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hey! ok i was the one who asked you about making my own advice column and i tried to haha but i couldnt find where to sign up lol! but all i need to know is how to get started and ya
Haha hey hun...ok well here you go ill lead you step by step.....To sign up:
www.advicenators.com/register.php
go there to sign up!! xoxo
hey, how do you make your own avdive colmn like yours??
Umm just sign up and then to set it up go to "Page Backgrounds" on the left side column. Then go to "Profile Settings" and "Column Settings" and set them up how ever you want it then your good to go! If you need any more help with where to sign up and how to work with the backgrounds and stuff just ask me again and ill be sure to help you as much as i can! Sorry i didnt really explain it good! xoxo
ok im a 14/f and i wanna lose weight but not muscle.do you know any diets that help you lose wieght fast but you dont lose muscle??
I dont think youll loose muscle if you diet. Muscles are a part of your body. If your body looks smaller and looks like you have no muscle after youve dieted then that means it was fat that made them look bigger. Any way...Try Weight Watchers. Youll loose 1-2 lbs a week. Or you can do what i do (which i dont recomend) which is dont eat breakfast have like a cookie for lunch then eat diner....i dont really think you should do that though. Also you have to work out in order to loose weight. Try Winsor Pilaties or just do crunchs and run run run :o). Also i only drink water. No soda no juice ocationally milk for the calcium! But sodas can make you gain weight FAST...But yea just work out and your muscles will be stonger and youll get thiner! If you dont want to do any of the diets i mentioned just eat healthy. Dont eat hamburgers or anything like that. Chips Candy ETC...Also remember things dont happen fast!I hope i helped!! xoxo
hi im a 14/f and theres this guy ive liked for a while. ive havent talked to him in a REALLY long time but now everytime i see him i get nervous and i cant talk to him even if i wanted to. i bewant to talk to him so bad but im so embarressed that if i do ill probley get all red and say somthing hecka stupid. also even if i did talk to him i dont know what to say. HELP!
Hey! that happens to me sometimes also. Just have your friends go with you and talk to him. Have your friends be like "hey whats up" then once a conversation starts going say some stuff that is aimed at him but also aimed at your frinds. Then soon youll talk more and more and become closer wiht him! But ya my suggestion is just have your friends start the conversation. And dont be embarrised babe! You never know he secretly might like you too ;o). Just pretend hes one of your close friends and be yourself. I mean if he doesnt like your personality then you two arent right for each other right? so just try what i mentioned!! I hope i helped! xoxo
okay heres what happened..since like either preschool or it was kindergarden me and this one girl used to be the bestest friends ever! and i mean like we were so close and now i am a senoir. my best friend went to another school and ever since she went to another school (her parents made her) but anyways ever since she went to another school we havent been so close. She has made a new best friend and sort of been ignoring me. we promised eachother on the promotion day of 6th grade that we would always be best friends forever no matter what happened and now we arent. and i miss her i know this sounds funny that i remmeber our promise all the way back in 6th grade and that we were best friends in preschool or it was kindergarten but thats how close we are we even every year had a little party like a best friend anneversery but this year we didnt and the year is almost over .. are we still best friends? i miss her what should i do?
aww hun im sorry. Your still best friends in the heart! Call her and say "hey we havent had our bff party yet" and see what she says if shes a "bee eye tee see aych" about it then ask her whats wrong. Tell her what you told me. Tell her that you think your not friends anymore and see how she feels about you two being bffs still. Let her know how important your guys friend ship is to you. You just have to talk to her. Im sorry i dont have any other ways to do it but its the best way to do it. You guys may even become closer again! I hope i helped...xoxo
What do you think is the best way to figure out if a guy likes you? Lets say....you think there is a pretty high chance he does....so what do you think?
ps-i rate anyone who tries to answer this question! youre making my day by just helping me out on this!
have one of your friends go up to him and ask him if he likes you. or you can tell him how you feel and see if he tells you how he feels. or you can go up to him and ask him who he likes. theres alota ways to do it! lol hope i helped
My friend Jessica made the basket ball team. And lately she has been acting really mean and shes thinks she owns the whole school and it bugs me and she yells at me in the hole and stuff and I have tolder that shes acting mean but all she said was no I'm no but I really dont know what to do
dont hang out with her any more. hang out with your other friends. if she asks why your not hanging out with her tell her what you just said in your question....also if someone else thinks shes acting the same way have them back u up!! hope i helped
How do you get all the cursors, backrounds, and music on your column? I'll rate. Thank you.
www.starlightmks.com and www.soupfaerie.com have A LOT of goood stuff you can use. also go to www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=music_beats to get music for your site!!! Then just put it in your profile settings in that big box you put your info in i think it is. Hope i helped!
what do you do when your semi addicted to See's chocolate and cant stop eating it? any breaking the habit tips?
dont buy it. lol! if you go to the mall or where ever they sell it dont look at the store. no matter how much you want it DONT GO IN THERE. wear a rubber band around your wrist and snap it when you have the erge to buy some!
I will rate if you answer!
I really like this guy and I am going to tell him I like him. What is a good way to tell him? I want to "seduce" him with my words (lol). Thanks!
Go up to him and tell him you need to tell him something then like go somewhere else where no one can hear your guys conversation. Then tell him how you feel then go on from there..but like when you tell him you have to tell him something like grab his rist or hand and like start walking but dont like GRAB it do it softly lol hope i helped...good luck
besides cd's and money what do you get a girl for her 15th birthday?
A gift certificate to her favorite store. Or a scrap book of pictures of the two of you. Just be creative or u can ask her what she wantS!
hello! me and my boyfriend have dated for 3 months and then we broke up. But know we started dating again. And know he is different, he wont touch me i always have to grab him. like grab his hand if i want to hold it. what should i do?
Talk to him. Ask him if anything is bugging him. Tell him how you feel! Sorry i didnt help much...
how old do you have to be to get your toung peirced in new york?
18 with out a parent but if your parent/gardian is with you then it doesnt matter!
What Should I Get My Bf For Christmas Im 14 n Hes 15 . He Got Me Something so I want to no what i should get him plz help lol thinks i rate high
Ask him what he wants! Thats always easy lol. But some things you can get him are, gift certificates to his favorite store maybe? Or buy him a shirt that hes always wanted. Take him to pick out his own gift. Burn him a CD of his favorite songs or buy him a cd! Buy him a video game if hes into that. Buy him his favorite colone, theres lots of things you can buy lol! Just ask him and see what he says then base his gift on that!! Hope i Helped
Ok. I want to lose 100 pounds or more in about 1 -3 years. Will this make me lose 100 pounds. For breakfast all I eat is cereal. Then I have gym for 4th period. Which 2/5 days I walk about a mile or more. For lunch I have a sprite and sometimes chips. Then for dinner I have whatever my parents make. Then after dinner I do 35 sit ups, 50 squats. 30 jumping jacks. Also, I do watch what I eat. I drink water most the time and sometimes Ill have a pop. I usally only have 1 pop a day. Is there anything else I should do to help me? And do you think that'll make me lose 100 pounds in 1 - 3 years? Ok thanks.
No i dont think it will...LoL sorry for the forwardness. Cause thats exactly how i ate and i kept the same weight. The chips and the 1 soda a day will keep your weight on. Keep up those situps and all the other exercises though but find something better to eat for lunch!!
im 16/f
my parents offerd to by me a car. whats a good 1?
Fords are really good cars. SUV's,Trucks,Cars you name it! There really good. So look at Fords!!! Hope i helped
My exbf chris and I broke up 5 months ago. I broke up with him but heres my problem WE GO TO SCHOOL TOGETHER. He hates me and I honestly dont knw why. I am completly over him and I used to want to be friends with im but I just gave up. Everytime I see him in the halls I get this funny feeling in my stomach. IDK what it is. I am not gonna lie I still care about him, and its like he thinks that its a crime if I care about him. He is sooo mean to me and I try and be nice but it ends up bitting me in the ass. What do I do? Just completly ignore him or what!
Im 15 and a female
You probibly still really love him and its killing you inside that he hates you. He probibly hates you because you broke up with him. Have a friend ask him to go somewhere where you to can talk things out. If hes stuborn just keep asking till he gives in. Then maybe you too will become friends soon. Sorry i didnt really help...ex oh ex oh
I guess the best way to describe how I need advice is to briefly explain my situation.
I met this guy on Saturday Nite. The moment I saw him, I was stuck with a still focus. He looked back and forth, but it wasnt until his friend pointed out to him that I was looking over.
His friend tapped me on the shoulder and said that my friend is interested in you, but scared in approaching you. Nervous, well I guess we both were.
I walked over and introduced myself very bluntly, but friendly, because I thought that it was now or never. I shook his hand, and we briefly chatted, but the nervousness kept blocking both of us in having a normal conversation.
about 1 hour later, I walked back over to him and I gave him my mobile phone, and said 'here can i have your number'? He said yes, and put it in.
He offered to drive me home, as I was not driving that night. I was about to say yes, but I walked over to my friends, and asked them for advice. 2 of them said to say no, because unless you want to have sex tonight, dont go. I didnt go, because I never sleep with someone just for sex. Its more a need to trust first, then sex second.
I refused and said I would call him. He said ok.
I called him the next day, being sunday, and he invited me over for a movie at his place. I made it there at about 9pm. We spoke briefly, but went straight into the movie. It was probable the wrong movie to watch because it was a little erotic. I didnt choose this because of the erotic level, but rather because it had a story to it as well, and it was amazing.
after the movie, we spoke about out past a bit, about our interests as so on. He shared a lot of information, and I listened open minded. Then he asked me about my past. I was hesitant at first, but only because every other person I have met on a previous time has not wanted to see me again based on my past. No I havent murdered anyone, but I have been through a lot with my parental upbringing, meaning my parents subjected me to quite a vast amount of emotional torture. I never really have gotten over it, but everyday I try. I am only 25 but all the pain stopped at approx. 21. but the last 4 years have been very hard because emotionally and spiritually I have been very confused, very lost, and lonely due to it all.
Anyway, I told him that I didnt want to tell him yet, because of people running away due to the emotionally deepness of it all. He still wanted to know, and he put his head on my lap and started to stoke my knee, saying its ok, im not going anywhere. Please tell me. So i did. Not all, but bits and pieces. He still layed on my lap, but he grew more and more speechless and I became more and more confused. He said that although its a lot of information, its stuff people usually never tell people. I said well you persisted in asking me, I wasnt going to tell you, but I did only because you asked.
It was now 3am Monday Morning. I didnt want to drive home, because it was 35 minutes drive, and I said, if i slept here on the couch would you be offended. he said, come and sleep on my bed, and we can just cuddle, and nothing more, i promise.
I said ok. I walked into his room, and he kissed me, I stopped and looked at him, but the kiss was so passionate that I kissed him back. We didnt have sex, he didnt even offer. but what i did was fall asleep next to him, holding his hand.
I woke up, needed to leave, and said I have to go, around 7:30am this was. He said, kiss me, I did, and it was so different, because I have never felt this way. It wasnt love, I know, but it wasnt Lust either, It just felt really nice to be held by someone again. It was a long time since this had happened.
I left, and he walked me to my car. I opened my window, and he kissed me through the car window goodbye.
I drove off confused So Very Confused. Because It was the first time I had ever felt this feeling inside, but I was feeling very weird. He is 21 by the way.
I got home, got dressed, and headed off to work. I took my mobile with me, but because I had not much sleep, and this emotional feeling that was inside me exploding inside me, made me not keep my mind on my job all monday. I texted him later in the day, and I said that I had never felt this way before, and I dont want to scare you off, but am i moving too fast in saying that I feel something with you, something so powerful, something so profound and I cant explain it. He said no. You are not moving fast at all. Its ok.
I left that phone call thinking that this might be the one. and yes it was only the second day, but my heart was powerfully moved and my emotional connection with him was rapidly moving to climax. I wasnt sure of it all.
Tuesday came, and I rang him that night and offered him to come to meditation class with me. I said that its not hard to learn, and I would really love for you to come. I said think about it and please let me know either way. The class was on Wednesday Night at 7:30pm. He kept referring the whole meditation thing as 'HIPPY STUFF'. But I tried to reassure him that it wasnt.
Wednesday came, I didnt hear anything all day, so I turned on my phone, and texted him at 6:30pm. I said that I am off to Meditation class soon, and are you still coming. He first texted me and said, that you need to slow down a bit, cos im getting freaked out. I was ok, sure sorry I will.
he texted me back and said I am sorry, I am up having dinner with a mate. would you like to come and join us. I replied and said but im not dressed, and im in my work clothes. he said its ok. so i did.
I showed up, and we had dinner. he wasnt as talkative as usual, but I mean, we had been in contact non-stop, well actually I had been, not him, for the past 4 days. But remember he said I wasnt moving too fast. So i interpreted this as ok, keep moving at the current speed, its fine.
I spoke more to his mate and his mate was 15ish years older than him. We all walked to a quiet bar and sat and talked. I drant water because I didnt feel like alcohol. He didnt also. he sat next to me, and we hardly spoke. I guess I was nervous being with him like this, because the more I saw him, the more I grew closer to him. I didnt think it was love, but it sure felt like it.
I spent most of the nite on my mobile phone, texting people, because I was very nervous, and I didnt want to come on too strong, and I didnt want to freak him off. I liked him too much and didnt want to loose him to something so simple as my egarness.
he told me that i should put the phone down, but before i did, I texted him and said "do you know you are so sexy tonight"
he replied saying "haha. I know"
I thought nothing of the comment, and started talking about other things. then a friend from work came in and saw me. I was all nervous, i dont know why, but she walked past and said hi.
she sat over to my left on another lounge with 3 other girls. He was looking over at these people, and lots of others that walked past him. it was a little sad to watch his eyes roll all over them.
then suddenly he put his arm around me and yelled really loud, SO EVERYONE KNOWS NOW! ITS NO LONGER A SECRET. it embarrised me so much, but i didnt hate him, i just grew more silent. His friend told him to stop it, because he was embarrising me.
What confused me was the fact that one minute he is laying on my lap, begging me to tell him my past, stoking my knee. sleeping together, holding his hand. kissing him. kissing me goodbye through the car window. telling me i am not moving fast, and then i am, and that i am scaring him off. then inviting me out to dinner, and not talking to me much, and then putting his arms around me and speaking loudly. I didnt know what messages he was sending me, and it was making me emotionally confused.
We finished the night off, walking along the beach, the 3 of us, and then heading to a bar, where i played a game of pool with his mate. It was an all in all good nite, except he was silent, and he didnt say goodbye to me, but his friend said bye instead. his friend offered me a concert ticket to join the two of them on Monday night. I accepted.
He didnt say goodbye, and I was confused further. I guess I knew something had happened. but what?
I texted him in the morning, and said thank your for the night, and that I enjoyed myself quite a bit. by the way, we had already organised another date just the two of us, a few days earlier. on friday nite to have dinner somewhere.
anyway i texted him saying that i had a great night and that i enjoyed myself. I switched off my phone, and went to work, and didnt switch it back on, because i couldnt take any distractions today due to heavy work load.
I got home at 6:30pm, turned it on, and recieved a text back from his mate and him. his mate said that he got the tickets to the concert, 2nd row. but he texted me saying that I made him out to be a complete slut last night, and that i embarrised him. well I was confused again, but I was so sad to be confronted like that, so i texted him right back, and said I was on my way to talk to you to explain myself properly. He texted me back saying that he would rather speak about it on friday night. tonight was thursday. I said fine, ok, no worries, but also said sorry for any problems I may have caused.
I went over a friends house that evening, and he was online on the dating website I joined. although we didnt meet through this site, because it was local, we met at a bar. I messaged him and said hey, its me.
he messaged me back 10 minutes later. and he wrote that we could never have a relationship due to what happened last night and that because you hinted to me that you want a full on relationship, and that i dont. He said just because of this comment it doesnt mean that I want to f#%k around, but rather I cant see myself with you now. I am only 21.
I messaged him back, trying to get an explaination for the comment. he said join me in a private message chat room. i did.
he said that because of all of the shit last nite, i cant see myself with you long term. you are ready for a relationship and i am not. his profile on the website also states that he is after a relationship too. so again i was confused.
I started to cry and my friend i was with sitting next to me, was very confused, as to why i was getting so attached so soon to someone i barely knew.
we chatted for approx. 1 hour. and i poored so much emotion out that night, he didnt speak at all. I said all what i have told you, that the mixed messages, moving too fast then im not, so on. and he said, that why are you like this. any normal person would have told you to f#@k off by now, because you are freaking me out. then i was so sad, for that comment, i said i was hurt, my heart was crushed, and so on. [I can still feel the pain right now]. I said that i am not sure if i can be just friends because all i want to do is grab you kiss you and hold you. I feel something so profoundly impactfully stong and powerful, and why you dont see this, is beyond me. I said that if we were to sustain a friendship, after this big week, I would have to bottle all my feelings for you, and put a lid on them all. and try to be just friends. but i said it would be hard.
and then he said very little, but he said he wants to be friends. more than ever. but I was too sad to make a decision that night. he said he had to go to sleep for work the next day.
I couldnt sleep all night, because of the issues looming in my mind. i woke up every 1 hour tossing and turning. I woke up at 6:30am, and texted him one last time being Friday, the day we are to go out for a date. I said i was sorry for last night, sorry for going all emotionally distraught, so on. and I would like to come over tonight and speak to you in person, if that is to say goodbye, or to stay friends, i dont want to do it on the internet or the phone, i need to speak to you face to face.
I did ring his friend and say that I am shocked. that has he spoken to him? and he said no. I told him briefly, that I was feeling so connected to him, and I was afraid that i stuffed it all up, that i destroyed it all, because i moved fast. he said i did move too fast, but there is something you must know about this guy you are in love with. he is a very touchy feelie person. he did the exact same thing to another person 2 months ago. and the same reaction you are having happened. I said that have i blown my chances, and he said i am not sure, but i will talk to him, and say that you are deeply regreting loosing him as a friend. I said thanks. I also said that do you think that i should give the concert a miss because I might be moving again too fast too soon. seeing too much, and he may need time to settle down. cool down so to speak.
he said ill get back to you after i speak to him today.
which brings me to now. writing this.
the advice i am after is:
was i too fast.
am i too emotionally deep
is there something wrong with me
did i do things wrong.
why did i get attached so emotionally to this person
and what was the feeling in my body, if it wasnt love and wasnt lust.
i dont know if its me, but it sure feels like hell today. I am awaiting his return message but i am doubting he will message me and let me speak to him tonight.
ps: sorry my story is so long. i needed to set the story right so you could understand better.
thank you for reading it.
Hey hun, im sorry for whats going on in life. Anyway, everyone is differnt. You might have been moving to fast for him but he didnt want to say anything so he just told you you wernt. There is nothing wrong with you. He was sending you mixed emotions. You didnt do things wrong but you should have waited a day to talk to him after you went to the movies or waited untill he called you. You got emotionally attached to this person so deeply because you needed the love and affection. He didnt run off like all the other guys did after you told him your story so he got a special place in your heart. The feeling in your body WAS love. You were inlove with him. But you might have fallen in love to fast. You didnt get to see his true colors. I think settling as friends would be the best thing to do if he wants to. Find someone who is as into you as you are into them. Tell me how everything gos and if you need anymore help just let me know. xoxo
hey! well me and this girl have been friends since i could remember! im a girl too and i am 13. it use to be that i could talk to her about ANYTHING! but lately i have found that i cant talk to her the same way. now whenever i have some secret to tell her i feel embaressed and usually i just dont tell her at all! she has no idea about how i feel with anything thats going on in my life right now. and i feel like i need to talk to someone....but not her! i start crying a lot lately because of all the stuff thats going on in my life and i feel that if i could talk to someone i would feel muchhhh better. but i cant talk to her. what should i do? its just not the same as before! thanks
Go to one of your other friends like a friend you want to become closer with and tell her/him. Guys are pritty good liseners to (sometimes :OP jk) But tell another friend that you need to get some stuff off your chest and that you want her to help you out. You guys will have a closer relationship at the end of the conversation AND you will feel better by talking to someone! Hope i helped!
one of my best friends is really going down hill. lately she has gotten really deep into drugs and drinking. it is not like her at all. lately it seems like she wants me to be mad at her and she gets really mad when i try to help or tel her i understand and am not mad. has anyone got a suggestion or have gone through a similar situation?
Just tell her that you think she wants you mad at her. Just ask her what her problem is and ask her why shes getting into those bad habbits. People wont lisen if you nicly try to talk to them. You have to get agresive lol. Hope i helped!