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I HATE my parents and I want to move out SO badly like if I don't I swear to god I'm going to murder my mom thats how bad she is.I have no family in my area that I can stay with but my friend(boyfriend) said I can move in with him for a while to let things cool down...is it legal for me to do that ? (Kitchener Ontario Canada)
[Ps.I'm 13/female]
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I realize people already said this, but without their permission you can't. They are the power to make you come back home, especially since your only 13. But just try to spend more time away from home (like stay late after school and stuff) that way it gives you time to cool off before going home to your parents.
Sorry, and good luck!
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You can't move out. But, you can emancipate them. I'm pretty sure you can only do that at a certain age though.
I tried to live with someone else when my parents pissed me off, but without their consent, they can call the cops & your friend's parents could get in trouble for harboring a minor. So, I suggest you just put up with the bullshit for a few more years until you can legally emancipate your parents & leave.
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You say your moms so bad but what did she do that was THAT bad,bad enough for you to move out?I mean,any problem with your parents can be solved nomatter how big.First thing i recommend you do is talk to your mom about how you feel,she cant walk away,if she does walk after her and scream it to her face.Just give it one last try,dont let your anger take advantage of you,think clearly.Your 13,just a kid.If you runaway now,who will you go to??Your boyfreind ok,what if you happen to one day break up with him?It happens you know.What,youll get a job and rent an apartment,all alone??I think if you decide on runing away you should stay at a freinds or your grandparents or one of your family members.
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You cannot just move in with your boyfriend. You will just get him in trouble and probably not be allowed to see him again once the situation resolves itself.
If the state thinks you are not safe with your parents, or if you runaway from home often, they will put you in the state foster care system. You will probably not be put in a home anywhere near yours. Different school district etc. Which would mean no boyfriend close by.
So unless you're life is endangered at home, stay put and do your best to get along.
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no unless your parents give there conset i beleive you have to be at least 18 in the usa and belevie i feel the way about my mom i know it sux but inless ur mom doesnt give you permission your screwed
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Well your 13 so..... Im pretty sure that your parents would not allow you to move out at that age. I think that you need to sit down and have like a heart to heart conversation with your mom! I think that maybe she needs to know how you feel. But I don't think killing her is the right choice! Have you looked at yourself by your parents perspectives at all? Think about how you treat them, how are you doing in school? Have you been getting in trouble alot latley from the shool and or the cops? There are alot of ways that will make parents seem "bad" but they are only trying to pretect YOU. I know that it is rough to live in a place where you do not feel loved but I definantly think that you really need to sit down and talk with your mom. I think it would help alot. IT might clear up a sticky situation and you might add in mom I really like talking with you it helps me feel better, or something along those lines. I might also segeste that you maybe take a weekend and spend it with a friend. But if your mom or dad does not allow it then do not fight back or give them any lip just DROP it. The thing most parents hate most is when our children give us lip to try and persway the answer well that just makes it worse! But I do not think moving out is the best decision to make at all! Especailly with your boyfriend. If you were say 18 then maybe yes but you are 13 and your mom and dad are still you legal gardian! That would mean every time you had to have the leagal gardians signature you would have to go see your mom or dad. Also I do not think that your parents would feel to happy about the fact that their 13 year old moved out. Just hang in there and if you need to talk you know where to find me! Hope I helped some.
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Hey
omg i know what you are feeling. my parents are really gay too. but they are divorced. my mom is like totally bi-polar and sometimes i want to get away. yeah ive ran away twice. but it was the worst thing i have ever done. what do you expect? you run away and come back and everything is FINE? no im sorry it doesnt work that way. i'm grounded for 2 months. you if you do leave with your boyfriend it should be really worth it. but if your family has serious problems, like abuse, you should talk to someone you really trust. and its not legal unless something lifethreating is going on.
i heart you <3
samie
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Staying with your boyfriend probably isn't the best of ideas. If you're having problems with your parents won't that just inflame the situation? Yes, it's always nice to hang around your boyfriend all the time, but think about the long term effects that something like that could have on your relationship with your parents. That's the issue at hand here. Staying with a female friend would be a much better choice. I moved out on my parents a few years ago and it wasn't quite as bad as it could have been because I stayed with a female friend instead of my boyfriend. If I had stayed with my boyfriend, they would have done everything in their power to get me away from him. The idea wasn't to move in with my boyfriend, it was to get away from my parents. Do it to get away from your parents, don't throw in extras or your parents won't let it happen. Since you are a minor, if your parents really want you living back with them, they can come and get you, probably with the police. I'm not very familiar with Canadian law, but I would imagine that is how it would work. Most of the time though, and probably what will happen is, just as long as your parents know where you are and know you're safe they'll just let you stay there for awhile. If things are as bad as you're implying they probably want a break from you too. Another thing I'd like to point out is that whoever you stay with is going to have a lot of pressure put on them. Not the friend you stay with, their parents. They are the ones that are going to have to take all the heat from your parents. Make sure that they are 100% okay with you staying there and know how bad the situation is and what they might have to deal with. One last thing. Don't swear to God that you're going to kill your mother if you're not. That's not something you should really say. I'm not a religious nut, but there's a big difference from saying something out loud the wrong way and not meaning it than actually putting it in writing. If your mom didn't care about you, she wouldn't pay any attention to you at all. Making you feel like crap isn't the best way of showing love, but hey, she really does care no matter how much it seems like she doesn't. Anyway, please reconsider staying with your boyfriend. You're making even more grief for yourself if you do. Good luck! :)
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At the age of 13, you are the legal responsibility of your parents. That means you can only move in with your boyfriend if they consent, and I somehow doubt that they will.
Furthermore, depending on your boyfriend's age, moving in with him might not be a viable solution. If he is not a legal adult, then it's not his call; his parents will be the ones to decide if you're even invited to live in their home. If he IS a legal adult, then there's an even bigger problem: assuming you move in with him without your parents' consent, he could be charged with kidnapping - EVEN if you went willingly.
In the U.S., you need to be 18 before you can live independently. I'm not sure what the law is in Canada, but I'm fairly certain that it will be a few years before you can legally make your own living arrangements.
I can't help but wonder what is making your home life so intolerable. If you are being abused or neglected, then you need to get some help from an adult who can get you legally removed from a dangerous environment. If this is the case, a school official such as a teacher, counselor, or principal would be a good place to start. (NOTE: Do NOT even consider making a false report along these lines just to get in a shot at your mother. Not only is it dishonest and dishonorable, it makes it harder on kids who really are being abused when they seek help and are not believed.)
If, however, it's a matter of personality clashing or if you have a problem with the way the household is run (and you may indeed have a legitimate complaint), then you have a choice: work toward solving it, or get angrier and angrier over the next few years until you celebrate your eighteenth birthday by walking out the door and never looking back. Consider carefully whether you want to live the rest of your life with that kind of hatred poisoning you. You will find that it's not an easy thing to live with, and that your own children may become victims of it.
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