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what should i do? i caught one of my male relatives cheating on his female counterpart and i need advice quick.

Talk to your male relative about it. Tell him that he needs to tell his girlfriend that he is cheating on her within a week or you will. If he gets angry at you, hey, he's the one that was not only cheating, but not doing a very good job of hiding it. Make sure he knows you're serious. Good luck.

I need a really good song that has powerful
lyrics describing loving someone or trying
to get over someone. I would rather have a
not as "well-known" song over an over-played
song. I don't care what genre and more than
one is good!

Thank youu!

I'm not sure it's what you're looking for, but "Konstantine" by Something Corporate is a great song that isn't terribly well known. Another one is "Last Beautiful Girl" by Matchbox 20. They're a lot ore complicated than this, but basically "Konstantine" is about holding on to a relationship that just isn't working out, but staying together because you just don't want to be alone and "Last Beautiful Girl" is about how when someone hurts you and breaks your heart you can't ever truly forgive them and things will never be the same between you.

okay this might be a little bit long.
but there was a guy called ryan who is a major jock and kept iming me and saying how hott i was and kept hitting on me. He staretd to text me too. 2 days ago, i found out that it wasn't really him, and that someone else made a fake screen name of him.

I really want to find out who really was texting and iming me. I have his Cell phone number. I tried going online and doing reverse cell phone, but it would only give me the City.
My friend tried calling him but wont answer.

How can i find out who it really was?

This type of passive aggressive behavior is usually something that a girl or group of girls would do to another girl. A guy wouldn't likely pretend to be another guy just to hurt you. I might even go so far as to say that it was definitely a girl or at least that a girl was involved. I think you should just let it go. Knowing who did it won't make it hurt any less. It could end up hurting a whole lot more. If you really want to find out who did it though, you know who has your screenname. Talk to each female individually about what happened and how sad you are that it wasn't really the guy. If they start laughing, you'll know it was them.

Oh, another clue for ya. Girls can't keep things to themselves. Whoever did this to you most likely shared it with at least one other person. Probably more.

So me and my boyfriend were making out and he was feeling me up and stuff, and we were obiously really close together. So while thats happening, I feel him start to vibrate. From his torso down I swear he was shaking or vibrating. My friend says he was getting off lol but wouldnt I have felt it since I was so close to him? it just seems kinda werid. I'll rate for decent advice

Maybe he was having an orgasm. Nobody on here will know for sure since we're not him and we weren't there. If it happens again just ask him.

i just started for the 1st time last month. and it's been over 35 days and i haven't bled or anything! All i'm getting is the clear stuff [i guess that's called discharge...not sure.] well i keep getting worried it's just going to burst out and i'm not going to know its coming. Is it just irregular? and sticking a tampon up there..not being on my period would it do any damage?

For the first few years it won't come every 28-30 days. It will come when it feels like coming. It may even decide not to come for a month or two. This is nothing to worry about! It is very rare for a girl to have a regular period right from the start. Don't worry about everything coming out at once. It won't. It's not backing up in there. Your entire cycle is just being delayed. It'll always come out at the same speed: pretty darn slow. If you're really worried and feel like you need something there to catch it just in case, don't wear tampons. Carry them around with you, but to catch it, use a pad. You can get them in really tiny sizes so you wouldn't even notice that you were wearing one. Tiny is all you'd need. It's not like you'd be wearing it for very long until you put the tampon in. Wearing a tampon probably wouldn't do any damage, but it would get very uncomfortable. The "clear stuff" is discharge. You'll get a lot of that halfway through your cycle (right in between periods) and possibly a lot of it again right before you get your period. If you miss a period the discharge will probably still come. Don't worry about the discharge. It's just there.

well i'm a teenage girl who is dating this amazing guy again (2nd date this weekend) and well, it's just that i've never really had a real relationship like this before and I'm not sure what i'm doing. After this weekend when I kiss him for the first time on our date, do I wait and see if he calls me? Or should I call him? (he says he'd call me about this weekend but he hasn't yet- even though i was the one who first asked him)

helppp me

Do whatever you want. There's no rules, you are completely free to conduct the relationship however you choose. If you want to talk to him and you miss him or you are worried about him CALL! There's no harm in it. If he's busy or not ready to talk he'll tell you and then at least you'll know. If he gives you a hard time about calling so be it. If you still like him and he's not actually mean about it, just annoyed, you'll now know not to call him in these circumstances. Your relationship just started. You need to experiment to find out what the right things to do are and what certain actions by him mean. You can't get it right every time so for now, just do whatever feels right. Good luck. :)

me and my boyfriend dry hump kind of a lot, and one time we did and he had boxers and athletic shorts on and i had just my underwear and stuff.. I have 3 days until it'll be a month since my last period. I almost always get my period 4-8 days before its scheduled on the exact day (i.e. the 6th), and we're kind of freaking out. i was wet down there and obviously he was a little bit too. i dont think it is, but is it possible to get pregnant from that? (under MY circumstances i mean)

No, you can't get pregnant through clothing. Especially so much clothing. Even though sperm doesn't die when it hits the air, it is still very fragile. It's not going to travel through cloth and then all the way up your vagina. Lots of people have a hard enough time getting pregnant as it is when they actually want to. Don't worry about this. You will get your period and if not, it didn't come for reasons other that this. Worry over whether you are pregnant can cause you to miss your period in itself because of the stress. There's no reason to get a pregnancy test. Just wait it out. You'll be just fine and you won't be pregnant. Good luck. :)

Everytime and Every guy I meet... ends up liking me. It's really annoying. I'm serious like whenever I want to be friends with a guy I just met he starts liking me when I found out the next day my friend just told me that. So how can I have guy friends without them liking me more?

When you get older. For now, hormones are raging and it's hard to be friends with a guy and for him not to want to bang you or vice versa. If it bothers you, just stick to being friends with girls until you're in 12th grade or so. You can also try being friends with guys that already have girlfriends. Don't worry, they will come around in a few years. Good luck. :)

15/f (Not Legal Age, Theoretical Question)

What happens when you drink alcohol and energy drinks together? The labels of energy drinks (such as Red Bull) always say 'Do Not Mix With Alcohol.' Why is this?

Thanks ! =)

Alcohol is NOT a stimulent it's a depressant! The first article explains everything really well. :)

http://studentlife.tamu.edu/adep/FACTS/alcohol/energydrinks.htm
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2001/11/011116065754.htm

Ok so my school has had lots of head lice in it. I got checked a week and a half ago, but was OK. Recently, however, I've noticed something. My head hasn't been itching abnormally frequently. I scratch it from time to time, which is true always. However, I've noticed that sometimes when I scratch it, it hurts. Does this mean I have lice? Should I get checked again? I was going to ask the nurse to do so today, but there was other people in the nurses office and I didn't want to do so in front of them. What should I do? I kind of want to get checked anyway. That way, if I'm clear, I can be relieved, and if I'm not, I can at least do treatments to get rid of it ASAP. What should I do? Thanks for answering a kind of gross question...

Have your mom or dad check. You don't have to be a professional to find head lice. If it's there anybody can find it. Remember too, that thinking about lice all the time will make you itch more even if you don't have it! You're probably just fine. :)

Does God punish you if you sin, or if you are planning on sinning.

Like if i know i'm going to cheat on a test, or if i already have, will God punish me by making something bad happen to me, or by makeing me get a bad grade or soemting along those lines?

If you're not caught, you'll be punished forever through guilt, so yes definitely God will punish you. Not necessarily directly through something bad happening, but in more of an indirect way. It's always best not to cheat. No matter what happens in your life or how bad you think you'll do, you'll always regret having cheated if you do. One awful test grade isn't going to destroy your life. Worst case scenario you'll have to take the class over again. That's not a big deal and it will teach you a lot to have to go through something like that. The guilt will always be with you for what you did if you cheat and you may even become disposed to cheating and start doing it all the time. There is no reason in the world to cheat. If something is wrong, talk to your teacher about it, they may help you out. Teachers can be surprisingly understanding. Plus, you have no idea how you will do anyway. You could end up doing really well and not have needed to cheat. You never know. Take your chances and try it without cheating. I really hope that you choose to do the right thing and remain as honest of a person as you can. Good luck on your test. :)

has anyone ever heard of or experienced dizzyness or nausea as a sign of pms, and no im not possibly pregnant, im getting my period sometime to night i can feel it and i was dizzy and nauseas before and in the mornings i dont even want to think about food. could any of these be a sign of pms?

It could be PMS. If it is, you'll need to get that taken care of. If PMS is making you dizzy and nauseous, that's a problem and you need to see a doctor. It's not normal pre-menstrual symptoms. Pre-menstrual symptoms are one thing, but actual PMS is a health concern that can get really severe to the point of PMDD. Even if it isn't PMS, dizzyness and nausea warrant seeing a doctor anyway. They could mean any number of really bad things. So, get to a doctor soon! Good luck.

on my treadmill, it says the number of calories burned as i walk/run. how accurate is that? i weigh about 125-127 and it said i burned 220 calories alternating between running/brisk walking/walking for about 20-25 minutes.

It's a rough estimate. It may be a little off since you are lighter than the average person. You can figure out how accurate it is here. http://www.ahealthyme.com/topic/calburncalc

26/f

My boyfriend is 29, we've been dating two years and we're getting married in three months. He has a nine year old daughter in another state. She doesn't know about me. He only visits her once or twice a year because she lives really far away, but he tries to call a lot and always sends money to her mom. I'm just scared because I've read articles about how a lot of kids have a harder time dealing with a parent getting remarried than they do dealing with their parents getting divorced in the first place! What's the right thing to do? I don't want to make her accept me as this new "mom" if she doesn't have to, but I also want to be honest, and I feel like I should get to know her if we're family now. The most important thing is that she's not emotionally traumatized... how can we do that?

It has been a few years so she has had a long tme to get over the fact that her parents aren't together anymore. Since she doesn't see her dad that much I don't think that she'll take it as hard as she would if she did. However, she's going to find out sooner or later that he got remarried right? I think it will be much more traumatizing for her to find out that he was ALREADY married to someone new instead of knowing that he was going to get married in advance. Give her at least a little time to adjust! The more the better. Waiting to tell her will only make her feel less important, more alone, and like her father doesn't feel like he needs to share some of the most important things in his life with her. That's not good. That's a worse feeling than knowing he loves a woman other than mom. It's better to let everything out in the open, that way you haven't done anything wrong and she has no one to blame. She may not like it, but she has nobody to blame. If you don't tell her, she will have someone to blame and she'll be even more upset. If she's just upset that he got married again, so be it. That's life and she'll get over it and move on. Let her do that without further complicating the situation.

what store can i buy liquid eyeliner at and can i have a picture of it i need a actuall store not website.

sevenmilliondown is right. Liquid eyeliner is not a luxury item. It is sold wherever makeup is sold. You can get it at WalMart for crying out loud. It might be difficult to find sure, but it's there.

i know this is random but...is there a actual disease were a guy can have both girl and guy traits

It's not a disease, but there are people that are hermaphrodites. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hermaphrodite

Theres this guy I have like since first grade. I really really like him; I was always hoping I would see him outside of school or whatever. Well, I never stopped liking him. He is in some of my classes. The only thing is, I think he does drugs. I know he smokes something or other. He gets in trouble all the time and stuff. I know I really really DONT want to go out with him, but for some reason I find myself going over there to say hi to him. I CANT make my self stop. Any advice????

Okay so you have a crush on him. That doesn't make him fit for a relationship. A relationship involves a lot more than just liking the other person in the way you like him. You shouldn't date people just because you are attracted to them. You don't like the decisions he has made and you don't like his way of life. So, you don't like him. Why date him? There really is no point. Don't get involved with this guy. It's not worth it at all. Your crush will go away eventually or be replaced by someone else. You can make a lot better choices about who you date than a druggie. The problem is you can't really help that you are attracted to him. Just know that it will go away and don't worry about it.

ok i am just curious
when a girl gives a guy a bj
why should she enjoy this?
i mean isn't just the thought of having his thing in her mouth disgusting? and swallowing his cum... wouldn't that just taste and make you feel disgusting?! i'm just wondering cause i don't get it at all why anyone would want to do that!

I used to think this way and I told myself that I would never do that to a guy. Things obviously changed. Oral sex is not selfish. When you are in a relationship with someone you can't be selfish. The whole point of a relationship is that you care about the other person. You need to treat the other person's feelings as almost as important as your own. You don't get anything out of it, no, but he does and you care about how he feels and work towards making him happy. He can of course do the same to you. Oral sex goes both ways. He can always do it to you too. Even though you get nothing out of it at the time, you get a lot out of it in the long run overall. He'll appreciate you, like you, and know that you care. So, in a nutshell, it's not disgusting when you're mature enough to understand it. Wait until you are in a great, mature relationship and you will understand it too.

Okay well I saw someone ask about nameing a star they bought... what does that mean? how do you buy stars? thnx.

my boyfirend and i dont have sex or do really intense stuff like that...but one time we were making out and his penis was right on my vagina and he had boxers and athletic shorts on and i had just underwear on...he was pressing on me pretty hard for no longer than 10ish minutes (it didnt go in me)..
Im pretty sure we both got "wet" but i dont think his could go through his shorts and my underwear...and then INTO me.

is there any way that i could get pregnant from that?

Always be prepared to say no if you even think there could be a risk. Why take that risk if you're not sure and then ask afterwards? Say no and don't do it until after you ask and find out that it's okay. In any case, no you can't get pregnant through clothing. The only issue here, other than not knowing if you were taking a risk or not, is that the more you do this type of thing, the more you will want to go farther and do more. You weren't very careful before so you may be disposed to not being careful in the future. So again, always be prepared to say no. Even if it feels good at the time, if you have a voice in the back of your head saying "this might not be safe" don't do it. Don't ever let things progress to unprotected sex. Unprotected sex in any circumstances puts you at a large risk for pregnancy.

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