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Hi,
I'll keep this short but this may not be the correct category.
I was adopted at twelve years old. Went to live with them that summer prior to my October birthday. Thus, I was eleven in their household. I was in a fosterhome and loved by my foster parents. Genuinely loved.
My parents by adoption never grew to love me. They use to tell me they loved me unconditional because they're super Christian Methodists. Of which they may not be truly saved Christians but that's not what I'm going on about. I never believed they loved me because of the constant mild neglect throughout all the years. Turns out although they had everyone fooled, I was right. They recently admitted it saying, "I never grew to love you as a child. I am so sorry! There's no room in me." The truth made me appreciative to have obtained. However, I'm bent out of shape. This hurts really deeply. To the core even. It cuts me. I spent about 14 years not being loved by them. Because they didn't love me and I was often isolated with just them and not really around others except church and the school year I began to withdraw more and more. Their lack of love made me hollow inside. I think it was because I couldn't handle it and still struggle to handle it. It hurts to feel. To feel this.
I can see I might not be letting others in and I can't help it. I have this mark on me that I can't be loved. I know it isn't true but I keep pushing people away saying silently, "You're better off." Since I was adopted and over the years, the people that loved me before don't anymore. Everyone eventually stopped loving me. I feel like it is because the curse they placed on me. How do I cut off these binds? I'm SO used to them. I'm used to feeling unloved. I don't know if I can let go. I don't like holding on but it comforts me, oddly.
It seems that someone is concerned about my well-being that may want to be friends with me. I can't seem to let her be my friend. She says she's worried about me. I can't seem to empathize with her nor feel if there's a true feeling of concern there. I don't want to grieve her but inside I can't help but have a disbelief in me that she could feel concern.
I don't make any sense do I?
I'm sorry your adoptive parent never came to love you. Adopted children are considered very special because their parent chose them. My cousin was adopted by my Aunt and Uncle. It’s funny that he and I have always enjoyed a very special relationship. A family love for each other that had existed long before I was told or he was told that he was adopted. That relationship still exists between us even though we are separated by over a thousand miles.
Reading the note to use I can feel the hurt you feel. We all want someone to love us and to hold us especially when are world crashes around us. You for your reasons can't allow someone to get close enough to have that person.
It is not your fault you are this way it is a defense mechanism you built so not to be hurt. You need to tear down this wall you built around you and for that you are going to need help. I suggest you contact a psychologist for talk therapy. The psychologist becomes that best friend you don't have that you can talk to and tell you darkest secrets. Though the talk therapy the psychologist will pin point how you were hurt and help you overcome it and deal with it properly.
If you have health insurance through your employer you most likely have an Employee Assistance Program (EAP). If you do have an EAP program, Human Recourses or the owner would know, get the contact number and ask them to find you a psychologist. Generally they will give you a list to pick from. I would suggest you might be more comfortable with a female. Pick one and they will contact them saying you will call for an appointment. Generally that appointment and a few more are covered in full by the program then you medical insurance will kick in to the extent of whatever coverage is offered.
IF you do not have an EAP program call your local hospitals' Patient referral line for a referral.
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I have a job interview tomorrow and Tuesday one is at MacDonald's and the other one is at Sonic. I have no idea what I am supposed to wear . I know I am supposed to have a resume , but I have no work experience. I do have volunteer experience with my church. I know they will want at least 3 references , but the only person I can think of is my pastor at my church and my cousin since I babysit her son all the time . Will they a:Celtic my cousin as a reference or should I put her husband down as one instead. I have volunteered at several nursing homes and drug rehabs in the past. I don't remember any of the staff's names at the nursing homes or drug rehab centers . What do I need to bring with me to an interview. Will they need my birth certificate ? Please help me!
The first thing I would ask is for you to explain why there is a 10 year gap, if there is a gap, between high school and now. Did you go to college, did you marry and be a stay at home mom and are now entering the work force.
A lot of what they are going to want to know is going to be based on what type of position you are applying for. If you're applying for entry level, which would be the counter help, then what they really are interested in is, are your trustworthy and are you available to work the hours that they need you. Right now that would be the hours the high school kids can't work.
You Pastor and the names of the Nursing homes you volunteered are are good references use them. No you don't need your birth certificate and you do not need a resume unless they ask for one. Just fill out their job application.
I'm 21 and usually 85 pound or a little less, but 4ft 10in.
I've always looked different because of how short I am and I'm also pale. Instead of ever being called hot or sexy I've always been called "cute"or "pretty", or told that look like a doll. To be honest it kind of gets to me. I always feel ugly because I'm surrounded by tall blonde bombshell types even though people tell me I'm pretty all the time. I also feel like every time I see a photo of myself I look fugly because people take bad photos of me at weird angles. Meanwhile my friends always look perfect in photos! I think this also affects how I feel about myself.
It makes me feel better to be skinny. I figure at least I have that going for me. My father and my friends have always talked about how ugly they perceive overweight people to be so I always try to be skinny.
Recently my new doctor told me she wanted to see me gain 10 pounds by my next appointment with her and that I needed to be at least 100 eventually. I refuse to do this, because I actually want to be skinnier. Right now I can't see my ribs and I want to be able to so I'm kind of trying to lose weight. At the same time though I love food and I typically eat twice a day and then a snack or two. This week I've been sick with the flu and I keep throwing up, but I'm kind of happy that I'm throwing up and get a little disappointed when I don't see a lot of regurgitated food because my body absorbed the rest already. I also want to say that I'm not throwing up on purpose, it's just because I'm sick and I would never make myself throw up on purpose.
I've recently told two people I was trying to lose weight and they didn't even flinch. I was kind of hoping they would tell me I shouldn't and now I feel like I do need to lose weight until people do tell me I shouldn't. On top of this a month or two back I had a guy grab my stomach while I was a little bloated (from pms) and tell me that I could lose that weight. He was laughing about it, but it made me want to do just that. I stopped being friends with him, but I still think about it all the time. I also think about how when I sit there's a little overlap flab of skin. I want that to go away and I don't want a little pouch at all when I lay down or stand up.
I'm feeling extremely self conscious and hoping that being sick takes some pounds off of me. If it doesn't I think I'm going to try something that does. I don't think I have an eating disorder though? I'm not anorexic or bulimic because I love eating food and hate the feeling of throwing up. I kind of want to be 75 pounds, maybe 70 but that still seems like a lot...
I just want to feel pretty.
Anorexia does not mean you don't eat. Anorexia also has a lot to do with body image and feeling fat or overweight. While I'm not a doctor I would say that your doctor feels you are underweight and by her saying she wants you to eventually weigh 100 pounds that you are a small framed girl. The weight chart for your height has on the low side a weight of 102 pounds for a small framed girl.
Your target weight of 75 pounds is 27 pounds underweight and is very dangerous even lethal if not corrected. Yes I said lethal for the body has just one primary concern which is to keep the brain alive. TO do this the body needs a certain amount of calories per day. If the body does not get the calories it needs it first goes to what it has stored which is body fat. You probably have little to no body fat.'
IF there is no body fat to draw on then the body has no choice but to shut down what if feels it doesn't need. How it determines what systems to shut down I can't answer maybe your doctor can. It shuts down those it determines it needs the least. It could start in a woman with the menstrual cycle, then the kidneys, the liver and eventually the lungs and heart. Finally the brain dies and your parents plan your funeral.
If you think I am just trying to scare you, you’re wrong. Yes I am trying to get your attention for I have watched a friend’s daughter die from anorexia it is a horrible disease. Your doctor wants you to gain weight and you want to lose even more weight. THAT IS THE DEFINITION OOF ANEREXIA.
The first thing you need to do is to admit to yourself is that YOU ARE ANEREXIC. Once you admit this to yourself your almost half way to being cured. Then see your doctor and admit to your doctor you are anorexic, though I believe she is already thinking that. You also need to tell your parents as you will need their support and the support of your best friend or friends if you are going to get healthy.
Hospitalization is always an option but may not be necessary. IF you live alone you may want to move back in with your parents so they can monitor you food intake while you change your eating habits.
As a male I will let you in on a secret. While we may admire the model types who may look great in fancy clothes. Those are not the women most of us look to date and marry. If you take the fancy clothes off the models the y look a lot like little boys and many are ashamed of their bodies when naked. Having your ribs sticking out does not entice a male to make love to you.
Men date different types of women. But we all marry one type of women. The type of women we marry are healthy child bearable women that we can bring home to our moms. At 4'7" and 75 or 70 pounds mom will take one look at you and ask her son if he crazy. She will know you are not capable of bearing a child and that you are sick or sickly.
In school we are doing a woman's history project and we have different women for different ethnic groups. I have got a few down, but I need more. I can't find many resources. Any time I try to search up stuff like "Arab women throughout history" or "Arab woman *insert profession here*" etc etc I can only find stuff about Muslims. I will accept Arab Muslim women but I need to be sure I'm writing about an Arab and I have no idea why google seems to think Arab=Muslim. Can someone find me a recourse?
Try searching for "Famous Arab Women in History" I just did a search like that and there were many returns that you might find helpful.
Okay, so how it all started.
A close friend has a tendency to ignore me when he gets upset. I hate being ignored, it hurts. He always has excuses to ignore me for days!
So the last time he did it I don't know what got into me but I just decided to cut. To my surprise, it actually helps! Not the pain but the blood. I don't know but seeing the blood makes me feel way better. I feel less bad. So after that I cut every time I get angry, frustrated or when I just feel bad. Well, my life isn't exactly great, I have other better reasons for cutting besides my dumbass friend.
I do not cut deep so I do not think its any dangerous but should I still stop? I cut my thighs and hips not my wrists so no one finds out. If I have to stop how do I stop? Its really addicting.
Yes it is addicting and yes it is dangerous, you could very easily cut an artery instead of a vein as we have arteries all over our bodies. If you cut and arteries you could bleed out before help gets to you.
Cutting is also a sign of something else. Cutting is usually a sign if Clinical Depression. The cutting relieves the stress and the pain of depression; temporarily. There is a cycle of depression. Depression causes pain, pain causes depression, depression causes stress which caused pain and round and round it goes.
Clinical depression does not mean you have a mental diseases or illness. The problem is generally found to be a lack of one or two chemicals secreted into the brain at puberty easily corrected with one pill taken generally daily for a year maybe two.
What you need to do is tell your parents that you’re cutting. They may or may not start to yell and scream. I would expect that they would become very concerned and scared. The first thing they need to do for you is take you to your family doctor for a complete physical and to be screened for depression. The physical is to rule out any organic reason for how you feel.
Next while your family doctor could treat you for depression a family practice doctor is not really trained to do so. Since the chemicals that need replacing secrete into the brain you need to be treated by a specialist trained in that area. A Board Certified Psychiatrist is the doctor trained to treat and administer the proper medications. Were a regular doctor may only have done a residency rotation in psychiatry a Board Certified Psychiatrist has completed a yearlong Fellowship and passed all the criteria to be certified by the College of Psychiatry.
Next the psychiatrist will most likely suggest talk therapy with a psychologist. This is good for talking with the psychologist will get at the root cause of the depression, those other things you talk about and maybe something you are not even aware of. Whatever you talk about in therapy stays in therapy nothing goes back to your parents. If your therapist asks to meet with your parents it will only be to suggest what they can do to help you. You can trust your therapist with your deepest darkest secrets.
You must tell your parents or you will find yourself cutting deeper to get the feeling you want. This is dangerous. IF you find yourself needing to cut don't call 911 instead and ask for help
So...i was in a long distance relationship with this girl and recently she told me that she doesn't love me anymore . but i love her a lot and we had so much dreams for us but she gave up on all of them but i don't wanna give up on her and idk what i should do at this point i'm just hoping and waiting that she realizes that she loves me and get back to me . but she hasn't showed any signs of getting back . i'm just super confused right now and i really feel like just dying .
There is an old saying that says; "Absents makes the heart grow fonder." It is not really true. if it were soldiers would not get as many "Dear John letters as they do.
Long distance romances, pen pal romances rarely if ever work out. It's hard to sit home on a Friday or Saturday night when all your friends are out on dates having a good time. You get lonely especially women they want the comfort of someone to hold them an love them. Men too enjoy the comfort of a women holding them and loving them.
A letter or words on a computer screen just can't wrap themselves around you on a cold night. They can't take you to dinner or dancing and they can't make love to you.
My advice is not to wait for her to come back to you. Find someone closer to home and start having fun dating, dancing and making love with someone if your old enough to understand making love is an adult function and not something for school age teenagers..
what can I do to please my girlfriend
Please clarify your question. Do you mean sexually or in other ways. If sexually please tell us if you have had intercourse and your ages.
Since this is you first question let me say this to you. Always include your age and the age sex if not clear to us and sex and age of anyone you are requesting help with or information for. You can use as much space as needed. Please use proper paragraphs letter writing as letters that look like one long sentence are hard to read and probably won't get answered.
Nothing is off limits we will try to answer any question you put to us or someone will give you an answer as to why it is not being answered.
When you first have sex, and the guy puts his penis inside of you, does it hurt when he breaks the hymen?
Not being female I cannot give you a definitive answer. It all depends on a number of things as to how much if at all what type of pain you will have on first intercourse.
From my experience and knowledge gained, especially from listening to females answering this type of questions. The first variable would be the younger you are the more pain is involved for two reasons.
1. The boy has only one thing on his mind and that is to put his penis in your vagina. Most young boys don't have the knowledge or the sexual experience to take a girls virginity. They know the mechanics only.
2. Even though at a very early age even as young as ten you can look like a woman and even get pregnant. Your body is not yet ready to be penetrated by a penis. At some point during puberty chemicals are released that unlock you pelvis muscles which allow easier penetration by the penis.
The next variable is the hymen itself. You could have a thick hymen or thin hymen. It is even possible that your first lover is able to squeeze through the hole in the hymen that your menstrual blood drains through. Depending how athletic you are it is possible that you hymen is semi-detached or missing altogether. If you use tampons you hymen my have already been ruptured.
The only recommendation I can make to you and answer I can give is this. Be prepared for pain . Talk to your lover first make sure he knows your a virgin and makes sure he knows how to be gentle. Get some lubrication like K-Y Jelly and lube his penis and your vagina. This will help for as much as you may want this you will probably be apprehensive and your vagina dry.
Just as important is where you have sex. Make sure it is secure from intruders. That it is sake and you are comfortable. The last thing you want during this are your parents or his popping in or his or your siblings or friends. Your physical comfort is what I mean by comfortable.
there's this woman cashier I see whenever I frequent this store. she is always extra happy to see me, she is always smiley and says hi too me, she isn't like that with anyone else, just me. she even gets upset if I ignore her..I find it funny, my brother told me to give her my number maybe we could hang out...now im not the outdoorsy/travel type, and ive given my number to people in the past whom I thought would be cool and boy did that take a turn for the worse...talk about obsessive/possessive/clingy/and start falling in love and I don't like women EWWWW... so I said im done, never again...and that was about 7 yrs ago...people scare me....I just keep to myself, I don't go out like I used too etc.....should I put myself back out there and meet new people/give her my number, or just continue to keep to myself? thanks
You sound a bit like my so in that you are looking for a custom fit in the off the rack world. He finally found his custom fit but it was not by chance dating. He signed up on some of the dating sites.
Now my son has a great many interest and loves the outdoors, loves to travel and seek new adventures. His biggest problem was finding a women who was not looking to become him but could or did have a life of her own. The last thing he wanted was someone who could not be self-reliant.
He has a dangerous job and he is away from home for 24 hours when on shift. He wanted a wife who was not afraid to be on her own. She had to be able to live with the fact that when he left in a morning he might not return the next morning or she could get a middle of the night phone call summing her to a hospital or worse. You don't find that type of person on a hit and miss bases.
On these dating sites on your profile you get to for the most part custom tailor what your looking for. You also get to look at women whose profile are similar to yours and they to yours. You chat with these women first either by email or phone then decide if you want to meet in person for coffee. After that you can decide if you want to ask her out on a real date.
A for the cashier. Chat her up while checking out. Ask her what she likes to do in her spare time what her hobbies are. IF she is interested in you she will tell you and she might ask you to meet for coffee.
Long story short throughout high school I was never the pretty girl and was always overshadowed by my friends and have been called ugly by guys in my school multiple times either to my face or right behind my back (by that I mean standing behind me) so this kind of followed me to university and I feel like I'm too ugly to even be approached or have any guy friends etc. Whenever I see an attractive boy I don't even look his way because it's just too awkward for me to give him eye contact, and when a guy does talk to me if I don't really know him I either say one word answers so that the convo ends quickly or frown so that I'm unapproachable. Any tips on how to be confident and less awkward around guys? I'm tired of only having girl friends and not any guy friends, also I'm 18 and I'd like to finally get in a relationship but I can't if I can't even talk to boys and get the talking stage.
Well the first thing you need to do is build your own self-confidence. The boys in high school are just that boys. In college among the freshmen they are still boys but they find out fast that was acceptable behavior in high school is not acceptable in college and they start to grow up. Of course dome boys never do grow up. Most of them won't be around for the sophomore year.
TO build your own self-confidence you could go to the library and get some books though you don't need to. First beauty is only skin deep. The real you resides just below the skin. This is where the intelligent, the intellectual you resides. The girl guys like to bring home to meet their moms.
I have never met a girl that is absolutely ugly. What I suggest you do first is go to a hair salon and have a stylist work with you to style and possibly color your hair to bring out your best features. Then go to a department store like Macy's or Nordstrom's and to the Cosmetics counter (you don't need to buy their cosmetics) they usually have a cosmetologist working there who will show you how to use make up to enhance your features. Next buy some stylish clothes. They do not have to be brand label just the clothes that are in style.
Next adopt this motto, "I am the best person I know and I will be a better person tomorrow." This motto truly works for I have used it myself for over 40 years.
When you feel good about yourself you look good, and when you look good you feel good about yourself. I doubt anyone has taken the time to help you with hair and make up to bring out your best features. That and with the kids at school bring you down you may have just given up on yourself.
Last how do you talk to boys? What are your special interests? Colleges have lots of special interest groups from bird watching to zoology. Make a list of those thing you like to for recreation and entertainment. Then find a club on or off campus that is of that interest. What works here is the common interest. Something your knowledgeable in and can speak about with conviction. This is how you get noticed and how you can talk to a boy without embarrassment because he will approach you with questions or comments.
How much bleach would it take to kill a 5'4" 115 LB Female?
I see you also put thiscquestion on the open board. To be honest this is not a question I wish to answer until I know why you want this information.
If your looking to hurt yourself or someone else I suggest you call 911 andcget some help
What is the average unemployment rate for men during the period 1970 to 1985? Rate in order 3.3, 6.7, 5.8, 6.1
This appears to be a homework problem. You will find that we do not do your homework for you. If your having a problem with this particular assignment explain the problem you are having and I'm sure someone among us will be happy to help you out.
I m 18 and will be 19 next June. My best friend said I could move in with her and my family is against it. They re very religious and don t let me watch anything that has magic or anything that would be offensive in the Bible (rated r, LGBTQ) and I m not allowed to date (I have a LDR boyfriend but my mom refuses to allow it, saying that s not dating anyway and my bf could die at anytime because of cancer related concerns) and I'm not allowed to drive and they want me to work in a place they don t like themselves. As soon as I bring up the subject she either screams at me or gives me the silent treatment for a few days. My friend isn t reckless and is responsible (my mom not liking her because she says I just want to do whatever I want over with her because her parents aren t as strict) My siblings (who are all 20+ and live at home) gang up on me and guilt trip me too, saying my mom could have died when I was born. I tell my mom calmly that I want to move and I just end up being screamed at. I even ended up crying in the counselor s office. My counselor suggested talking to her calmly and she ended up saying I shouldn t move because she tried when she was my age and wanted to and she didn t like it. I want to have approval to do it but I don t want to keep being screamed at.
What can I do? (and please don t just say prove you re responsible because Ive tried and she just says I think I m so smart and think the world is perfect etc. They bring up mistakes I made from six years ago) (I also live in a real small town so it isn't that easy)
Thank you!
In all actuality you do not need parental permission for anything you have listed. The only reason you do is the fact that you live at home and there is an unwritten rule that all children abide by which is; If I live under their roof, I live by their rules."
You are 18 soon to be 19 years old. Legally you are an adult and no longer subject to your parents’ wishes. You parents are no longer legally responsible for you either. TO show this in an example: If say on Tuesday you were 17 and your birthday is the next day Wednesday you turn 18. If on Tuesday you get in trouble with the police you could be released into the custody of your parents. Get into the same trouble on Wednesday you are now an adult and you would have to post bail.
The fact that you are an adult means you no longer need to listen to your parents if you want to do something. They have no legal control over you. The only control they have is probably financial. If you can support yourself then they have no control and you can move out if you wish. Learn to drive a car, watch TV programs as you wish, go to church or not, date who you want and take any job you wish.
Should you decide you are grown up enough to move out of your parents’ house understand they can cut all ties with you that have been in place to support you. I'm not saying they will though I do know some parents that have and have interceded with a young lady whose parents did just that. They took her husband’s side in a divorce until they heard from me.
Before you decide to leave home here is some advice to think about. In the event your parents will decide to let you sink or swim on your own you need to make sure you can swim. TO do this requires you make sure you are financially secure. This means having a budget. Your budget includes the following:
3 month’s rent and utilities in the bank – this is a must, then budget for the following items.
Transportation
Food
Insurance – Health and Dental
Clothing
Dry Cleaning
Entertainment – Includes your portion of a cable bill.
Cell Phone
Savings - this is a must even if it is a little as $5.00 a pay check
Emergency Funds
There may be other items you want to budget for though these are the basic needs you will need to budget for. If you cannot cover these needs with your current pay check then moving out of your parents’ house is not an option. If you find you cannot move out at this time use this budget to as a guide to work towards to the day you can move out.
It really bothers me when middle aged women who I admire, look up to, and feel nurtured by feel the need to flirt with and outpour their attention to young men my age (I am 24/f). It's not even that I want to "get in on the competition", as I wouldn't even go for the boys in my school because they are annoying and crass. Actually, I'm more jealous that these female friends are giving THEM the attention and not me (it's not jealousy in a romantic way, but a mother figure way). So why do these women who are my dear friends, mentors, and teachers feel the need to prove that they have the ability to flirt with young men around me? By the way, I'm pretty virginal and inexperienced and don't have a flirty personality, actually the opposite as I usually do not desire attention from the boys who surround me on a day to day basis. I'm not sure if that's relevant. I can't see why they would feel the need to "compete" with me, if that's the case.
Please do not guilt or shame me or tell me I'm selfish. I would really love some honest intellectual opinions on this topic so I can understand it.
I don't think the middle aged women are competing with you as much as they are trying to prove to themselves that they still have sex appeal or can attract a younger male. There are women of middle age that are trying to attract a young male but not all of the middle age women are. The ones that are may be or probably are divorced and referred to as Cougars. In some instances they may have cheating or sexually inattentive husbands and still desire a sex life. A young male in college is an obvious choice for a fling as they are there for only a short period of time and the young male is generally not looking for romance.
All of this being said the percentage of middle aged women who are flirting with young men or who are actually looking to have a fling with a young male is actually statistically quite low. It may seem high to someone if they happen to reside in an area that the middle aged women would seek out young male companionship such as near a college campus. Statistically I believe this is called clustering.
If you are judging all middle aged women by this one cluster, then you may be judging a book by the cover and missing the actual truth of what’s inside. Sure you can find Cougars in any town but you will find more of them where the young male is in greater supply.
To say all middle aged women flirt with young men is to me the same as saying all men cheat on their wives. This is just not true.
Is there any possibility to get pregnancy while fucking through back hole means excretory hole
It is not possible to get pregnant from anal sex. The anal cavity is not connected to your reproductive organs in any way shape or form. The anal cavity is full of bacteria which is very inhospitable to any sperm ejaculated into it and will not allow the sperm to survive.
The bacteria in the anus is such that it can cause a serious infection to your boyfriend. He could get a urinary infection or even a kidney infection should any of the bacteria that live is in the anus makes its way into his penis. It is therefore recommended that he use a condom when you and he engage in anal sex. Bedfore you switch to vaginal or oral sex his penis and groin area should be washed with hot soapy water to insure any germs are washed away.
Does anybody know of a mental institution or psych ward near Murfreesboro or Nashville, Tennessee that will accept a girl of 12 years of age?
The following URL It brought up a listing of several different Pediatric hospitals. You will probably need a psychiatrists referral in order to place a child into one of these hospitals or have them examined by their staff doctor and admitted.
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My mother fought for me to get disability when I was 12 and it carried on that she is my payee even though I am an adult without guardianship. My mom has become really abusive to the point I had to call the police because she was pulling my hair and hitting me in my head with her fists . They highly suggested I change my payee and move out. They drove me to my aunt's house so I didn't have to be there anymore. My mom only gives me $40.00 a week,but when she gets mad she dosent give that and then if she does give it to me and if she gets mad after I get she takes it out of my purse of takes the whole purse. I am getting sick and tired of it. I am just scared she will get mad if I do.
The first thing you need to do is contact Social Security. You can do this by phone by calling 1-800-772-1213. Ask them how your records read, ask them if your records show you mother as your guardian or having any financial power of attorney over you. If they answer is no ask, if a “MY Social Security Account,” open under your social security number. If there is one ask if they can close it, or change the password to one you can use for your mom and not you is controlling it and you want control over your checks and that you will be opening a bank account to have your checks sent directly to your bank. Then go to a Bank that mom does not use and open a checking account. Most banks will open one for as little as $10.00 and no fees if you are having direct deposits which you will be. Then if you can use the My Social Security Account you can change the payee and have the checks sent directly to your checking account just follow the prompts or you can go to a Social security office near you and they will make the changes for you
When you were 12 and a minor your mom as your parent was your guardian and fully responsible for all of your care and financial affairs. When you became of legal age, generally considered to be 18 and not considered to be mentally disabled, Social Security should have sent you a notice to change the payee. If you are not mentally disabled it is possible that your mother has you sign something called a “Financial Power of Attorney form,” which would allow her to continue to receive your checks and control your finances. Do you remember signing any forms around the time of your 18th birthday?
IF you are capable of caring for yourself and your finances and you mom tricked you into signing that form she has committed a crime of Larceny and falsifying a federal document. She could go to jail and be made to pay you restitution if convicted on these charges. It is very possible that while you are explaining to Social Security why it has taken you nine years to make the change in payee that they may want to investigate and charge your mother with these crimes. That money from the time you were r12 is meant to be used in your best interest and support. Should mom have tricked you into signing a power of attorney form and cannot prove this money was used in your best interest she has committed a third crime.
I would suggest before you do anything that you seek the help of a lawyer. If you can’t afford one go to the legal aid society and they will appoint one for you.
I am a 27 year old female and this party Tuesday on Valentine's Dayi was sleep I woke up with my mom yelling at me about leaving the porch light on well the problem with her thinking I left the porch light on is that I was in my room asleep the whole time. I told her that and she called me a liar. Then she accused me of taking my nephew's pain medicine.I have never stolen anything from my mom in my life . I have 2 bottles of the same pain medicine that were prescribed by my dentist so why would I need to steal his. I get a disability check when I called the cops they took me to my aunt's and they suggested that I need to change my payee.I am scared my mom will get mad if I do that. Should I change my payee?
I'm not sure I understand your question. Unless your disability is such that the courts have given your mother guardianship over you your checks should be made out to you. If you became disabled while a minor of course your checks would be made out to a parent or guardian.
If you do not require a guardian to monitor your finances then their is no reason for your mother or anyone else to be the payee on your disability checks. So by all means have the payee change to yourself. IF you do require someone to monitor your finances you can request that someone else be made your guardian and that your finances be administered by and independent third party such as a lawyer, accountant or Bank Trust Department.
If I have misunderstood your question please clarify and I will attempt to answer you again.
I forgot my gym clothes today so I had to wear my itchy sweater. I'm not in the best shape so I get really red while exercising. I used to cut but I have gotten over that, but you can still see very faint marks from where I used to cut. When my skin turns red you can clearly see all of then running right down my arm. I asked my teacher to let me go run some water over my arms since the sweat mixed with the itchy sweater caused a bit of burning, and she wanted to see my arms to make sure I wasn't getting a rash. I showed her and she allowed me to go. I'm really worried that she saw the scars and might call my parents, my parents never learned about my cutting. What do I do? I'm really freaking out!
I can't say whether your teacher will say anything to your parents or not. The fact that the scars are almost gone says they are old and not seeing any fresh ones the teacher would in my opinion probably not say anything but I could be wrong. Had your parents known of your cutting the school would have been advised so teachers and staff could keep an eye on you during the day. Since that is not in your records if the teacher chose to look then she might call your parents.
I don't know your teacher and I can't predict what she or the school may or may not do. What I do know is you are no longer cutting yourself and that is a good thing. What I don't know is what caused you to cut yourself in the first place and that is a bad thing.
Those that cut themselves are generally depressed and cut to feel something. This is not good. In your instance whatever was depressing you seems to have passed. That is good. What no one knows and maybe you don't even know is just what it is you found depressing enough to cause you to cut and this is dangerous.
Cutting is dangerous because if you cut in the wrong place you could hit an artery. If you hit an artery and no one is around to help you can bleed out and dye in just a few minutes. Arteries lye at different levels in each of us so it would not be hard to hit one accidently.
Even if the teacher does not tell your parents I urge you to tell your parents. As a parent and grandparent myself please trust me when I say yes we may freak out as you say but not at you. At ourselves for not seeing your pain. We will get scared but we will calm down and want to help you.
As I said it is a good thing you stopped cutting but without knowing why you started or even I you think you know why. You need to find a better way to deal with that reason than to cut. For this you need to speak with a qualified therapist. A psychologist trained to help you identify what triggers the need to cut and deal with it in a better manner.
As I said the need to cut is the need to feel something. It is also a cry for help so ask for the help. Please trust when I say if you get the help I'm suggesting you will feel better. Remember one thing what you say to the therapist stays with the therapist nothing ever gets back to your parents even if you are a minor. Everything said in therapy is totally confidential.
does cornbread have corn in it and please say yes or no
Cornbread has cornmeal in it which is a flour and is usually mixed with other flour to make corn bread. Since cornmeal is made from corn the answer to your question is yes.