get upset it surfaces as anger, frustration, and anxiety, probably making me an unpleasant person to be around. What should I do about all of this?
Sometimes it takes the death of someone you know and loved, to stop running your life on automatic, just cruising through life without giving a deeper thought to anything you say or do.
Its a normal process to discover a loss of joy in life, part may be due to death in the family, but it likely isn't the only reason. However it wouldn't hurt to know how to go through your grieving process properly. Someone loaned me a book when i lost a family member. The name of it is "Good Grief" by Lolly Winston and can likely still be ordered at your local bookstore and I checked and saw it on Amazon. I would highly recommend you reading that. Since you mentioned anger, that is one of the steps a person goes through in the grieving process but unless you are recognizing the steps and going through them in a good way, the right way, then you will end up stuck.
You mentioned alcohol use of friends as particularly disturbing to you. I can't begin to understand what it is for you about that which robs you of your peace. I know for me, if friends spent too much time focusing on drinking and partying, when I did not want to, then I would feel alienated from them because our current life goals are totally different from one another.
I made a major change later in life, where I found I was continuing to grow and mature. I found that because of my changes, I either had to pretend that what was important in their life and what they believed was still the same for me and be miserable while doing it, or be true to myself and follow the path I preferred to take and discover joy along the way.
That was a time I began to look for people with the same interests as myself.
A comaraderie and shared beliefs and values in which you're working toward the same goal is very rewarding. Once I felt the same thing you are going through, (I also lost a family member 4 yrs before beginning to make my major life changes) I began to look for those I felt reflected the same values and beliefs as i had now.
Its no fun going life alone, not having others in it because we as humans are basically social creatures. So its normal to feel another type of loss here, the loss of social commaraderie.
I'd like to share some truths in life to help you along your way.
One truth is: You cannot look for others with the same morals, values, beliefs as yourself until you have discovered what your own is.
Another truth is: You can not change another person to see things and live life your way. The only person you have control over to change is yourself so focus on that.
Another truth is: When you are Being true to your self, you will begin to attract to yourself others who have the same values as you.
Another truth is: it is Happiness, not Joy that comes from external occurrences in your life which are momentary and leaves you craving more. Happiness is fleeting, Joy is more permanent. Joy comes into existence by internal sources of contentment and inward peace, is long lasting, and therefore not affected by what comes our way.
Since the people in your life are external things, you will discover that trying to place joy in just people, places and things, does not last for long.
Pay close attention to what I say next because aside from learning to grieve a death properly, this will have the ability to make the biggest impact in your life.
For me, Joy is more about my mindset. I have two choices how to act or react or respond to any given situation in life. One way can be positive, one can be negative. At one time in life, my negative thoughts, led me about by my emotions which caused me to feel negatively, which causes joy to disappear and that caused me to take negative actions outwardly, such as anger. You see, it's a chain reaction that all starts with negative thoughts. I am not saying that we must abolish all negative thoughts in our life, just not invite them to stay and accumulate. Sad, unhappy, angry thoughts can come. Heck even Jesus had anger at a particular situation but it didn't color his actions making him an angry person in general for the rest of his life. Without any of our emotions, we would not be human but more like robots. Its our emotions that make us able to feel that make us human, our only problem is allowing them to get out of balance, not processing through them properly and moving on.
I hope this encourages you some, dear.
My dog is displaying conflicting behaviors. She growls sometimes when I feed her, but she has gone a long way to getting use to me handling her food. I fed her piece by piece so she's 90% use to me touching her food bowl now. She will growl at my girlfriend when she tries to touch her food bowl and I told her to do the same thing as I. Once we take the food bowl away she completely submits though, like she knows she did wrong, but couldn't help it. She will come to us with her lowered head and lower body and tail down and will put her head in between our legs. Today my girlfriend told her to sit and jump up before giving her a piece of treat ,which she ate and walked away, but when my girlfriend pet her she growled and barked. My girlfriend called her over and our dog laid down and displayed a submissive body language. What is going on? I am trying to figure out if she aggressive/fear aggressive/ or just has a strong attitude. She is a golden retriever shiba inu mix and I know that shiba inus are strong in attitude, so I don't know if that is just the shiba inu in her or what. She doesn't do that with me, maybe it is because I spend more time with her? I feed her the all the time as well as take her out to reliever herself. My girlfriend plays with her more though.
Sincerely,
Confused pet owner
Cesar Millan seems to be the all time expert on dogs with an owner as 'leader of the pack' style of training that works. What we think a dog will understand is totally different than how humans think. I no longer have a dog, but if I did, I would buy and study his book.
For advice from other dogs owners who have faced the same issues and found a solution, I would suggest posting a question also on the Cesar Millan facebook page.
https://www.facebook.com/cesar.millan
I do know this much, only one human can be taught to be the pack leader over a dog. Attempting to add a 2nd pack leader as in your girlfriend only confuses the dog. With a dog who is not sure yet as to who is supposed to be the pack leader, as in you or her, the dog feels scared and insecure. But as to what exact steps to doing in training the dog first to understand you are the pack leader and then as pack leader training the dog to behave a proper way with other humans, I do not know. Try the facebook site. I saw others post questions to get them answered by many other dog owners.
So I'm in high school and I have not been in school for a week and, right now im not at school but today is the school music concert. I'm so post to be in the concert, the insturment i play as a solo and everything, i sure they found someone else to play now. But i want to go to the concert and watch. Im not sure if i should like, I'm sick and have an infection that can get spread, i don't want to spread it to the student. And if i do go to the concert i will be in the back, i really want to go to the concert, but is it a good idea? i mean like dont say dont go because im sick, Im scared that if i go to the concert a srudent or teacher will see me (btw anyone relate to the town can go to concert) and when they see me they will ask me to play ? idk i just neet help!
Don't say don't go? Well, you wanted advice, so some of the stuff I cover is to give you things to think about so you can better make the best decision on your own and some of that will cover options based on the little I know of what you are ill with, and reasons why it is not a good idea to go somewhere public while ill and other thoughts regarding the concert.
First, you didn't say what you are ill with, so I have to answer based on several scenerios:
Perhaps your immune system is lower than others and this is not really a highly infectious thing but your body is weaker and so has reacted as if this was something contagious. I wonder if you are just guessing that what you have is contagious but haven't seen a doctor to have it confirmed.
Does your family have medical insurance? If you do and have been to the doctor, after a certain amount of time taking an antibiotic, even though still showing signs of illness, you may no longer be contagious to others. Check with your parents to have them call and check with the doctor.
If you have not been seen and treated by a doctor, my advice is to stay home based on the following:
Going to a public place when you have something that can be spread is a bad idea because many infections are air-born germs where you don't have to be next to the person or touching them for them to get it.
It's especially bad if the person catching it could be out sick for a week and miss that much school as you have or worse yet, an adult who misses that much work. And because an adult doesn't have that much sick time days to take off or none at all, likely, they will try to work some of those days so they don't lose that much money on their paycheck cus they can't afford that, and so the infection is spread even further to more people..
Where are your parents in all this? Are they even aware that you had a concert tonight? Perhaps they have forgotten. Are they even aware that you have a solo in the concert? And what about the band teacher? If they know you've been gone almost a week and have solo tonight, wouldn't you think they'd be curious to call your parents and ask if you will be there tonight? Something doesn't sound right. Have you had any conversations with your parents at all about this? Perhaps there has been some conversation between your parents and the school already and you are just not aware of it.
Perhaps the reason you are not aware of it is because you don't want to consider missing out on an opportunity to play a solo. That is a very big thing, whether a solo playing an instrument or a solo singing. All my daughters were in band and/or concert choir and all were never chosen for a solo and were always very sad when someone else was chosen.
So I understand how that is very important to you to not miss such an opportunity. Here's something else to think about. Is this going to be the only concert your band ever plays this year? I don't think so. All school bands perform many times in a public concert. You may have earned the solo because you are very good at your instrument. Who is to say that your teacher can not give you a solo in a future concert? Why not get on the phone, call the school and ask the band teacher to call and talk to you today? Let him know how much this means to you if this is why you are considering showing up while still being ill and contagious. Tell him that you don't want to spread the germs around but you also don't want to miss the opportunity to play solo tonight. So ask if he/she can promise to give you a solo in a future performance to replace this one? I don't see any reason why he/she could not make that agreement with you. If you have that promise, then there is no need for you to risk going.
As for the concert, a teacher can try to have another student play the part but if not confident in their ability to do so as well as you, there's always the option to have the band play the song without the solo, or drop the song altogether and play another. I have attended so many school concerts where the songs to be played listed in the concert program had a last minute substitution for reasons that were not explained and that the band leader announced to the audience before ie the concert began.
So you need to do some sharing of what you are feeling with people relevant to the situation, like your parents and band teacher and do so asap. If you don't want to call the teacher, call your parents at work and tell them and ask them to call. If its a matter of school being over for the day in a few hours and not able to wait for the parents to reach the teacher, do so yourself.
If, as you said its not doing the solo that is the important thing, but not wanting to miss hearing how the band does at the concert, why can't someone tape it for you?
With all of the technology available today, it should be easy for someone to tape it for you if you are too ill to go. Ask an adult or friend to tape it for you. Make sure it is someone who has video taped stuff before and has a steady hand. Or find out (probably by asking the band teacher) if it is going to be professionally video taped and request a copy from that person. You may have to pay enough to cover their expense of making a copy.
I hope this gives you enough to think about and take the best action possible.