Wow, you sound exactly like my friend, who's having the exact same problem...Don't you hate when guys can't decide what - or who - the hell they want?
Since I just talked to you, and you actually are my friend, I can say interesting stuff ^_^.
You are not relationship challanged just because you haven't had a real relationship. You just haven't met a decent guy yet.
In your situation, I would confront him. I would tell him what your friend told you, and ask him what you just asked us. "Why do you keep leading me on and giving me dumb excuses?"
I know you're not confrontational, but in this situation, you've gotta be upfront with him. He's not gonna know he's being an immature ass unless you point it out. Don't beat around the bush. Just tell him what's on your mind. Even in friendships, the biggest problem is communication. You've gotta communicate your feelings/thoughts, or you'll never know what's going on with the other. Tell him what you thought, and what you currently think. But I would make your decision first - would you still want to go with him if he asked you or not?
Personally, I wouldn't. But that's me. I'm also now biased against this guy because he's been evil to you. Rar.
Though if you think about it, he lied to you, and he's now treating you like second-best. He asked someone else. Grrrrrrr...
Now let me try to think of this as if I didn't know you...Um...
He's lead you on, lied to you, and asked another girl to prom when he told you he'd take you if he did go, and you still like him? I'd try to rethink your choice of guys if I were you. Not to be mean, but anyone who lies and deceives like that doesn't deserve to have either girl. As I said before, I would be upfront with him and tell him everything you're thinking, as well as ask him the question you asked us. The only way to find out the reason for all those dumb excuses is to ask the user of the excuses.
It could be that he's simply indecisive. Boys usually are.
The best advice I can give would have to be just to talk to him. Yank him aside after class one day before he leaves and tell him you want to talk to him. You might mention that you heard about him asking the other girl to get him to respond. Be a bitch if you have to, but get your point across, and make him answer your question. Make him give you a solid answer. You can be forceful when you want to be...Use it to yer advantage!
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

My boy went to Vegas last summer and we stayed together. If you don't really have a reason to break up with him, then stick it out and stay together. It's only gonna be a couple of months. Time flies like you wouldn't believe. It sucks at first but it gets easier as the time goes. Then when he comes back you can just talk about how you missed each other. Trust me, if he loves you, he'll be faithful. Mine was. His mom told me he totally snubbed any girls that tried to talk to him.
Think about it, though - you love each other. One of you is going somewhere. You're considering breaking up, why? A couple of months is not nearly an eternity in our lives. Tell him to call you and write to you and you should both be totally fine. We were, and we're still together after 17 months. Don't break it off because of a temporary distance.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

I've had a situation like that. Usually, I try to go for guys who play an instrument, or sing, so they know what my life is all about (I'm a singer above all else), but I ended up with a gamer who's more into computers than anything. But he's also more into me than anything.
You've gotta weigh your issues. Is it really so big of an issue to you that HE believe in god, as long as he doesn't try to make you not believe in god?
I don't love computers the way my guy does, but he's not trying to make me love computers. I'm not trying to make him play an instrument or sing, either.
You don't always have to believe in the same things for the relationship to work. I'm supposedly Jewish, and my guy's supposedly Roman Catholic.
In your situation, I think I would give in and like him. If he likes you, I'd go for the relationship and see what happens. If it doesn't work because your beliefs are too different, break it off. What's the harm in trying it? It won't kill you, it's just a difference in beliefs.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

You really ought to do your own homework, but I know these answers, so I may as well...
1 - Pituitary gland. (Actually called the Master Gland.)
2 - Estrogen
3 - Fallopian tube (Think of how the egg "follows" the path "follow-pian tube")
4 - I believe that would be the ovaries.
Hope this helps!
-Siren =)

I use Clinique Lash Curling Mascara (their eyeliner (Clinique Quickliner) also works really well (waterproof, trust me).
I've never had problems with it ending up under my eyes until I try to take it off. Clinique stuff does kind of run on the expensive side, though, just so you know.
I hope this helps, good luck with your mascara hunt!
-Siren =)

Halls Vapor Action strawberry cough drops (or cherry, I prefer strawberry. They're more tolerably).
Celestial Seasonings honey lemon chammomile cough drops.
Hot/warm tea with honey in it.
Mint tea.
Plain/regular ricola cough drops (they're square). Lol.
TONS of water. Keep everything hydrated.
You can try lemon, but it might make it worse depending on what kind of sore throat it is. Also, keep in mind that if your sore throat is viral, these tricks won't make it "go away," they'll just keep your throat numb.
If you have a chance to go to a drug store you might invest in a sore throat spray. But if you don't, those things up there are what I do.
I'm also a singer, so I take good care of my throat and I use these tricks. I haven't tried lemon because the last thing I want is phlegm, and citrus seems to cause more of that.
I would try everything else first, then see if lemon works. These are things I know work. I use them when I'm sick.
I hope this helps! Feel better!
-Siren =)

Well, as far as techniques guys like, my guy seems to like when I move in for a kiss but lick his lips instead. Guys also seem to like it when you bite their lower lip (gently of course ^^).
As far as French kissing goes, I'm not totally sure what you mena, but if you really want steps, I'm gonna guess:
1-tilt your heads so you don't bump noses
2-[insert a few light kisses here]
3-[insert a few heavier kisses here, maybe a little of the lip-licking or lip-biting as well]
4-open your mouths and imagine dancing with your tongues.
If you want to initiate the french kiss and he doesn't seem to get the hint, I would kiss him and maybe push your tongue against his lips to give him the hint to open wide...Lol
I think of drawing shapes with my tongue in his mouth, like, the infinity symbol, or a heart, or a circle. (I actually read that one in a book somewhere...)
Just make sure you don't try to gag him with your tongue/don't use too much tongue, lol. Just, like, the tip of it works okay. I had a boyfriend that I couldn't french kiss 'cause he used wayy too much tongue and I felt like I was suffocating. Lol.
I hope this helps - if you want more tips/hints/etc, don't be afraid to talk to me again! I'm always willing to try harder.
-Siren =)

I never make assumptions, especially because I have pothead friends, and friends that do other stuff, and the most I've done is drink.
As far as what to tell him, I would just go for what you feel is best. If you feel like you should tell him you're sorry this had to happen, and wish him luck on his hearing, let him know you're praying for him, or whatever.
Just give him confidence. There really isn't much else you can do, I'm sorry to say. He screwed up on his own, and even if you like him, you can't really get involved. All you can do is tell him you care, and that you're thinking of him. I hope this helps on some level - if you want to chat more, you can IM me (SirenCytherea).
-Siren =)

Well, I didn't mean to, but I ended up with three 300 page books. Here's how I did it:
I started writing, and kept going. Honestly, don't try to push yourself to write, don't give yourself a time limit. It took me like 2 years to get one book done, but it took me under a year to get another one done.
As far as making characters based around your friends, just use some of your friends traits, and let the characters develop themselves.
Don't try to base your writing on someone else's. Develop your own style. You'll find it hard to write if you try to mimic someone's style. At least, I always did. But if you're insistant on writing like her, study her writing, pay attention to how she phrases things, if she uses a lot of irony, etc...
As far as keeping yourself going, write when you're bored. The first thing you do when you get bored should be to pick up your notebook and a pen or a pencil and start writing. I always stopped in the middle of words so I could like, start back on the same idea, and remember my train of thought.
I'm weird, though. That might not work for you. Just figure out something that does work, and stick with it.
Unfortunately, I'm not totally sure about UK publishers for young people, but you might want to pick up a copy of the "Writer's Handbook" and take a look at some agents.
It's easier to get it published if you have an agent. I'm aquaintances with an author, and that was the first thing he told me to do (get an agent). They shouldn't charge you anything, agents will take like 10% of the sales of your book, and they'll pitch it to publishers for you.
A lot of publishers, sorry to say, don't take manuscripts from people - just from agents.
So I'd do that first, once your manuscript is complete (or semi-complete) and start yourself on the road to getting it published.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

It's possible that you're untrusting - I am.
I had to play a character in a play that had serious proximity issues. There was one point where my love interest got really close to me while I was mad at him, and he made me so nervous. He made me stutter, and I NEVER stutter. In her character, I HATED to be touched, and it was because she's an incredibly untrusting person. Trust has a lot to do with touch.
Or it could be an abuse issue - if you were ever hit, or physically hurt in some way, that would definitely put you off being touched.
There's nothing wrong with you. You probably have some past issues to get past. If you haven't told your boyfriend about this, you might want to. He might be able to help you get past it.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

Eww, I hated taking steriods...
I used to have to be on steriods sometimes when my asthma would act up, like during colds and whatnot.
One of the risks is weight gain/water retention, though I didn't always have problems with that.
They never made me irritable or angry all the time. The only time I got angry/irritable is when I gained weight the last time I was on it. I never had muscle growth at all, so I don't think that's a problem.
Steroids will only make you irritable/angry or enlarge your muscles if you take large amounts of them. The amounts you take for asthma is not nearly enough to cause that.
I mean, I was on 50mg for like, a month and nothing bad happened. I think you're pretty safe.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

Oh wow! Actually, I'm glad you explained this more in detail, lol.
As far as taking him to prom, I think you should go with your gut instincts. Really, ignore what people are saying, and just pay attention to what your mind is saying. That's what I'd do. I know it's hard, but I would really try to ignore what YOU want and go with what your instincts want. If you have doubts, I'd hesitate before taking him.
I hope this helps more! Lol
-Siren =)

I think it's great that you two broke up on good terms, still wanting to be friends. I wish some of my breakups had ended that way. =P
As for prom, I'd ask him, but keep in mind that he may say no, or he may be going with someone else. I would go for it, though. You two are still friends - there's no reason two friends can't go to prom together.
As far as the nickname, though, I might not. If it's not a nickname anyone else calls him, I wouldn't, simply because it would seem - to me, if I broke up with my boyfriend and he continued to call me my nickname - that he was trying to revive the relationship.
I hope this helps a bit - if you have other questions, or you need or want more advice, feel free to contact me. I'm always willing to try harder!
-Siren =)

Hey, I took French for seven years because my school didn't offer Spanish, and I honestly love the language. I think it's easier than Spanish.
However, there are a lot of places in which Spanish is in fact the second language, moreso than French.
I think if you like French better, you should take French. If you like Spanish, take Spanish. I really think it should be what you like, not what you "should" take.
I went to public school for two years (kindergarten and first grade) and took spanish for those two years. I didn't finish it, but I know enough to know that French and Spanish do have similarities. I can understand some Spanish because of its similarities with French.
I also like French because I'm a singer - there are a lot more art songs (classical songs, like opera stuff) written in French than there are in Spanish, and it helps a lot to be able to understand what you're singing. That's most of my reasoning, anyway.
I hope this helps a little!
-Siren =)

Hmm...
Well apparently your subconscious is having some interesting thoughts about Andrew. Have you EVER considered him as mrore than a friend? Ever even thought about it?
The second dreams suggests hidden desires...*ahem*...Lol. I'm not sure they mean anything, they might just be what's going on in your subconscious, and there might not really be a reason behind it.
I hope this helps, lol - if you feel like I missed something, or there are more details you didn't put in, lemme know! You can IM me, too, about dreams (SirenCytherea) sometimes it's easier, so I can ask you questions about little details.
-Siren =)

I'd think a vivid dream is a dream that feels incredibly real, like everything is graphic, distinct, clear, nothing's faded or weird. A vivid dream is probably something you remember when you wake up in the morning. You probably "feel" things in vivid dreams as well. I think a vivid dream is just what it sounds like, a vivid dream.
When I hear "vivid," I usually think of bright colors, but that's 'cause I'm into art...
I hope this helped clarify a little!
-Siren =)

Well don't let them just brush it off as hormones. In all honesty, it might be, but it doesn't apepear to be just you. You family seems to be having a few problems.
Before I start taking your problem apart and trying to help, promise yourself one thing - promise yourself you won't kill yourself. No matter how bad things get, suicide is never the answer. I've honestly never been suicidal, so I can't sympathize with that, but I do know it's not an answer. There's always the chance it'll get better.
I usually hate to reccomend this, but do you have anyone - an adult, maybe, that you can just talk to? Vent to? I don't reccomend a school counselor, actually. I don't trust them, so I don't reccomend them.
Anyway, what I would do as far as your friends go is pull them aside at one point and tell them what you're afraid of - tell them you're afraid they'll reject you.
I doubt they would, but let them know what you're afraid of. They might be able to help you out as far as that fear goes. All relationships, including friendships, need to have communication. Your friends should be able to help your self-confidence. They always helped mine. =)
Familial relationships also need to have communication. In your position, I would probably sit my family down sometime and ask them to let me talk without interruption, then proceed to tell them what you just told me, there are behavioral problems that are tearing the family apart, you're always bickering with your dad, and you're getting tired of fighting and all that. Ask them what you as a family can do to fix this problem.
As far as getting over your ex, I know how that can be. A guy I thought I was in love with broke up with me in the same week my dad got a job offer in Jersey, and my life like, fell apart. I don't pretend that getting over anyone, no matter how old you are, will be easy, but there are ways to do it.
Concentrate on his bad points. Write bad poetry...that's what I did. Lol. Write angry songs. Do something constructive.
Your hormones might honestly play a part in this, I remember when I was around your age a lot of my friends had suicide thoughts. But somehow, I doubt that it's the only reason.
Listen, I hope this helped on some level - if you have other questions, need more help, or want more advice on something, don't hesitate to contact me. You can IM me (SirenCytherea) too. I'm on pretty much every night.
-Siren =)

Ick, I have eczema too.
The two things I know of that work might be prescription, but here they are:
Elidel works for some people, not sure if it's over the counter or not. Didn't work for me, wasn't strong enough.
Protopic is another eczema cream - well, ointment, really, I think. Might not be, though. You can check. It's very good, that's what I use, and my eczema gets so bad my fingers crack and bleed. It's a nuissance.
Cutivate and Desowin (sp?) are also eczema things, but I know for sure that those are prescription. I've been dealing with this for awhile, too. I send my sympathies, eczema sucks.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

Okay, first off, have you talked to him about how you're feeling right now? If he doesn't know, he can't compromise.
Also, keep in mind that you don't HAVE to be in a relationship. If you're not happy with this guy, get rid of him.
I'm not telling you to end it, just reminding you. A lot of people think that once they have a boyfriend they have to stick with him. You're probably young - I'm guessing fifteen? - you've got lots of time. To quote my character, "if not him, it'll be somebody else."
Anyway. Before you do or think about ANYTHING else, you've gotta talk to him. Relationships are ALL about communication. Talk to him about the fact that you like him and all, but he doesn't seem to like the things you do, and use cuddling as an example.
Just because guys have more in common with you doesn't mean they'd be better boyfriends.
The guy I'm dating right now is a videogame freak, an ex-wrestler, a computer geek, and used to play the saxophone. I'm a singer, I suck at videogames, I play flute/picc and piano, and know nothing about computers. The guy I dated before him was a singer, played the oboe and piano, and knew everything about computers, but he broke it off after 2 months. I've been with this guy for 16.
See what I mean? Opposites sometimes really do attract. You've just gotta talk out your differences. COMMUNICATION IS KEY!!
I hope this helped - if it didn't, you want different/better/more advice, or you talk and nothing happens, don't hesitate to talk to me again. I'm always willing to try harder. You can talk to me on AIM, too (SirenCytherea)
-Siren =)

Are they solidly reoccuring dreams? Like, do the SAME dreams about killing specific people, or the SAME dreams about dying come back over and over again, with the same details?
It could just be a fear of death, or a fear of losing something. Afraid of something ending, perhaps? Death can be a metaphor for a lot of things. It's really nothing to worry about - just an annoyance.
The last time I had a reoccuring dream, I analyzed the symbols in it, figured out what it meant/what was going on in my subconscious, and it stopped.
I don't know if you believe in all that stuff, but if you do and you'd like a little help, you can give me details of one or two of your dreams and I'll see what I can do.
If not, just know that it's probably just a fear of losing something, someone, or the fear of something ending.
I hope this helped a little!
-Siren =)

I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.

I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.

I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.

Feel free to visit my website/blog, if you want to read my experience with domestic violence and my thoughts on it.

***While I do tend to answer mental health and other health-related or medicine-related questions, I am by NO MEANS a licensed physician or practitioner of any sort. Any and all advice I give for these questions is from my own experience or studies.***

If you need to get a hold of me quickly, my screen name on AIM is SirenCytherea. Just let me know you found me here.

I'm a strong believer in the idea that there are no stupid questions except the ones left unasked, so, please, keep an open mind, heart, and mouth.

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