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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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ok despite wat is told 2 us in health class i still have the doubt. ok well my bro has been doing EX since october. nothing serious, hes done it 7 times since then so maybe like once a month. cept the problem is hes convinced that the only way EX can kill you is if you get dehydrated or if you drink too much water. im not sure. last friday he took 7 hits of it. and that kinda worries me, he blocked out from 5-8 so he only remembers wat happened to him loosey. he has bruises and stuff like that so he was jumping around or fell down the stairs or something. he was too high to remember wat was going on. so if anyone actually knows the affects of EX or whether or not it can harm u pleaze tell me. and dont tell me to tell my parents becuz i wont. im not like that. he trusts me to keep it a secret. i just wanna help him myself.

if you havent ever done EX or have no experiance on the subject watsoever pleaz dont answer. id rather only those who can give me reliable answers to respond. and none of that whole, its bad for you crap. anyways sorry for being rude to anyone but i need to help him. i dont hate people who do drugs, its just that i have seen good people become mentally damaged because of drugs and i love my brother too much. btw hes 15 in 10th grade and im 14 in 8th grade.

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Yeah, you can die by doing almost any kind of drug if you do it enough.

"And none of that whole, it's bad for you crap." Can't handle the truth? It's insanely bad for you. You need to get your brother help because drugs are addicting & they can really mess you up. And you can't help your brother yourself. He's 15, you're 14. What the hell can a 14 year old do? Nothing. Tell an adult you trust, and get your brother help. Because by keeping it a secret, you're just as big an idiot as he is.

Yesterday I lost my virginity to my boyfriend. I didn't bleed and it didn't really hurt (but then, I WAS drunk.) I ride horses a lot, I use tampons, and I DO masturbate. He asked me seriously if I was a virgin before that and I told him yes, but I don't think he believed me...Is there any way I can convince him?

I don't understand why he wouldn't think you're a virgin. You can tell when a girl is one. They're usually really tight. But there is no way to convince him.

I didn't do so well on a teat and I lied about it and now my tutor wants to email my teachers and ask them what they should do and I just don't want my mom to find out, I need help please don't say be honest I really need advice!! Please and thank you!! =)

You should've just told the truth. And if it's just one test, it shouldn't matter. Just try harder next time. =)

I'm in love with a grown man, sometimes it feels as though he may like me too, but I can't do much about it because he's one of my teachers and I just found out he was married while overhearing a conversation he was having with someone else... he's never mentioned it to me... but I love him, and this hurts and being around him hurts and i can't stop thinking about him and he's such a sweet guy and we get along great.. i've tried avoiding him, but that messes up my whole day and I feel like shit. What can I do?

19/f

You're old enough to make your own decisions. If I was in your situation, I wouldn't really pursue him because for one, he's your teacher, and second, you're young. Even though you're over 18, it'd still be wrong for you guys to do anything.

And besides, he's married.

What kind of job's can I get at the age of 14 for a female?

There's not a lot of jobs you can get at the age of 14, but you can always babysit.

Okay, my friend is getting married, so a few of us decided that we would but her a vibrator as a gag gift. We've been looking around the place and the cheapest one we can find is one for 49.00, but we don't wanna spend that much. Does anyone know where we can get a cheap vibrator?

Go to Spencer's. They have ones that shouldn't be too expensive.

Also, if it's a few of you, it's not like you'd be putting in a lot each. If you have less than 5, yeah, it'll cost a little more, but if you have 5, it'll only be around 10 dollars each.

I know this is a kind of personal question, but I've always kind of wondered what girls think when a guy gets a hard-on dancing with them. So basically, I only want girls to answer this question. Do you like it? Does it freak you out? Is it more of a compliment or is it offensive? Basically, just tell me what you think about when you feel a guy get hard when he's grinding with you, etc. thanks.

I like it. It's letting me know what I'm doing is right & that I'm turning him on. It's basically a compliment.

If girls don't like it, get freaked out by or or take it offensively, they're probably really immature, or prude.

16/F/TN

I messed around with a girl's myspace. Meaning, I moved her top friends around and posted a picture of her ex on her "who I'd like to meet" section. I didn't change her password or anything. When she changed it back to how she had it, I'd change it to how I had it. I did this for less than a week. I never posted anything degrading. She put on her about me "F*** you, [insert my name], I don't care that you change around my top 8. Grow up.

So, she decided to press charges WITH THE POLICE against me (she went to the school police officer). I haven't been notified of her doing this yet, I've just heard. Anyways, is could there be a legitamite charge pressed against me? And if so, what would be the process of this happening? I have a clean record.

I KNOW none of you are lawyers, I'm just asking if anyone knows.

I'm not even a police officer and I'm laughing at her. So imagine what the cop's gonna do when she tells him. Haha, she's an idiot. Don't worry about it.

I HATE my parents and I want to move out SO badly like if I don't I swear to god I'm going to murder my mom thats how bad she is.I have no family in my area that I can stay with but my friend(boyfriend) said I can move in with him for a while to let things cool down...is it legal for me to do that ? (Kitchener Ontario Canada)

[Ps.I'm 13/female]

You can't move out. But, you can emancipate them. I'm pretty sure you can only do that at a certain age though.

I tried to live with someone else when my parents pissed me off, but without their consent, they can call the cops & your friend's parents could get in trouble for harboring a minor. So, I suggest you just put up with the bullshit for a few more years until you can legally emancipate your parents & leave.

Hi, I rubbbed my bare vagina on my boyfriends penis while we were makin out orally. He was wearin his pants but he said he's havin pre-come... Do you think i'll get pregnant?

No. His pants were on, and his penis didn't enter you. The only way you could possibly get pregnant is if you had sex. [Penis enters Vagina.]

You're not gonna get pregnant, so stop worrying.

Lets say some astronaut dies on the moon? What would happen to his body?
I mean there are no bacteria, no warms and maggots...so... does that mean he could stay like this forever?

It would decompose.

And the moon isn't a planet. =)

i just read the book "Twilight" by stephenie meyer, and i loved it.
but now i cant find ANY good books.
is there any book like Twilight that you would recommend?

ive read the sequel, too.

I love to read, and I think these have been the best books for me so far:

- Breathing Underwater.
- Sweet Blood.
- Ttyl.
- I'd Tell You I Love You, But Then I'd Have To Kill You.
- Night.
- Walk Two Moons.
- Keeping You A Secret.

Night, Keeping You A Secret, & Breathing Underwater would be my most recommended. Night is a little boring, but it gets really good, so if you get bored, keep reading. Don't put the book down. Keeping You A Secret was pretty good because it was about sexuality and how a girl finds herself, and her individuality. And Breathing Underwater was really good because it was about things teens could relate to.

since 7th grade, i've always worn a shirt over my bathing suit when i swim. i never wear low cut shirts, tank tops, or spaghetti straps. because my chest and back is COVERED in.. zits? i guess. like red bumps.. TONS of them.. no matter how much i wash it or no matter what kind of product i use. don't tell me any products, i just wanna know if there are any home remedies. is this rare? has anyone else ever had this problem?

One of my guy friends has this. He went to the doctor for it because he was embarassed of it too. It took him a few medicines & acne products until he found one that actually worked. He uses ProActiv [sp?] and something else his doctor prescribed, but they work really well for him. I know you said no products, but those are working well for him, so I would try those & see a dermatologist so they can get you something for it.

When I woke up this morning my phone said I had a voicemail said I'd recieved a message at 3:08 A.M.

I listened to it, and it was my best guy friend, saying, "Hey, I don't want this to sound corny, but I like being your friend. I don't know why I called you right now, I was sleeping, but yeah, but I'm gonna go back to sleep."

What, hahaha. I thought this was the sweetest msg in the world, but I've known him for about 2 years and he's never done anything like this. Could it mean he likes me or anything else?

If he just wakes up randomly to call you at 3 in the morning to tell you he likes being your friend, yeah I'd think he likes you.

Would drinking green tea help my sore throat? how about sugarless gum?

I think it does. I don't personally drink it because I don't like the way it tastes, but my friend drinks it a lot & she says it always help her. As for the sugarless gum? I'm not really sure.

Just don't talk a lot because it'll strain your voice & make your throat hurt.

I have this nasty feeling in my throat (i'm a little sick) so would I feel better if I threw up and all the bad stuff comes out?

I tried (i didn't want to try the tooth brush thing though) but I couldn't make myself throw up. I need to get better by 4 days max

Try some epicac. I'm not sure I spelled it right, but it makes you throw up.

So I'm going on the pill.
For the sole-reason taht it's supposed to help with acne. (I don't have acne,but I get the odd pimple)

So I was wondering, should i tell my boyfriend when I start it?
I mean we haven't had sex,but he'd be interested in knowing though,right?
Or is it ny of his buisness?

It's your own decision to tell him. He might care, he might not. But if you wanna tell him, then tell him.

I want to go to get myself measured for my bra size but Im embarrased of showing my breats to anyone! What can i do?

Oh and should your bra be very tight on you, a little loose, or fits just right but not tight?

You don't have to get your bras at the mall. You can get them at wal*mart. And ususally, your bras should fit you just right. Not too loose, not too tight. =)

Hi, I was really friendly with two girls from my class. I could do anything for them. I treated them like my sisters. But then one day because of a girl in opur class who was really close to my friends interfeared in our friendship and my friends broke up with me. I tried speaking to them but they just used abusive language and did not even talk. Then I avoided them and they too did the same. Soon I became friendly with all the popular girls of our class (which they wanted to so much when we were friends) and I made abvoyfriend who is one of the most popular guys in skool (he's the football team captain and everyone used to fantasize about him) and I also became the Art and Craft Club president. Now my Ex-best friends are so jealous they are tellin people stuff about me and i had a fight with three girls from school because of them. Talking is of no use because they are not ready to do so. I feel like murdering them but that's not possible. Am hurt. Help.

Ignore the rumors. They're just jealous & they've got every reason to be. Ignore them & go on with life. They're not worth worrying about or getting mad over.

Hey Im moving to Costa Rica, how are the schools there? I mean, I know it depends on the area but in general does it have nice public schools? Do you know if they are really clique-y or do they have gangs? Is there alot of money put into education there?

I've never been to Costa Rica, but I've been to Puerto Rico. Honestly, this is something you might like to google.

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