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How to be confident and less awkward around boys?
Long story short throughout high school I was never the pretty girl and was always overshadowed by my friends and have been called ugly by guys in my school multiple times either to my face or right behind my back (by that I mean standing behind me) so this kind of followed me to university and I feel like I'm too ugly to even be approached or have any guy friends etc. Whenever I see an attractive boy I don't even look his way because it's just too awkward for me to give him eye contact, and when a guy does talk to me if I don't really know him I either say one word answers so that the convo ends quickly or frown so that I'm unapproachable. Any tips on how to be confident and less awkward around guys? I'm tired of only having girl friends and not any guy friends, also I'm 18 and I'd like to finally get in a relationship but I can't if I can't even talk to boys and get the talking stage.
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Well the first thing you need to do is build your own self-confidence. The boys in high school are just that boys. In college among the freshmen they are still boys but they find out fast that was acceptable behavior in high school is not acceptable in college and they start to grow up. Of course dome boys never do grow up. Most of them won't be around for the sophomore year.
TO build your own self-confidence you could go to the library and get some books though you don't need to. First beauty is only skin deep. The real you resides just below the skin. This is where the intelligent, the intellectual you resides. The girl guys like to bring home to meet their moms.
I have never met a girl that is absolutely ugly. What I suggest you do first is go to a hair salon and have a stylist work with you to style and possibly color your hair to bring out your best features. Then go to a department store like Macy's or Nordstrom's and to the Cosmetics counter (you don't need to buy their cosmetics) they usually have a cosmetologist working there who will show you how to use make up to enhance your features. Next buy some stylish clothes. They do not have to be brand label just the clothes that are in style.
Next adopt this motto, "I am the best person I know and I will be a better person tomorrow." This motto truly works for I have used it myself for over 40 years.
When you feel good about yourself you look good, and when you look good you feel good about yourself. I doubt anyone has taken the time to help you with hair and make up to bring out your best features. That and with the kids at school bring you down you may have just given up on yourself.
Last how do you talk to boys? What are your special interests? Colleges have lots of special interest groups from bird watching to zoology. Make a list of those thing you like to for recreation and entertainment. Then find a club on or off campus that is of that interest. What works here is the common interest. Something your knowledgeable in and can speak about with conviction. This is how you get noticed and how you can talk to a boy without embarrassment because he will approach you with questions or comments.
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