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Prom Bum
Okay, so I'm relationship challenged. I've never had a real relationship and I'm 18. I actually just got kissed for the first time a month ago tomorrow. Well, the guy that kissed me is kind of confusing. I've liked him for a while and he seems to like me. Anyway, over spring break, I asked him to prom, even though I knew he wanted to ask another girl. He said he didn't know if he was going yet, but if he did, he'd definitely go with me. Well, he hadn't said anything about it for a long time, but we'd been hanging out a lot, so Friday I asked him if he'd decided whether or not he was going. He said he was leaning towards no, but he still hasn't decided. However, my friend said she heard that he asked another girl to prom on Thursday and she said no. I still like him, but I'm just confused. Why does he keep leading me on and giving me dumb excuses?
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maybe he really likes you and is afraid he might lose you so he doesnt want to get to emotionaly attatched? or hes just a liar. lol whichever it is you should probably talk to him about either of them and tell him how u feel and make it clear you really like him..hope i hlped xOx
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ugh! He's going to hurt u at the end. He really isn't into you, even though he leads you on. He's just flattered that's all.. I've been there. If u have a group of friends, just go with them. It's more fun going with friends than it is a specific boy. I know the difference. And if he haapens to go to prom, without you, just be yourself and let him know you are havin' the time of your life. (Don't pretend, it will happen.) But if you go with him, don't stick to him the whole time. Expand your fun area. He'll see that you're not completely under his 'spell'.
Tell me how it went when prom's over.
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Ugh! It seems like he isn't into you as much as you are into him. I might be wrong but he doesn't want to lead you on. He is going to go to the prom just not with you, he will try to find a diff. girl and ask her. If he gets turned down by the girls he asks, he is going to tell you that he won't go. He keeps giving you dumb excuses because he doesn't want to hurt you. Sorry!
-Brianna
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Guys are idiots. He doesn't know that you like him, or that he's leading you on. Either hint at it, or outright tell him. But if he ends up rejecting you, don't worry about it. Not being a relationship isn't really a bad thing, in fact, it's a pretty good thing.
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Oh dear.
I hate when guys do this. Unforunately, you might not know this, guys are STUPID. Lol, they really are. They lead you on, all the time. I would just go to prom by myself or with friends. You can have just as much fun. Who needs a guy that can't make up his mind and appreciate you for you? No one! If he says anything about it just be like sorry I already have a date! And if he asks who, be like since you were so wishy-washy I made a date with my friends. Stand up for yourself, girl, and don't let him lead you on. I wish you the best of luck!
Love always,
Lauren
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Wow, you sound exactly like my friend, who's having the exact same problem...Don't you hate when guys can't decide what - or who - the hell they want?
Since I just talked to you, and you actually are my friend, I can say interesting stuff ^_^.
You are not relationship challanged just because you haven't had a real relationship. You just haven't met a decent guy yet.
In your situation, I would confront him. I would tell him what your friend told you, and ask him what you just asked us. "Why do you keep leading me on and giving me dumb excuses?"
I know you're not confrontational, but in this situation, you've gotta be upfront with him. He's not gonna know he's being an immature ass unless you point it out. Don't beat around the bush. Just tell him what's on your mind. Even in friendships, the biggest problem is communication. You've gotta communicate your feelings/thoughts, or you'll never know what's going on with the other. Tell him what you thought, and what you currently think. But I would make your decision first - would you still want to go with him if he asked you or not?
Personally, I wouldn't. But that's me. I'm also now biased against this guy because he's been evil to you. Rar.
Though if you think about it, he lied to you, and he's now treating you like second-best. He asked someone else. Grrrrrrr...
Now let me try to think of this as if I didn't know you...Um...
He's lead you on, lied to you, and asked another girl to prom when he told you he'd take you if he did go, and you still like him? I'd try to rethink your choice of guys if I were you. Not to be mean, but anyone who lies and deceives like that doesn't deserve to have either girl. As I said before, I would be upfront with him and tell him everything you're thinking, as well as ask him the question you asked us. The only way to find out the reason for all those dumb excuses is to ask the user of the excuses.
It could be that he's simply indecisive. Boys usually are.
The best advice I can give would have to be just to talk to him. Yank him aside after class one day before he leaves and tell him you want to talk to him. You might mention that you heard about him asking the other girl to get him to respond. Be a bitch if you have to, but get your point across, and make him answer your question. Make him give you a solid answer. You can be forceful when you want to be...Use it to yer advantage!
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)
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guys are soo anyoing sometimes.. i think he likes you but doesn't know if he has feelings for someone else try talking to him about it ..ik it might be hard but its better than doing nothing hope i helped
*MaCky*
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