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Should i Let her Go or Should i Try To Get Her Back ?
So...i was in a long distance relationship with this girl and recently she told me that she doesn't love me anymore . but i love her a lot and we had so much dreams for us but she gave up on all of them but i don't wanna give up on her and idk what i should do at this point i'm just hoping and waiting that she realizes that she loves me and get back to me . but she hasn't showed any signs of getting back . i'm just super confused right now and i really feel like just dying .
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There is an old saying that says; "Absents makes the heart grow fonder." It is not really true. if it were soldiers would not get as many "Dear John letters as they do.
Long distance romances, pen pal romances rarely if ever work out. It's hard to sit home on a Friday or Saturday night when all your friends are out on dates having a good time. You get lonely especially women they want the comfort of someone to hold them an love them. Men too enjoy the comfort of a women holding them and loving them.
A letter or words on a computer screen just can't wrap themselves around you on a cold night. They can't take you to dinner or dancing and they can't make love to you.
My advice is not to wait for her to come back to you. Find someone closer to home and start having fun dating, dancing and making love with someone if your old enough to understand making love is an adult function and not something for school age teenagers..
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I have never known of a long distance relationship that worked out well. The fact you can never see someone is not conducive to relationships and love. It cannot grow and she cannot feel what she would if you were constantly near. It's not your fault.
It's not fair to her or to you to try and make something work like this when there are other opportunities, new life and actual people in hers and yours constantly filling the void left by neither or you being able to be physically present. If she doesn't have the same love and feelings for you as you had wanted it has to do with the fact you really can't love someone intensely or if at all if you never ever see them. It's non-existent as you are to one another in reality.
It would be wrong of her to let you think that there's something there that there isn't or an intense love when there is not so she's done the right thing by backing away and off. She probably assumes you will find someone eventually and should go on about your life as she has gone about trying to do so with hers.
She won't be coming back to you. That's the truth and though it hurts it would be foolish to try and pursue her or this further. Yes, it's crushing right now for you and that feeling is a normal reaction. In the end you will not die even if it feels like it and may find yourself in a much better position in long run for not dragging a futile situation further and making it harder on yourself. She's done you a favor by telling you where things stand rather than ignoring your feelings or trying to hurt you. It's done in her eyes.
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Hello anonymous! Just let her go. She gave up on you then forget ABOUT HER BUT DONT GIVE HER SATISFACTION IN SHOWING her you're hurt. It will all be okay I promise.
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