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Is this the way of him saying, he's into me?
Hi, been friends for a few months and we banter well. Feels like he fancies me and we get on ok. Caught him frequently looking at me and when I look at him he holds his eye contact with a slight smile but we always carry on with our conversation. In our late 20's. When I make jokes, not everyone is cute like you are, he says (Let's say my name is Beth) he says, Beth is Beth, isn't it? What's he up to?? Trying to say something?? Tried to ask him directly but couldn't dare even though we're mates. Thank you!
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Your womans intuition may be correct in that he fancies you. Guys who are into a gal will want to smile at her holding eye contact, will enjoy talking to here. There is also body language that can not lie, as to whether he really likes you. YOu do know he likes you as a friend already. If he didn't, he wouldn't even bother being friends. Think for a moment how awkward it could be to befriend someone that you are not finding attractive at all to you but that person assumes your attention means they like you so the person pursues you. He would not take a chance of a girl he doesn't find attractive to end up coming after him, encouraged by his friendship. In some cases, there is a certain amount of interest in the character of a girl, enough to be friends but not the right kind of chemistry for it to be anything more. However, lots of relationships start with friendship and move on to something more.
If he is your friend, then to find out what you want to know, he shouldn't have a problem with you asking a question as long as it is worded in a way that doesn't end with a finality but leaves room for him to share how he feels without it being awkward.
So what you ask when ready, is: "We're getting along so good as friends and both enjoy each others friendship that it has me wondering if there could be something more? What do you think?"
Asking the question like this doesn't make him feel awkward answering as you have not professed any kind of strong liking or love that would make a guy feel guilty to answer truthfully if he didn't feel the same way. Asking his opinion to your thought, gives him the chance to admit he would like to try being more than friends, or admitting he doesn't feel the same but still enjoys you as a friend.
A good sign that a person might be a good choice for a more serious relationship is if the conversation flows easily and both of you enjoy what each other has to say and share, sometimes finding the other to be funny and laughing with them. Good luck dear.
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If you have been friends for a long time than this ought to be easier than you think it is. You should be able to say damn near anything to one another at this point. Tell him that you have noticed some behavior in him that can easily be misconstrued as flirting and that you needed to know for certain if he is or not. Tell him regardless that nothing changes with your friendship and find out for sure or it will drive you bonkers until you do.
I'm a guy and I can tell you that we don't smile awkwardly at girls and look away when caught if we're only friends and haven't interest. The joking and trying to get attention or say something and then not suggests he is interested but flustered.
You guys are in your twenties but behaving like 12-year-olds. It's cute for teens to be doing this but as adults you need to grab bull by horns and talk about this elephant in the room and get a relationship started or be friends and know for sure what all this means. It may result in a lot of good and even if not at least you'll know and can carry on after.
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